How do I get my wife into this? This seems to be the million dollar question! Obviously there are countless husbands who are wanting advice on how to talk their wife into incorporating cuckolding into their relationship and in this episode Venus tries to answer that question as best she can - from a woman s perspective of course. She explores the reasons why so many women tend to initially react negatively or even reject the idea altogether and she also gives her best tips on how to support your wife through this important decision making process. Venus Cuckoldress - https://venuscuckoldress.com/New Merch! - https://www.fullswapshop.com/store/venus-cuckoldress/Submit a question for the show - https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/Pillow Talks - https://www.crowdcast.io/venuscuckoldressBecome a Patreon supporter - https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldressTwitter - https://twitter.com/CuckoldressVInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/cuckoldressvenuspodcast/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxpeMPYHPFIapapZDoaa03wFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/The-Venus-Podcast-107081554590774Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldressLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ 👑♠️ Maison De Neige is high end lifestyle and streetwear fashion with a passion for the beauty of interracial combined with high fashion. Visit https://www.maisondeneige.com/ ❤️xoafterglow.com❤️ Meet the platform for ethical porn. Made by women, for women (and everyone). We make and share videos that portray sex accurately and treat performers with dignity, because nothing is sexier than consent. Use code VENUS for a free 7 day trial at ➡️ https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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Welcome to theus cuckoldress podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious the passionate and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the venus blog and of course, if you love it, share it. Now, sit back, make yourself comfortable, and podcast. I'm your host, Venus. I'm pretty excited to talk about this topic today. Over the past five years, I have been asked so many times from so many guys, how do I get my wife into this? Like it is absolutely the most asked question I get.
And so today I'm going to answer that to the best of my ability. So maybe you should just take out a pen and paper, make some notes and listen up. But first, I would like to say that I am recording this episode on some new equipment. I bought the Rodecaster Pro mixer thingy. I don't even know what the fuck this thing's called. Anyway, and also these fancy schmancy Audio-Technica mic headphone thingies. I mean, my knowledge, my specialty is not in technical stuff, so I'm learning all of this stuff, but I just want to say this stuff's fucking awesome.
This new equipment is great, and I would not have been able to buy this if it wasn't for my Patreon supporters who support this podcast and allow me to continue doing what I'm doing. And it's your contributions that have allowed me to buy this really fucking inexpensive equipment. So I just wanted to say thank you. I really appreciate all of the support that you have given me. And so thank you so much to all of my subscribers. And I have had such a great feedback email that I received a few days ago.
It was for some reason it landed spam folder fucking hate that I don't know why that happens but it was just the sweetest most lovely email from a listener by the name of Joe and he was on like a long road trip and he decided to like listen to the Venus Cuckoldress podcast every episode like I'm pretty sure back to back and he was so sweet he was so thrilled with the podcast it was oh so lovely to read this email he talked about that it was definitely the the best podcast he's ever listened to on any subject those were his words I was I was like, wow, that's awesome.
And then he went into detail about all of the things that really resonated with him about this podcast. So I was just like so happy to read all of that. He talked a little bit about my joy and enthusiasm that I have for this lifestyle and the fact that I emphasize so much about the love in this kind of relationship. And he talked a little bit about how it's true that cucks really do make the best partners. Yes, they fucking do. And he could totally relate with the whole cuck angst thing. And he gave me an example of what that was like, his first experience of feeling cuck angst.
And I loved reading that part. And also he talked about cream pies. He said that I forgot to mention that cream pies apparently taste really fucking awesome. So, hey, I wouldn't know, but I'll take your word for it. I mean, I love the whole cream pie thing. I think it's fucking awesome. But yeah, so he definitely loves it as well. And he talked a little bit about how shitty cuckold porn is. Yes, it is. And the whole fin doms are not cuckolding thing. Yes, definitely.
And so I just wanted to say thank you to joe for this fucking awesome email i love getting those kinds of emails and it just makes me really excited to do even more episodes and and share my love of this lifestyle so thank you so much joe if there's anybody else who wants to send some feedback i would to hear from you. You can email me at venus at venuscuckoldress.com. Okay, so let's get into it. How do I get my wife into cuckolding? Okay, like hundreds and hundreds of questions about this exact thing that I have received over the years. It's just crazy.
And like, I don't have all the answers, but I'm definitely going to try. I think I have some good advice. We'll see. You can, you can decide. First of all, I will say that this kind of relationship is not for every woman. It's certainly not. And, and the odds are, it's probably not going to be right for your wife. I mean, that's just the brutal, honest truth of it. And you have to really think about that before you go any further. What's going to happen if it's not right for her? All right. First, I will get back to some basics about cuckolding relationships.
