Unleashing sexual empowerment and revolutionizing relationships, Lilly Sparks ignites a provocative conversation on the importance of ethical porn, challenging mainstream norms, and helping couples explore their deepest desires.Lilly Sparks is the Founder CEO of afterglow, an ethical porn site designed to help people (women, especially) have better, more fulfilling sexual experiences. She creates porn you can learn from through sexy videos that twist common porn tropes, Eduporn and guided sex exercises. Lilly is an entrepreneur addicted to creating positive change in the world, a believer in the power of shame-free pleasure. She’s been featured everywhere from Forbes, the New York Times, to SXSW, and is an enthusiast of spending time outside, dancing, and listening to good music (preferably doing all three at once). You can find her work on xoafterglow.com, or follow @xoaftergloww on Instagram, or @xoafterglow on Twitter.Key Moments:00:06:18 - Afterglow: Porn for Women00:11:01 - Women and Porn Consumption00:12:40 - Focus on Female Pleasure00:17:12 - Importance of Sexual Wellness and Communication00:18:42 - Cuckolding and Female Pleasure00:22:36 - Eduporn and Learning Sexual Skills00:24:36 - Using Porn as a Tool for Communication00:27:28 - Ethical Porn and Behind-the-Scenes Content00:34:12 - Building Sexual Confidence00:35:39 - Investing in Self-Confidence00:36:39 - Gradual Steps and Different Comfort Zones00:37:48 - The Difficulty of Discussing Fantasies00:38:18 - Challenges with Sexual ContentOther Links:Use code VENUS for your free trial of AfterGlow - https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/ Locked in Love by Key Barrett - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=locked+in+love+key+barrettGet The Cuck View talk show - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/Queens-quarterGoddess Worshipper Blog - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/blogJoin my Cuckolding is Love Community on The MON App - https://themonapp.com/Join the Helpful Cuck Tier - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/offers/589WDju2/checkoutCuckold Dating - https://www.venusconnections.com/GTFO Radio - https://gtforadio.ca/shows/venus-cuckoldress/Book a private chat with Venus - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/private-chatsDestination Links for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldressLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ 👑♠️ Maison De Neige is high end lifestyle and streetwear fashion with a passion for the beauty of interracial combined with high fashion. Visit https://www.maisondeneige.com/ ❤️xoafterglow.com❤️ Meet the platform for ethical porn. Made by women, for women (and everyone). We make and share videos that portray sex accurately and treat performers with dignity, because nothing is sexier than consent. Use code VENUS for a free 7 day trial at ➡️ https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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Here's what's coming up on the show we really try to focus around like more authentic female pleasure videos but we have a wide range you know women search for rough sex we search for gang bangs we search for lesbian porn we love all of that you know we've gotten a lot of cuckolding requests also. So we're adding a bunch of that content to the site, you know, within the next month, which I'm super pumped about. Okay, wait, hold up. So you're adding some cuck videos? Oh, you know, I'm going to be interested in this.
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This is so awesome. I have Lily Sparks. She's joining me on the show. She's the founder and CEO of XOAfterglow.com, which if you haven't heard about it yet, is porn made by, get this, made by women and for everyone so some of you actually many of you have probably listened to my cuck porn video reviews on this show and you already know that my quest to find cuck porn that works for women that turns us on that we really love. That quest has been, how do I say this? What would be the right word? Challenging? Yes. Disappointing? Yes. Brutal? Sadly. Yes.
So I was so, so excited to learn about Lily's website, Afterglow, because I was like, finally. I have talked a little bit about it on some previous shows where I've watched some videos that I really, really liked on there. But since recording this episode, she has added some new actual cuckolding slash hot wifing porn videos on xoafterglow.com. So that's new. So you definitely want to check that out. You go to xoafterglow.com. And actually, you can use the code Venus to get a free trial if you just want to check it out and see if you like it.
The link for that is going to be in the show notes for today. All right, just a few announcements before we get into it today. The first, I'm going to be teaming up with Doc Chocolate on GTFO Radio. We're going to do a live show that is Tuesday, October 17th at noon Pacific time. That's 3 p.m. Eastern. Make sure you check it out. It's going to be a ton of fun. The link is in the show notes for today. And then, of course, it's Locktober right now. And if you don't know what that means, it means there's a lot of people practicing chastity for the month of October.
