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So I just went along. It took a lot of courage. And there I met a submissive male. We chatted a lot. He had met his dominant wife at a femdom event, which was a magical thing to chat about. And he told me to tell my wife that I was submissive.
And he me that i needed to come out to her and yeah just looked at him uh this was this was a big mountain for me to climb and i didn't have a clue how i was going to tell her then he asked me if i was a true submissive and i didn't have a clue what he meant by that and but then he told me to read the book Uniquely Rika, and that if I wanted to, then I could ask my wife to read it. And this was for me possibly just the key that I needed. And when she finished it, she did have a real wobble at first.
I didn't really know this at the time what was going on after she told me she actually thought I wanted to sleep with other women and so I just all I realized is that things had gone well and that she then embraced the female-led relationship and started to take charge which was like a wonderful thing since we started our female-led relationship I just talked about she We'll see you next time. the female-led relationship and started to take charge, which was like a wonderful thing.
As soon as we started our female-led relationship, I just talked about, she quickly gained more power and her confidence really rose over those weeks. And it was just a lovely thing to see her taking more and more charge.
And two months in, she just suddenly says to me, well, we've've entered into this lifestyle so I'm going to tell you what I want I want two men I want to wake up in the morning with one man either side of me that's what she said she she just said that with with so much authority and so little disregard for my she didn't seek my opinion on it at all she's just like yeah i think i might just do this now that's like incredibly powerful it's those real life little statements that really drive a cut completely wild it's just incredible.
You are now listening to the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast, ask a question for the show, and find the elusive Venus Vault, a sneak peek behind the bedroom door. Now sit back, make yourself comfortable, and let's dive right to this episode of the Venus Cuckolders podcast. I'm your host Venus. Thank you so much for joining me. All right, I have such a cool show for you today.
I have Cuck T who's going to come and talk about his really unique relationship dynamic. I've talked a lot on the show about cuckolding, obviously, a little bit about female-led relationship, but I haven't really gone into a lot of detail about polyamory or polyandrous relationships. So Cuck T is going to talk about how his relationship kind of blends the lines between all three of those. It's so, so unique. So I can't wait for him to be able to share this story with you. And there is a bit of bonus stuff going on with Cuck T. He is going to be talking about, oh my God, it's so cool.
Femdom paintball events. Femdom paintball events. Let your mind go wild trying to figure out what that is but it's probably what you think it is um but anyway he does he does these events and he's going to talk about them that is going to be part of some bonus episode material to get that you can either subscribe to apple podcast subscriptions or or you can join the new Queen's Quarters fan hub on venuscackledris.com. And that brings me to my announcements. So last week, September 23rd, I had a big announcement happen.
I had a very special Pillow Talk Friday Night Live event that was going to announce these big announcements, and it was really big. So the first is, it has to do with the new Queen's Quarters Fan Hub, which is now on venuscuckoldress.com. I've revamped the whole site. This site is a blend of three different areas now. It's the podcast. So you can listen to the podcast and you can ask a question for the show and you can learn about pillow talk events and stuff like that. You can also, there's courses now in the learning center on there.
So there's the blog, there's courses, there's even a page about what women need to know about cuckolding, which is very interesting and a great place for women to learn about what this relationship is like. And there's the Queen's Quarters Fan Hub, which basically is replacing my Patreon. I was very limited with what I could do with Patreon. And now that I have this on my own website, it's way better. I have so much stuff to be able to offer to people who want to support this podcast. There is a private podcast on there where you get all sorts of bonus goodies.
There's early access to all of the Venus Cuckolders podcast episodes. Thank you. There is a private podcast on there where you get all sorts of bonus goodies. There's early access to all of the Venus Cuckolders podcast episodes. You get them a week early for everyone who signs up. And I also have exclusive access to events like Pillow Talk events. And I can now do one-to-one private chats or coaching, whatever you want to use the time for. And that's so cool. I really, really like that. So if you want to have my undivided attention and want to have a chat with me, I would be happy to do so.
You just go and register for that on venuscuckledress.com. There's also key holding. Yes. So if you want me to hold your keys, I won't say no. That's part of the helpful cocktail on in the new Queen's quarters, fan hub, and also helping me to find bowls and whatever else to kind of tasks that I need help with. There's live hangouts events happening every week. And those are very intimate events. There's just a small group. And it's pretty fun. I honestly look forward to it every single week. There's also a community on there.
So you can actually chat with others in the lifestyle, post stuff, you can comment, you can, it's so cool cool like I'm so excited about about this part of it that that I definitely did not have before this is so fun um what else is there oh access to my private snapchat that's part of the helpful cocktail oh my god it is so fun like yeah it's ridiculous how much fun for me. Anyway, if you want to learn more, go to venuscuckoldress.com and just pop on the tab that says Queen's Quarters. All right, so the other big announcement. And okay, this is serious now.
