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Welcome to theus cuckoldress podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious the passionate and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the venus blog and of course, if you love it, share it. Now, sit back, make yourself comfortable, and enjoy the show with your host, Venus. welcome to this episode of the venus cuckoldress podcast today i'm going to talk to you a little bit about what is a bull and what is this role of the bull what's it about?
This is for women who are maybe curious about learning more about this lifestyle and want to understand this part of it a little bit more, or it could be for couples who are just beginning their adventures in this kind of lifestyle. Either way, it's going to be a very interesting and informative episode. so let's get started. Okay, so let me first start out by explaining what a cuckolding relationship is. This is for any of the new listeners that may be joining me today that haven't listened to any of the previous episodes.
A cuckolding relationship is a one-sided open relationship where she has sex with other guys and he is completely faithful to her and they both really love it that way. And I've spoken a lot on previous episodes about the kind of magical emotional connection between a wife and husband or boyfriend or girlfriend in this kind of relationship dynamic. And it is pretty fucking special. It's Thank you.
between a wife and husband or boyfriend or girlfriend in this kind of relationship dynamic and it is pretty fucking special it's pretty amazing when it's in a real loving kind of relationship there's this uh emotional exchange that's going on between between the two of them and these sexual scenarios that's really fucking intense and amazing and it's just um it's incredible on a level that really, I feel like other kinds of relationships just can't reach. And so this is why I love this kind of relationship so much.
So I've spoken a lot about that kind of connection that happens between the two of them. But what I really want to get into today is, um, that third is the bull, which is the guy that she's fucking. And so there's this misconception that it's just about sex. He's just there for sex and that's it. And for some couples, that may be the case. But I think for real cuckolding relationships, there is something really, really special about finding a bull who really understands and embraces and loves that role. And when you find somebody like that, it can really transform your whole relationship.
So I'm going to talk a little bit about that. So let me just talk a little bit about common stereotypes about bulls. Obviously, a bull is someone who is going to fuck her better than her boyfriend or husband. That's the idea of it. In hot wifing situations, I think it's less about that and more about her just sleeping with other guys and coming back and sleeping with her boyfriend or husband or whatever. And it's not necessarily about anything humiliating, like her getting better satisfied by another guy. I think within cuckolding, that's pretty specific.
So the bull in a cuckolding relationship is really there for satisfying her in this way that her boyfriend or husband just simply can't. But there's also this idea that a bull is going to fuck her in a kind of more, I guess, like a real fuck the shit out of her kind of way.
So we're not talking about making sweet love or having this fucking emotional connection or anything like that this is about straight up raw fucking her to the point where like her eyes roll back this kind of straight up rough sex kind of stuff not necessarily rough but just really intense and so that's the kind of idea when a woman in a cuckolding relationship is looking for a bull. It's like, okay, this guy's going to fuck me like a champion for sure. Usually that means he's, you know, kind of built, he's muscular, he's, he's strong.
He's kind of like, looks like an authority and is very kind of take charge and, um, maybe, you know, toss bit you know these sort of things so he's kind of like a dominant figure this is another stereotype for bulls realistically though a bull could be many things I mean there are cuckolding relationships where the bull is part of the actual relationship like she is in love with the bull they perhaps all live together the three of them this not super common but it does happen so they're the stereotype versus the reality isn't always accurate but um there are different types of this dynamic out there could be um bulls who are like romantically involved with these women and that's okay too, but it's just not as common.
I think the key to cuckolding relationships is having the bull be aware of the dynamic of the couple. And that's really important. I mean, I have had it before where I just fucked random guys and they had, they didn't know that I was seeing somebody. This was like way back in the beginning before I really kind of grew with this relationship, but, um, there, it was just guys to fuck. And as all women out there will attest to finding guys to just have sex with is easy as fuck. I mean, let's admit it. We definitely control the keys to the sex closet. We can fuck anybody at any time.
There's never a shortage of guys who want to fuck. But within this kind of relationship, finding a true bull is something completely different. And there are some qualities around that that make somebody really stand out from that. And I think that being aware of the couple's dynamic is absolutely integral to that. So if the guy you're fucking doesn't understand that you already have this cuck boyfriend or husband that doesn't know and he doesn't get it, then I mean, where's the fun in that? I don't think I'd sign up for that. Then that's just sex.
And there's this common misconception that within cuckolding relationships, all this, the fun part is just the sexual activity between the wife and the bull, and that's it. And that's like the star of the of the show so to speak but it's not actually true I mean there's a lot going on and it's going three ways within that moment and so people don't really they don't really understand that at all so I'm hoping to be able to explain that to people so you have a better understanding of that part of it and a better appreciation for the role of the bull and how that affects the whole situation.
