Today s episode features Cuckoldress Abi. She says she is determined to live life to the fullest, and together with her cuck partner Dustin, they have jumped right in to the cuckolding lifestyle as part of their new relationship together. She discusses how they met on a dating app, her initial reactions when he brought it up to her, and what it was like to test him out by cucking him on the first date. Abi delves into the emotional bonds of her relationship and how cuckolding has been a benefit to them both. LinksAbi s links: https://linktr.ee/cuckoldressabigailPillow Talk with Doc Chocolate and Venus - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/eventsVenus s Private Podcast - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/Queens-quarterLinks for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldressBook a private chat with Venus - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/private-chatsVenus Connections Matchmaking - https://www.venusconnections.com/Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ 👑♠️ Maison De Neige is high end lifestyle and streetwear fashion with a passion for the beauty of interracial combined with high fashion. Visit https://www.maisondeneige.com/ ❤️xoafterglow.com❤️ Meet the platform for ethical porn. Made by women, for women (and everyone). We make and share videos that portray sex accurately and treat performers with dignity, because nothing is sexier than consent. Use code VENUS for a free 7 day trial at ➡️ https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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Coming up on venus cuckoldress podcast so you cut him for his birthday is that right oh yes it was yeah his birthday a couple weeks ago yes we're talking about getting married and i want to do something really cool for that so we'll have to plan something really awesome for. But after his birthday, I was like, Oh, this is going to be a tradition every year on your birthday. You are now listening to the Venus Cuckolders podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Go to venuscuckoldress.com.
You'll find the new Queen's Quarters fan destination. Book a one-to-one chat with me, listen to the private podcast, and even get access to my secret Snapchat group where I share some of my most intimate encounters. Now sit back, make yourself comfortable, and let's dive right into this episode. Welcome everyone to the show. I'm your host Venus. Thank you so much for joining me today. And today on the show, I have Cuckoldress Abby. She's going to be talking about her fairly new journey into cuckolding with her partner. And they've only been together for about nine months.
But in that nine months, she has really been determined to live the life to the fullest and has totally, in my opinion, taken a deep dive into the whole world of cuckolding with her partner, Dustin. So this is going to be a great story. You are going to love it. Stay tuned before we jump in. Of course, I have a couple of announcements real quick. The first one is I'm going to be doing a Pillow Talk event. This is going to be monthly with Doc Chocolate, host of the Bulls and Queens podcast. And it's going to be live on the Moan app. And the very first one is going to be Friday, November 17th.
Mark your calendar for 12pm Pacific time that's 3 p.m eastern and you can listen in audio only for free on the moan app it will be live so you have to catch it live or at the same time we will also be broadcasting on video on crowdcast which is also a really fun way to join in because you get to watch what's happening, not just listen. And so if you want to do that, if you want to watch on Crowdcast, you can for free as long as you are a tier member of the Queen's Quarters Fan Club on venuscuckoldress.com. It's a perk for all the tiers.
So it doesn't matter what tier you sign up for, you're going to get free access to the Pillow Talk events. If you want to register for the Crowdcast video event, it's super easy. Just go to venuscackledress.com, click on the link that says events. And the last announcement, this one is really cool. Some of you may remember I used to be on Patreon and fuck Patreon. I'm not a big fan anymore. But anyway, while I was on there, I had quite a few bonus episodes that were Patreon only. And I have uploaded them, all of them, all of the archives.
I have uploaded them onto the private podcast at venuscuckoldress.com. And that is over 60 episodes. That is a lot there. And it's some really juicy stuff. So if you are a member of any one of the supporter tiers, you get access, like I said, to the private podcast. Now you have over 60 extra episodes to choose from. Some of the topics that I cover in those ones are snowballing, sexual denial, cleanup and wedding day surprises, pre-date rituals, bulls who want sex and love, breeding, orgasm control, size queens, and how not to do cuckolding in your relationship.
