The QoS hot girl summer theme continues with Harmoni Kalifornia! Harmoni Kalifornia, an adult film star known for her Queen of Spades cuckolding content is back on the show to share her incredible journey from meeting her partner Pip in a strip club to becoming a prominent figure in the interracial cuckolding scene. Venus and Harmoni discuss the intricacies of transitioning from private enjoyment to professional content creation, along with the influential role that Tumblr played in popularizing this niche lifestyle.Listen in us as she delves into the complexities of maintaining multiple romantic relationships with balance, communication, and self-care. From ethical challenges in the adult film industry to the dynamics of a side cuck and the unique allure of black men within this lifestyle, this episode offers a candid look at what it takes to succeed both personally and professionally in this complex lifestyle.LinksHarmoni on Twitter - @girlwspadetatooHarmoni s Links - https://linktr.ee/harmonikaliforniaJoin the Queens Quarters Community (free limited access) - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/offers/FTNWndiv/checkoutRegister for the Queens Quarters Live Chat August 13th - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/products/communities/thequeensquarters/liveevents Register for the next Pillow Talk live event - https://crowdcast.io/c/mrblazeBecome a Helpful Cuck supporter for Venus - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/Queens-quarterJoymode: GREAT SEX SOLVED, NATURALLYUse Code VENUS for 20% off your first order at usejoymode.com/venus🚀 Support your erection quality💪 Perform with confidence❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ 👑♠️ Maison De Neige is high end lifestyle and streetwear fashion with a passion for the beauty of interracial combined with high fashion. Visit https://www.maisondeneige.com/ ❤️xoafterglow.com❤️ Meet the platform for ethical porn. Made by women, for women (and everyone). We make and share videos that portray sex accurately and treat performers with dignity, because nothing is sexier than consent. Use code VENUS for a free 7 day trial at ➡️ https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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Here's what's coming up on the show. So this might be a really stupid question, probably is, but do you ever sleep with a white guy? When you get sent a really great or if you just happen upon a really great BBC dickc dick pic what's the first thing that goes through your mind uh how it will feel in my pussy like how like that's gonna stretch you know that's gonna go really deep this is the venus cuckolders podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, for the passionate, and for the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. let's go welcome Welcome to the show, everyone.
I'm your host, Venus. Thanks for joining me today. I have a sweet encore presentation with the one, the only Harmony California. This was originally recorded during a Pillow Talk live event. There's some some really really good stuff in here she's so awesome i love really digging in with her and understanding her incredible queen of spades lifestyle and her marriage with pip some of my favorite parts of this show today include what it was like for her to transition into a queen of spades lifestyle with her partner Pip and what that was like, if there were any challenges involved in that.
And we talked about what it was like for her to go pro, so start to create content for a career and the challenges around that. We also talked about side cucks, friends with cuck benefits. We hit on polyamory as well. And we talked a little bit about bibles and cuckolding and what it's like to have a pussy free cuck husband. So we touched on a lot for today's show. This one really goes deep.
It was for people people to be able to watch this live there is the video unedited video replay available to all of the friends with benefits and helpful cuck tier supporters in the queen's quarters community so if you want to join one of those tiers and help support the show you can go to venuscuckoldress.com and sign up. The next Pillow Talk event is going to feature Mr. Blaze. So the last episode I had was Brooke Blaze and her husband, Mr. Blaze is going to be on the next Pillow Talk event. And that is going to be live on Crowdcast Tuesday, August 20th at 12 p.m. Pacific. That's 3 p.m.
Eastern. Catch it live. You can register at venuscuckoldress.com. Just click on the events page. And then, oh yeah, before I forget, Tuesday, August 13th, I'm going to be doing a live chat in the Queen's Quarters community. This one's free for anybody to join. And the topic is going to be interracial. Specifically, what I want to do is ask people, what is the gravitational pull that black men have in the interracial cuckolding lifestyle?
