The Venus Cuckoldress podcast celebrates five years with a special compilation of the most profound, mind-shifting moments that have transformed understanding of cuckolding relationships.• Key Barrett explains the concept of unfiltering in female-led relationships, breaking down how women are taught to filter their responses and how shedding this brings clarity to relationships• Crystal Welch characterizes cuckolds as higher life forms who have evolved beyond toxic masculinity through personal growth work• Dr. Justin Lehmiller s research reveals men with cuckolding fantasies have higher self-esteem and self-confidence than typically assumed• Dr. David Ley explains how sexual shame creates self-defeating behaviors in men with cuckolding desires, including the common pattern of intense interest followed by ghosting• Ella breaks down how patriarchal systems create a skills deficit in men s emotional intelligence, explaining why many struggle with the varsity level communication needed for ethical non-monogamyLinksKey Barrett: https://bsky.app/profile/keybarrett.bsky.social - books https://a.co/d/4PNQSHp episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336219-flr-surrender-submit-and-serve-her-with-key-barrett-m-scDr. Justin Lehmiller: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/ - books https://a.co/d/4gvABX0 episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336195-what-do-your-cuckolding-fantasies-say-about-you-with-special-guest-dr-justin-lehmillerDr. David Ley: https://bsky.app/profile/davidleyphd.bsky.social books https://a.co/d/gjjwtdO episode - https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336246-unraveling-the-cuck-shame-spiral-with-dr-david-leyCrystal Welch: https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/cw episode https://www.buzzsprout.com/822292/episodes/14336214-a-bold-message-to-the-women-of-the-world-you-really-can-have-it-all-with-cuckoldingElla episode: ❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ 👑♠️ Maison De Neige is high end lifestyle and streetwear fashion with a passion for the beauty of interracial combined with high fashion. Visit https://www.maisondeneige.com/ ❤️xoafterglow.com❤️ Meet the platform for ethical porn. Made by women, for women (and everyone). We make and share videos that portray sex accurately and treat performers with dignity, because nothing is sexier than consent. Use code VENUS for a free 7 day trial at ➡️ https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate, and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. let's go welcome to the show everyone i'm your host venus thanks for joining me today i have been waiting so long to put this episode together and i'm so glad that i finally did because it's been almost a decade since i started blogging or when I learned about cuckolding, I started blogging and it's been five years that I've been podcasting about cuckolding and cuckolding relationships.
And I have learned so much and I have had some amazing guests on the show. So I have taken the top five best moments that of like mic drop moments where I was just like, holy shit. And I put them together with a bunch of soundbites from those episodes. I put them together for this show today. And it is just like so amazing because these are all of the moments that really, really stand out in my mind of like, wow, that was a light bulb moment. That was an aha moment. That was something that made me really think long and hard about something. And I can never look at it the same again.
That's how I feel about these moments in the show. There are many other moments that didn't make the list, but these were my top five. I put all the links to the full episodes in the show notes for today in case you want to go and actually listen to the whole thing. And there's also links for the books that I recommend in the show for today as well. They're in the show notes. I'll also post the links for the guests that you hear about in the show today. So that's Dr. David Lay, Dr. Justin Lay Miller, Crystal Welch, Key Barrett, and my friend Ella.
All right, before we jump in, I just have one quick announcement. I'm going to be doing another live chat in the Queen's Quarter. The last one I recently did, which was super fucking fun. We talked about a bunch of things actually, but the topic of the day was all about cheaters and if a cuckolding relationship can work after she cheats. So actually, it ended up turning into like an hour and a half long chat. It was a lot of fun, and I really enjoyed it. So it's free to join if you would like. It's in the Queen's Quarters community.
You can get more information about the next one, which is going to be on April 1st. So mark your calendars for that. You get more information at venuscuckoldress.com on the events page. All right, let's jump into the show right after this quick message from Joy Mode. I know all of you listening to the show really want to have better sex, of course. The issue is that over-the-counter erection pills contain unregulated chemicals. Ew. They suggest unsafe doses and include the risk of several other health problems. That's why I've partnered with my friends over at Joy Mode.
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So on the show was Key Barrett, and he's got two of my favorite books, Locked in Love and Surrender, Submit and Serve Her. And that last book that I just mentioned is all about female leadership in relationships or FLR. And before I had him on the show and talked to him, I really didn't know much at all about FLR. I only knew what the common stereotypes were. Like I'd only heard ofR being very femdom and all about rules and consequences and tasks and stuff like that. So I really didn't know anything about it outside of that.