And I am currently key holding for one of my helpful cucks. His name is Ryan, and it is a lot of fun. So if anyone is interested in learning more about chastity, make sure that you check out the book Locked in Love. It's by Key Barrett. He's been on this show before to talk about chastity and talk about his book and his experience with it. And oh, my God, this is required reading. If any couples out there, singles, couples, whatever, are curious to learn about chastity, this is the book for you, Locked in Love. There will be a, of course, a link to the book in the show notes for today.
Last but not least. Oh, no, wait, there's two more. So there's a new Cuck View episode. This is the new talk show with myself and Cuck Next door. There's a new episode that's out now. You can listen to it on the private podcast at venuscuckoldress.com or on Apple podcast subscriptions. And in this one, this one was fucking so much fun. We were talking about Cuck dreams. Yes. What do Cucks dream about when they have cuckolding dreams? And we also talked about erotic massages, 2024 cuckolding goals and big titties. So make sure that you check that out.
There'll be a link to that in the show notes as well. And last but not least, I just want to give a big shout out to my badass slut sister, Scarlett. She's celebrating a birthday this month. So I wish I was there to celebrate it with you, Scarlett. I hope you have an incredible birthday. I know you will. And I hope it's the best one ever. Okay, that is all the announcements that I have. Let's jump into our show. Are you ready? Here we go. I am so excited for this show. I have with me Lily Sparks, who is the CEO and founder of xoafterglow.com. And this is going to be amazing.
Welcome to the show, Lily. Say hello to all the listeners. Hello, listeners. Okay. So I have been, I don't know if you've listened to my show before, but like I starting, I think it was like a year and a half ago, maybe two years ago, I asked my listeners to send me links to their favorite cock porn videos. Cause I had never seen one that I would, I really liked. So I was convinced that there must be these like really amazing videos out there that I just haven't found yet. And so I got this barrage of links from mainly guys.
I don't, I don't think I actually got any from women, maybe one, um, mostly from guys. And they were like this is the best video this is the best this is my favorite this is my all-time favorite and my go-to and so I was all excited and I was like okay I'm gonna review these as I'm watching them for the first time I record it and have it on the show so this is my these are my cuck porn reviews and Lily it has been awful I don't know. I don of it is the kind of porn that I want to watch? Yes. Uh, and I started the first one. Oh God. I, I just ripped into each one of them.
I was like, this is so bad. This is so bad and almost comical. Like it was so bad. And then, um, then like the, uh, as I was going along and I was doing more of these, I was like, maybe there really aren't any that I like out there.
And I know that everybody has different things that turn them on, but I was really starting to think, well, maybe these videos are mainly made by men for male consumption, for the male fantasy when it comes to cuckolding and I'm like maybe that's the missing link is that we don't have anything for women that presses the buttons for women so when I came across your site I was so no really I was so fucking excited I was like, Oh my God, finally. So, so before I get it, you know, off on a tangent and tell you how, how much I love your, your site, why don't you tell everybody who's listening?
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Um, but our mission is to help people have better sex lives. So we really try to make porn you can learn from and porn that helps make your sex life better. So, you know, that can mean anything from watching a video where, where you know there's somebody that looks like you represented to we have a whole category of films called edu porn that are um educational like explicitly educational but still hot enough to masturbate too and so is is all are all of the videos on there made women? So not all of them are made by women, but they are all focused on female pleasure.
Like that's one thing that's really important to us is that the women in the videos are like having a good time. It feels, it's something that feels kind of a little more real and authentic than like the typical tropes that you see on Pornhub and on all the mainstream porn sites a lot of the films are made by women all the ones so some of them are like Afterglow originals that we've produced we have like an awesome team of women that we work with. And then we also license films from a number of different ethical sources.
I'm genuinely curious to know, and I don't know if you could tell me this, but for the people who consume the content that's on your site, is it mainly women or is it like a 50-50 split or like, do you have that information? I'm just curious. Yeah, it's about 60 to 65% women. So Pornhub is like 30% women. That's like people think that women don't watch porn, but they do. And so Pornhub is about 30%. We're about 60 to 65%. Yeah, we have a lot of men that love us too. And it's like, you know, our mission is to help people have better sex.