So cuckolding relationships are usually, you know, built on like a long-term loving, committed kind of relationship. So couples that have already been together for quite some time, it's nearly always the husband who brings it up to the wife and then they decide to go down that road. And that's just how typically how cuckold relationships are. It's rare that two single people come into a relationship with that expectation already. Like I'm into cuckolding.
Great into cuckolding awesome let's date doesn't happen very often but it's happening more and more now that lots of like younger people are learning about cuckolding and getting into this at younger and younger ages and I bet there's a lot of married guys out there who are just way too scared to bring this up to their wife and therefore kind of living in the closet about it. And that really sucks. But there are some brave guys who do bring it up with their wife. And typically, there's three kind of reactions that I hear about. So most commonly it's usually like, she's like, fuck that shit.
Totally freaked out about it. And I'll go into a little bit more detail about why that might be her reaction.
But yeah, usually she's like, hell no, don't ever fucking talk to me about that again sometimes there the woman could be like kind of receptive to it maybe a little weirded out by it but at least curious about it and then even more rare is that kind of dive right in reaction that I had where I was just like as soon as I learned about this kind of relationship I was like holy fuck are you serious like this is absolutely for me like I wanted this even before I knew this was like a thing and for women who fall into that category usually you've already struggled with monogamy a lot.
Maybe you've cheated on lots of boyfriends before. I don't know. Maybe you have a real kind of curiosity about sexual exploration. And this is just a part of you in your natural kind of characteristics of who you are. And so yeah, you definitely fall into that category of like dive right in reactions. But it's not typical. But if you are brave enough to bring it up to your wife, then you probably already have a pretty good idea of how it's going to go. And like you know your wife best. You know what your relationship is like.
You know what your communication level is like like you know your wife best you know what your relationship is like you know what your communication level is like you know maybe you guys already talk about sexual stuff and you don't feel like you know this is gonna be this is not gonna be difficult or this is not gonna be too weird it's not coming out of left field kind of thing or maybe you are aware of the fact that you guys barely ever talk about anything kind of explicit like fantasy talk has never been on the table and in that case like that's a real red flag that's going to be a really difficult conversation and in that instance oh man that's an uphill battle maybe she's had like some really upbringing with, you know, a strict moral code kind of ingrained in her brain.
And this kind of thing would just be, you know, completely opposite to what she believes in. You're already going to have a pretty good idea of that going into it because you know her so well. And if that's the case, then really might be a good idea to bring in a third person, a kink-friendly counselor. Just do like a Google search of kink-friendly counselors in your area. That might be some money well spent because likely if she falls into that category of, you know and really anti-non-monogamy and you guys never really talk about this kind of thing ever, then that could be money well spent.
Seriously, you might only get that one chance to talk about it. And if you fuck that up, you may never be able to talk to her about it ever again. And that would just be like really shitty. There's a lot of guys in that situation who went ahead and brought it up maybe in the wrong way or to a woman who was like completely fucking hell no.
And they're stuck in an unhappy marriage because of it and you know they still love her to death but like they're just never going to feel fulfilled in that kind of that kind of marriage so that's that shit just breaks my heart because there's so many things about this relationship that have the potential to really impact women positively. And if only more women would be more receptive to it, I feel like it would at least give them the opportunity to experience that. There's so much increased sexual confidence and empowerment for women in this kind of lifestyle.
I'm like, oh man, it would just be great if more women could understand that part of it. But like I said, it's just, it's really not for every woman. It's really not. And to be honest, for a woman to really love this kind of relationship in a way that is long lasting, she needs to have certain characteristics. She needs to have certain things about her personality in order to be able to really, you know, love this kind of thing. So she has to have definitely a higher than average sex drive or at least a desire. The desire has to be there.
If she really doesn't even enjoy sex as it is, then this is definitely, I don't think, going to be for her at all. And she's got to really kind of want it. And if she's at all ashamed of sex or being slutty or promiscuous or sleeping with other guys, if she feels shame and embarrassment about that, or she feels dirty about it or embarrassment, like she is not going to love this at all. She's not even going to love the thought of this. The thought of this is going to freak her the fuck out.
And one thing that is really important for a woman to really want this and love this kind of lifestyle is she needs to really understand that there's a difference between sex and love. Like there's a clear difference between that.
So she's got to understand that sex is a physical act not necessarily an emotional kind of connection a lot of women get those things all mixed up and it's just like I don't know why but in their mind sex equals love feelings and the two are like you know connected always and for a woman to really be love being a cuckoldress in a relationship she has to understand that there's a clear boundary between those two things that you can have different men in your life that give you different parts of what you need so you can can get all of your love, affection, and devotion, and protection, and everything like that from your husband still.
But you can also get some of your sexual satisfaction met by other men. And that's like completely okay. But they're like separate things.