And it wasn't until I had this conversation with Key Barrett and read his book where I was just like, whoa, this is actually so much different than what I actually thought it was. And this key moment about unfiltering was just profound for me. I was just like, wow, I will never look at it the same again. And ever since then, I've noticed all of these instances where I have been able to unfilter or been aware of the filter that I have going on. So here it is. This is what he had to say.
I'm going to start with the women's benefits because I think that's what needs to be heard the most, because I think a lot of people have some assumptions about what the male benefits would be. And largely, they're right. There's some ones where they're wrong. But for women, there's a few. One, women are taught from the get go. And this goes back to Disney, that you should filter your responses. Right. Don't challenge. Don't directly confront all these kinds of things. You know, it's not worth it.
And, you know, so so the example I give, I think it's even in the book is book is you know it's going to rain today and you see your partner walking out the door without the umbrella you're trained to say hey do you think you should bring your umbrella i think it might rain instead of take the umbrella it's going to pour all day right yeah yeah because because you've been trained that the response you'll get nine times out of ten is fuck you i don't need an umbrella you know or something like that or fine you know like who are you to tell me not to get wet you know yeah well with with female leadership with the accepted roles in place that goes away filtering goes You are empowered.
You're not only allowed to say what you really mean, you're empowered to. And the flip side of that is men and submissive partners that are, you know, I don't want to just make this a dynamic of male and female, right? Submissive partners get frustrated by unclear decisions. One of the things that almost all of the submissive partners said that they used to lament about and don't anymore is the idea that they would rather do a Herculean task with simple instructions than a simple task with Herculean instructions, right?
I would rather build a rock wall if you you tell me the rock wall needs to be this high and it needs to be there. I know. Okay. I'll go do that. I know how to do that. Right. And I can do this and you'll be happy with the results. Tell me, you want me to, you know, pick a vacation when, I don't know where, I don't know. Okay. You've just created stress or, or filtering, you know, through that instead of telling me I want to go to Charleston and I want it to be in May. Right. You know, I think we should take a vacation. Do you think we should take a vacation? Where should we go?
Do you, I don't want to go to the beach again. Okay. You know, just the, just tell me what you want syndrome. Well, that goes away in a female-led relationship. She gets to say what she wants and describe what she's talking about with no fear of punishment. And he gets clear instructions and feels empowered because he gets to deliver, right? Interracial.
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Like it's I think a lot of people need to when they want to learn about FLR just put those stereotypes aside and look at some of those benefits for each person that's involved these are like normal relationship kind of benefits and it's not so much about kink and it's not so much about bdsm and it's not so much about all of that stuff that side of things um there was something else that he talked about key barrett talked about in the locked in love book where he talked about the um barter system when it comes to sex and i again another like moment of like holy shit i didn't realize that that exists.
But like now that I know about it, I can never look at relationships the same again. Like, and I know it's fascinating because I look at how that actually works into how we behave in relationships. Oh my god, so mind blowing. I'll put the link to the full episode in the show notes for today. So make sure you listen to it. It's really, really good. And I'll also put the link for those couple of books that I mentioned. Okay. Next up, I have Crystal Welch and we were having a conversation about how there's so many benefits for women in a cuckolding relationship.
And she dropped this one that just really rung clear for me because when she said cucks are a higher life form, they're an evolved species, I was like, yes, that's exactly it. It just really hit. It hit right. Here it is. Cuckold men, because of their level of self-awareness and their ability to be vulnerable and their ability to be completely open and honest with who and what they are, they are, in my opinion, a higher life form. They are a more evolved man, period, period. They are not subject to the toxic masculinity that I see all around us all the time.
People that just want to I'll see all the time. People that just want to silence women and ignore and hide any part of women's sexuality. The cuck male is kind of on the opposite spectrum of that. They are just a higher life form. They've done more personal growth work. They stay focused on the evolution of themselves and the relationship. And again, this isn't just my husband. It's every single cuck in a solid marriage that we know. They all are like that. You know, I had not really even thought about this before she said it.