I know what it's like for me, and I've talked about that before, what the pull is for having black bulls as partners but i just really want to know especially from cucks and from other ladies as well but especially from cucks i want to know what do you think is the pull what's so enticing about interracial cuckolding so that's tuesday august 13th mark your calendars and it's going to be at 1 p.m. Pacific. That's 4 p.m. Eastern live in the Queens Quarters community. If you want to join, you can go to venuscuckoldress.com. Click on the events page.
now before we jump into the show a couple of things so yes recently you may have noticed on my socials I was posting about a trip that I went on. I went on a trip to Las Vegas, and it was so fucking fun. And I will be going into detail about that trip in an upcoming episode. And it was just fucking amazing. So I have friends who they wanted to renew their vows, and they wanted to do it in a kind of lifestyle setting slash party. And I got the invite to go and it was, it was pretty incredible.
And I went to the event with Grunky, he's been on the show before, and he's probably like, you know, cuck level 3000. But I went with him, we had such a great time. So I can't wait to talk about this on a future episode. I have posted some of my favorite photos from the weekend, they are safer work, and they are available in the Queen's quarters to the helpful cuck tier supporters. So if you support the show, and you are in that supporter tier, you can actually have a look at those pictures.
But yes, I was also updating my weekend as it happened in the private Snapchat group, which is also open to the Helpful Cuck supporter tiers. And yeah, like I said, it was fucking really memorable. Can't wait to tell you all about it. All right, before we jump into the show, here's a quick message from my friends at Joy Mode. Here we go. I think it's safe to say that we all want better sex. That's why I've partnered with my friends over at Joy Mode.
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And I will start out by saying that long time ago when I very first started in this lifestyle even before I think it might have been even before I started blogging um somebody I was talking to this cuck and he was saying that like Harmony California is the reason why he got into interracial that's's where his interest came from. And that's why I was like, oh, okay. I don't know who that is, but I remembered the name. And so when I came across you, I was like, oh, she's a legend. Like she's been around since day one. Like she's the OG here.
And so I was like so excited to get to know you and to meet you and everything like that and then we we chatted for the podcast and then we met we met in person in houston at of all places splash mocha hotel takeover event which was um so fun we met twice there actually you went two years yeah and um you went back a while like the second time around it was so much fun so anyway we'll talk we'll definitely talk about that welcome to pillow talk uh harmony do you want to just uh do a quick introduction about who you are and what you do to the people who are listening for those of you not familiar with you sure uh hi to everybody and thank you Venus for having me on again uh I'm Harmony California I am an adult film star I am strictly BBC and I am a cuckdress or cuckoldress um I like cuckdress it just is a little shorter um so that's who I am I've been in this lifestyle man I've been in actually adult filming since I'm probably about 10 years now um and but I've been in the lifestyle for a good 20 years so how did you get like what was it that got you into all of this it really it started out so pip and i have never had what you would what vanilla people would call a normal relationship um we met when i was a stripper and he was a customer so our relationship has always been different it's just it just has and you know from playing around at the strip clubs kind of evolved into swinging and then the swinging evolved into interracial and then bbc only and then uh along came doing it professionally and then into added the cuckolding the interracial.
And that's kind of where we are now. I did an interracial talk recently in the Queen's Quarters community where I talked about the very first time I fucked a black guy.
And I was like a teenager and I was cheating on my boyfriend at the time whoops but it wasn't necessarily memorable sex but like the that scenario was memorable because I almost got caught um because I was at a house party I was fucking the guy in the basement anyway um do you remember your very first time with a black guy oh absolutely absolutely uh it was a friend of pips um and i always noticed him he was very confident and very attractive and very good at sports um And so I always noticed him and just one night randomly, he made a comment to Pip. That's something about my ass.
I was ahead of them walking away. We were all going back to our cars after a football game, I think. And he made a comment about my ass. And I, you know, when Pip told me later, I said, oh, that's really, that's interesting. And so I pursued him after that. And then, yeah, I remember the first time it was at his house, a couple different places around the house over quicker than I wanted it to be.
