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This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate, and for the last five years I have definitely talked a lot about how amazing cuckolding can be, how it can be such an incredible kind of bonding relationship, next level love, connection, trust, all of that amazing stuff. And that people who try cuckolding and incorporate it into the relationship can really enjoy those benefits together. But there is a dark side to all of this shit as well.
There are 101 ways that you can fuck up your relationship by trying to incorporate cuckolding, by weaponizing cuckolding, by fucking shit up along the way. So we're going to talk about one of those ways today. So it's an important episode for anybody who's thinking about cuckolding in a relationship or anybody, for all the guys out there who are fantasizing about cuckolding, thinking about how to bring this into your relationship or whatever. This is an important show because you need to do it right. You can really fuck shit up if you don't do it correctly.
And so we're going to talk about what not to do during that process today. And what inspired this was someone actually, she called into the show, left a voicemail message, and she's fucking frustrated and upset and doesn't know what to do about her situation with her partner, who has this, obviously, fantasies about cuckolding, but is really fucking it up. So we're going to talk about that today. That's what's going to be today's show. It's a really good one. Make sure you listen up. First, I have a few announcements. I have a live event that's coming up on November 21st.
So mark your calendar for that. It's a free live chat that's going to happen in the Queen's Quarters community. And it is in the community. If you just join, you can join for free. There's a tab called live events.
you click on that and join is going to be 11 a.m pacific time that's 2 p.m eastern and that's november 21st it's going to be a live chat about how to find the right bull so we're going to have a discussion but also it's going to be a bit of a question and answer format as well very casual so you're welcome to join in participate take notes all that good stuff so that is november 21st at 11 pacific time in the queen's quarters community just go to venuscuckoldress.com to join that event and oh yes i mentioned this on the last show but i'm going to mention it again because this is just I'm really excited about this.
I've been waiting for the opportunity to get rid of my fucking Twitter. Twitter has just become such a shithole. It's unreal. I'm just not a fan at all. But up until now, it's been like the only place where you can go and get a lot of cuck porn. OK, there's a cuck porn on twitter so people go there and so that's where you know i have to be so uh somebody who actually i think is in my helpful cuck tier or was in my helpful cuck tier sent me a message and he was like hey there's this new platform it's just like twitter is called blue sky and you should join it. And I was like, okay, so I did.
And it really does look and feel just like the same layout as Twitter, but not Twitter, obviously minus the bullshit. And it, they do allow porn. So if you go in on the desktop app and click the setting to allow adult content, then you'll be able to actually watch porn on there on Blue Sky as well. So there you go. For all you guys who just want a wank session and that's why you've been going to Twitter, join me on Blue Sky. Blue Sky Social is what it's called. And my handle is the same as Twitter at CuckoldressV. So you can find me there I'll put the link in the show notes for today. Join me.
I'll follow you back on there. Let's be friends. It's a lot of fun. So 2025 goals, ditch Twitter. Last but not least for announcements, I just have a quick favor to ask. All of my fans who listen to the show, if you love this show, would you you please it's been a long time since I asked for this favor so pretty please or would you please rate and review the show on apple podcast if you use apple podcast could you please press that little button rate and review I would appreciate it so much it helps the show it helps everything and so I would be very happy if you do that.
All right appreciate it so much. It helps the show. It helps everything. And so I would be very happy if you do that. All right. That's it for announcements. I guess it's time to just jump into it. We're going to start out the show with the listener audio that came in through the Venus hotline. Here we go. Hi, I have a question that I don't know how to address. Recently, my partner has been chatting with people on Reddit about how we're a couple and that he loves seeing me in pleasure or to be used. The conversations typically segue into getting people to describe how they would use me.