But as soon as she said it, I was like, yes, okay, that's exactly it. They have done some emotional work. Cucks have done some emotional work that has given them the advantage of becoming this more evolved person. And therefore, this relationship is able to grow and thrive like hers. And I was just like, wow, mind blown. I completely agree that cucks are an evolved species, a higher life form. She's she just got it bang on. All right, next up, I have this was so cool. Dr. Justin Lee Miller wrote the book, Tell Me What You Want.
And he, when he was doing his research for people's, like studying people's fantasies, he interviewed thousands, surveyed thousands of Americans about their fantasies. fantasies and he learned a few things about cuckolding this was so cool because he does talk a little bit about in the show about like how common it is with men versus women, which was fascinating. But there are a couple good nuggets in here about kink related desires according to gender and also what that means about you. The link between BDSM and cuckolding is stronger for men than it is for women.
So for men, there seems to be more of this kind of kinky element to it.
So one of the things I did look at was how is somebody's self-esteem related to whether or not they have cuckolding fantasies i also looked at whether people felt secure in their relationship or not was related to these fantasies too because i think you could make a lot of hypotheses for example that maybe people who feel more secure in their relationship might be more likely to explore or experiment with cuckolding or some other type of sexual openness because you know they know that they've got that kind of secure base with their partner now it turned out there actually wasn't anything going on there so whether people had cuckolding fantasies was unrelated to how secure they felt in their relationship but i did find that there was a linkage to self-esteem but it was really only there for men and it runs counterintuitive to what might expect.
So you might think that men with lower self-esteem fantasize more about cuckolding, given these strong themes of small penis humiliation and so forth. But it was actually men with higher levels of self-esteem, more self-confidence, who were more likely to fantasize about cuckolding. I damn near lost my mind when he said that because that's something that I have always felt about cucks is that they have high levels of self-esteem and that they have high levels of self-worth and self-confidence. And so I'd already felt like that over the years.
So that's why it just makes me so mad the stereotype around cucks being weak and shit like that. Like it's so not true. So when he saw, he said this, that his research showed that cucks have higher Thank you.
mad the stereotype around cucks being weak and shit like that like it's so not true so when he saw he said this that his research showed that cucks have higher levels of self-esteem and self-confidence than most people I was like validated like I felt so seen and heard and everything I was like yes that's exactly what I have been seeing hearing and feeling over the last many years that I've been into this amazing kind of relationship and lifestyle. So that felt really amazing. That was awesome to be able to hear that. Next up, I have Dr. David Lay.
He is the author of Insatiable Wives, Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them. And it's an excellent book on cuckolding. He's been a guest at least a couple of times on the show. And this is this clip that I'm going to play is from the first time that he was a guest on the show. And up until that moment, I had been dealing well, even afterwards, but at least I understood after that moment, I've been dealing with a lot of these single cucks who are really into the fantasy.
But then, and they're just so fucking all in, they're just hyped up, amped up, all, it's all they want to talk about is they're so interested in everything. And then when it comes to like meeting in person or making things shit real, they're just like, poof, disappear. They're chronic ghosters, worse than regular dating. And I could not, but they would always come back. They would always come back at some point with some lame ass excuse and try to weasel the way back into my life. And I was so frustrated by it. So I asked Dr. Lee about it.
Why do I see this in so many guys where they're so into it and yet they just disappear? It seems like shame. and this was his response. And oh my God, after this episode, I literally broke down in tears because I was so glad to finally understand. I'd never had any kind of explanation from these guys. So here's what he had to say. There's been a tremendous amount of research now that has looked at self-identified sex addicts and porn addicts and has found that kind of I was right.
And you, Venus, hit the nail on the head that this is really about shame, that the people who identify as being addicted to sex, people who report that they are really, really struggling to control their sexual behaviors, in most cases, the behaviors that they are struggling to control are the sexual desires or fantasies that they have that they are deeply ashamed of. The interesting thing is that the greater the level of shame you have around asexual desire, the less self-control people actually seem to feel regarding it.
The more you hate yourself for having asexual desire or fantasy that you feel like you shouldn't have, the greater difficulty you have controlling it and making it go away. Because the more we fight our sexuality, the more we fight our sexual desires, oftentimes paradoxically, the stronger they become. People who have more compassion for themselves and for their sexuality have greater levels of self-control. They are less likely to view those sexual desires or fantasies as an addiction or something that they have to fight instead.