But I knew that it was something I was going to want a lot in the future how did you know what was it it's something that's i don't know when you find the thing that clicks it just clicks you know when you find the thing I mean, he was tall and very muscular and just that air of confidence and the color contrast on the skin all of it just made it you know above and beyond and did you know at that time that like interracial was like a real thing no no i did not do did not. Do you remember when you found out like, like, Oh shit. Like there's a lot of interest in this.
Uh, it was probably a couple of years later. I don't remember exactly, but we were, you know, we, once I, once I found this niche, um, we went that way in our swinging lifestyle. And then I believe it was Tumblr was probably the thing that I was on first. And then all of a sudden, like, oh, people are really interested in this. And, and then, you know, I met DFW Knight. And I'm like, okay, I could actually, like, I could do this, do this. And, um, and then, you know, I met DFW night and I'm like, okay, I could actually, like, I could do this, do this.
I could make money off of this and do this for a living and not only enjoy myself, but what do they say? You know, if you do what you love, you never work a day in your life.
Um, so, you know, I'm like, oh, this could, you know, I can, I can do this so I did oh tumblr yeah Pip says her pictures blew up on tumblr that's where I think that was really like where a lot of origin stories came from because um that's I do remember when when I first got into it was when tumblr was still a thing I and I and I know that because like, I remember when I was thinking about blogging, that was the option was, did I want to start a blog on Tumblr or did I want to have my own blog? And so I was kind of weighing the pros and cons.
But I remember like at that time, Tumblr was like, all the guys were on Tumblr because I was like, had just broken up with my first cuck boyfriend and I was looking at dating and stuff like that. And like guys were constantly sending me stuff from Tumblr. Like, look at this is so hot. Look at this is so hot. And I actually spoke to one of like the guy, I tracked him down. This guy who is the guy who came up with the word stag, the label stag.
And he says back in the Tumblr days where he found that like the word cuckold was really, you know, hardcore humiliation depicted as that on Tumblr and that he himself and many other people on many other guys on there were kind of like, didn't really feel like that resonated with them. And, and so he came up with this word say, but that was back in the Tumblr days. So when Tumblr closed down, oh my gosh, like this was really hard for a lot of guys out there who are, who are just like, man, I got nowhere to beat off to now.
I got to go, you know, Twitter and shit like, and it's never quite been the same because Tumblr was like amazing. There was some, you know, people had some really great collections on there. And I don't know if there was that much discussion going on, but probably not. But lots of bottles of moisturizer and, um, Kleenex tissues. Exactly. Yeah. Okay. So you found out that this was like something that you could do and something that you're, you're just like, wow, this is your pics were going crazy on there. People were loving it.
This was the beginning of your actual career in interracial, right? Yes. And then at some point you decided, okay, I'm going to be black only. Do you remember when that was, or was it kind of just like a gradual thing interracial black and white the beautiful and sexy relationship dynamic that we love now in a lifestyle clothing brand you can wear with pride don't sacrifice quality and comfort any longer with Maison Dines you get both get both in fresh, empowering looks for every occasion, for everyone. From the streets to the sheets and everywhere in between. Check us out at MaisonDinesh.com.
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that um and then that's just what we focused on in the swinging world and then eventually it turned into the and then once once I was gonna go professional I was already way way black like once I was ready to go professional it was I was way done there was there was no nothing else going on so so this might be a really stupid question probably is but but do you ever sleep with a white guy? Nope. How long has it been? I don't know. That's a Pip question. Why? Because he would remember? Because it was him? Yeah. Okay. So Pip is completely denied PIV sex, right? Yeah. Okay. Okay.
And, and Pip is not allowed to sleep with other women. No. That was another dumb question. Um, oh wait, Pip says 2008. Of course he had that burned in his memory. Okay. So how has your relationship with him changed? I know you said you've always had this very unique relationship, which I love, by the way. Obviously, you're very adaptable together and both enjoy this kind of lifestyle that you have together. But how has it been?