I've been thinking about this for a little while. People have, over the years, you know how I have not been showing my full face and it's, well, I think most people assume it's because for privacy, I don't want people to know that this is what I do is talk about cuckolding. Most people assume that, I can understand. Many people think that, you know, discretion is very, very important for me and that, you know, I wouldn't want to be embarrassed of, you know, other people finding out that I do this. So people like, you know, friends or family or whatever and people, I get it.
I get that's the first assumption that would come to mind, but that is not the case. It is completely not the case. I am not afraid of being embarrassed. In fact, my friends and family are well aware of who I am and what I do and very supportive. I'm very lucky in that way. But I am scared of my physical safety, scared of being, you know, hunted down and murdered, which happens to women who put themselves out there when they speak about sexuality. I don't think this is something that happens to men.
I don't think that my, you know, my male friends who are podcasters in this genre, I do not think that this is something they need to worry about at all. I don't know. my male friends who are podcasters in this genre, I do not think that this is something they need to worry about at all. And good for them. That's the way it should be. But unfortunately, because I'm a woman, I attract people, men, who really despise women who are sexually empowered and speak openly about sexual topics or issues and discussions.
So I attract people like incels who are just misogynist, usually white men who are, you know, really despise women and feel like they've been slighted by women in general, and they want to kill them. And, you know, there have been many attacks by them worldwide, here in Canada as well, where they've, you know, killed women, and it's really awful. And so I have to, unfortunately, as a woman, be very aware of that. And so that this was a big part of why I have chosen to hide my face or not show most of my face. Thank you. that.
And so that this was a big part of why I have chosen to hide my face or not show most of my face. Now, I have given it a lot of thought over the past few months, and I have spoken to a lot of people. And I have made the decision that I am going to, or have since last week, shown my full face now. It is still terrifying. But what I have what I have explained in that pillow talk event was that I am calling on all of the men who are listening to this podcast right now, who are interested in this lifestyle in any way, shape or form.
I'm calling on you to protect women like myself, who are choosing to be brave and put themselves out there and simply speak about sexuality. I'm calling on you to help protect the women in this lifestyle. Help us feel safe. And what I mean by that is when, you know, something happens and I'm, you know, somebody's harassing me or, you know, I'm not going to suffer in silence. I am going to call on all of you to help, not just myself, but any of the other women who are going through the same thing. Because that's all we do right now is just suffer in silence.
So fuck, I've attracted another psychotic stalker. Okay, this is great. You know, what can I do? Basically, that's about it. But I am calling on all of the men listening that we need you to help us feel safe. And can you imagine what this lifestyle would be like if the women felt safe? It's just like all of the work that I have done towards helping cucks understand that they don't need to feel shame, that they can feel safe, they can feel okay and accepted for who they are and loved for who they are.
Just like all of the work that I have done over the years for that, can you imagine if women felt safe in this lifestyle? There would be so many more women who would be willing and excited and encouraged to seek out this kind of relationship if they felt safe from these men who are dangerous. So I am just encouraging all of you out there, all the men out there, if whatever that you can do and say and work towards to make sure that women in this lifestyle feel some form of safety, then I would be very, very appreciative if you could do that.
So please make that a goal that you will work towards that. We need you. We literally cannot do this without your help. So I am taking that step. I am putting myself out there. And I would appreciate if the gentlemen out there who are listening would help out by making not just me safe, but the women safe in this lifestyle. Okay, that's enough about that. Thank you.
out there who are listening would help out by making not just me safe but the women safe in this lifestyle okay that's enough about that so if you follow me on social media my twitter or my instagram you will have seen i've been posting selfies on there let me tell you it is a whole whole different feeling for me to do that But I appreciate all of the support and words of encouragement from everybody. It's been amazing, seriously. It's been incredible. So if you want to check it out, you can certainly check out my social media or you can go to venuscuckoldress.com and check it out.
I have the video of the Pillow Talk event on there. If you want to go and watch it, that would be really cool. So venuscuckoldress.com. Okay, that's it for that. Let's jump in now to this episode with Cuck Tea. Here we go. Joining me on the show today is my friend Cuck T. And some of you may be familiar with Cuck T. This name you may have come across on the Moan app. He's hosted some rooms. He's had some great chats, participated, and I've always loved what he has to say. So I have invited him on the show for today to tell us his story. Welcome to the show, Cuck Tea. Hi, Venus.
So I've followed your podcast for the last year or so, and I think it's just a really wonderful thing that you're promoting the cuckolding lifestyle and empowering women. I really love that. And I'm so happy that you've invited me to share my experiences. So thank you. Wonderful. Oh, my God. I'm so happy to have you here. This is going to be such a great story because you have such a unique relationship. That's what really drew me to you. And, you know, of course, how you articulate everything that you go through in your relationship. But I want to know the full story.