So the last thing is I try and help these guys to accept that they're a person that has these fantasies, to accept that they're a person that, you know, these sexual desires that they think they shouldn't have are a part of them. Can you love yourself for having those aspects to your sexuality? Can you explore how those aspects might actually help you to see the world in a different way, to see masculinity in a different way, to see your wife in a different way? That was such a powerful moment for me. Like I said, I'd gone years with guys acting that way and I could not understand why.
I had women call into the show and they were so frustrated because their boyfriend was like so into it. And then, you know, he started acting weird and withdrawing and, you know, pushing away and all that. And that just like mixed messages like i had so many mixed messages over the years from guys who were just like so into this fantasy and then would just like push away and disappear and do all of that like what the is happening that after i heard that on that episode with Dr.
David Lay it all made sense but it also was pretty heartbreaking because that's when I realized holy shit all of these guys these cucks are carrying around this like really debilitating level of shame around having this desire this fantasy so many of them it's affecting them I'm sure it's affecting affecting themselves and their mental health but also it's affecting their relationships as well and it made me really wonder like how many guys are able to be compassionate and accepting about themselves eventually I'm sure it's a journey it's what I've heard, it's a journey of acceptance.
But how many guys are able to be compassionate and accepting about themselves eventually? I'm sure it's a journey. It's what I've heard. It's a journey of acceptance. But how many guys don't actually get to the end of that journey where they accept themselves? How many guys actually go their whole life fighting this fantasy, hating themselves because this is what they happen to be into. I mean, it was a little bit heartbreaking for me.
It was very heartbreaking for me to realize that so many guys were carrying around this shame because for me as a woman in this lifestyle and for so many other women who, you know, you bring this up to us, you're like, hey, how about this? and we're like oh my god that sounds amazing and as women it's all fun for us and we don't realize that the guy is actually holding on to all of this baggage this shame this guilt this self-hatred self-loathing for having this kind of fantasy but they are not talking they're not that to us. They're not talking about it to us.
And that can be like so difficult to, how do you navigate that in a relationship? So speaking of the communication skills, my top number one, most amazing episode where i learned so fucking much was with a guest named Ella. And the reason why we started talking about this was because there was this article that was written in Psychology Today. And I will post the link to it in the show notes for today because you have to read it.
It's basically saying that like in the dating landscape for today of what's happening women are really demanding that men learn the skills that they need the communication skills that they need in these kinds of relationships that women want and need and um and and how that can be so beneficial if they do actually learn those skills and why those skills are not there in the first place. This is an absolutely fascinating fucking article. Anyway, it went viral because it was titled The Rise of Single Lonely Men.
And yes, there are some controversial things that are said in that article, but it is by far a call to action, a positive call action for men and uh like as you can imagine it was very controversial so it did go viral um but her and i we talked about like what does this mean for relationships but what does this specifically mean for a cuckolding relationship she dropped so many mics in this episode i was just like mind fucking blown and i will say out of in the five years i've been doing this podcast this one episode with ella was the most i i think exciting as far as like the reaction from the listeners i had so much feedback from people who absolutely loved this episode.
It seemed like if you listened to this episode, you were kind of shook after. You were not going to be able to see the world in the same way that you did before. That's how I felt, and that's how so many other people felt when they listened to this show. So here are a few clips of what she had to say in that episode. Here we go. The last time you were on the show, you, we talked a lot about some really interesting things, but one of the things that literally fucking shook the listeners, me too was something that you said okay about um self, like introspection on behalf of men.
So what you said was, and we were, this is how it came up. We were talking about communication and you were saying that, you know, varsity level communication is required for this. And I was like, yes, varsity, not kindergarten varsity. And you said, it's more than just knowing how to talk and knowing how to listen, which is, I think what most people think about when they think about communication. Um, but you said like, it's things like, do you know what to say? Do you know how to describe your feelings?
Do you know what your interior experience is and those kind of things require for you to be able to interrogate yourself about why you're feeling something the way you feel and all of that, which, like you said on the show last time, can be scary and it can be uncomfortable and not a place that some guys really want to go to. They want to think about how fun and exciting and wank off material cuckolding is, right? And this other side of it is, I don't want to have to deal with that. So we were talking about that.
And then I think I, I just quipped some little thing like, Oh, do you think guys actually have the ability to, you know, interrogate themselves emotionally? And because I was like, I doubt it. But then you fucking slammed it down with this.