Has there been any kind of, I don't want to say negative effect on your relationship, but any challenges with your relationship when you decided to like just sleep with black guys, therefore not have PIV sex with Pip anymore? There's always challenges, right? Always there, you can't take on something new without expecting challenges. Um, and the challenges really, it just came down to finding different ways to connect.
I mean, that's, and, and really, if you want, like, we're going to go into a little bit of psychology on healthy relationships, you should have multiple ways to not just p and v um and so that is just you know when you take away the p and v it doesn't mean you take away everything um you know he's allowed sometimes to unlock and masturbate and sometimes it's just to my videos if that's what he wants to do or sometimes it's me laying there in his arms and touching him and kissingate. And sometimes it's just to my videos, if that's what he wants to do.
Or sometimes it's me laying there in his arms and touching him and kissing him and telling him a dirty story, or something like that. So you still have, you just have to, you just have to find different ways, different ways to get that intimacy without the actual P and the B. I love that.
Yeah, because I i mean everyone thinks of a sex life as piv sex right and if you don't have that then you don't have a sex life and it's like fuck that man we are way more creative than that in this lifestyle like how limiting is that that just dick and pussy is sex life um no yeah and for And sexual fulfillment. Like people who think, oh, there must not be any sexual fulfillment if he doesn't get PIV sex. People are so, especially guys, really limited to that. They're like, well, there is nothing else. How could there be anything else? Like how unfair and tragic is that?
It like how unfair and tragic is that that you have such a limited idea of what sex actually is like you're missing out on so much clean up in itself i fucking love clean up so much like oh my god to me that's like the pinnacle of sex you're going to clean up my stretched out fucking wet, messy pussy. Yeah, hello. Yeah, absolutely. That's hot. Like, that is hot. That is really hot for me. Anyway, clean up hells yes, says Gronky. Oh, Gronky's the king of clean up, that guy.
I think he's he's eating more cum than probably anyone in the whole world at soft yeah on the regular it's like a whole diet for him um okay and then i also wanted to ask you about actually this question came from sean one of my helpful c cucks. So he wanted to ask about polyamory and if that's been a thing. And I do, I remember we talked about this a little bit on the podcast where you said you had a bowl that it is like a polyamorous relationship that you guys have. Is that, do you still have that? Is that still something that you are interested in? What's the dynamic around that?
Yeah, that is definitely still a part of our lives. Absolutely. Um, yeah, it's just, you know, sometimes, and you know, men come and go lovers come and go, you know, none of it is permanent and none of them are beholden to me by any means. They also date other people. You have to, you have to have that balance. Like they have to have other people. I can't be the only person for them. I don't have that kind of time to, you know, commit to them. So it's, it's all, it's all just a delicate balance.
I mean, that really is what it comes down to is just figuring out what everybody needs and also taking care of yourself. And and that's how you do it. Yeah.
I feel that I'm like, how would I have time to manage more relationship, like actual romantic relationship, like shit, like maybe it'd be really great if great if this person lived next door that would be so convenient or just like a bunch of people in my neighborhood make it a lot easier but let's face it it's not really like that it was that kind of like a big step for you to take on another romantic relationship you know when it happened it just it's not something that you plan you don't plan having that connection with somebody there's one thing to have the sexual connection and the sexual tension um that i pretty much get with all my lovers and then there's another you know connection that you can sometimes hit and it just happens Thank you.
Um, that I pretty much get with all my lovers. And then there's another, you know, connection that you can sometimes hit and it just happens. And it wasn't anything that was planned. It just sort of happened. And, you know, and it's different.
It's the falling in love part of it, or that extra strong feeling, um, is, uh, it's something that can come and go and just, I don't know, something to be treasured and something to hold on to and nurture it just even when it is that little part, you know, even if it is something fleeting and just something that happens and you, you know, it's part of life's little joys. And so you enjoy it while you have it and everything comes to an end. Everything does. Um, so it's, you just take that, take that little moment when you get it. That's all. I love that.