And of course, the listeners want to know the full story too. How did this all begin? When did your fantasies start? Okay, so for me, I think submission came before cuckolding. So my first fantasies were about me being submissive to a dominant woman. And being submissive for me, that's really yielding authority to a dominant woman. So it's them being in control or them being in charge. I think I was really born submissive. So just like gay or straight people are born that way, I was born heterosexual submissive. I always liked females being in control.
And I really feel like being submissive is a type of sexuality, is rooted deep inside you, and you can't change it. So being submissive, since really earliest memories, I kind of found situations that would come up throughout my life that fitted well for me.
So I just want to give one example of a situation that i really related to so so as a kid aged around 10 um i was taken to a large swimming pool and and it was a kind of family run um style swimming pool session and it had a large inflatable obstacle cup course running the whole length of the pool from one end to the other and it had things to go under or over and being quite narrow it had like water either side of it and the object was to get from one end to the other without falling off the sides of this obstacle course and into the swimming pool and the pool was really busy that day and and there was a always a queue of people to get on the obstacle course it was like a really popular thing but there was a bit of a twist the lifeguards on one side of the pool had a big hose like a massive is a fireman's hose three or four inches in diameter and they'd spray people as they were trying to get across the course just to try and make it a bit more difficult sounds like fun yeah right it was just weird watching that age 10 um but the two lifeguards on duty that day were both having to be female so being young I kind of watched people go across this course and adults and children were having a go but everyone was like falling in at a particular point on the obstacle course about a third of the way along where you had to go quite close to the edge that was facing the lifeguards and you had to kind of hold on um as there was like a ledge to like shimmy across as well as holding on to some things it was quite difficult but you know you looked like you could do it um and so i thought um you know that well the lifeguards would kind of spray people at that point and people would generally fall off at that point um so it kind of looked really easy to me I was kind of young agile and good at climbing trees and things like that so I was quite confident about getting across so I queued up and I gave it a go um and I easily got to that point where you had to go close to the edge and at first it was quite easy to grip with my hands and so I braced myself for that hose hitting me but I'd never been sprayed with a hose before and the first thing that happened was I lost my breath and froze because the water was freezing cold it wasn't swimming for water it was just like tap freezing cold water and the other thing is is that the the huge volume of water it just made me lose a hundred percent of my grip so i just of course i just fell off so i didn't do much more swimming that day in fact i spent the whole session sitting on the side watching this one young lady spray people off and lots of people mostly adult men actually were trying their luck because it was you know they saw the challenge and not one person got across the course that day so like two-thirds of the obstacle course was just a waste it never got used and.
And I was just transfixed by her laughter that this lifeguard. One of these females was particularly interested in doing this. And she would just giggle every time she kind of sprays someone off the course. And people were coming up to her and asking her to give them a chance. And she was really polite and she said, yeah, yeah, sure, I can do that. She would always spray them off. And so, like, for days after that, I thought about it and I just wanted to go back and be in that situation. I think I like the fact that she was just in control of that.
She was in complete control of what happened there. People were more vulnerable because, you know, just in their swim costume she was you know pretty much fully clothed with a with a you know jacket on and some shorts but um and that and i think that's all i liked about it and so growing up um i i generally like tv shows that had female leads um and i like fact. I like shows, there's a British show called Press Gang about a team that ran a newspaper and it starred Julia Sawalha, an English accent, and she was just in charge of the whole team and I just really like that fact.
So, and then later on in life, i when i became sexually active my fantasies in porn were usually with men serving women in some way either via domestic service or sexual service i preferred the females to be in normal clothes with men often being naked which makes them more vulnerable which gives like a very dominant submissive dynamic and then i learned that this type of porn is called femdom and this this is short for for female uh dominant uh and that's really how my um my you know my sexual fantasy started interracial black and white the beautiful Transcription by CastingWords You get both in fresh, empowering looks for every occasion for everyone, from the streets to the sheets and everywhere in between.
Check us out at Maison Dinesh dot com. Maison Dinesh Couture, modern fashion for the modern revolution. So I agree. I think that you're born this way, a lot of times born this way and it just there's something that triggers it where you're like oh that is that makes me feel certain way that makes me feel kind of way and I think that's the true for cuckolding for a lot of people um that for lot of guys where they're like, they get cheated on or something like that. And all of a sudden they realize, oh, damn, like, why am I turned on by that?
Like, why did you ever go through that kind of questioning of like, why does this femdom porn turn me on? Why am I into this? Or was it always just you're cool with it? I think I did question it because I always kept it very, very private. You know, at that stage, it was just a private fantasy. I also had more, you know, vanilla fantasies as well. But the submissive fantasies were stronger, always the stronger of the two. And so, but I kept it locked away. So I did question it. I was on, you know, I couldn't tell anyone about it.