So a woman has to really understand that and she may not like understand that in the beginning but that's definitely something that she needs to figure out along the way or this kind of relationship can be quite dangerous and that she'll fall for like have feelings for her bulls and stuff like that and that that's a slippery slope interracial black and white the beautiful and sexy relationship dynamic that we love now in a lifestyle clothing brand you can wear with pride don't sacrifice quality and comfort any longer.
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But for a woman to really, I guess, do this kind of long term, I think that's definitely something that she can learn. And I think the whole assertive thing comes with feeling sexually empowered naturally within this kind of relationship. It may not be in the beginning, but it certainly is something that just kind of happens, did for me anyway. So having said all of that about what it takes for a woman to really love this kind of relationship, please keep that in mind. Because like I said, you know your wife best.
You know what she's like, what her potential might be, what her comfort zone might be. And that'll give you a really good idea of whether or not this is going to go well. But once you do sit down with her, I'm assuming that a good way to bring this up might be to just talk about a really sexy or hot dream that you had and play out a really kind of tame fantasy within this lifestyle and I'm like emphasis on the word tame so not the crazy fantasy that you've been jerking off to for like the last year, but something just really, you know, simple.
And when you talk to her about it, yeah, you know, you're going to explain that like it's sexy and it's really hot and stuff like that and turned you on, but it's really smart for you to talk to her in a way that's a little bit less fantasy related and more special kind of intimate between you and her. And what I mean by that is maybe talk to her less about what it was that she was doing in that moment in your dream or your fantasy and more about what it felt like for you.
And you can talk about like what she looked like, what she said in that moment, the way she, you know, moved her hair, what she was wearing and, you know, all of those things that you're like paint the picture, but do it in a way that's pretty and not like super sexually motivated.
And by doing that, I'm hoping that maybe it'll come across as more of like she'll understand it as more of like a bonding thing between the two of you and less of like a fucking weird ass kinky shit thing that she could just automatically think of so I don't know that's my guess anyway that like just coming from a woman's perspective that might be a good approach is to leave all the fucking kinky shit out and focus more on like this is an exploration between the two of you and a fun and exciting adventure between the two of you and yes there are other people involved but this is all about the two of you and if you can just focus on that who knows maybe she'll take it in a good way are you taking notes because this is important stuff okay so I talked a little bit about a quick little summary about why or what it would take for a woman to really love this and like the different kinds of reactions that she might have give you a bit of a suggestion about how to approach her about it but I'm going to get into a little bit more detail about these different kind of reactions and why she might act that way and what you can do about it so the most common freak out kind of response where she's like hell fucking no, unfortunately, is likely.
But, you know, I think that she's probably just like revolted at the or disgusted at the thought of quote unquote cheating. And any kind of deviance from monogamy is in her mind very wrong. And I don't know why women think this, but they feel like, okay, if you were to have any kind of sexual interaction with another man other than your husband, it must mean you don't love your husband. It must mean that there's something wrong with your relationship. Or if your husband wants you to do something with somebody else, it must mean that he doesn't love you or doesn't respect your relationship.
And that just like, oh, fuck, that's brutal. This is so wrong. But I don't really understand why women feel that way. Because like, that's just bullshit. Like you've been programmed by society to believe that shit. And it's just so fucking wrong. But anyway, that's really hard one to convince some women for sure. They can, you know, be really suspect of your intentions when you bring this up to them. They can be like, what the fuck is he talking about? Like, why does he want this?
They might actually think that this is your way of kind of sneaky wanting to have like a threesome or fuck other women. I don't know why, but they just get really like fearful of that. They can be really afraid of like their own personal safety in these kinds of situations with other guys. And yeah, I totally fucking get that. That is, you know, realistic. That's definitely something you want to think about. But they can also be thinking about like their own personal health, like afraid of STIs and stuff like that. Yeah, I get that too.
But one thing I will say that I don't think a lot of men think about, and this is important. Your wife is used to her sex life being very predictable and quote unquote normal and not something to fear. And so when it comes to like her sex life, she knows what to expect. Like it's A, B and C. That's, that's it. And she's happy with that. It's a comfort zone, right? She's like nothing wrong with that. Things are great. Don't want to change it. So the thought of changing that part of her life can be really scary because all of a sudden she has this kind of new normal for her sex life.
And she's like, first of all, I don't want to fucking change what I had. This new thing, I don't really want it. But there's this fear of like, what's that going to look like? And are there any kind of potential kind of dangers? Is this going to be bad for our relationship? You know, all of these things are going to cross her mind. There's a lot of fear there. And so if you get a lot of pushback, this could be an underlying factor to that. Like she's just happy with the status quo of her sex life right now and doesn't want any part of any kind of unknowns with any new normal.