You said, when we talk about living under the patriarchy, one of the privileges that men and male body people can get away with is they don't have to be introspective about how they feel because the world doesn't interrupt it enough for it to be necessary you said systems work for men because they're built for men and that was just like mic drop shit like because like I had so many people who were contacting me afterwards saying oh my god what a great show that was amazing she had so many great things to say but that one part where she said that part about you know it systems are built for men I the guys were like it's like seeing something that you can never unsee afterwards they They were like, you know, enlightened completely after that and just shook by it because they never even thought about it that way.
But it is so true, right? And so I remember that. And then recently when this viral article happened on psychology psychologytoday.com the psychology today magazine. Um, there was a psychologist, uh, by the name of Greg Matos, Matos, I don't know how to pronounce it. Um, where he, he titled it the rise of single lonely men. And as soon as I read this, cause the title is like, wait, what he was saying that, you know, one of the key points is that, um, they, there's been an increase in relationship standards. So women are becoming more choosy about what they want.
And they are saying that they want men who are emotionally available, good communicators and share the same values. Like you said, the values are really important to you. And you want to find someone who kind of lines up with that. And so he was saying that there is an actual skills gap when it comes to emotional intelligence and communication that men are likely not even aware exists. And it wasn't until I read that, that I remembered that quote from you about the systems are made for men in a way that it makes them not have to analyze their interior experience.
And I was like, oh my gosh, like all of these light bulbs like started pinging. And I was like, holy fuck. She's so, she's, that's exactly what she was talking about. Yeah. There's a skills deficit and the standard is higher and you do have to come to the table, a more healthy, whole, complete person. And women are all coming up. Like if you're cis hetero or if you're a hetero woman, and you're raising your hand being like, yeah, I can't find a man who's on my level. I can't find, I'm in the dating pool. And not only are they not on my level, they're abusive. I hope men are listening.
I hope men are understanding that we want you to be here with us. We want you to come into the fold. We want you to be moving forward. And like, we want you to be in the circle. We want you to be involved. But there's a standard and our well-being and safety trumps your happiness, quote unquote. world and that is a that is a tough reality for some of these men. It's a tough awakening to a world that feels like it's rejecting them, but we're not rejecting them. We're just saying you have to go back to school and learn and get better. And then you can come join the club.
You need to go from kindergarten level to varsity level. Yes, exactly. Start at square one, baby boy, and then come back and see us. And if you're trying and you mean well, and you really can interrogate some toxic shit, this is the thing I've always said.
My favorite quote about the patriarchy comes from bell hooks uh rest in power uh they said the first act of violence is not of the patriarchy is not towards women the first act of violence is towards the self it's called the psychic self-mutilation of the boy it is the psychic self-mutilation that young boys go through in order to be pushed through that system that says you can only act this way. You can only behave this way. You can only look this way. You can only sound this way. And it is toxic. And they are victims of the patriarchy too.
And we could have so much empathy and sympathy and room for the growth that they need to go through if we weren't unsafe. Where we feel safe, there's room for you. Where we don't feel safe, that is a line. Everyone deserves to feel like they belong. It breaks my heart to hear that men are feeling rejected. And it's like, that's not the point of saying this. That's not the point of freeing this information.
The point in saying this and having articles like Psychology Today is to say that this is the reality of what we're living through and you are a part of it and you have to own your part in it. And if we can collaborate and work together, that means that you have a lot of responsibility. You have a lot of responsibility as the people who still fucking hold power, who hold the levers of society, who hold the money, for Christ's sake. When men go through patriarchal norms and standards, their identity is reduced. You know, their interior world is reduced and put it, I would I would say at harm.
Like you're not allowed to cry. Like the, not allowed to feel things. You're not allowed to really, in essence, you're not allowed to do say or display things that are coded as feminine. And because, and therein lies the misogyny. Cause that scene is less than that scene is bad.
That scene is, and that's how, you know, patriarchy and misogyny is about is anti-feminine anti-femininity and gender is such a spectrum like can we it's like i hate how this keeps us in the binary but things that are feminine are just human they're we're all just human together there's nothing about anger that's masculine or unique to masculinity and there's nothing about like you know sensitivity or hurt Thank you.
together there's nothing about anger that's masculine or unique to masculinity and there's nothing about like you know sensitivity or hurt feelings or crying that is unique like it's just so ridiculous when you think about it you're like every single human being and let's expand the steve and other species on the planet we know animals feel we know this is what happens this is what it means to be species on the planet. We know animals feel. We know this is what happens. This is what it means to be alive on this earth. It is to feel these things.