So I was obviously a little bit unsure about it and private and probably through embarrassment didn't want to tell anyone about it. Yeah, that's understandable. So you were seeking a relationship where she was more dominant, you were more submissive, correct? So when did this happen when you met your partner and how did you guys meet? So I guess I wasn't searching for a dominant partner because my submissive side was totally hidden at the time.
But looking back were really a good fit because when we met she was naturally dominant and I was naturally submissive so looking back it just worked for us so that's what made the relationship work really well and us staying together was the fact that we're a good fit even though I didn't know at the time it was because she was dominant and I was submissive. We didn't really argue because I just did what she wanted. I like doing things for her. I like to do domestic work, laundry and cooking and things like that.
When we discuss it now and we look back, she just says, oh, I just thought I had a really good husband. Hell yes. And I swear to God, women generally, when they're talking together about their I don't know.
i just thought i had a really good husband hell yes and i swear to god uh women generally when they're talking together about their boyfriends or spouses or partners whatever um that is something that they do consider to be a really good partner is somebody who does those things and the other women if if one of them brings it up oh yeah my husband does all the dishes and then laundry and blah. I guarantee the rest of them in the crowd are going to be like, oh, my God, that's amazing. So we do consider those qualities to be definitely valuable. I think women generally do.
But it's interesting that within the context of a dominant and submissive power exchange kind of relationship then we categorize maybe vanilla women categories it as like kinky or something's this but i'm like this is just real relationship shit so um so so what happened was you know things moved quite quickly for us because um we were such a good match we got married um and we were really happy together you know we had a really good sex life um it was a great relationship lots of communication um and then what happened you know we were perfectly fine together but but one day i was looking at femdom porn and you see this was a little bit of an outlet for me, for my really strong submissive side that she didn't really know about.
And I found at the time, I found this descriptive site about CFNM stories and that stands for clothed female naked male. And that's a kind of, submissive situation that I'm into. And so there were stories about this and CFNM party games. And my imagination was running a bit wild with the stories. And then it said a comment. It said, for real life, CFNM events and parties see social media sites such as FetLife. Now, my life was about to change. FetLife, this was a whole new world for me. I had not heard of this before.
There were people out there in real life, dominant, submissive relationships. I just could not believe what I was reading. Mind blown. I was really blown. And I had to do something about it.
After doing a lot of reading about different people's profiles, different events and things that existed on FetLife, that FetLife linked to, I plucked up the courage to go to what's called a femdom munch which is a female dominant submissive male munch gathering of people in a pub in a bar and I didn't tell my wife but I thought this is okay you know there's a good description at the munch it's just a group of people meeting up for a conversation and so I felt comfortable about that so I just went along it took a lot of courage and there I met a submissive male Thank you.
meeting up for a conversation and so I felt comfortable about that so I just went along it took a lot of courage and there I met a submissive male and we chatted a lot he had met his dominant wife at a femdom event which was a magical thing to chat about and he told me to tell my wife that I was submissive and he told me that I needed to come out to her and yeah just looked at him uh this was this was a big mountain for me to climb and I didn't have a clue how I was going to tell her I mean I tried showing her things like you know I tried a bit I tried showing her documentaries on dominatrix there was nothing on tv about reallife female-led relationships at all.
I didn't know of anything, really. I tried showing her dominatrix documentaries. She just laughed at them. You know, she just laughed and didn't understand anything about me, really. You know, so things hadn't really worked. But then he asked me if I was a true submissive, and I didn't have a clue what he meant by that.
But then he told me to read the book uniquely rica and that if i wanted to then i could ask my wife to read it and this was for me possibly just the key that i needed so i ordered the book i read it and i absolutely loved it it's it's designed for couples wanting to start a female-led relationship and it talks about a strong foundational uh relationship layer of you know love respect trust dependability and good communication and all those things that a vanilla relationship needs but then it it described a layer above that which is the dominant submissive layer where she is in charge and to be in obeyed and and the book's centered around dominant centric submission and this is where the male tries to anticipate tasks to make the life of the female easier and more enjoyable rather than being a burden just of and her being a kink dispenser yeah um and I thought I thought then about all the things I like to do for her all the the cooking the laundry that I already did and at that point I thought oh maybe I am a true side but I was kind of like happy um so then I asked her to read the book and I was kind of hopeful at this stage but I was nervous and when she finished it, she did have a real wobble at first.
She told, and this is afterwards, I didn't really know this at the time what was going on, but afterwards she told me she actually thought I wanted to sleep with other women. And even though that's out of the question, not in the book, no chance of having that, she still was naturally suspicious of this change. And I think that's a very natural thing that can happen. So often, yeah. So luckily, though, she was curious enough to go on FetLife and get a profile.