There's also cuckolding 101 for women and lots more other topics. So make sure you check it out. Just go to venuscuckoldress.com and join any one of the tiers you get access right away you get an email as soon as you sign up that gives you access to the whole thing oh and oh my god i have to mention this this is so fucking amazing okay this was not supposed to be in the announcements but i just remembered this is so fucking cool so some of you probably already know that I have Venus Connections, which is a matchmaking service for singles who are looking for a loving, cuckolding relationship.
And people ask me all the time, do you have any success stories? Well, I sure as fuck do. So one of the couples who I introduced in the matchmaking service are actually getting married next week. That's so amazing. I'm like so fucking thrilled, so happy for them, and I'm just over the moon. So yay, great news for that. Okay, that's enough for announcements. Let's jump in to the show today with Cuckoldress Abby. Here we go. Joining me on the show today, I have a very stunning woman.
Her name is Cuckoldress Abby and it was actually one of my helpful cucks who recommended her as a guest on the show. And she's going to talk about her relationship with her cuck, Dustin. Welcome to the show, Cuckoldress Abby. Thanks for having me. So excited. Yeah, this is going to be a lot of fun. It's been a minute since I've interviewed a cuckoldress for the show. And so I've talked to a lot of cucks along the way. I've talked to a lot of people in different avenues of the lifestyle, but it has been a minute.
And I will say I thoroughly enjoy doing this because I love to hear from the perspective of other women in the lifestyle. So from what I understand about your relationship, you guys have not been together for a long time. So this is new because usually when I'm interviewing someone on the show, they've been like married for like 20 years or whatever. So this is fairly new. So I'm excited to learn about this. Tell me how this all started with you. So, well, we met through a dating app. I had been divorced for a while and I'd heard about this one app that was for kink stuff.
And I was like, I'm going to go out there and find something kinky, you know, and I'm going to live my best life. And like, I do not want to be a monogamous. I want to live the best life I can have. And I want to have the best sex I can have. And so, you know, I was like, I'm adventurous. I'm going to go on this dating app. So I did. And, um, ran into Dustin on there.
And when we started talking, he was like, uh, I said, you know, well, know well first of all he lives in a different town and so that made it helpful but I also just said you know I have no desire to be monogamous at all which at the time I didn't realize but it was like music to his ears to hear that from me yeah so then he was like, oh, really? Well, have you heard of cuckolding? And I was like, Google. So I typed it in to see what it was. And the stuff you read or find when you Google it is just not really that great.
And I was just I think I messaged him back and was just like, ah, yeah, I don't know about any of that. And so he actually sent me your podcast and he was like, you need to listen to this podcast. Like, just listen to it, see what you think. And so kind of went from there. That's amazing. Did, okay. Did he send you like a certain episode? I'm curious. Was he like, oh, you must listen to this one episode? No, no. He just sent me the link to your podcast. He didn't send a specific one. But I remember the one I listened to first.
It was you describing your very first experience in the lifestyle, which was perfect for me to listen to for my first one and honestly after I listened to the way you described it I was like okay well I could probably do that because you sound so much like me like the way you were at younger years you know being promiscuous but scared to let people know and that kind of stuff like so yeah I was just like I like her and I love this we could be bffs yes exactly exactly so I love the fact that that you found some sort of inspiration or under better understanding through that episode.
What I want to kind of backtrack a little bit about, um, how he brought this up to you because there are so many guys out there who are, you know, really, really eager to bring this up to the partner or who are single and looking for a partner in this kind of lifestyle and don't know how to bring it up or when to bring it up yeah but um and I completely understand the part where he's he was excited about the non-monogamy part because I think that's a really good indicator for all the guys listening out there if you're single and you're looking for a woman who's maybe open-minded to this if she's not into monogamy that is a great place to start so at what point like did he have anything in his profile about cuckolding no I feel like he did I feel like in his profile I did say cuckolding or cuck or something like that I do think he did but I didn't really know what it was okay clearly it didn't throw you off no it didn't like at the time I was like oh he's hot so it's like yeah whatever we'll see and then when he messaged me about it I was just like I'm gonna google it and see I think the fact that we met on a kink you know website I he probably felt a lot more comfortable just immediately saying it yeah did he bring it up right away in the conversation or was this something that like after a few days or a week or something that he brought it up it was a few a few conversations back and forth about you know like how are you who are you what are you about and then I was just like you know I'm really not into being monogamous.
