第68期：收尾了吗？
After I recorded this episode, I listened to it and realized my allergies affected my voice more than I thought! Apologies for my grogginess! In this episode, I respond to a listener question about br…
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第67期：圣帕特里克节狂欢
What happens when there are two couples you want to play with at the club? How do you choose? Instead, how about you just play with both? That s exactly what happened when Eva and I attended a St. Pa…
第66期：情人节快乐
I have learned that going into an event with no expectations is often the best way to ensure I'll have fun. It was no exception on Valentines Day when Eva and I attended a club event, knowing full wel…
第65期：夺回性爱
Something that continues to be an absolute favorite of both Eva and myself: reclaim sex. In this episode, I ll discuss why it has become such an enjoyable and dare I say necessary part of our lifestyl…
第64期：一次愉快但不寻常的独行冒险
In this episode you ll hear about a solo adventure that was not only enjoyable, but unusual...at least for me. I ll tell you all about it and reinforce how respecting the dynamics of other couples is …
第63期：对撤回感到困惑
There are plenty of pet peeves I have but one related to the lifestyle is flaky couples. In this episode, I answer a few listener questions and then discuss a baffling situation involving a couple tha…
第62期：穿越它？
I often do this podcast with the hope that my stories, rantings, ramblings, and ravings are relatable to others and help them navigate the lifestyle. But the two topics I discuss today left me with m…
第61期：中立的新年
Our New Years celebration was neutral. A very enjoyable evening with plenty of disappointment. Also: how something as simple as wearing a fedora could be a catalyst for fun with another couple. Plus…
第60期：金钱买不到的东西
I have some brief updates from previous episodes and then I dive in to what money can t buy in the lifestyle. Spoiler alert: it s confidence.
第59期：有趣且令人气愤的互动第4部分
My fourth episode in a seemingly endless series! Eva and I are kind of shy when it comes to in-person meetings. While some prefer going to clubs and events to meet new couples, we prefer to stick to l…
第58期：我再问一次。我们是不是很烂？
We have had a lot of good luck meeting awesome, compatible couples in the lifestyle. But lately, our luck has been awful. Today s episode is a story about a couple who seemed so perfect for us it was …
第57期：猫儿出笼？
Discretion seems to be a very important part of a couple s involvement in the lifestyle. Most couples say their vanilla friends and family are unaware (based on my experience of course). But what happ…
第56期：没有期待（一个俱乐部故事）
Going to a lifestyle club is something Eva and I love to do. It s a judgement-free environment where we can dance, drink, and be ourselves. We never go with the expectation that we will be hooking up …
第55期：让我们变得不舒服！
There are some lifestyle topics that some people (not all) find uncomfortable to talk about. I feel it is important to address topics like these. It helps to tear down the walls and erase negative s…
第54期：没有英语，没问题
What happens when Eva and I meet a sexy couple who don t speak our language? Find out in this episode. I ll tell the story of how we met a couple from Colombia at a club and how, although language w…
第53集：快速片段
I keep notes regarding topics I wish to discuss on this podcast. Well, sometimes the things I wish to talk about do not warrant an entire episode s time. So in this episode, I will talk about a few di…
第52期：恐吓指数
There are several factors that can cause what I call selective ED. In this episode I discuss those factors and how my brain is often my worst enemy when it comes to play dates.
第51集：毒藤（第二部分）（特别嘉宾伊娃）
If you did not listen to Episode 50, please do so before listening to this episode. It is part 2 of my story of Ivy and our hotel adventure...as well as Eva s adventure at the same hotel that very nig…
第50集：毒藤（第一部分）
After many, many experiences with fakes, flakes, scammers, and sextortionists, this episode is all about an experience with a single lady...who was actually REAL. Fair warning: this episode is part 1 …
第49期：抢夺妻子
In this episode I ll talk about something of which I just learned the meaning: wife poaching. I did not learn from experience, thankfully! So even though Eva and I have not been victims of wife poachi…
第48集：伊万窒息
*Back after an extra week hiatus due to a family vacation. In this episode I discuss taking chances and trying something new in the lifestyle. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it does not.
第47期：我们是否很糟糕？
Kind of a bummer (sometimes a HUGE bummer) when you think things are going well with another couple and then they unexpectedly end things. In this episode I talk about a recent experience with this.