And she connected with my profile to show that we were married and I was messaging with that sub that I'd met at the munch that I talked about and actually not to my knowledge at the time but what happened is he because he was aware that you know I was telling him that she's read the book and so he told his dominant partner she'd connected in that munch group with other females and told them one of those really leader females had actually then reached out to my wife what an amazing thing that was on fetlife sent her some reading material and offered to meet up with her power of women connecting with other women yeah absolutely and i wasn't aware of that at the time she didn't show me any of that information at the time and so i just all i realized is that things had gone well and that she then embraced the female-led relationship and started to take charge which was like a wonderful thing but i now know that went on in the background and it's unbelievable it really touches me that that went on in the background um so amazing I absolutely love the fact that it was it was a woman connecting with another woman to help kind of mentor them into this or help them with resources into this kind of lifestyle.
I think that women do trust each other a little bit more when it comes to the things that we talk about in this lifestyle. It's one thing to hear it from your husband. It's a different thing to hear it from another woman, really. So I think this is like, I say it all the time, women are the key to cuckolding. Women are the key to a lot of this whole embracing your sexuality and living your sexual self in the way that you see fit. Women are a big key component to that. So that's amazing. All right. So you guys started having this amazing kind of relationship that you said was going really well.
And she was embracing this idea of FLR and things are going great. So when did the idea of a one-sided open relationship come into play?
okay so yeah as soon as we started our female-led relationship i just talked about she she quickly gained more power and her confidence really rose over the coming over those weeks and it was just a lovely thing to see her taking more and more charge and two months in after i after i'd come out using that book and her connecting with the other females um she just she just suddenly says to me well we've entered into this lifestyle so I'm going to tell you what I want I want two men I want to wake up in the morning with one man either side of me that That's what she said.
And I just couldn't believe it. I said to her straight away, this is your right. You can get whatever you want. And I don't think she was actually expecting me to say that. Yes. And the result of that was that both of us couldn't sleep for a few nights from excitement.
I'm excited about getting getting the two men and me being excited because I've got compersion and I was really happy for her and I guess for me I mean I'd already watched um some some porn some some of the better porn with a female dominant with multiple slaves serving her maybe one and fetching her drinks and I really like that it showed more power and so when she said about that done I mean all I could think about was you're more powerful and I didn't like that so I was absolutely fine with it um were you worried that she might no longer have a need for you or that she would leave you for someone else?
I wasn't worried at that time because we hadn't heard of cuckolding at that time. We didn't know what that was. We knew that she wanted two men. And so she searched online for a wife with two husbands because that's what the idea that she had in her mind even though in the in the UK that would be a husband and a boyfriend because of course you can't actually legally marry two but that's what she wanted um so she searched online and she found a term for that which was polyandry which is when a wife takes more than one husband And she was absolutely delighted to find a word for what she wanted.
She was so happy.
polyandry which is when a wife takes more than one husband and she was absolutely delighted to find a word for what she was over the moon we're finding that word and so for a long time we we used that word she actually started um fat life groups with with a polyandry theme to it one was international that was no longer being run she took that over and once she started a uk branch of that to connect with other people and chat to them you know about the polyandritous lifestyle um and what she particularly wanted was her second partner to be um faithful to her um and she would be faithful to her two men so the three of us would be in a closed relationship her with each of the men and her men to her because she had that strong desire i didn't really feel any any threat of her leaving because we were very much in love and we had a very our relationship seemed to be getting stronger by the day uh with me coming out and her being you know um openly dominant so so what she did was she was obviously already on FetLife and she used that platform to try and attract that second partner and over the next couple of years she she found three boyfriends via FetLife in series.
And she got a lot of applicants, but she managed to filter those down to find someone that she really liked. And they were generally submissive because that's what she put on her advertisement, her requirements, and they generally visited us. And so her first boyfriend always visited us. So I never felt that threat really of her, you know, leaving me or anything like that. That went quite well, but then he left and he just ghosted. We're not sure why. It can happen. Oh, yeah.
so so but her second boyfriend um she she really connected with him and started to be really super attracted to him and was kind of uh I think falling in love with him a bit and and actually she went away to see him uh for the first time and that's the first time she'd actually gone away and I did get angst I got jealousy when she went strange feelings I hadn't really experienced before yeah and I had to deal with those and process them um which was difficult for me but I think I managed it okay um interesting you know unfortunately really he left after a few months and she was really upset when he left so she did have a connection to him so that's the other thing to deal with when you've got compulsion you get the ups but you also get I really felt oh he was up so it goes the other way as well um so so and her third boyfriend um she also found to affect life was really deeply submissive so quite similar to me in that respect and he and I actually got on really well as friends yeah that was great I didn't and I didn't get any I think that was an important step for me in terms of getting on really well with this with her second partner as a as friends because i didn't get any jealousy at all very little jealousy if any when she went away with him and i think so these these experiences i think were were really good for us um and around that time actually and so just to finish off the story with the third boyfriend, she said everything was perfect with him and that she really liked his service to her.