So maybe just take that into consideration. Unfortunately, if you have a woman who has this kind of freak out kind of response, I feel like it's just shitty because like, not so likely that you're going to be able to work past that. But you can try. But usually I think that it's going to be like a hard no for her when it comes to that. It's just you're not going to have a lot of wiggle room with it at all.
Now, having said that, if you talk to her and she's got more of like this curious kind of reaction, let's say you sit down and talk with her about this dream you had or whatever, talk about this fantasy that you've been thinking about, or this video that you watched that was like super fucking hot, and she had the, maybe she laughed a little bit, maybe she looked at you weird, but then maybe she asked you a question, maybe not then, but the next day she asked you, or she'll bring it up, she'll say, you know, what was it about that, or, you know, can I watch the video, or tell me more about your dream, or whatever, like kind of response, oh my God, pray and hope for that one.
Because that's like a really great starting point. You can work with that. Like she is obviously a little bit more open-minded about this. It's not like a crazy revolted kind of disgusted reaction. Like she's just kind of like, oh, that fucking weird I guess but um you know not running in the other direction she's probably gonna be still like no I don't want to do that but she'll probably say no I don't want to do that right now maybe in the future right now. And hey, just take that because that is good. That is good. You can definitely work with that.
Like I said, that is a good starting point. And if she is having that kind of reaction, then she's probably going to want to learn a little bit more about this whole cuckolding thing. And if that's the case, please help her with that. Because if she just goes onto Google, types in cuckolding, and all this fucking weird shit pops up, she's going to freak the fuck out and probably want nothing to do with it. So be careful with where she starts that search. Maybe just give her some blogs to read or podcasts to listen to like this one. Or if you can, this would be really ideal.
And I don't know how realistic this is, but I really, really hope that you can pull this one off. If you can connect her with a wife who's already in a cuckolding relationship, if you can connect them to have just like this open communication between them where your wife can ask her questions and the two of them can talk about it, that would be ideal. That would be so great. Because let me tell you, friendships between women in this lifestyle are fucking priceless. And we are the best mentors for other women in this lifestyle.
So the more that women reach out to other women within this, the better it is. She's going to appreciate having someone else to talk to, and especially a woman, because it's entirely different, as any woman will say, having a conversation with another woman entirely fucking different than having a conversation with your husband or boyfriend. But if she does want to go online and kind of check things out, then please steer her clear of Twitter and FetLife and all of these places online.
like used to be tumblr but not anymore um but definitely like the cuckold chat rooms and stuff steer her clear entirely of those because that is not a female friendly place to be. It really isn't, especially one who's just learning about cuckolding relationships. Definitely use caution when it comes to anything online. And guys, I will give you this advice. Don't bug her. Don't pester her. Give her time to really look into this. It's a big decision for her to make. Like the last thing you want to do is just annoy her to the point where she dreads having to talk about it with you.
So just give her time, give her space, let her think about it, let her talk to somebody. After all, this is a very, very important decision and one that's not going to be easy for her to make, I'm sure. But if she does make a decision to go down this road with you then you you have fucking won the lottery. And she has too. She may not know it right now. But there are so many amazing things about this lifestyle that the two of you can enjoy together.
And it just bring you guys so much intimacy and love and trust and connection and bond and everything like, like I've said before, it's next level love. This is a sexual adventure that the two of you are going to go on and love every fucking minute of it. You might make mistakes here and there, but I mean, overall, it is fucking amazing. It is incredible. I love this kind of relationship. This it's unlike anything that's out there. It's so unique. It's so special.
And if she has the courage to go for it and you guys have the really strong communication skills and trust and love that you need for this kind of relationship, oh my God, you guys are in for something truly incredible. So I sincerely hope that this episode has at least somewhat answered the question, how do I get my wife into this? And given you some ideas that will, I hope, make it a positive outcome for you. And I know I probably missed some other answers to this question.
So if you have some ideas, some tips or suggestions about how to get your wife into this kind of relationship, I would love to hear them. I would love to hear from the wives out there who decided to go for it. What was the right approach for you? If you can email me at venus at venuscuckoldress.com, or you can reach out to me on Twitter. My Twitter handle is at cuckoldressv or you can find me on Instagram at the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. I would love to hear from you. That'd be really great. Okay, that's going to be it for today. Thank you so much for joining me.
Make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast never miss an episode also there's a lot to read there on the blog so you can always check that out make sure you send your wife that way and if you'd like to support me on patreon i would be so grateful you can find the link for my patreon on my website venuscuckoldress.com I would be super appreciative. Thank you so the link for my Patreon on my website, venuscuckledress.com. I would be super appreciative. Thank you so much and we'll see you next time.
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