And I do feel like those kind of like real I don't even know if I could define it but the the relationships that I've had with some of my bulls have been just so deep and so fulfilling and I wouldn't necessarily say it's falling in love but like there's a real platonic love there but one of the things that makes it so special for me is just like what you said like this is temporary this is not someone i'm going to obviously be spending the rest of my life with not likely this person is around in my life contributing to my life and i'm contributing to theirs right now and there's something very like when you are you go into this relationship realizing that you're so much more present you're so much more appreciative Thank you.
And there's something very, like, when you go into this relationship realizing that, you're so much more present. You're so much more appreciative of this person and what they're bringing right now that it just, like, makes it really special. And, yeah, this person could be gone tomorrow or next year or whatever.
And it's fleeting, I guess, is what I'm trying to say and and you and because of that you kind of hold more importance to it i'm having said that for a lot of cucks out there this is like what they're one of their biggest fears for some of theirs one of the biggest turn-ons too is knowing that they're with that increased level of affection and feelings and intimacy and emotional intimacy with a bull, she might leave. She might want that more than him. And so this is like a big fear. I don't know. You can't really speak for Pip.
But is this something that you guys kind of went through where he was like, I hope she doesn't fall too in love with this guy. Sure. Sure. Every, I mean, you know, Pip is still a human being. We're all still human beings. But the reality of any situation, no matter what your relationship is, yes, he says yes. He's like, yes. But the reality is that can happen whether you're swinging or not. Yeah, no, there's nothing. There is nothing keeping her with you other than her desire to be with you. They can always leave. They can always find a cock somewhere. I mean, cocks are everywhere.
They're just giving them out on the street. So, um, you can, um, you can definitely find it anywhere. So it, it doesn't really matter if you're in the lifestyle or not. Um, your relationship is what you make of your relationship. And if these other things come and go and your relationship survives, then you're the stronger for it. Um, you know, how many people do you know, how many vanilla relationships are great together? They have great communication. Maybe they've built a life and then one person cheats and all of a sudden, oh, we're blowing up our whole world.
Everything, we're blowing up everything. The house, the kids, the cars, the money, boom. All of it's gone because of one, really? You couldn't talk, you couldn't communicate communicate you couldn't figure something else out other than exploding everything that you built your life on um so it's you know which way would you rather do it I guess is my question I'd rather do it an open way where he knows I'm always here. I've always come back. I've always been with Pip and I always will be with Pip. He's the life partner. He's a person I've chosen to have a family with and have a future with.
Everybody else I love in the way I love them. And will they be with me forever? I don't know. Maybe, but probably not. You know, things come and go, people change, you're supposed to change. It's called growth. So you just, you know, how would you rather live your life? I'd rather be open with everything and, and, you know, let it play out like that and communicate versus, you know, trying to keep it locked behind closed doors. That never works. It just never works either.
Somebody's ignoring it so that they can get on with their life, but it just, it's painful and that's not a way to live life in my opinion. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Uh, Oliver said harmony is having her Dan Savage moment right now. Yeah.
Because Dan Savage talks a lot a lot about that where he well when he talks about like cheating with this is not cheating but still when somebody is you know doing something that could potentially damage potentially damage the relationship um is it worth just all of a sudden throwing everything away of course not like it's really not i mean like you said when you've built a life together you have all of this these things together you're going to be very aware of that and want to preserve that and I love the fact that it's about being open and being honest Pip in the chat he said he was very honest with it he said neither of us were good communicators when this happened and if there's anything that's going to teach you how to communicate properly it's something like that right it's a it's a probably a part of your life where you learn more about yourself like you said you we change you're like we change as people we change as a couple um and then you know then you have to learn how to navigate that together um let's not paint cuckolding as like a gumdrops and rainbow thing, because let's be honest, a lot of couples are not able to navigate through these complexities and they, these relationships do crash and burn.
I've heard about it. I've seen it happen and it sucks.