So I'll start out by explaining a little bit about where I come from or my history with bulls. And right in the very beginning, like I said, I just fucked anybody randomly, didn't really care. And I just told my boyfriend about it I was like yeah I've got five different guys lined up for the week so I'm gonna have some fun and he just loved that part of it but uh like a few months into it I decided to actually this was when he was um telling me I should seek out black guys and I'm like yeah, Yeah, fuck, let's sign me up. Let's do this.
So then I put an ad on Craigslist back when Craigslist was an actual thing. And in the personals, and I just had this post that said, I really want to find a guy, a big black guy with a big dick. And he's got to be okay with my boyfriend listening on the phone. And so this was my first real search for a legit bull. And I will say I had fantastic response from that ad. And I'm really sad that Craigslist is gone because I don't really have anything to replace it. But that ad was fantastic because I had the opportunity to tell people straight up like, look, this is the cuckold session.
And this is what I have as expectations for you and your role. So it was really clear. And I ended up finding some awesome balls from that ad. Amazing. And that's when I really kind of learned the true value of someone who understands and appreciates this role.
And I spoke a little bit about my first cuckolding experience I think it was my second episode and where I met with this guy who literally had experience being a bull and he just fucking took control out of the situation and I was nervous and he just like took over and uh holy shit like it was so fucking mind-blowing um that that experience in itself was just like wow this is so much better than just fucking random guys so obviously you could tell by my excitement that in that episode where I told the story that it was like it was mind-blowing but anyway um so that's how i kind of that was my first experience with somebody who really understood the role of the bull and i began to really love it and i think that couples who are new to this kind of lifestyle when you are uh your wife's just fucking other guys and it's literally just fucking guys it's whatever it's fun and stuff like that but when you actually realize when you've got like a real bull, somebody who knows what they're doing, oh my God, they can take you places you never thought possible before.
They can really just push you and you can have experiences that you never thought possible. So it's something that's totally different. And for me, it's really important that I don't develop any kind of love feelings for my bull and my bull doesn't feel any kind of love feelings for me as well. So having that really clear boundary is so important. And I'm always open and upfront with my bulls about what it is that I have as an expectation and letting them know, look, you're not the only one. I have other guys who do this for me as well. And they have to be okay with that.
And you know what, the ones that I keep around, the bulls that I really just love seeing are the ones who really get that and understand it and appreciate it. And they're totally respectful of the fact that I live this kind of lifestyle. This is who I am. And they really appreciate that about me. So they're not going to feel jealous about some other guy who's coming along and I'm fucking him. No, they're actually going to be asking for the pictures because it's hot as shit. And so there's this really open and honest and transparent kind of dialogue that goes along between myself and my bulls.
And so that's super important to me, just being very open about that. And then the whole not jealous part. I mean, they can't feel like possessive over me. And I've had that before where a guy who's my bull, I'm just starting out with him and stuff like that. And then if he starts to feel kind of, if I get those feelings that he's just kind of like possessive over me and, and just, just, I don't know, those little, little nagging feelings. I don't like that shit. If that happens, that's it. I'm not going to see you again. That's no, it's just not going to happen.
But also it comes down to some sexual chemistry. So there may not be any love feelings between us, but there sure as shit are some heavy sexual tension feelings, static electricity going on between each other. And if that's not there, then obviously it it's whatever but finding a bull where that happens or that creates over time like holy shit watch out like that that's really really intense and I have a few bulls where it's been like that since the beginning like oh my god the way we talk to each other and everything like that when we see each other is just something else.
So it also comes down to sexual chemistry. So it's not just about trust and open and honesty and respect, but also about that kind of like crazy sexual chemistry. I think what sets apart regular bulls from really great bulls is their ability and curiosity to learn about the couples. So it's not just about sex with her, but he genuinely wants to learn about the couple's dynamic and what it is that gets them off.
And a real bull is somebody who gets off on that part of it not just the sex but gets off on actually that role that piece of the puzzle that that piece that one part of the triad that's going on if he's turned on by that part he's going to make a fucking fantastic bull and so finding that is actually pretty rare And one of the things that I have encountered so often is couples complaining that it's just really difficult to find a good bull. And how do we find a good bull? They're asking me all the time, how do I find a good bull? And I'm like, oh my God. Yeah. It's funny.