So I hope you're okay with that. Yeah. And he was like, absolutely. Of course I am. So not only am I okay with it, I want to see with other people. Yeah. Okay. It's mind blowing, isn't it? I wanted to know what was your reaction?
Like, did you know that this existed before this this never I never even heard of any of it not at all at all and so when he brought up the one-sided part of it like this is you know non-monogamy for you but not for him what were your thoughts on that what was your reaction and it's like that's bullshit there's no way there's that's just there's no way that that is a normal life what kind of a guy is going to be like okay with me fucking whoever I want and only wants to be with me like it's scam like honestly because I was like he's gonna have me do all this stuff and then he's gonna say well actually I want to be with other people too and then I was like and then what am I gonna say no you can't do that like I would have no way to like argue it I in my mind that's really what I thought I thought this is just a hoax like he just wants to trick me so that down the road he can say actually I want more women and I can't argue that because he's watched me with all these other people yeah yeah that's such a common common reaction or thought process when that women have when they first hear about it that's a sneaky backdoor way of allowing him to sleep with other women.
It couldn't be further from the truth no it but not knowing and also we were just starting to get to know each other anyways so it was like okay like I don't even know this person really and I'm supposed to trust this, and it's a whole new thing for me completely. So I was very skeptical about it completely. Did he, like, unload his cuckolding fantasies on you, like, pretty early on, or did he wait? No, he immediately started throwing scenarios at me. He's a, like, throw shit at the wall and see if it sticks kind of person.
So he would, like, send me all this stuff, and I'd be like, oh, my God. Like, oh. And so then I'd be like, I don't know. And so I started watching videos, and I'm like, maybe.
And, like, there was a girl I found that I loved watching, and she makes it look so loving because even when she's with someone she gives her a cuck that love and attention in the moment and I was like that does feel super loving like the way I would watch them like I had this you know favorite person I used to watch and so I don't know I was just like well maybe, well, maybe it could be, but I was like, I'm going to test him. Like, I just need to test him and see, because, you know, it was all so new to me. Yeah. So on our first date, I was like, we're going to do this.
We're going to just do it. I was going to ask you about that. How did, how do you test a guy that you are still getting to know? How do you do that? Well, I feel like most of my life I've dated jealous men. So I thought, okay, well, this will be the deciding point.
He either is going to let me do it and freak out, or he's going to act a certain way or degrade me afterwards or something negative might happen you know because I didn't know for sure so we kind of just I there's a sex club here locally so I was like on our very first date like that's where we went to that and I'd kind of been talking to this other person and so um I was like if you want to meet us there.
And so that guy did, and it was just immediately like that guy kind of helped out because he kind of just took the reins and just started immediately like flirting with me and kissing with me.
And Dustin just was like moving people out of the way to like, and he was like, tell people like does she know him and he was like no they just met and so I could just tell like I could hear him that he meant all the things he had said yeah that about it so wow okay what was the conversation like in the car home well we ended up taking the guy back to our hotel room um and then and then afterwards yeah he was just like wow that was so amazing and it just it really was crazy how much it bonded us together like because it was our first date anyway we We'd only been with each other.
Like before we went out, like we, we kind of, we had our own little date privately and then we went out to that club. So we'd been together sexually that day, but then we went, took that guy home. And then afterwards it was just like, it was such a bonding experience because I thought it would be weird. Like I thought I would be uncomfortable because number one, I'm just meeting this guy and I'm bringing another guy home to like let him watch me with. So yeah, but the conversation was just like how hot it was.
And then being together again, it was just an experience I'll never forget it was just so awesome that's amazing even though you guys barely knew each other this was something that really it sounds like kind of cemented things for you guys because how long have you been together now uh we've been together 10 months now 10 months okay well nine we started dating at the end of january so yeah and you guys you said you live in different towns so this relationship is long distance right right how do you navigate that part of it because that can be hard but also this kind of relationship is kind of good for that yeah well it was well so when it was we first started talking since he lived there you know I said I'm not being monogamous he was like well just keep doing what you're doing just include me you know and so before we even actually met I would just still hook up with people and call him or send him videos or pictures and stuff before we met but I'm like well that's easy he doesn't care about me like you know yeah but now um we try to see each other every other weekend and I think it's good like you like everyone says in order to do this you have to have such good communication so being long distance we couldn't just focus on the physical with us all the time because we weren't together.