And, you know, that takes two people to really make that happen. Yeah, that's amazing. 30%, I'm surprised that it's that high. With cuckold porn, I don't think it would be that high. I don't think that many women are watching cuckold porn. I could be wrong. Who the fuck knows? But that's just that's just my guess based on my own experiences. But I do watch porn. I do. I watch sometimes I don't even get through the category or the flipping through the screen like because like I use a vibrator and I can get off in less than a minute.
it does not take very long so a lot of the times I don't even get to watch anything I'm just looking through the tiles but and just being like okay I mean I love like gifs I don't know like I used to be like a tumblr porn person where it was just like the gifs Cause then like when you saw something you liked, you can kind of like roll with that for a little bit. Like I really enjoyed that. Oh yeah. And then somebody was talking about audio porn and stuff. And I was like, Ooh, that, that'd be super fucking sexy and hot. But I love the fact that what you create is, is focused on female pleasure.
Oh, yay. yay thank you and to a great example of that is when I joined one of the first videos that I watched was one on sensual erotic massage and Lily I was so fucking excited for this because like I had never come across a video about that before and this is something I have experienced with I have had the pleasure of receiving a sensual erotic massage which by the way ladies if there are any listening because it's mostly fellas listening to my show but ladies or fellas let me. Oh my God. Sensual massage. Oh my God. So, so amazing. So when I saw this video, I was like, Oh my God. Oh my God.
Yay. This is really going to press the buttons for me and turn me on because I like, this is super hot for me. And so I started watching it and I was like, Oh, this is so good because it's not just a sensual massage. It is, uh, he's basically like learning how to do it as he's doing it. And so guys watch this video. Cause you can learn how to do this. It was so fucking hot. I've, I, I just love that video. So I love the fact that you have these things that I've never seen anywhere before. That's so awesome. On your website, it says there was a stat there that I was like, holy shit.
Is it true that 60% of women are dissatisfied with their sex life? yeah yeah isn't that crazy like you know you and I are kind of like in the sex positive space and we're so open that like I I forget what most people are like or like where where kind of most people are at and it's funny because the reason I started Afterglow was I was in a relationship with my high school sweetheart, um, from age 15 to 30. And I didn't orgasm until I was 24 because we were each other's first and only partners.
And like, you know, I, I'd watched porn and like porn turned me on, but it didn't, it didn't help me like figure out what to do in my real sex life. It didn't help me figure out like, I think most men have like, they have a masturbation routine. They have touched themselves. They know exactly how everything works. And I think like growing up is a little bit different for a number of women, myself included, where like, you're not, you like, don't figure it out by yourself as easily.
Um, and so it took me, it took me like getting divorced to go through that process of really like understanding my body and pleasure and how I wanted to be touched and like experimenting with different partners and myself and, and all these different things. And so I really just wanted to make that process easier for other women, um, whether they're single or in a relationship.
And so that was kind of the genesis of afterglow oh my god younger women have it so good today honestly there's so many resources i wish i had that before all i had was dan savage's column savage love yeah and that was mind-blowing but i was the Same as you. I, I, I was with my high school sweetheart for 13 years. Sex was great. But I didn't actually have an orgasm from PIV sex until I was in my 30s. And still, it's very, very rare.
So I feel like maybe that's like right around the age of 30 is when women kind of start to feel more confident or comfortable with themselves to kind of open their mind towards sexuality and, and diversity within that. I don't know. I think there are stats on that. I, that was, I think I was talking to Dr. Justin Lee Miller and he was talking about that, or maybe it was Dr. David Lee. I don't know. But there is a thing that like women do around that age become more open-minded when it comes to sex. So, which is fascinating to me, but 60% are dissatisfied with their sex life. It's really sad.
Like it's that, like, I, I think that sexual wellness and like having a great sex life is as important as like our mental health in terms of like our success in our relationships and you know for most people it's you invest so much in all these other areas of your life but then you don't invest in having an amazing sex life and the communication around that and it just doesn't make sense to me. Yes, yes. There's so many barriers to, for women to embrace their sexuality.