I've had gentle conversations where I've brought up cuckolding roleplay and scenarios before, but the conversation goes nowhere. My problem is not that he doesn't want to talk about it, but that he has these conversations with people on Reddit in secret and lies to me about it. I don't know what to do. And on top of that, our sex life has gone from a few times a week to maybe once a month at best since he's been doing this. Am I right to be angry? What should I do? I don't know. Thanks. This story frustrates me on so many different levels. It is just beyond.
It is so hard for guys to find a woman who's open-minded about learning, about cuckolding, who's curious about learning, who is interested in their desires and their fantasies. It is so fucking hard. I have heard this from men over and over and over for years. This guy has that. She wants to learn. She wants to role play. She wants to talk about it. She's curious to learn about his fantasies and desires around this. And he is just completely fucking it up. And I don't really know why. I think it's impossible for me to know just from this clip.
I mean, I don't know all of the other stuff that might be going on in their relationship, any background, anything like that.
I don't really't really I don't know so it's impossible for me to know why exactly he's doing this but like what it just it makes me upset it makes me upset on so many levels so why is he lying obviously the lying is what's really bothering her that and the decreased intimacy they're just they're not having sex like they used to be which is a red flag they're lying obviously is a red flag but why is he lying about it why the fuck is he not involving her is he ashamed does he have a serious case of cuck shame that nearly all cucks have and have to work through and deal with does he hate the fact that he's into this kind of fantasy desire and he hates himself because of it is that why he's lying is he so uncomfortable with sharing his desires that it's a total fucking boner killer for him is it the secrecy that makes it hot like the rush of an affair or something like that?
Is it just, would it not be hot if she knew? Is that what it is? Like I am trying to figure this out. And I'm wondering if this has anything to do with this word called candleism. And I don't know if I'm mispronouncing it because I've only just seen it written, but I've seen it a few times and I've heard it mentioned in the cuckolding sphere realm. I've looked it up and it's basically where a partner will seek out a third party to share pictures or videos or stories about his wife to a bull. And the bull gets really excited and the guy is all excited and sharing those pictures.
And it's this big, hot fantasy talk kind of session, okay? That's Kandalism. And of course, it's really, really popular in cuckolding because this is all part of the dynamic. The cuck really wants to know, you know, does this bull think my wife is hot? What does he want to do with her?
And of course, for this listener, she said a couple of times that these conversations that her partner is having on reddit with this guy is all about asking how would you use her and so this is a wank session this is i don't know if there's pictures or videos involved but it sounds a whole lot like the candolism that you see a lot in cuckolding and this can be a really fun great game for people to play, a fantasy game for people to play in this lifestyle, as long as there's consent involved.
And for the most part, I think there probably is consent where guys are going online and sharing pictures of their wife to bulls and, and wanting to know, you know, jerking off to the reaction of of it all and i've spoken to a friend of mine who's a bull in the lifestyle and he loves that aspect of the lifestyle he thinks it's so fun to play that game like yes i want to see pictures of your hot wife like show me um but he was quick to say that if it does not involve consent he wants nothing to do with it.
So if he gets any sort of sense that this woman doesn't know that, that this husband is sharing pictures, that he's just like, fuck that. I'm not, I'm not down with that. And I'm playing with that. But he also did say that a big problem is guys who are sharing pictures of a woman to the bull and saying, how would you use her?
What would you her at least isn't she so hot like what do you want to do to her um is that these guys don't actually have a wife that this picture is not actually his wife that this is just some picture he stole online or something like that or maybe it's an ex or something like that i don't know but i was like when he told me that i just laughed because I'm like, of course that would be an issue.
Just like there's all of these like pretend single cucks out there who are, you know, looking to talk to single women who are into cuckolding just so that they can have these hot fantasy talk sessions with her. Meanwhile, they're actually fucking married and they're just pretending, just having wank sessions online. It's the most annoying thing. You guys just got to stop doing that. Just beat it like enough already. But so there's good things and there's bad things about this whole like, you know, seeking out a bull to want to talk about your wife and it being a wank session.
