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On this episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. I text him, but he didn't respond. All the excitement of the moment faded away for me when I couldn't reach my partner. I felt empty and lost. He wasn't there. The next morning, I reached out to my boyfriend to begin conversation about the night, but I ran into him being highly bothered with me. I kind of came up with an excuse that he was a married guy. He's in an unhappy marriage, but I came up with the excuse that I didn't want to ruin his family, you know, that stuff. Reality, it was just me just like kind of getting out of it.
All right, this guy fucked up. His one opportunity, he fucked it up totally. And I don't think that she did anything wrong, honestly. You are literally the luckiest cuck ever. Don't forget that. Like, literally the luckiest cuck. You know how many guys out there would just kill for that opportunity? You literally have to accept that this is who you are and let go of the shame that you're carrying around with it because cucks don't need to be ashamed they really don't i don't care what anybody says cucks are wonderful they are the best. They're the best boyfriends.
They're literally fucking amazing. And any woman would be so lucky to have one as a life partner. And so what is the shame in that? Two people in love who are super fucking happy and making each other happy by giving each other this wonderful gift that you get in a cup holding relationship. There is no shame in that. Literally no shame. Let's end that stigma. So guys, listen to me when I say this.
If your woman is planning something something like this even if you are feeling a little jittery or anxious or insecure or whatever if this and especially if this is a new relationship this is what you need to do this is what she needs from you you need to be totally on point for. You need to be her biggest cheerleader when it comes to stuff like this. You need to be on time. You need to be completely ready for this and you need to have unwavering support for her. Trust a hundred percent.
Let go of that insecurity that you have let go of that insecurity that you have let go of that doubt that you have let go of the fear that you have in that moment just let it go you are literally giving her the most significant gift to be able to do this with you and she's giving you the most incredible gift of being involved in some way so do not fuck it up We'll be right back. And she's giving you the most incredible gift of being involved in some way. So do not fuck it up. You likely will never get another chance like that again. Welcome to the Venus Cuckoldress podcast.
A place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the Venus blog. And of course, if you love it, share it. Now, sit back, make yourself comfortable, and enjoy the show with your host Venus. Welcome to this episode of the Venus Cuckledress podcast. I'm your host Venus. Today I'm going to talk all about a big huge mistake that cucks often make And I've heard host, Venus.
Today, I'm going to talk all about a big, huge mistake that cucks often make. And I've heard this from other women, I've heard it from cucks, and I've actually experienced it myself as well. So let's file this episode under the what not to do in a cuck relationship category. And the reason why I'm talking about this today is because I've had some listeners submit some questions on the Venus hotline regarding this issue. So I wanted to kind of bring it up and address it and give you my two cents about what to do and what not to do when it comes to this. All right.
So the first caller is a woman and she's had a pretty disastrous first experience with cuckolding, but I was still thrilled to have a call from a woman. So here we go. Let's have a listen and see what happened. Hi Venus. I was introduced to your podcast by my boyfriend of a few weeks when I met online. I'm vanilla. We're not experiencing this lifestyle, but he does. This lifestyle sounded so exciting to me to have my cake and eat it too, that I can love him and have satisfaction with Big Dick and share with him. After a few weeks of dating, we were intimate.
I admit that it was new to me and I was vanilla for most part. I realized then how deep my feelings for him were Thank you. After a few weeks of dating, we were intimate. I admit that it was new to me, and I was vanilla for most part. I realized then how deep my feelings for him were getting. Before spending the night, we had talked about me feeling attracted to the lifestyle, but still feeling a bit shy about it. It needed time for that side of me to come out. I trust him, so a week later, I had the chance to meet with a bull. It was unplanned but I wanted to surprise him.
I wouldn't have fucked the guy without his knowledge. So I told my boyfriend about it and I text him that I will text him after. I was excited. I wanted my boyfriend to wait and wonder what Big Dick was doing to me. Then I will text him right after for a descriptive conversation and have our intimate moment. Well, it didn't go as planned. I text him, but he didn't respond. All the excitement of the moment faded away for me when I couldn't reach my partner. I felt empty and lost. He wasn't there.
The next morning, I reached out to my boyfriend to begin conversation about the night but I ran into him being highly bothered with me. My first experience was off and whether he comes back to me or he decides to stop seeing me, I want to learn more and explore this side of me. He feels it was thoughtless which it really hurt my feelings because I did it for us to get a deeper bond. This is what it's all about. Maybe I jumped too soon and she'll have waited to learn more and better plan our first experience.
So my question to you is, are there any groups or any sites that I could connect with other ladies in the lifestyle to learn from? Please help Venus. Sincerely, Vanilla in love with my cock. All right, this guy fucked up his one opportunity. He fucked it up totally. And I don't think that she did anything wrong.