Um, but you guys were able to get through these different, I don't want to cite hurdles because it weren't really i mean these were just decisions that you guys decided to make together and they had their challenges that went along with them right when you bring in somebody for a poly relationship going from a relationship that was not poly you had open relationships on one side anyway um but not the poly part i mean that can be really complicated you guys were able to get through it that's pretty awesome um what about i wanted to ask you also about side cucks like i know this like side chicks everybody knows what a side chick is but is there such a thing as like a side cuck in in your in your relationship like have you ever had it because i because i had a lot of guys ask me over the years if they could like just be like the side cuck and so not like you know not the cuck that you're with like you're married to but like your side cuck is that a thing yes yes that is a thing that is definitely a this look like?
What is, what is this all about? Um, you know, it's, so I would say my most long-term that I would call side cuck, um, is a guy, um, I call Pinky who lives in Australia and he, um, I don't, he's a big fan of mine. And so, you know, there's a lot of chatting back and forth.
The time change, you know, time difference can make it a little more difficult, but, um, a lot of chatting and pictures, and then we'll do Skype chats and, um, and yeah, It's,'s i mean if you want to know what it really looks like it looks like a friendship i mean that's what it looks like that's what it is um that cuck friends with benefits that's what i uh interviewed somebody for the show before she had this she's cuck friends with benefits I was like that's so cool I love it um okay let's get to the questions this question is from Oliver and it is mentally how hard was it for you to make the jump to being a hot wife and a QOS especially in your first stages with your husband that's a good question because a lot of women do struggle with that.
But because I think because of your, the fact that you were like not super vanilla, like not just like some board house wife somewhere, you were rocking your life like to the 10th degree. Yeah. Yeah. I kind of already was. I mean, like before we even got into this swinging, like one thing, I went to Europe for a month after I graduated from college. And this is before Pip and I were dating, but we weren't married.
And even on that trip, I had carte blanche to do whatever I want as I, you know, partied across Europe for the summer and um so yeah it wasn't too it wasn't too difficult at all honestly you want to know what was harder is making the jump from hot wife to adult film star um because as a, sure, Pip would be in the background, taking pictures, taking video, waiting for his cleanup moment, you know, and doing whatever Pip does in the background. Um, but I would just be having sex. I am just fucking, I'm just having fun. I'm just getting off.
Um, but when you switch and you have to be professional now, it's now I have to know where Pip is because he's got the camera. I need to be looking at the camera. So you guys know that I'm looking at you. Um, and I have to know, you know, like I have to know which way to tilt and turn and twist and then twist this'll get the arm out of the way. You know, so that's honestly the biggest jump that took a lot of it still it still takes training. I won't even say that it doesn't because, you know, in my in my scenes, in my shoots, I get what Pip has termed, um, black dick drunk.
And I forget whatever I'm supposed to be doing. Um, if I'm, you know, if there's a theme, I'm supposed to be saying something, or maybe we went through positions and I'm like, you know, I was supposed to switch here or something. Um, and so it's, you know, I need to know where he is to get my directions. And even beforehand, he'll be like, okay, you just, you know, you say yes, a lot. He's like, try to say something else. I'm like, are you serious? You want me to think in the moment? Like, I'm just like, that's, no, I can't. It's hard.
So I'm, you know, that's the harder jump really was to do doing it you know screwing professionally uh it's different than just screwing in your bedroom I just had this moment where I tried to picture myself like could I do that like could I do I have the skills to be able to do that I do not I would be so irritated be like get the fuck out you tell me what to do get the fuck out I just there's no way I'd be so annoyed I'd be like stop telling me what to do it does it does it can it can get annoying um and then Pip will get like a flash of my eyes through the camera and he'll be like okay okay, that's enough for the directing.
I'll just, you know, she's got it all now.