He helped with domestic service and sexual service and things like that.
But she realised that she wasn't really deeply attracted to him and she didn't have that spark with him and she she didn't want the romantic relationship with him so he um unfortunately it wasn't right for her and at that time she really realized exactly what she wanted which she really wanted that strong romantic intimate loving connection with her second partner she wanted him to be stable uh not live too far away so that she could regularly visit him or he could regularly visit her and so um around that time we both discovered your podcasts Venus and so I thought I discovered it first uh on through VetLife advertisement and I said to her look did you realize this lady you know she's helping people you know make connections and she actually said oh look at my reading list like this is on my list to read we've both discovered you independently and so we started listening to your podcasts together and that's when i think it was the one where you talked about uh finding a bull uh so for us we used boyfriend but it was interchangeable really yeah um and and different methods of doing that and that was where she was introduced to the tin you know going through tinder yeah and she was nervous about that because she needed to show her face so she thought about about that for a while, but then she made that leap.
And what she found with Tinder was it was a lot quicker, a lot less hassle. Going through FetLife was tiresome in terms of many applicants, none of them showing their faces, a lot of chat. And then you see their face, she wasn't attracted to them. It was all a waste of time and people would ghost.
You know, there was a lot of issues with then you see their face she wasn't attracted to them it was all a waste time and people people ghost you know there was a lot of issues with it but she did she did she was successful in finding her three boyfriends with it but how much admin was there yeah it was horrendous and I was helping her with that but I still couldn't reduce it to a level where she was not completely stressed out by it yeah. So Tinta was a bit, you know, a real breakthrough for her, I think, because she had a lot of people, you know, liking her, fortunately.
And she could just filter through them quite quickly with the ones she was attracted to on her bio, with your help to create the actual bio, Venus. Yeah, the wording is important. So she could just tweak that slightly, but the opening statements were perfect. I mean, she just tweaked this slightly with the romantic relationship part. And then she, so she met her fourth boyfriend via Tinder.
And that was a real beautiful relationship um they were really falling in love um going really really well but he was in in the army and he suddenly got moved far away and then actually just go rather than saying anything he just ghosted as well and so um but but then um she she knew exactly what she wanted even more and she's now met her her current boyfriend through tinder um and he meets you know all her criteria he's got he's got a house nearby he's stable he's got good communication skills both when they're together and when when he's away um when they're not together um and they've got you know they've got very good open communication um that they've they've both said it was beautiful they went to like a music festival together and um they both said that they love each other on that festival i got all the photos which was lovely that's amazing and she's been on holiday with him um and interestingly you know from that journey of of hers wanting the polyandrous relationship yeah she she's only a couple of days ago she said and this was she again she was connecting with her other female friends which was really useful for her and from those conversations she said to me um you know it might not be and this was again she was connecting with her other female friends which was really useful for her and from those conversations she said to me um you know it might not be possible to get that living partner that she wants but that they can they can just visit each other whenever they whenever they can regularly and she can go away with with you know that second male on holiday and she's kind of accepted that so I think at the moment it falls so we so we're kind of talking about the overlap between polyandria and cuckolding and right now it's very similar to cuckolding only difference i guess is that that bull boyfriend is faithful to her which you might not always get in a cuck so it's only a slight difference and you know if he did move in it would become polyandry so it's just there's a really strong overlap I think between the two and that's I you know and And my journey through all this I'm finding your I'm finding your podcast is that I'm a cuck big time and whatever she wants she gets she she wants to she just gets it so isn't this funny it's it's because like I've been saying for so long this this kind of relationship is amazing for women because they can have what they want all they have to do is ask and so that's an amazing example of it but I think the other side of that is that you have to be okay with whatever it is that she may want like this is going to look the way that she wants it to look right and maybe that is scary for some guys because they don't feel like they have control anymore you know you really don't have control and you have to be prepared to sit back and just go along for the ride what i laughed recently is when she was telling me about the fact that recently she's realized that she she might just do it by the visits and not the polyandry street but just just you can visit here she could she just said that with with so much authority and so little disregard for my she didn't seek my opinion on it at all she was just like yeah i think i might just do this now that's like incredibly powerful it's those real life little statements that really drive a cut completely wild it's just incredible and so what do you mean by compersion because it sounds like you only had cucky angst once um during that time when she went away um but what is this compersion?
Because I've heard you talk a lot about this on the Moan app. And for a lot of people, they've never heard of this term. What is it to you?
So for me, I really love it when she's happy, when she's jumping up and down for for joy I get a real sense of joy out of just witnessing that so I'll give you an example so when she booked that first holiday with her current boyfriend and they went went to Italy together she was I think it was the moment she booked it she came up and hugged me and whilst we were hugging she was actually jumping up and down with joy and she was so happy about that holiday and really really excited about it and it was just incredible for me to witness and I you know that's, so I was loving it just as much as she was.