And we're going to talk about a little bit about that, but first I want to kind of give the listeners an idea of, and especially for the guys, because this might be a little eyeopening. What are some of the, um, some examples of the different kinds of videos that you have on your site? Yes. So we have regular porn of all categories and we really try to steer away from kind of typical tropes. Like, you know, we don't have step siblings. We don't have teens.
Like we don't have the kind of stuff that you would see on a mainstream site we really try to focus around like more authentic female pleasure videos but we have a wide range you know women search for rough sex we search for gang bangs we search for lesbian porn um we love all that you know we've gotten a lot of cuckolding requests also um so we're adding a bunch of that content to the site, you know, within the next month, which I'm super pumped about. Okay, wait, hold up, hold on, hold up. So you're adding some cuck videos. Oh, you know, I'm going to be interested in this. Yeah, yeah.
I really like them. They're not, you know, a lot of the videos that like kind of same processes you were talking about at the beginning, like I was trying to find good ones. And there was just so much like humiliation and so much of like, it was just they were so ridiculous to watch that they were not believable at all. And, you know, the people that I've spoken to are like, you know, they love seeing the woman experience pleasure and enjoy pleasure from another man. And so that was really what I was looking for in the videos that were are coming to the site soon. Yeah.
Oh, I can't wait to see them yeah the usual script in mainstream cuck porn is the hardcore degradation humiliation the he's naked he's on his hands and knees with a collar and a leash and she's like you know hurling insults and stuff which I get it that turns a lot of buttons for guys like because that is a part of I think mentally a lot of what the turn on is for some guys who are into cuckolding but like it gets a bit boring after a while you're like really are we gonna keep doing this exact same storyline exactly in every single video it's like they only know how to portray cuckolding in that one lens exactly that's it so it'll be really nice to be able to focus on on female pleasure within the cuckolding scene like what you're talking about for myself I would love to find some cuck porn videos that um show a lot more of the I guess the the thought process and feeling of the cuck i'd never really get that like because it's all mostly on like watching her right and this is very much from the male gaze like watching her um but for women like we surprisingly really enjoy looking at our partner while we're with somebody else.
don't really get that view um you might get like a little glimpse of it but you don't really get anything of depth and yeah so that's the important like that mutual like it's a turn-on for both parties and like that's what's really special exactly and so a lot of people really focus on like oh the sex that she's having with this other dude when really you're missing half of what's really turning her on which is like this these kind of like brainwaves emotional brainwaves going you know between her and her partner um which is super hot and sexy which I never see but like people ask me all the time like where where are good videos and i'm i'm up until like i found your your website i was like i don't know if they exist like there's a lot of really good like amateur videos out there but still it's all filmed from the male gaze and i'm just like I've I've seen this 14,000 times like I want to see it from her perspective you know yeah anyway that's my rant about cuck porn but I'm really excited about that that you're gonna be adding that into it good for you that you found some good stuff because like it's not easy yeah yeah so we so we have the we have the kind of range of porn and then we have uh this really cool category called edu porn which is we have topics ranging from like how to have sex after pregnancy to like how to have sex with a disability to how to hook up how to have sex outdoors um we have amazing, like how to give a great blow job, like all these kinds of topics that you, you know, even if you give blow jobs all the time, like it's always great to just like see it.
And then it's like, okay, cool. Now I can learn how to do that thing that I see in the video. Yes. I saw that you have an article about how to give an amazing blow job. And in there, I think it was something like deep throat one-on-one. I'm like, oh, fuck yes. This is so awesome. And I think it said something like, you're not born with deep throat skills. These are things you have to learn. And I'm like, damn, right.
That's the thing with all of sex sex it's like society kind of expects us to just like oh like you meet someone you're just like magically supposed to know what to do and it's supposed to be perfect and there's like all these expectations around it and I think like what we really try to do with the site is like break that down a little bit and say like no these are these are skills that you you know somebody has to you, like somebody has to learn when you like talk to people and their experiences.