We just wouldn't think, as a standing from the outside of this lifestyle, you just wouldn't think it'd be so difficult to find somebody for that. But like I said, it's not just about some guy to have sex with. I mean, they're fucking everywhere, but a really good bull, somebody who really clicks and connects within your kind of situation, that part is really hard to find. sacrifice quality and comfort any longer. With Maison Dinege, you get both in fresh, empowering looks for every occasion, for everyone. From the streets to the sheets and everywhere in between.
Check us out at MaisonDinege.com. Maison Dinege Couture. Modern fashion for the modern revolution. now for finding a good bull I think new couples who are just sitting down and trying to figure out like okay let's we've got this fantasy we want to play it out she's gonna fuck some other guy and so let's figure out how we're gonna get this started it's really good down and together and figure out, okay, what, what is it that she would imagine she would like with this bull? What does he look like in her mind? And what does the sex kind of feel like? What's the tempo like?
What's the atmosphere like? Where would it be at? And consider all of these things. And then once you kind of sat down and figure out, okay, also, you know, what are, would the boundaries and rules be like, you know, how would she feel safe? All of those sorts of things. Then you can sit down and think about like, where would we start looking? And people ask me this all the time. Like, where do you find these guys? Like I said, Craigslist personal is such a shame that it's not, it's not operating anymore. Cause that was just so helpful. But for me, there's a few different places.
I find the best, the best are referrals from other women, other couples. I always say sharing is caring and it's true. Cause like, like I have my little black book of bulls who are like I'm just like these guys are fucking golden no not golden platinum in my eyes platinum and the best of the best and I obviously don't mind sharing so I have referred them to other women before.
And's awesome and I just feel like as women in this lifestyle if we were to refer other women you know privately and share these bulls oh my god we would have such a great network it'd be like okay well I'm flying to Dallas this weekend I'm wondering who's out there and having somebody to be able to just hook me up that would be super but for some reason that doesn't exist yet then maybe that's my next project but anyway so referrals are fantastic way to do it if you are know you're going to be in a certain area you can always try to seek out some couples that already have their favorites picked out and they don't mind sharing.
That would be great. And then there's looking online, which sucks. It's just sucks in general, but it's, I guess, your only other option. And that is just putting a post maybe on FetLife or on some other website or even just looking on Tinder. I've done all of those before. And I've come across some, some really great bulls and unusual places and Tinder being one of them.
So, and some like, sometimes you'll meet somebody who is not has doesn't necessarily have experience in this lifestyle, but is so curious to learn and somebody who feels like he would really really get into this and that's happened to me before and one of my favorite bulls is like that and it's just this like real open-minded curiosity to learn about this this role that he could be playing and it turns out he fucking loves it so you never really know where you're find them. But it's pretty unusual to find one just like out in public, just at a bar or something like that.
You can find guys to fuck galore at a bar or club or something like that. But finding a real bull, you actually have to seek them out online or through other people. So, um, that can be, that can be tricky, but it is possible. And I would just say, take your time, be very picky about it and, um, like go slow. You don't have to meet them and fuck them on the first time.
You can maybe just meet them for dinner or something or a drink or something like that and, and talk about it and really kind of hash hash things out with them because it's really important to communicate with your bull about what it is that you have as expectations and what he has as expectations and figure out and just be really open and honest if you're kind of feeling shy about that conversation that's going to be that's going to be tough I mean this is what these are one of those instances where you really have to be blunt and upfront about it.
And hey, those conversations can be really fun too. Very sexy, especially if it's in front of your cuck. So let's say you have found one who you think is pretty interesting. Some of the really good green flags for bulls, like I said, are a real curiosity to learn about the dynamic between you and your boyfriend or husband. And if he's not, if he's not asking questions about that part of it, then that's what I would consider to be a red flag.
So if he's not kind of asking questions about, you know, your relationship, then something's up because then he's more likely to be in it just for the sex and not for the bull. And let's face it, some of these guys out there will try to just tell you what they think it is that you want to hear just because they want to fuck you. So you got to kind of filter those guys out and make sure that the guy who you're talking to is legitimately interested in this whole cuckolding situation.
Other kind of green flags for me would be a guy who's patient, understanding, and a real red flag is if he's kind of pushy and needy and wants to do stuff like right I, I mean, I don't know what everybody else's schedules, but I can't just fuck at the drop of a hat. Like I've got real life responsibilities. Like this is real life we're talking about. And so, uh, if he's really pushy about that, like, Oh, I just, you know, I want to see you like right away. I'm just like, fuck off. I don't have time or patience for shit like that.