And so that's conversion, really, I guess, is loving that she's happy. And so if she's, you know, she's satisfied by another man, she's really happy, then I'm just loving it even more, I think. That's so amazing. I don't know if that comes naturally to a lot of men. I think it's an incredible quality to have. I remember way back when, when I was in a relationship that was, you know, kind of traditional monogamy relationship, where there's equal equality, everything expected. And I remember it being a real tug of war all the time.
It seemed like you had to make sure that you were all kind of equal, that you were giving enough and getting enough and blah. And I do remember just standing there in the hallway one day and I was like, this would be so much more simple if he just did what I want him to What did you do?...
simple if he just did what I want him to do this battle this tug this tug of war going on all the time I'm like this is stupid just just do what I want you to do a lot of people we've we've got a lot of friends now in the lifestyle and everyone says that and it's not so much you know everyone's in the cuckling lifestyle but certainly in the female-led relationship lifestyle and they just say that those relationships work so smoothly yes there's not really any arguing and i yeah i can see why and because you've been so honest with each other about your deep fantasies, it just brings up more and more honesty thereby going forward.
And they tend to be very, very honest, you know, that everything is known really, you know, about the two of you. So that's a very healthy position to be in, I think. Yeah, absolutely. I think that not all cucks are submissive or, you know, it's not natural for them, but they do get turned on and excited by, you know, the one-sided open relationship kind of thing. But there is something about men who are naturally submissive fit really nicely into this kind of relationship because it is so much about putting her in the driver's seat. It is so much about witnessing her celebrate her sexuality.
And that just, I think the two just slide together really well. So I can completely understand. Yeah. And even in a cuckolding relationship where that cuck is not overall submissive, I think there's a degree of submission in sexuality at least because the female is really taking charge of her sexuality. So they are submitting in that respect.
So I think if they're not then submitting in in other areas such as overall decisions you know chores you know they're just things to add in and that they don't have to be added in if if if then you know that doesn't fit yeah yeah it's definitely a form of submission I think but then not everyone might agree with that but that's the way I look at it I think that's natural for me to say that because I'm so submissive that's amazing I feel like you both kind of won the lottery finding each other like really that's amazing okay I have had recently I had Ella on the podcast she's been on a couple of times.
Was there anything that she said that resonated with you? Yeah, I mean, 100%. There was tons of stuff she said that really resonated with me. Everything about the patriarchy resonated with me. I just loved everything she said about that i fully agree with that um yeah one one thing that yeah one thing that she said that really resonated with me was when she talked about men having a trouble having trouble with introspection which is really sitting back and examining their own thoughts and feelings and being comfortable with that.
And therefore, they had problems taking their fantasies to reality, sometimes particularly in a cuckolding context. And she also mentioned the fact that, you know, men need to go back to school on that, really, to learn how to do that.
And that's where I really want to help other men by starting a podcast to really start helping with that process and one of the things that I wanted to do in that respect is is learning to listen and this is where I've already mentioned the Uniquely book but recently i've read surrender submit server by key barrett and key barrett is also a fantastic book and where he excels is the psychology element of it with his background and when he talked about learning to listen properly I could not believe it so he described a scenario where a woman was telling a story and how the man would just try to fix all the facts that she was talking about instantly by interrupting as she's telling the story and I was like well yeah that's kind of the natural thing do you want to solve the problems and he was saying how what a mistake that is and to listen to the whole story and gauge the emotion and real sort of reason for the whole story that she's telling without trying to fix the facts and try to just obtain some of the emotion and feeling of that story and perhaps ask relevant questions to draw out more sort of thoughts and feelings for her and you know what I actually learned something when I read that really really powerful because I tried it I tried it the next morning and it was just a revelation for me she was telling me something about work and I thought well I'm not going to try and fix anything she says I just I just sat back a little bit more relaxed and I really listened to what she was saying it was more relaxing for me so it was better for me and then I just I think I you know so I had a better expression on my face first start and so did she the conversation went really well and then I didn't try and fix anything I'm not just I just asked a couple of questions more about you know the thoughts and feelings of the people that she was talking about and so she she then uh went on and the conversation went really well and I was just this is a revelation for me I can do every because this happens quite often and we didn't have like a major problem at all because i've said because how we fitted so well but i'm i'd say i had more of a problem in maybe previous failed relationships regarding this issue but anyway it certainly enhanced you know the way we can talk to each other in in our relationship and i really felt like I've really learned something and I've gone kind of gone back to school just like Ella said and learned it and I can't believe I've only just learned this you know this is this is crazy and it's very this this even this one thing is very powerful and so yeah I was I was really happy about that and I want to take that further that I want to do podcasts to give real examples of that.