第46期：寻找新符号的旅程
The upside-down pineapple. The most common, well-known symbol associated with the lifestyle. Four years ago when Eva and I first started our lifestyle journey, we had no idea of its significance. It …
第45期：一场长骗局被阻止
Has anyone had success with finding a unicorn? A single lady willing to play with you and your significant other? That is something that still alludes us in the lifestyle. It seems LOTS of couples a…
第44期：史上最糟糕的接吻者
There s nothing really more to write. This is all about the worst kissers ever. Eva and I feel that kissing is an important part of play. So if you suck at it, it ruins the whole play date. We had t…
第43集：只有我们两个人
Eva and I are shy when it comes to meeting people in person. We find it difficult to walk up to new people and introduce ourselves. Therefore, when we go to clubs, we like to attend with other couples…
第42期：开放关系的失败
Episode 42: Eva and I love the Friends With Benefits dynamic of the lifestyle. But sometimes, that leads to unexpected feelings.
第41期：FOGC行动
If you are in a strictly monogamous relationship, your chances of hooking up with a hot co-worker are 0%. But if you are a swinger...it s not out of the realm of possibility. In this episode I talk a…
第40期：酒店接管入门
Never been to a hotel takeover? Hear all about them in today s episode. Eva and I have been to somewhere between 5 and 10 takeovers since joining the lifestyle. I ll talk about what to expect (includ…
第39集：有趣且令人气愤的互动 Part.3
Will they ever stop? Part three of my (I guess) ongoing series of stories of our online interactions with couples. I can't make these up. These are all real stories. Eva and I love being in the lifest…
Ep. 38: A Solo No-Go
Eva and I have discovered that we love occasional solo play. It is exciting for both of us. Sadly, it has been almost a year since I have been able to experience it due to a lack of options. Eva has…
Ep. 37: The Slapper
Have you ever been threatened with public physical assault in lifestyle? I have. In this episode I tell the tale of a dude who threatened to slap me the next time he saw me at a club or event. This is…
Ep. 36: Our First MFM (with co-host Eva)
After a long time, Eva finally joins me for again as co-host! In this episode we will talk about our very first MFM threesome we had recently. Please note: Eva and I have not done this together very o…
Ep.35: First Date Fun
Eva and I have a rule: we don't play with a couple the first night we meet them. But it HAS happened (earlier) in our lifestyle journey. This is the story about one of those rare occasions.
Ep. 34: What I Haven't Figured Out
Eva and I have been in the lifestyle for three and half years now. One might think we would have it all figured out at this point. Not the case! We are still learning. Still discovering. This episode …
Ep. 33: Sextortion
What is sextortion? As a member of the lifestyle, you probably have a profile on a lifestyle app or site. What if your profile was hacked? What if the hacker threatened to make your profile and pics p…
Ep. 32: Evan Plays...at a Club!
Episode 32: I didn't think it was possible due to my anxiety about playing at a sex club. But thanks to an amazing couple and a super fun evening, I overcame my inhibitions. I can now officially say I…
Ep. 31: Compelled to Tell
With so much negative stigma surrounding the lifestyle (in the vanilla world), our involvement in the lifestyle is a secretive one. But that doesn't stop me from WANTING to talk about it with some of …
Ep. 30: Failure to Launch
Episode 30. I take pride in discussing all lifestyle topics on this podcast. Even sensitive ones. This episode is all about a hotel takeover experience Eva and I had in August 2024. We had a fantastic…
Ep. 29: The Pearl
In August 2024, Eva and I visited a clothing-optional resort in Mexico. This is a review of that resort. My hope is that is serves as a "what to expect" episode for anyone ever interested in going to …
Ep. 28: Checking Out Beds on the Beach
Eva and I decided to take a vacation adventure to Desire Maya Riviera Pearl: an all-inclusive, clothing optional resort outside of Cancun. This episode is about a fun experience we had with a couple a…
Ep. 27 Interesting & Infuriating Interactions Part 2
Episode 27: The sequel to the original hit podcast episode Interesting Infuriating Interactions. So many stories of interactions gone wrong. Or just plain interesting. I hope you enjoy because pa…
Ep. 26: Evan Redeems Himself
Remember my episode Evan Screws Up? Well, guess what. I redeemed myself. Here s the story!
Ep. 25: Evan Gets Jelly
Jealousy can be a strange and complicated feeling in the lifestyle. It can rear its ugly head unexpectedly, even with couples who don t usually experience issues with jealousy. We have heard many tale…
Ep. 24: Interesting & Infuriating Interactions
Episode 24: One of the hardest things about the lifestyle is finding a 4-way connection with another couple. The process can be interesting...and at times infuriating. In this episode I ll talk about …
Ep. 23: The Stallers
What happens when 3 of the 4 people on a playdate are super shy and uncomfortable? I ll tell you all about it.