So if a guy seems to be like that, it's probably not going to be a good fit. If he's really kind of patient and understanding about your situation, then that's, that's great. And a follow through is really important. Unfortunately, lots of guys in this lifestyle, lots of bulls will flake out and it's so rude. I wish guys wouldn't do that. Um, obviously none of the bulls who I see regularly are like that. They're definitely not.
These are all guys who highly respect my time and I respect theirs, but there are like, if you're looking for a new bull, I feel like there are several who would just flake out for whatever reason. I have no idea, but that's just such a piss off when they just don't show up. Another really good sign of a bull is when he's constantly checking in with you, both of you about how you're feeling and how things are going, like getting some feedback from you guys, that's so important. So that shows that he really kind of cares about what, like how things are going.
And if he's not asking for that feedback and he's not asking questions about how things are going or how you're feeling, then I feel like that could be a red flag. I mean, maybe he's just a little shy and nervous in the beginning and you can kind of figure that out. But he should be asking those questions and figuring out if you guys are actually comfortable and how things are going. And also with that conversation, like, okay, if things are going really great, is there anything else that we could be doing to make it even better?
So that's what makes a bull kind of stand out against the others is he's got to really respect and love that kind of role that he's in and he's got to be hardwired for that just like a cuck is hardwired to get turned on by a cuckolding scenario and the wife has got to be hardwired in the fact that she's got to find all of this really sexy and hot and love it. A bull has to be in the frame of mind to really love that position that he's in, that specific position that he's in.
And when you have three people who are all kind of connected like that and all kind of hardwired like that, oh my God, these possibilities possibilities are endless you can have a lot of fun when you find somebody that really clicks like that holy shit watch out that's when all the fun kicks in for me I like big black guys I mean I'll talk about the queen of spades aspect of this on a different episode, but I am really into black bulls. Black guys turn me the fuck on. They are so sexy. They have so much confidence. Their dark skin, their smooth voice, the way that they just own it.
They take it. They don't even ask. it I'm just like oh fuck me right now this is what I love in in a bull is a is this strong black guy and I'm a size queen which means that I prefer guys who have huge cocks I mean like big minimum nine inches like thick like bring it I will I can take it I want it I just happen to really love that feeling of being stretched out and filled up so for me oh that combination oh something else like shit I'm gonna get worked up but anyway that's what I really like in a bull.
I like big black guys and they tend to be like athletes or just, you know, like really experienced in the bull role. And they fuck me like a fucking champion. I mean, I don't want any of this making love shit. I mean, he's gonna fuck the shit out of me. And I love that. I'm a bit of a slut in that way. I shouldn't say bit. I'm a full on fucking slut in that way. And I love it. And they love it. So if it's hot, sweaty, sexy, nasty, fuck the shit out of me kind of sex, then I'm happy. I'm very, very happy. So that's, that's what I look for in a bowl.
Obviously somebody who's open and honest and respectful about my, my lifestyle, we can be respectful of that, but someone who I consider to be a friend, I respect them in that way. And somebody who's like literally gonna fuck my guts, like just fuck the shit out of me in a way that like leaves me wanting it again and again. Like, fuck, I just can't get enough. That for me is the kind of bull that is, I'm going to fucking keep you forever.
But also, you know, somebody who, who loves this dynamic like he's got to love cuckolding as much as i do he's got to love that that being a bull he's got to love being in that position of authority and there's uh this kind of power dynamic that some people have expectations with when it comes to finding a bull like he has to be dominant either he's got to be dominant towards the cuck or the wife or both of them and for me it's less about that than it is about like just me respecting their role and um so I'm not into really like really super dominant guys who you know want to do all this kind of like crazy, submissive kind of talk and stuff like that is not really my thing.
But I do, there definitely is a hierarchy there with him being at the top, obviously, but I'm next to him. So it's not like I'm like below him or anything like that. And I would think I'll speak for a lot of other women out there who say it's a bit of a turnoff when a guy doesn't understand that part. And he's just start like a bull is just he'll just start talking to her, like, you know, calling her slut or telling her call him daddy or something like that. Like, it's just it's not invited. And he didn't even take time to kind of learn about that, that what it is that she wants in a bull.
And that's such a fucking turnoff. So for all the guys out there who are aspiring to be bulls, like pay attention because you can't just like straight up talk to a woman like that without getting to know her first. That's a real piss off. Okay. So that's a little bit about what an actual bull is, what makes a really great bull and some tips about how to find a really great bull. That's going to be it for this episode.
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