And so opening that up and expanding that and inviting men in saying, you're allowed to be in here. You're allowed to do this. But it's a scary move for them. It's a risky move for them. They give up power. They have to own parts of themselves that have been detached, demeaned, and abused. And so they got to open all this up in order to access this communication, in order to access this relational expertise that we're talking about.
And so I have felt like maybe guys assume that dating in the cuckolding lifestyle is the same as dating in the vanilla lifestyle where they just have to put up a profile and talk and chit chat and impress her with a few little lines, first lines and, you know, like that kind of thing. and then shit will happen but I'm like no in this kind of relationship uh dating in the cuckolding lifestyle, I'm like, you have to really do the fucking work on yourself and you have to put in the effort.
And so one of the things that I thought was really interesting about what this guy said is that level up, this is to the guys, level up your mental health game. That means getting into some individual therapy to address your skills gap. It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively. It means seeing intimacy, romance, and emotional connection as worthy of your time and effort.
And that is amazing because he's saying you need to make this a priority and you need to take the initiative to go and learn all of these skills that you need to bring to the table. And he says how to do it. And that is how you do it. You go to fucking therapy. That's just what we did. That's what I did. That's what everyone does. And, and if they can love themselves and realize that they're not less of a man, like you said, like this is toxic masculinity. When these guys are afraid of their fantasies, afraid of their desires, like feel like a loser, feel whatever.
I mean, my heart goes out to them is like, well, that's kind of obvious. I'm like, hello, you were taught to feel that way. That's not true. That's not the laws. You were just taught to feel that way through a set of values that's harmful and toxic. Change your mind. And there it is. That was the part.
Well, there were so many parts, but that was the part where she said said change your mind where I was just like wow that is amazing she said so many things that like I had never really thought about before and obviously lots of listeners that never really thought about before until she just like spit out facts like that and you're just like holy shit's a lot. But it really does make me have empathy for guys who are a struggle with their own fantasies, their own desires, and not being able not to being able to have the skills to be able to work through that in a really healthy way.
And I think that's a fucking tragedy. I look back at all of these years that I've learned about cuckolding and all these things that I've learned about this amazing kind of relationship and lifestyle. And I'm just like, it's so exciting. It's so hot. It's so thrilling. And like all of that has been so fun to learn about. But really what has been fascinating for me and what keeps me going and learning even more is understanding the cuckold experience, the understanding what is like in that inside the mind of a cuckold. It is just to me, that is incredible. And I love and adore cucks so much.
I want to see all cucks like thriveucks thrive with themselves, but also in relationships. And so learning about these tools to be able to do that has just been like, oh my God, amazing. Those are my top five episodes. There's also some really great episodes that did not make the cut to this list.
And one of them is called The wounded bull it's with uh scarlet and drew marston that talks about uh wounding of psychological wounding of of bulls in the lifestyle and what that behavior looks like and how that's problematic and stuff like that and then there was also one uh a lady who goes by the name of Lady Wren, and she was talking about her, she'd been married for like 30 years. She went from a completely vanilla marriage into a very, very kinky marriage.
And one of the most impactful things that she said to me when I said, like I asked her, how did it make you feel when he finally divulged these fantasies that he'd been having and hiding for so long? And her comment to that was really powerful.
She said something to the effect of, it made me really sad that he felt like he couldn't approach me, he couldn't trust me to say these say these things to tell me these things and so I thought that was just a really a powerful moment and I think it goes to show that when you're with somebody who you love and trust that they recognize and understand when you are being vulnerable with them and when you're sharing things that are you know very deep and possibly very, you know, things that you've kept secret for a long time, they understand what that gift is.
And it is a gift that this person is able to do. That means that you are a safe place for them. And that means a lot in a marriage, in a relationship. Okay, that's it for today's episode. I hope you enjoyed it. I've waiting to do this episode for so long because like these are really profound moments for me and my learning journey when it comes to cuckolding so if you have anything any comments things that you'd like to say about this episode join me in the queen's quarters you can get free limited access at venuscuckolders.com.
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