So, you know, if she's if she is aware of it, she's given her consent, yes, go ahead, you know, share my pictures if you're chatting with somebody online. And sometimes it can be really a good thing because she can actually have a boost in self-confidence when she, you know, the husband shares, oh, look what the bull wrote about how sexy you are and things he wants to do with you and stuff like that. It can be a real big confidence boost for women for that. So there are good things about that.
But if she, well, I suspect there's a lot of guys out there doing this without the consent of their wife. And I went, a long time ago, I went on this so-called chat forum for cuckolding. I actually thought there was going to be actual chat, like people actually discussing cuckolding on there. But no, it was an entirely just like a running, a super fast running chat group of just straight up wife pics and bulls comments.
And that's was so there was there was no women in that chat group and it was just it was just like jerk off sessions non-stop and all right well that's that's that so but it made me wonder are all of these women aware that these guys are sharing these pictures of them on there it made me really skeptical and worried and concerned that there was a lot of of this going on without the consent or knowledge of these women so that could really be a dark side of cuckolding is that what this guy's into probably if he's i don't think you're allowed to share pictures on Reddit. I don't know.
I'm not on there very often. But if he's on Reddit, he's probably on one of the many other websites where you can chat with bulls and share pictures. And so he's probably enjoying that and has been for a long time as well. Has he been making up before her? Maybe he was making up the fact that he had a wife and he was engaging in all of these, this fantasy talk, probably, who knows, but it is definitely a thing that's going on out there. So it's basically just sharing pictures for the reaction of a bull that's like really hot for a lot of cucks and they'd get off on it.
But in this case, obviously this is problematic because Thank you. pictures for the reaction of a bull that's like really hot for a lot of cucks and they'd get off on it but in this case obviously this is problematic because he's being sneaky about it and lying about it and not involving his partner at all or you know what maybe he has no intention of ever incorporating cuckolding into his relationship and he wants to be forever locked in the cuck fantasy closet. And those fantasies shall never see the light of day or be uttered in any conversation with a partner ever.
And that's all he's ever been comfortable with and all he'll ever be comfortable with. And anything outside of that is far too terrifying and a total fucking boner killer. Does that exist? Yes, there are I love you. ever be comfortable with. And anything outside of that is far too terrifying and a total fucking boner killer. Does that exist? Yes, there are lots of guys out there who have no intention of ever coming out of the cut closet to their partner, to themselves, ever.
There's a lot of single guys out there I know who I've come across who have no intention of ever actually dating somebody who wants to do this for real. They just want to waste your time and talk fantasy talk to you endlessly for months online and just waste your time forever. It's unfortunate, but it's a huge problem.
And I will never forget the day that I actually realized that i i will never forget where i was what i was doing when i realized that there i was like holy shit like there's actually tons of these guys out there who have no intention of ever following through on any of this like i am simply just their fetish dispenser waste of time oh my god and and that was that was pretty depressing and upsetting for me to realize that but it's true it is true Transcription by CastingWords interracial black and white the beautiful and sexy relationship dynamic that we love now in a lifestyle clothing brand you can wear with pride don't sacrifice quality and comfort any longer with Maison Dines you get both in fresh empowering looks for every occasion for everyone from the streets to the sheets and everywhere in between check us out at Maison Dinesh.com.
Maison Dinesh Couture, modern fashion for the modern revolution. So in order to try to answer this question today, I did consult lots of friends and figure out kind of, you know, everybody's thoughts on this. And one was really great. So I'm going to include that here. He goes by the name of Mr. M. His wife goes by the name of Mrs. A. And they have lots of kinky writings on FetLife together. Their FetLife profile is Kinky Duo ATL. I'll put the link in the show notes, description notes for today's episode. But this is what he had to say about this listener question. Yeah.