Honestly, I think that he made a mistake that a lot of cucks make, especially new cucks, or even just cucks who've wanted this for a very long time and all of a sudden have the opportunity to have this play out with someone who they have feelings with and realize that actually cuck emotions, that cuck angst feeling is a lot more difficult to deal with than they had ever imagined. So I will say this kind of experience has happened to me before. It really fucking sucks. So girl, I can completely relate with you on this one, 100%.
So with new cuck relationships, the common problems, like I said, is he can't process those cuck emotions in a positive way. He starts to doubt himself. He gets insecure. He might get a little bit scared, especially at the last minute, or he'll start trying to make a bunch of rules, limits, boundaries, things like that at the very, you know, as the day approaches. And it's just sort of like the safety blanket to kind of, you know, give him reassurance. Guys, don't do this. This is brutal.
Or a guy will just literally, I have found this before, a guy will literally just sabotage the relationship completely. Like he can't deal with these feelings. So he will fuck up the relationship in all sorts of ways. Like he will make sure that this encounter doesn't happen or he'll start a fight about it, an argument about something else or something like that. Like guys deal with this in a really shitty way. Please don't do this to women.
This is incredibly damaging to relationships and it's incredibly damaging to women who are brave enough to really put themselves out there for you, for her, for you, and try this kind of relationship and have an experience like this. Like she's completely vanilla. She has never done anything like this before. This is hugely brave of her. She's completely outside of her comfort zone. And she is organizing this, planning this with you in mind because she wants that kind of experience with you. And when you fuck it up on that first time, you are likely never going to get that chance again.
She's either going to fucking walk away. She's going to be so turned off, so disappointed, so upset about what had just happened and start doubting herself and think she did something wrong and everything like that, that she will walk away. She'll either find somebody else to have this kind of relationship with and leave you in the dust, or she will never, ever try this ever again. So for all you guys out there, let me just say this.
When a woman plans this kind of thing, even if it's a surprise or you are aware of it or whatever, if she is planning this kind of encounter with a bull for the first time, this is a very, very big thing that she's doing for you. You are the literally the luckiest cuck ever. Don't forget that. Like literally the luckiest cuck. You know how many guys out there would just kill for that opportunity or are stuck in a vanilla marriage and would just, you know, do anything to have their wife try something like that, this guy had that opportunity and he completely fucked it up.
So guys, listen to me when I say this. If your woman is planning something like this, even if you are feeling a little jittery or anxious or insecure or whatever, if this, and especially if this is a new relationship, this is what you need to do. This is what she needs from you. You need to be totally on point for her. You need to be her biggest cheerleader when it comes to stuff like this. You need to be on time. You need to be completely ready for this, and you need to have unwavering support for her. Literally unwavering.
If you are having doubts or whatever in your mind, just fuck off with that shit. Don't even let her see it, hear it, nothing. You guys can talk about that later at a later time, but this big night is not the time for that shit. You need to have some solid emotional strength for her. She's being really brave by doing this. You need to support her. But most importantly, you need to trust her completely. Trust 100%. Let go of that insecurity that you have.
Let go of that insecurity that you have let go of that doubt that you have let go of the fear that you have in that moment just let it go you are literally giving her the most significant gift to be able to do this with you and she's giving you the most incredible gift of being involved in some way. So do not fuck it up. You likely will never get another chance like that again. For couples who've been together for a long time, solid relationship for a very, very long time, maybe were vanilla for years and then are now trying cuckolding.
You probably will be able to get past something like a mistake like this by using communication and working through it and stuff. But it may be a very, very long time until she tries it again, if ever.
But the relationship itself will likely survive if it's a strong, healthy relationship, but for all of the people out there who are dating with this kind of relationship in mind, and like I've said in previous podcasts, this tradition, this kind of relationship cuckolding was, has traditionally for a very long time been only prevalent in long standing marriages that have been, you know, they've been married for a very long time and they start cuckolding and stuff like that. So the idea that people would be dating with this thing in mind, it was unheard of until recently.
So now people are actually feeling more open, um, and, and a little less scared to admit what kind of relationship that they want or to ask for what they want in the beginning of the dating process. And that is awesome. That's really great. But having said that, so there's a lot of people out there, there's a lot of guys out there who really want this and women, hopefully too, who really want this kind of relationship in the very beginning. And so this is a conversation that you have in the beginning and it's super fucking hot. It's super sexy.