So we, we spend so many hours just talking, talking about everything and anything. And it's the best, uh, communicative relationship I've ever had.
Has he ever, like, have you witnessed him ever have a little emotional kind of stumble, um in this journey like has he has he been a rock solid cuck like the entire time or has he been like as he had a moment he's pretty rock solid cuck but he has had a few stumbles he just looked at me um like but it was more it was a communication issue because the the first time we ever had the stumble was uh we were doing a long distance I was I had a bull come over and usually like I'll try and tease him when he's busy like I'll hook up with someone when I know he's busy and so he can't like watch it live.
Yeah. But that day he actually was home and he, I think we had talked about it. I must've forgot, but he was expecting me to FaceTime him and I didn't. And so he had kind of, we had our first fight over like that. And then we laughed over it later. Like, Oh God, our first fight over because you didn't let me watch you have sex with somebody. But yeah, those are the only times which was communication was that time because he thought I was going to call. And then it like two hours went by and he still hadn't heard from me.
And so by then he's like, they're still going at it and I'm getting nothing. And we were actually just talking afterwards but I just didn't communicate like hey it's over I'll call you when he leaves kind of thing but once we ironed that stuff out like I don't think we've ever had anything else he's pretty good like solid well he has experience in this kind of relationship, right? Yeah, he used to be a bull. Like he was a bull before he was a cuck. So his career, he traveled a lot for work. And so he knew he couldn't really have a relationship.
But he loved this lifestyle because he had done it before. Before he really knew that it was cuckolding, he just knew he liked watching his girlfriend with other people um and then when he would travel he knew that he couldn't really have a relationship so he he was a bull for several people but he was always like it's so beautiful like they're reconnecting after it's over it's's bringing them closer. And here I am going home by myself. And he wanted that. Like he loved that. So yeah, he's had a lot of experience in that. So I think that helps a lot.
And I probably, he's, he's told me like in the last relationship he had that he watched her he used to have a lot of cuckings he used to act out like be jealous and things like that that he's learned a lot from that he doesn't do with me so that ah okay yeah well she helped train him for me yeah thanks thanks to whoever you are out there and that happens so often actually where guys start out in the bull role and then they realize what they're missing out in the cuck role and they oddly want to switch so yeah that's not not at all surprising Excellent that he has that kind of experience to draw on because yeah, that emotional turmoil of cuckolding in the beginning can be a little bit challenging.
So when you first started learning about this kind of lifestyle, this kind of relationship, and you guys were obviously, you jumped in headfirst. You're both like, let's do this. Was there a time where you were like attracted to the hot wife label or is it just always been cuckolding always been cuckolding like never had a desire for the hot wife thing just because I'm just I don't want to share him and so he doesn't have any desire for that either so he said he doesn't want anything to do with it so we've just kind of always just decided that this is where we're going to be at.
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i don't want to have to i don't know honestly don't know all the details of hot wiping but i'm assuming it's more like swinger-ish so like you have to swap don't know all honestly don't know all the details of hot wiping but i'm assuming it's more like swingerish so like you have to swap both partners and i'm thinking i'm not taking one for the team yeah and the the in hot wifing the um part the husband is like way more involved sometimes it's like a threesome with your husband and stuff like that and I'm just like yeah I kind of like my fun but um but there there's within cuckolding there's what's often the defining factor between cuckolding and hot wifing is that it includes some kind of teasing or you know kinky shit and stuff like Thank you.
tease me about this or whatever. Yeah. Like, so I listened to so many of your podcasts and stuff and you had a guest on there that was talking about humiliation and things. And so a lot of that has generated a lot of good conversation between us. And so I'm like, are you into that? And he'd be like, yeah. Then I'm like, well, what kind of stuff? And he's like, whatever.