But yeah, it, it can be, it can be a lot, but I also don't always remember like something you don't know, but when you're writing, not reverse cowgirl, but regular writing face to face, you were supposed to do shoulder, opposite shoulder, shoulder my shoulder to his shoulder so I'm at like this really weird twist here so that the camera back here can see my face yeah these are things so anytime I'm like that I have to you know twist and oh really limber up my back for the day and yeah there's a whole lot of work that goes into it um oh this one got four votes four up votes this is a question from crystal welch uh she said what are some of the things people in the lifestyle can do to get away from the misconceptions in porn to support a healthy happy alternative lifestyle alternative lifestyle choice?
Great question, Crystal. Okay. So there are a lot of misconceptions about porn and about people in porn and people in the lifestyle. And that is very true. And often I have found the best way to fight any misconceptions is education is knowledge. That's always, always the best way. You know, I, I get people all the time that I run into life who don't know me in this. They just know the vanilla harmony and, um, and they'll tell me about how all porn is bad and how all the women are abused and objectified.
And I have to slowly kind of give them a different perspective of what it's really like in this industry. I mean, our lifestyle and the industry are some of the nicest people you're ever going to meet. I really, when you have, you know, good closed events for people who are just in the lifestyle or who are in the industry, you get nice people, you get cream of the crop and because anybody else just really isn't invited back. But education, telling people it's different, but it's not wrong. And that really, I think, is the best way is to get the message out there at any point in time.
Yeah, I agree. Pip put a comment on it. He said, showing a healthy relationship in other aspects of your life is one way that you can do that. And then somebody else had a comment. Great question.
I think the focus should be on the Queen of spades pleasure um i think it's about balance really it's about balance and education um balancing that like if you ever like i know i've watched a few videos that were really hardcore that were like really really extreme i don't remember exactly what they were but i do remember that in those videos what the people directing it do is at the very end they'll show these like after clips of Thank you.
remember exactly what they were but I do remember that in those videos what the people directing it do is at the very end they'll show these like after clips of the people joking around and having fun and just basically like this was just pretend you know this is us just we're having a great time like it's all good like we're coming back to reality here it's all good this was just pretend this is not real and i i thought that was pretty cool that they i don't know if there's some legal thing that they have to do that because it was quite extreme whatever it was but i thought that was pretty cool and maybe that is about a little bit about the balance part like yes this porn stuff this is fantasy and we're gonna fucking dive in and we're gonna really fucking peel back and expose all this fucking nasty, hot shit.
But at the end of this, we're going to be like, hey, this is this is real, real life to like, hey, we're just that was fun. This is and then this is real life, you know, that's an excellent point, because everybody knows that Keanu Reeves is not John Wick. Keanu Reeves has never killed anybody. Everybody knows this, right? And that really comes down to education. And especially in this country, you know, sex is taboo.
So if we can't even talk about sex, then we certainly can't talk about sex on film but if could, then you would know that that kind of film is for all intents and purposes, a piece of art. That's a show. You know that that 70s show wasn't filmed back in the 70s, right? You know that. Of course you do. It's TV. It's not real. And that really comes down to not talking about it and not educating people about it. Yeah. Okay. Great question, Crystal. Thank you for that. This one here is from Joe and it says, what are your perspectives on cuckold relationships for the next 10 or 20 years?
Is it to be more common is it going to hit the mainstream so you said you got into the lifestyle 20 years ago you've been in the adult film lifestyle for i think you said a decade right what do you think is going to look like on the flip flip side of those two uh ranges time. I see no reason why it shouldn't continue to build. Um, when it comes to, um, the evolution of sexual freedom and sexual progress and exploration, um, it tends to just keep going. Um, there's some part, you know, something about cat out of the bag at some point, you know, you can't, can't put it back in.
Um, and you know, the difference I've seen in interracial when I started this, um, is gigantic, uh, and cuckolding, you know, and it's Thanks to a lot of people like you who teach cuckolding as love and in education, taking away the stigma of cuckolding. And that's really what we're doing. That's what we're breaking down.