Ep. 22: The C***k Blocker (with co-host Eva)
Eva joins me in the episode to discuss her sexual orientation. We have had trouble finding a term that accurately describes it. Then, we share a hotel takeover story about how she was cock blocked...q…
Ep. 21: The Fizzle
What is the fizzle? In this episode I will explain as well as discuss how I answered a question someone asked me regarding jealousy.
Ep. 20: Evan Screws Up
If you were having trouble listening to this week s episode due to the low volume, please try this alternate version. I have increased the volume a bit. Hope that helped! Still a novice with podcastin…
Episode 19: In a Rut
Episode 19: The lifestyle can be cyclical. Eva and I have experienced times when we had lots of interest and options for potential dates...and other times (like now) where we are not able to find coup…
Episode 18: At Last
Cue the Etta James music. After 3 years in the lifestyle, Evan finally fulfills his two biggest fantasies.
Episode 17: More Locals Locos
Eva and I would love to meet more local lifestyle couples. A few just haven t worked out. In this episode I talk about an interesting experience we had with a local couple. Before that story, I touch …
Episode 16: A Tall Insult
In this episode I share a quick story from my college days which prove I never lived life to the fullest. I then discuss an experience involving an insult that ended a friendship we had with a lifesty…
Episode 15: Soft Swappers (with co-host Eva)
So happy to welcome back my sexy wife Eva to the show! We ll discuss the differences between parallel play, soft swaps, and full swaps. We learned that we are definitely not into soft swaps...but we s…
Episode 14: Should Have Pulled the Plug
Thankfully Eva and I have had very few regrettable experiences since joining the lifestyle. Looking back, of those few, there was one where I probably should have pulled the plug. This is the story of…
Episode 13: Single Guys and Stupid Guys
Ever run into annoying single guys in the lifestyle? Or just plain ol stupid guys? Or a combination of both? Eva and I have. These are some of those stories!
Episode 12: Good Grooming
Prior to lifestyle dates, Eva and I go overboard with preparation. We don t expect the same from our dates...but we do have some expectations when it comes to grooming. What happens when a couple fail…
Episode 11: Eva's Fantasy Fulfilled
Eva said I sound like a whiny bitch in this episode! You be the judge! In this episode I discuss the advantage women have in the lifestyle when it comes to fulfilling fantasies.
Episode 10: The Sensitive Nurses (with co-host Eva)
The lifestyle certainly has its ups and downs. My wife Eva joins me for this episode as we tell you about a not-so-amazing experience we had with a couple whom we call (and they call themselves) the …
Episode 9: Surprise Sex Party
What happens when you think you are going to someone s house to watch a football game and it turns out to be a sex party in disguise? Listen to find out! I ll also discuss a very sensitive, but very i…
Episode 8: The Alexa Guy (with co-host, Eva!)
I am so excited to welcome my wife Eva as a guest on the show! We have a lifestyle tale for you that just works better coming from the both of us! Our lifestyle journey has been mostly good experience…
Episode 7: Booty-blinded
In this episode I ll talk about what booty-blinded means. Eva and I were booty-blinded (and blinded by convenience) by a local couple we started playing with. Having local lifestyle friends (and regu…
Episode 6: Lifestyle Costs and the Benefits of Hosting
The lifestyle can be quite EXPENSIVE! Just getting into the lifestyle? I ll break down some of the expected and unexpected costs of being in the lifestyle. It adds up quickly! I ll also share the st…
Episode 5: Trouble in Paradise
This is a doozy of an episode. I discuss our first real rough patch in the lifestyle due to an experience that didn t work out as anticipated. This was a very significant experience for Evan and me. …
Episode 4: Halloween Fun & the Best Pickup Line
Welcome to Episode 4. Continuing our journey chronologically (for now), I ll talk about our experience at our second hotel takeover. Spoiler alert: we learn that size actually DOES matter. I ll also …
Episode 3: The Gamer Couple
In this episode I ll talk briefly about how our society sees swinging in a negative light. Then I ll talk about our second and third full swaps...which happened to be with the same couple, 2 weeks apa…
Episode 2: First Time Jitters
In this episode I talk about our first ever lifestyle experience: a hotel takeover in Indianapolis where my wife Eva and I have our first full swap.
Episode 1: Every Saga Has a Beginning
Welcome to Evan Swings! This is my introductory episode where I will tell the story of how my wife Eva and I decide to enter the lifestyle.