Like he literally just just is like whatever you want to do and in the beginning I was thinking like there's no way I could humiliate him because he's for never one hard to humiliate but what do you mean he's hard to humiliate he just doesn't get embarrassed about stuff like oh he's pretty you haven't figured out what gets him embarrassed yet right yeah. And so like I tease them. Yeah.
he's pretty you haven't figured out what gets him embarrassed yet right yeah yeah and so like I tease him but like he's really well endowed number one so like a lot of times it's hard for me to find a bull that's bigger so for me to tease him like about having a small cock I can't do that because he's like whatever you know that kind of thing and so um but the more I did it like I do it I used to do it a lot more like always one-on-one would tease him and I always would like mostly tease him about me being with other people and what I liked and I did a lot of that but just recently because like I've made him wear lingerie for me but I was like I don't think I could do that in front of a bull because how humiliating would that be for him but this uh last bull we were with I was like I'm going for it and I'm not even gonna tell him I'm gonna just make him wear it and so I did on him like that oh my god how did that go he did it but like later he was like I can't believe he did that it was that was real that was some real humiliation because number one like the bull was somebody that he kind of was like I don't know was a someone in a similar career as him.
And so he was just like, that's kind of weird having that aspect of it. And then I'm having to wear lingerie in front of them. Like, and you didn't even ask me, he was like, I was laughing to myself. Like I've never been in this position. It is really kind of humiliating. Oh, you found it.
You found the one thing it humiliates them yeah did you guys have a conversation after that where he was like I don't want to do that again or no no he's he's down for anything really wow I'm gonna have to step it up do more oh my god it's so awesome there's all these guys listening right now who are like oh my god that's so hot I know yes um okay so let's talk a little bit about the kinky stuff in your relationship so you talked about like humiliation stuff and um that this is all very you know bonding and stuff like that but have you what about like things like um chastity pegging uh forced by aspects i mean i know you guys are still like you are very new to all of this i don't assume that you've you know been able to dive into all of those things or wanted to, but what's it been like for you?
Are those things that you've looked into, thought about, or want to try? Yeah. So we've always done chastity since the beginning. And at first I was like, you know, like everything else, I feel like I'm kind of like, he'll say something and I'll be like, ah, I don't know.
And then the more I think about it, I'm like, yeah, okay yeah okay so the whole chastity thing he was always into it before me like he already had the devices and stuff but it felt mean to me but now I love it like I'm like um excuse me I don't see you have your cage on what are you doing where do you think you're going I love it like it just feels so fun to have control and like be able to tell him when or where or what he can do. I love that. It's so fun. Did you guys start out kind of tame with the chastity thing where like he's locked up for like a day or something? Yeah. Yeah.
We would just do it. Like if we were playing with someone, Like I'd make him wear it or since he's up there I'd make him wear it like all day you know until we were together again ah okay okay but we've kind of had a hard time finding a cage that fits him well that doesn't like cause us or something so we're still trying to get the best cage for that but I love um the chastity. And then the whole pegging aspect, I was like, I mean, I'm kind of like, I'll try a lot of things. So I was like, well, I'll try it and see. And then once I did, I was like, Oh, my God, I love this. This is so fun.
So and he's like, he tells me I look like I'm in a trance. I don't know. It's just something really empowering about pegging. Like it's so hot to make a guy like whimper and like the noises they make and to feel so powerful. I love it. Yeah. I love it. Me too.
I thought I would hate it for the longest time and then i just i did it and i was like oh my god i've been missing out right i know and i'm like oh my god if if more men knew how good this was like they need to be doing this yeah absolutely yeah and like i think women are scared of it because they think of what does this mean of my husband but they shouldn't be because it is awesome I love it but the whole forced by that always scared me like I didn't understand it like I still kind of iffy about it like I'm still kind of but like I said he's down for anything so this last bull we were with was very comfortable with everything and so I thought I'm just gonna try it like I'm gonna see about it and try it and I didn't tell him about it so uh but yeah so I I did that we did that for his birthday actually um and so we did that and then I was surprisingly I mean it didn't like make me crazy hot like I didn't think like oh that's so hot but I like I must obviously love power because I like I thought I love being able to tell him what to do and tease him during it and afterwards when he was watching the video back he's like, it wasn't really hot to do, but it was hot listening to you tease me like giggle and laugh at me.