You, me, Pip, Doc, we're breaking down that, you know, cuckolding as a negative stereotype and as long as we continue to do that i i see no reason it won't continue to evolve and eventually hit mainstream i agree i think it's just going to get bigger and bigger and bigger um okay this question is from Cuck Next Door. Harmony, do you see bulls struggle with their sexuality when engaged in bisexual cuckolding dynamics? Good question. Um, no, I don't think I do. I haven't, uh, because a bull, like a true bull that's into the bisexual cuckolding and is into it. No, they know that they are into it.
They're not struggling with it. Um, they, you know, they, they accept it and that's really the best way to not struggle with who you are.
It's to accept it um and so I don't think I don't think I have the ones that are into it they're just into it that's interesting because like I see with cucks like so much of so much shame and so much um fear around being found out and just accepting themselves even they're like hardcore stuck in the closet a cut closet um not to say that this has anything to do with being bisexual but just like that that level of shame and so i come across cucks all the time who have who carry that they're very firmly locked in the cut closet when it comes to either bisexual cucks or bisexual bulls, you would think that you would see some of that same kind of thing of like feeling very closeted about it, very scared, very shameful about it.
But that's great to hear that you haven't come across that at all. I haven't either. Not with the bulls. No, not with the Yeahs yeah um and then the next one this is from oliver oliver says harmony i heard you say in an episode that was recorded during splash mocha that you realized that you had been making too much content and too little play without cameras have you managed to turn that around somewhat i hope Uh, but I imagine it isn't easy. You're right. It isn't easy. Um, no, a little bit. Um, I've kind of slowed down my content this year.
I'm trying to, I guess maybe more condense it, like I'll work for a month and then take several weeks off and then plan to work for a couple of weeks and then take a month off. So I haven't been doing the best with that balance, but I do have Splash Mocha coming up again in November. Are you going? I'll see you there. Oh, absolutely. That was so great to see you in action last time. That was so fun. Like you were just so like enjoying yourself, like just having it, you know, as you're like, fuck it, I'm going to go have so much fun. And you did.
I got to witness Harmony, California, reverse glory hole, taking it like a champ that was great that was awesome i had so much fun oh my god so happy that you guys are going to be there again that's great absolutely um before we wrap this up when you get sent a really great or if you just happen upon a really great BBC dick pic, what's the first thing that goes through your mind? How it will feel in my pussy. Like how like that's going to stretch, you know, that's going to go really deep. That's, you know, that's that's usually my first thought.
Have you ever seen a picture where you're just like oh that's too big yeah yeah well not not like it's too big like I'm not gonna try it I mean mama loves challenge but um I it's like oh my god that's kind of scary big that's that's a challenge okay have you ever gotten a dick pic from a white guy where you were had that same reaction does anyone ever send you dick pics of white guys anymore oh yeah all the time oh baby you just haven't been with the right white dick take a look at mine that's a that's a fleshy pink noodle i have no interest in yeah i know actually like on fet life when you see these white guys who have like these the dick pic as their profile pic and you're like ew like what makes you think that that's gonna to be like, yum?
Yeah, I know. I don't, I don't understand that. I really, I mean, cause that's what they like, but it's like, I don't. No, I don't want to see that. I definitely don't want to see it. Yeah. Yeah. I get it. Okay. Harmony, this has been so much fun chatting with you.
are there any other places where you want to direct people to learn more about you uh you know twitter's you know i'm always there but yeah only fans is probably the best place i have two different uh i have a free site and a pay site harmony california free is the free site and girl with fay tattoos the uh subscription site and you can always find me there you can always find me on twitter i think i'm even on linkedin i'm everywhere harmony this has been so much fun i can't believe you're going to be going to houston again and i can't wait to see you and pip again in action.
Maybe we'll have to double team the reverse glory hole again. Well, you weren't there when we did the whole wall of my lady friends, but you have to be there this time. We'll just coordinate it. We'll get Doc Chocolate. He's going to be there too. We're going to have to get him back in the glory hole. Oh, I said, yes, we will.
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