It's like, oh, I had this really amazing partner that like, you know, showed me what they wanted and took the time and blah. And so, you know, we're trying to be a conduit to that. I can definitely see how this would help couples, uh, rekindle their sex life or improve upon or, um, or try something new, try something new. Yeah. But that requires like a real deep level of communication, a very kind of intimate level of communication. Does your site help couples with that? And that's why, that's why it's a porn site first is because I I'll see you next time.
kind of intimate level of communication does your site help couples with that and that's why that's why it's a porn site first is because I think people are more comfortable with porn like because it's something that so many of us do it's easier to be like hey honey let's watch this video together and be like oh like that looks really great that looks really great why don't we try that so I I really think that the like that that's why it's a porn site that also helps people have great sex is because that makes that communication easier yeah I can definitely see that um why should single guys watch the porn on your website what would be the benefit for them other than just watching videos yeah and I think it's always like no matter your gender you can always be uh it's always good to like switch up your routine a little bit like we get into I I do it like I get into like a pattern with my masturbation and it's like I'm always I know what works I'm always doing the same thing and um you know we have some things on there that like we have some kind of guided experiences that help you go a little bit deeper like you know edging like taking your time like something new.
I think it's just always good to experiment with your pleasure and try something a little bit different and see if you like it. I agree. I think there's a really big difference between what you offer on your site versus what you would consume on a mainstream porn site. A really big difference.
And difference is variety and for me what I noticed on your site was um these experiences seem to be very genuine and that is like super important to me as a woman because like when I watch porn on mainstream sites and you hear her like I'm like that is fake as shit like i cannot listen to that i can't get into it like i'm looking at you going like i feel like i'm really watching someone acting and this is my personal pet peeve is like the the eyes rolling back thing and it's like that like that happens in normal sex but like you can just tell when they're like hamming it up and like it's like that yeah I can't stand it I don't know I think this is something as women we pick up on maybe more than guys because it doesn't seem to bother the guys I don't think too much when they're watching it so I do I think that's a great advice uh for single guys to experiment with different types of porn on your site and that being very beneficial.
Okay. So you, do you have like kinky other kinky content on your website? We do. We do have kinky content.
We have some of my favorite kinky content is from um jet setting jasmine at royal fetish films who is a porn producer as well as a um psychologist or therapist therapist i'm not sure exactly the designation but she is like total girl boss like her and her partner king do this really fun bbsm stuff we have other kinky content as well but she's just a really awesome kind of producer in that space that i love that must be really helpful for women who have never kind of taught like dip their toes in the kink world um but to be able to actually watch an actual couple do it yeah yeah we also have a lot of behind the scenes content where you can see the performers talking about the film that they're in and like why did they why were they interested in doing this film and like what is it like being a performer and I think for people um that aren't maybe as sex positive like that's really helps them open up in their own sexuality, too, by being like, oh, this person's a normal person who like has these other facets of their life.
And it really just like brings a new perspective on porn and porn performers and you know the ethics behind it it humanizes them yeah yeah so that's that's the thing that I wanted to ask you about so on your website you say that it's ethical porn so what do you mean by that yeah so what I mean by that is porn where people the people who make it like care about the impact that they're making on the world.
So there's kind of the mainstream porn, like a lot of times it's, you know, the narrative that women are being exploited and trafficked is like very overblown in terms of like how often that actually happens like it's it's a very small thing and it sucks and it happens like every industry has bad actors and like that should be like regulated and taken down but for the most part you know mainstream sites like they're about making money they're a capitalist industry just like every other, just like, you know, McDonald's and all the other places that we frequent every day.
They're in it to just like maximize revenue, keep you on the site as long as possible. Like that's what they're there for. And so ethical porn is saying like, you know, it's kind of like organic foods or something like that. It's like, okay, like, we don't just care about money, we care about treating people well behind the scenes. So on Afterglow films, you know, all the performers will always know, like, exactly what sex acts they're expected to perform before they get there. They know what the script is, they know who they're going to be performing with. There's not any surprises on set.
They're always able to stop filming and take a break on set. And, you know, we just try to treat people how we want to be treated and pay them fairly. And we think that ends up with a better product for our customers as well. That's so amazing. I love that. And do you find that your audience really appreciates that part of it? Like, I would assume that this is a big reason why that they are consuming the content that's on your website. Yeah, yeah.