Yeah. He liked that. So I'll definitely do it again. That sounds amazing.
I mean, yeah, I guess the communication between you guys is easier in when there's no real boundaries yeah he's yeah i can't imagine do anything yeah so he has no like like has he told you okay this is like a hard no for me this one thing or has he really been like anything pretty much well pretty much anything but he has a limit like okay i don't want a dude to to have sex to penetrate me you know i i don't really want that right and i think he's kind of maybe open to it but he's like okay but i need to know the size of the thing if you're gonna make me if you're gonna make me do i'm not doing a big huge bbc like i need uh i ain't doing that i'm not gonna die that's so typical the guys are so scared of the size they're scared i know i'm like no if i get it if i have to take it you have to take oh my gosh i love it so you cut him for his birthday is that right oh yes it was yeah his birthday a couple weeks ago yes do you have like an epic Christmas gift a cuckling Christmas gift for him I don't know we should we're yeah we should we're talking about getting married and I want to do something really cool for that so we'll have to plan something really awesome for that but after his birthday I was like oh this is going to be a tradition every year on your birthday so do you have any like goals for next year 2024 that you're thinking of doing when it comes to this relationship that you're in well I definitely we're definitely going to get married so um take that to the next level and then um I've only I really like I know I heard you say you were saving like a gangbang situation for wedding too and I'm like I I like that idea like that idea.
Cause I want it to be something super special. Yeah. It's also scary. Cause I'm like, how do you manage like so many guys at one time? What are you supposed to do? I know. Overwhelming, right? I know it's got nerve wracking a little bit. So I kind of want to, I kind of want to try that.
So, but I want to save that for something something special like i've thought about having one of the bulls marry us do the actual ceremony and sign the certificate and no one else would really know it but us i would love that that's so awesome we have to like we got to start a trend okay abby we're gonna start a trend for like wedding day cuckolding epic fantasies yeah that's so awesome oh my god i'm i'm gonna want all the details you know that you're gonna be back on the show you just know that i know i'm like i have my list of like dream bulls i want there so i'm gonna have to reach out to all of them hopefully they get along and so you have you have kids from a previous marriage right yeah I have actually two previous marriages so I have big kids and I have little kids so I have like two sets four total but yeah for kids so how like how do you manage because this is like a really fun sexy lifestyle you know where you're doing lots of stuff and it's just like kinky and everything how do you manage to have that separate from the mom role well it's hard sometimes um luckily I I mean, the good thing about being divorced is like every other weekend I have free time.
So I try to just schedule it around that. And then I do have days off during the week because I don't work. I work four days. So I like to schedule full dates in the middle of the day if I can, when kids are at school. Yeah. But yeah, that that is definitely a challenge because some guys don't understand that I can't be kinky all the time or I can't be texting all the time or that, you know, it's like they think you're constantly doing this lifestyle and it's like, I live a normal life too.
So that is a little little bit of a challenge and did you ever like when you were getting into this or have you anywhere along the way felt any kind of like shame like oh you know I'm shame around being slutty or people finding out and slut shaming you or anything like that I do worry about people finding out and slut-shaming you or anything like that? I do worry about people finding out some. Like two of my girlfriends know. I've told two of my girlfriends about this. But as far as anyone else, no one knows. And that's just because I just don't know how to keep my mouth shut.
I've got to talk about this stuff because I'm like one of my girlfriends i'm like you would love this lifestyle but um yeah i those two people i know wouldn't shame me i would be afraid of my older boys finding out or somebody like they know finding out that is worry that does worry me um and i think in the beginning like in the very beginning i didn't even like the word slut like i would tell dustin like don't call me that like don't call me that i don't like it because it was a trigger from being in an abusive relationship in the past but now i love it now i just he makes me feel so comfortable and confident.