So it's really easy for other men to take that on and that will help them. That's amazing. I mean, I feel like there are not enough men talking about that kind of thing. And so I'm super happy that you are going to be lending your voice to to that to help other guys learn these skills because there is a skills deficit when it comes to emotional intelligence emotional communication that kind of thing within a relationship so thank you for that much appreciated um what what kind of advice do you have for any aspiring cucks? Right, right. So I've had a couple contact me.
It happens from time to time. And my advice is usually to try and go out to munches. So I'll give you an example. So recently I was sat around a table with my wife and she was connecting with her female dominant friends and they were all sat around this table. She was giving them an update on our relationship and her relationship with her boyfriend on holidays and things like that. And I was loving listening to it. But anyway, this is about her.
So she's talking her friends and and they are very interested in that lifestyle and they were saying well I'm not sure that my sub would accept that he said he didn't but you know it'd be magical if he did and other single women are saying wow that's amazing you know we really love it I'm sitting there thinking where are the cucks if they're sitting here right now you know they could connect there it is right there waiting for right there yeah right there so so how do we get that so my advice is to other cucks is get out there into the real world so what did i do i looked up a fem so there's no cuckolding munches as far as i can tell but there are fem and maybe there's a space for a cuckolding munch but you know that's a different topic but but there's there are many femdom munches in all major cities and in minor cities towns as well in the uk and i believe there are in many different countries certainly in the states as well and so if so so what did i do now if you look at what i did i went to a munch and i so now i've got a massive circle of female dominant friends and submissive male friends and those females want some of them want to be cochordresses like the idea of how did i get that i just went to a munch and talked to one sub and i said to him how did you two meet that's the first thing i said it's just a normal vanilla thing how did you two meet it sparks up a massive so So you go to one munch, you say one thing, look what can happen.
And so if you're a single cuck you already know you're a cuck you're even ahead of where i was at that time um and so you advance you can just go to a munch and connect with people if you're nervous you know you just need to talk to another guy that's there you can even message a guy that's attending and say look can we meet a bit earlier there i don't want to talk to anyone else except you and then perhaps just leave if you're that nervous um yeah there's always a way of doing that and you know you really don't know what doors uh that that's going to open that is an incredibly powerful thing um i always tell guys don't you know get off of twitter you're not going to find your fucking cuckoldress on twitter you're just not get the fuck off of there and i see it all the time you'll see the you know the profile say oh you know aspiring cuck looking for my cuckoldress i'm like you are not gonna find her here I can pretty much guarantee that I think yeah right and I think of a femdom munch even though it's not a cuckolding munch it's a good play you know dominant women are generally more interested in finding a cuck or being you know having two men serve them etc and there's a degree of overlap as we've talked about between and card coding so i think that's a good way to step into the lifestyle because if you go regularly you know you start to build up friends you can start to go to you know other munchies or events with them um and because that's how you you know how you get a circle of friends and then you know the know, the possibilities are really endless.
And I don't, I don't think someone would stay single for long if they did that. I really don't. Right.
And it's a big step in taking it from reality, from your, you know, your pornified fantasy to doing things in real life, like real life, speaking to real people, having real conversations and it not just be fantasy focused you know that's a big step and it's a big step to take you know to go to that first month is a big step but it's just realizing that it's just a normal conversation with one other person it's just like going to the pub with yeah a regular friend yeah yeah or meeting someone new if you went out to an event and just chatting with that first opening line that's all it is yeah um okay so beef we're gonna wrap this up but kakti i'm wondering if you can stick around after we say goodbye for a few minutes to record something about this femdom paintball thing that you got going on because i've heard a little bit about it and i'm like damn that's hot as fuck so will you stick around and we can do some bonus recording regarding that i would absolutely love to especially as we did an event yesterday on that so it's fresh in my mind the bruises are fresh too i'm assuming absolutely absolutely i'm more to the point my legs are really aching from running for my life awesome okay well if you want to listen to that make sure that you go to venuscuckoldress.com.
The brand new website is up and running and you can sign up to support the podcast and get access to this private podcast of mine, bonus episodes, and learn all about this femtom paintball, which is savage, as far as I can tell. Cuck T, where can people contact you to connect with you? Oh, yeah, right. So people are welcome to contact me. On my FetLife account, my username is Cuck-T, Cuck-T. It's like the middle dash, Cuck-T. And that's where I'm probably most active. I'm also on Twitter. I'm not massively active on Twitter.
I mainly just use that to look at, you know, what other people are doing. But on Twitter, I'm at Cuck and then underscore S T. Wonderful. Those links will be in the description notes for the episode today. Cuck Tea. thank you so much for joining me on the show today. It has been so much fun. Venus, you're really welcome. As I said, I'm a big follower of yours and I'd love to do this with you. So thank you very much. Okay, that's going to be it for this episode of the Venus Cuckoldris podcast. Thank you so much for joining me. I hope you loved it. Make sure you go to venuscuckoldriss.com.
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