I think a lot of people go to a mainstream site, and it's like they feel icky yeah yeah and you know it's it's this thing that you like don't want to admit that you've done and then you know you close your computer you push it away and you know afterglow we're really trying to like we have little stickers that say porn is good for you and we really believe that porn can be this really amazing part of your sex life um and that's the experience that we create on our site yeah post not regret that's what that's what it's called right exactly with afterglow with afterglow you can have post nut celebration that's why that's literally why i named it afterglow like that's that's what we're going for that's awesome yeah i have a friend uh her name is ann and she she talks about that glow that she has after she has sex and she calls it the post fuck glow so i was wondering if that's where afterglow came from that's funny yeah um so just keeping in mind that like the audience for this show is really into cuckolding, obviously, or curious about it.
And a lot of a lot of these guys who are listening are married and they're they've either not brought it up with their wife or that they're they're fantasizing about this or they have.
and it's gone maybe not so well or she just she's she's real hesitant to actually go and do this for real like this is very very common and there's so many reasons why women would hesitate to sleep with a bunch of other dudes um outside of their marriage even though they have the support of their husband there's so many reasons but a couple of the the big reasons that I have found that these women have is shame shame of feeling dirty and slutty and feeling like they don't have the might not have the confidence and the skills because they've probably been with their husband for a long time they know how to have sex and please him but they're scary to think about going out there and having sex with somebody else yeah and i have someone watching you too and it's like it's like oh fuck that's a lot of pressure but yeah just maybe feeling like don't she may not have the skills to be able to pull this off and these are these are two things that women don't really communicate to their partner about that they're feeling.
So I can see how Afterglow would be a great tool in addressing those two things. So how would you say like these guys can use your website to help their wife with these two issues? Yeah. you know, I definitely think a lot of it is just about like an overall sexual confidence level that a lot of women don't have. And even me, like when I got divorced, like, I thought I was going to be out there, like, you know, sleeping with all these guys, like having all this fun.
And then I like, when it, when I actually was free to do it, I realized like I, I was kind of picky and I didn't want to actually sleep with that many people. And I was like, oh crap, like this sucks. But I think, you know, like, I think that sexual confidence is big and we have a lot of really awesome exercises for women around, like, building that confidence. But I think it's like, it's, it's a hard, it's a hard thing to do, you know, it's a hard thing to, to have that confidence.
And I think it's good to you know have conversations about what what makes things feel like safer and better you know is it and I think that's really different for everybody like some people you know prefer like oh is it is an anonymous person like does that feel more safe or does it feel more safe when it's somebody like that there's more trust with you know and like I think exploring the the kind of psychology behind it um which some people just I'll see you next time.
somebody like that there's more trust with you know and like I think exploring the the kind of psychology behind it um which some people just aren't ready for it too at the same time and sometimes you just unfortunately can't force things yes cackholding is not for every every woman that's for sure it is definitely for um some of them not only but I can definitely see how your website will be great at at letting her invest in her own self-confidence and skills the skills going along with the self-confidence but um I can definitely see how that would help and that's definitely that's something say to guys, like, you know, you can't expect her to just jump in the bed with somebody else like that.
There's, there's safety things. There's a lot of things that we're thinking about, but I really do believe that you have to invest in your wife's, um, self-confidence and her sexual pleasure. And those are investments that you need to work on before you can just expect her to like fulfill this fantasy for you though. She needs some buy-in and she's without that, she's like, why, you know? Yeah. Yeah.
And there's, there's so many different things of like, you know, are there, I think think it's good just like ask a lot of questions is like okay well are you comfortable going to like would somebody be comfortable going to like see other people have sex even if they're not doing it like that's already one thing that can be out of a lot of people's comfort zone yes and then it's like okay well you know would you go to like a thing where maybe it's just us having sex but there's other people around like then there's that's like another level of comfort zone and it's like and everybody's Thank you.
you know would you go to like a thing where maybe it's just us having sex but there's other people around like then there's that's like another level of comfort zone and it's like and everybody's at different places on that spectrum yes absolutely just doing anything that's like especially when you've been in a relationship like I feel like the longer you've been in a relationship it can be like even harder to introduce those new things and those new experiences, but can also be super rewarding.
Even people, even people who are in kinky relationships already, it can be terrifying for the partner to bring it up to their partner and say like, I'm really looking, you know, I'm fantasizing about cuckolding. And I'm like, Why? I don't understand. But there is, there's like a real, it's difficult. It's a really difficult place for some people to go, even when they're kinky. So for vanilla folks, I'm sure that it's even, even harder. I love your website. I think this is so needed.