And he just is like, I love how slutty you are. Like, I just, I embrace it now. But I don't know that I feel a shame other than not wanting people to find out because more so because they just want to understand. like a lot of people I think would look down on this because they don't understand it. Like I didn't understand it in the beginning either. Like they don't think it's loving, but it is, it really is. It is so bonding and it is so connecting. Do you have like certain things that you do for like aftercare?
I know that's like a very common term in like the BDSM kink world where you have to, you know, do some certain things after in order to kind of feel balanced together again. Like, do you, do you do anything specifically for that we always go um when we're together with a bowl we always go out for dinner drinks right after even if it's super late we'll always go get drinks after and we like relive it together and we just talk about it and we're like on this high you know um and then, and then we re he reclaims me afterwards. And then he usually, he's like, don't take a shower.
Cause he likes to do it again in the morning. That's awesome. But yeah, we always do that. And that's great. I'm surprised you go out for drinks afterwards. Like I'd be like, I'm fucking beat.
I got mascara down my face you know like I don't want to do my hair like I look like I got fucked I'm not going out to a bar I think that's what he likes about it showing off your girlfriend who just got fucked yeah and nobody knows it was from somebody else oh my god that's hilarious yeah um okay so what if i know this is probably never going to happen but what if dustin was like you know honey i i actually don't think I can do this anymore. Like I, I, you know, I really liked it, but it's, it's just too much for me. Like, I think we need to stop or take a break.
What, what, like, what would you do? Have you thought about that? I haven't thought about that scenario. Like I have, cause I don't think he would ever do that. Uh, the only thing I thought like since we are just dating and like especially in the beginning I was like well what if this doesn't work out you know um what then what do I do I can't ever go back to vanilla life you know yeah um if he ever wanted to stop I I don't know I'd really have to think about that because I don't, I don't think I ever, I don't ever want to stop the lifestyle.
Um, you know, or if we were to ever not work out in the beginning, I was like, well, I'm gonna have to find another cuck because I'm hooked on this lifestyle. There's no way I could ever go back. But those the things I've thought about I completely relate I'm like I could never go back to regular dating oh just the thought of it just makes me just oh no I know I was like in the beginning I'm like you've ruined me like you've you're stuck with me now because you've ruined me this is is my life. I can never go back. Oh my goodness. Okay.
Before we talk about your OnlyFans, I want to just ask you now you've, it's been 10 months that you've been, you know, diving into this.
Um, what advice do you have for any women who might be in that kind of position that you were in where you got you know that cuckolding term brought like dumped on you like oh you know and you were kind of like I don't know what would be your advice for women who their partner is is trying to bring this up as well or trying to like tell them that they're into cuckolding what would you say to women out there i would say don't count it out so quickly like give it a chance do your research like listen to podcasts don't just google like just don't google and just take that as say i'll be all and like i actually get messages about this from guys on on the internet all of the time like how do I approach and I'm like okay well I feel like the easiest thing is to if they're unsure like go take your wife out to a bar and let her just even just flirt with somebody and then see how your husband see how your husband reacts just seeing you flirting because if he can't handle that then he definitely he might think he wants to be a cuck but he can't yeah so i would i would suggest that like just i i feel like i just and dustin laughs at me because he's like you just went in head first but a lot of girls, they wouldn't.
Um, but like start with flirting or maybe going on a date with a guy or even just kissing a guy at a bar and see how your husband reacts. And then, because I've told Dustin all the time, if he would have ever reacted negatively to anything, it would have been over for me.
Like just because of my past you know or if he would have shamed me or made me feel gross or dirty or bad so cuck if somebody really wants to be a cuck they could never do that because you're just going to shut your wife or partner down immediately yeah yeah that would that'll be the end of it yeah yeah um any advice for newbie couples who have let's say they've decided to go down this road and they're total like cuckolding virgins uh any advice for them i would say take your time and picking a bowl i don't i don't think I did that well enough I think I was just like anybody like let's just try it because I was like anybody who's willing to like especially the first person we took back to the hotel it wasn't the greatest experience just because it wasn't be someone I would normally choose to take home but I wanted the experience with Dustin to like see if he was for sure about the whole situation uh I would say take your time because it's hard to find someone you mesh with that you can have a good sex with um because I feel like I mean maybe that's just for me but it makes a big difference if it's really good sex as opposed to like just mediocre or terrible you know yeah yeah absolutely okay so at what point did you decide I'm gonna start on OnlyFans and how come you decided to go down that road?