So I thought it was a really interesting question that was asked. And ultimately you know it's a situation that I think a lot of people could relate to, but, but not maybe that in particular situation where you have, uh, a female partner who has expressed interest and a willingness to, you know, maybe not take it the full level, but at least role play it and have those conversations. And that's just not a lot of, or that's not a situation where many men find themselves. And I think even rarer is a situation where the female partner is willing to express that level of, um, commitment.
And yet, the male partner is unwilling to engage. And instead of preferring to live in the fantasy reality, then experience a deeper level of intimacy with his partner. And to this really signals uh deeper communication and relationship issues you know they should be uh her willingness to explore this fantasy with him they should be having more intimacy rather than less and it just feels like there's deeper things that are going on.
And I mean, ultimately, he bags himself a unicorn and he needs to pony up and spend more time with her and try to connect on that level instead of living in a purely virtual world. So base communication, base foundational communication, I think would really help. And if they can't get there, then, you know, I'd advocate for her to find somebody who has that level of emotional maturity. Yeah.
Do you think that Cuck shame or how he feels about his own desires has something to do, might have something to do with the fact that he is kind of pulling away from her when she brings this up or even sexually with her? I, I think that that's, I don't know, that's hard for me to think that it's that. Because, you know, here in the, you know, intimacy of their own home, he's unwilling to engage even with a partner. And, you know, it's one thing for, you know, I hear the shame argument a lot when it's like, hey, I don't want to expose myself to the outside world.
But, you know, here he's not exposing himself to his own partner, even when she's kind of removed the curtain of, you know, I don't know if she's going to react negatively to this or anything like that. So, you know, he or she has extended the olive branch and he's unwilling to take it. So it doesn't feel like it's a shame thing. Again, I think it's more communication. Yeah. Interesting. Okay. Well, thank you for sharing that with me. I really appreciate it. Having your perspective. Of course. Always happy to help. The best part of that was he's bagged a unicorn. Now he's got a pony up.
And it's true. I mean, you have the opportunity right now. If this dude is listening right now, you have the opportunity of a lifetime. You should definitely take advantage of it and stop fucking it up. Now, to answer her question about what, you know, should she be mad and what should she do? Okay, yes, you have every right to be mad. He's being a piece of shit right now by lying and sneaking around about this Reddit chats. The dishonesty and the lying is a huge red flag. Not cool for the relationship whatsoever. I have zero tolerance for that shit. You should too.
The fact that he's not involving you and your sex life is tanking is really not cool at all. Now, I don't know if you have a lot invested in this relationship. I don't know if you've invested a lot in your life together, like share a home or kids or you, you know, been together for a really long time and like everything else other than this one thing is just really fucking fantastic. If that's the case, well, obviously I would definitely recommend a kink-friendly therapist, and I'll post a link to that in the show notes for today. And that could be maybe something that you guys could work out.
Maybe it is just a matter of communication. Maybe it is just a matter of him feeling shame about his desires, and he's got to work through that. I don't know. But straight up, I'm going to tell you right now, my first reaction was just dump the fucking guy. Like, there are so many guys, he's so replaceable. There are so many guys out there who are into this kind of fantasy, who would fucking love a partner who is willing to learn and be curious about and listen to and role play these kinds of desires. There are so many of them, literally so few women and so many men.
And I know this because I have a matchmaking service called Venus Connections. And there's always a ton of interest from guys who really want to find a partner who's into this, or at least open-minded to learning about this. And there's so few women signing up, and it's always been like that forever.
So if you are interested in learning about something like like this like you are a fucking unicorn you absolutely are and this guy who you're with he really needs to understand how rare you are and understand what a situation that he's in and he's so lucky to have you and in my opinion he really doesn't fucking deserve you because he's lying like a piece of shit and being sneaky about it and just going about this all wrong. So I think you deserve better. That's just my opinion. That's going to be it for today's episode. Thank you so much for joining me.
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Fuck Twitter. My handle there is at Cuckoldress V. All right. That's it for today's show, you guys. We'll see you next time.
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