And I, I really do think that this is going to benefit a lot of women out there and men and everyone in between all the rest. I mean, we just need more sex in the, we need more good sex in the world. Like that's, that is what I love creating with Afterglow. Last question, because you are in this sexuality space and because you're offering what you're offering, are you afraid or do you have challenges with your things getting canceled, discontinued, like pages shut down? What is the deal with that?
all all the time all the time we've had our instagram shut down twice i've been kicked off of linkedin um we i'm currently banned from zoom really yeah damn so um yeah it's the stigma against sexual content is just really really ingrained and it's like it's crazy because everything I'm doing is like 100% legal yeah but there's still just such of a suppression like acts of like access to talk about porn in any place in any platform you know even when what you're doing is like yeah people people are just scared to talk about sex they're just scared they're scared to even hear the word on your website you have a little video where you're explaining what um afterglow is and you there was so many words bleeped out in there is every time you said sex every time you said corn it was like bleep and I'm like we can't even say these words this is so weird because we also have been kicked off like we've also been kicked off video we've been kicked off everything and so we're so careful with what we do anybody in this space has had these experiences yeah it's like even just when we're trying to educate like you can't that's that's why we're all scared to talk about it's like a self-perpetuating thing oh fuck it's so frustrating it's definitely happened to me too i did post something on instagram about afterglow and it got flagged and oh i'm sorry but i was just i was not surprised i mean i had posted the most tame shit on instagram before and it got flagged i'm like what the fuck for and i i basically like i i say i sent this back to them and said no like this is not you should and they were like no it yeah it needs to come down.
Like, what the fuck? It's so frustrating. Okay, so before I let you go, I want, if you wouldn't mind, just explain to our listeners like the subscription, how people can sign up for Afterglow and where they can find more information about this.
Yeah, so afterglow.com is our website and for all of your listeners they can use the code venus to sign up for a free seven-day trial if they just want to check it out and see the content and see if it's for them so i definitely definitely recommend that we have a lot of really cool um even you know blog articles around how to watch porn with your partner and for people who are looking for more educational stuff so i'd really encourage everybody to check that out we're also on instagram at xo afterglow with two w's because we got the first one shut down um and you know if if you have any feedback on the site you know um I really pay close attention to all of the the contact information and stuff like that so um yeah I would would love for your listeners to check it out would love to hear what they think and what they want more of and then and I'm so excited to see this cuckolding content that you're going to be having on, on Afterglow.
So there's that coming up too. Okay. That's so awesome. Thanks for including the code Venus for a free trial. I'm sure everybody's going to love that. I'm going to include that information and all of the links in the show notes for today's show. Lily, thank you so much for joining me on the show. This has been so fun. It has been so fun, thank you so much for joining me on the show. This has been so fun. It's been so fun. Thank you so much for having me. That's going to be it for today's episode. Make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com. That's where you can ask a question for the show.
You can book a private chat with me and you can also join the helpful cocktail. I admit, I did send a very juicy little video to my Helpful Cucks in the private Snapchat group. So if you want to join the Helpful Cuck supporter tier, go to venuscuckoldjust.com, click on the tab that says the queen's quarters.
All right, that's going to be it it for today we'll see you next time have you heard of afterglow you guys this is so amazing you've you've probably heard me talk about cuck porn before and how much i'm not really a big fan and why because it's not really made for women right but afterglow is different aftergl ethical porn made by women for women. Well, it's for everyone, but it is especially for women. And I'll give you an example. They have hot wifing videos that one of them is that I watched. It was narrated by a woman. Okay. So hot. It's from her perspective, from her point of view.
oh my god, so sexy. Lots of interaction between her and her husband, lots of eye contact, all that sort of stuff. It's hot. Guys, if you want to get your wife or girlfriend into this kind of thing, watch this together, I'm telling you. But it's not just videos. They actually have guided masturbations. They have partner exercises to improve communication and intimacy. And they have candid interviews with sex educators, influencers, and therapists. Like, there's so much more than just porn videos. It's amazing. Definitely check it out. With the code Venus, you can try it out for a week.
The website is exoafterglow.com. And the code you need for your free week is Venus. That's exoafterglow.com. Check out the show notes if you can't remember if you just want the link. Enjoy.