I, gosh. So, well, it took me forever even just to get a Twitter. Because I was like, I am not getting on there. People are going to find me. People I know are going to find me. I'm not getting on there. Dustin had had a Twitter forever. I didn't even know there was like an X-rated version of Twitter until he showed me, like to change my set. I didn't even know. So I was like, well, hell I am not getting on Twitter. People are going to know. He's like, you don't have to show your face. And I'm like, eh, I don't know. So he ended up setting up my Twitter. It's all under his stuff.
So like if anybody were to search my number or something, it's all under him. So that's the only way I even felt comfortable with Twitter. And so then I was on Twitter for a couple months and I was like, okay, I don't think anyone can really find me. And we have all this hot content because we filmed it anyway.
I might as well make a couple of dollars to like get some sexy clothes or travel to see a bull that I really want to see so I was like well I'll just do it and just blur my face so that's kind of I just kind of dipped my toes in very slowly to the OnlyFans and I think I had like four or five fans forever and then um yeah I don't have a ton honestly but it just pays enough for me to like get some cute clothes and stuff yeah well probably after this episode airs you'll have a few more yeah I need to get some more content for everybody listening the link will be in the show notes for today all right this is a good time to wrap this up.
It's been so fascinating talking with you. Um, and I feel like I relate to you on so many levels. Our stories are so similar, which is so awesome. And I really do believe that a lot of people listening, a lot of women listening, guys listening, couples listening are going to find this really helpful for them.
So thank you for sharing your story uh where can people find your only fans and more about you um so on my twitter page they can follow me on twitter at cuckoldress abby and then there's a link there which i can share free to pin the show notes but i don't know the handle or off the top of my head, but they can go to my Twitter and it's linked there. Awesome. Well, big shout out to helpful cuck Ryan for recommending you as a guest for the show. He's so great. Yep. And he's got a Venus tattoo. It's so amazing. No, I love it. I love it.
He was the first one to get a Venus tattoo so oh he's he's amazing he's really and his accent is so fucking cute oh my god I know I was talking to him on my way to uh see Dustin for his birthday rendezvous and he was we were voice messaging and i was like my God, your voice is so awesome. There's something about Irish accents. They're adorable. I know. And I was like, I have lots of plans for Cuck for his birthday. He was like, tell me all about it.
So he actually knew a lot of the plans for Cuck's birthday before anyone else did because i was like i'm getting a birthday cake and he's gonna have to eat it off the bowl stick and it's gonna be amazing oh my god is that on your only fans it's all we're getting ready to release it yeah oh we haven't released that video yet but yeah he had to eat his birthday cupcake off my bowl oh my god well abby it's been so fun And I'll see you next time.
he had to eat his birthday cupcake off my bowl oh my god well abby it's been so fun to have you on the show and to get to know you and your story so thank you so much for for doing this thank you so much for having me it was awesome that's gonna be it for the episode today thanks so much for joining me i hope you loved it like i said in the beginning of the show just go to venuscuckoldress.com if you want to book a private chat with me book your spot in the pillow talk event join the queen's quarters community chat about everything that's going on with the show and of course you can join the helpful cuck tier get access to my secret snapchat group which is where i must admit i've been posting some pretty spicy stuff just a little bit of a treat for those locktober end days and okay make sure you follow me on Twitter or whatever the fuck it's called.
My handle is at Cuckoldress V, although I'm shadow banned. So you probably have to search for me a little bit differently. But anyway, I am on there. And also on Instagram, which loves to shadow ban me as well. The Venus Cuckoldress podcast on there. All right. That's it for today's show. We'll see you next time. have you heard of afterglow you guys this is so amazing you've you've probably heard me talk about cuck porn before and how much i'm not really a big fan and why because it's not really made for women right but afterglow is different Afterglow is ethical porn made by women for women.
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