It's so exciting, especially, you know, when you are developing those feelings for somebody and it's just like, holy fuck, take it from me. It's insanely hot. But for all of those people out there who are doing that, you're going to run into this issue so often. So guys, single guys out there, please listen to me when I say that you need to pay attention to what I'm saying here today, because you won't be able to afford making a mistake like that, like he did. She will be so upset and so discouraged that she's just gonna walk away. So don't fuck it up.
Now, to answer your question about where to find other women in this lifestyle, I'm so happy that you asked that because it is my mission in life to really create this movement of women within this lifestyle who can connect and encourage each other and we can learn from each other and have that kind of collective voice in this lifestyle. So I would encourage you to participate in my Pillow Talks livecast that I have through my Patreon. So if you visit venuscuckledress.com, you'll see a link to my Patreon. And every few weeks, I'll do a livecast episode event.
And lately, I've had lots of women joining me so it is so much fun where a bunch of us women can get together and we can answer lots of questions. We can talk about issues and things like that and it's a really great way to connect with love now in a lifestyle clothing brand you can wear with pride don't sacrifice quality and comfort any longer with Maison Dinege you get both in fresh empowering looks for, for everyone. From the streets to the sheets and everywhere in between. Check us out at MaisonDinesh.com. Maison Dinesh Couture. Modern fashion for the modern revolution.
Hi, Venus um my name is rick i've been listening to your podcast i actually listen to all of them um my problem or challenge i guess you'd say would be um that it's not my girlfriend that has the problem with, uh, this lifestyle. I think she'd be, and I know she would be based on our, um, you know, our conversations and such, but it's actually me. Um, I was brought up in like a, more of a traditionally Catholic style household where anything outside the norm was considered to be like sinful. And I just need to get over this hump.
I've this lifestyle is something that I want to definitely try and at at least, like I've said, that I tried it. Yeah, I just need a little help trying to get over the hump for myself. We actually got as close to having one of her friends at work who was willing to experiment with us.
And he wasn't an experienced like bull or anything like that but he was very willing to help us explore the lifestyle and I kind of came up with an excuse that he you know he was a married guy he's in an unhappy marriage but I came up with the excuse that that I didn't want to like ruin his family and all that stuff reality it was just me just like kind of getting out of it um but she is extremely attracted to him he's extremely attracted to her uh they have chemistry together They actually went i they went out on a date um to like you know find out more about like what we want to do and we were that close but i uh i just can't seem to get over that hump so anyway i don't know if you can address that on your next podcast uh guys that have trouble making it at making it happen because I I think this could be a really cool lifestyle I mean she her sex drive is a lot higher than mine although I do like sex and it really turns me on to think about her with other guys you know that's about, that's about it.
I guess that's all I'll say. And, um, I appreciate your time. I appreciate your podcast and it's very informative in a non-corn kind of way. All right. Thank you for that question. Um, question. And I'm happy to talk about it. I have found in my experience with Cox over the years that, and this is, I found so fascinating to learn about this in the very beginning because I had like no idea that Cox struggled with this so much. To me, it seemed just like an amazing kind of relationship. I had zero idea about all of the shame that comes along with being a cuck for a lot of guys anyway.
And so from what I understand, this is kind of how it goes for a lot of guys out there, if not all of them. Like, I don't know if I've ever met one cuck who didn't struggle with this at some point in time. I think how it starts is obviously like a guy will come across it in porn or something like that and be turned on by it and be like, oh, that's fucking awesome. I, you know, super hot, whatever. And might have this kind of reaction of like, that's kind of weird. I don't know why I feel like turned on by that, but I just do. It's likely something that's just a phase, it'll pass, whatever.
But as time goes by, they realize, they think about it more and more, that they fantasize about it more and more, that they feel like they need it more, and yet they're still going through life thinking, you know what, I'm trying to push this out of my mind, I'm trying to not think about it, this is weird, like why do I get turned on by that? That's what guys ask me all the time, why does this turn me on this is shouldn't turn me on, but it does. I'm like, I don't fucking know. Who cares? It's great. But like, this seems to be this like big struggle in their mind.
And then comes like, as time goes by, there's a real tug of war that happens in a cuck's brain where you'll be like, oh, you know, I think I actually do want this and kind of try to pursue it, at least take steps towards that, but still have an enormous amount of shame or cuck fear going on. So they may all of a sudden just pull away. And it's like this internal tug of war going on between what they actually really want and what their brain is saying like, oh, well, you shouldn't want that. That's not right. You shouldn't want that. Don't do it. And this goes on for ages.
And it's like, at some point in your life, you're going to come to the realization that this is just who you are and there's nothing wrong with it. And you just accept it and have peace with it. For each guy, this happens at a different time in their life. unfortunately for a lot of them this happens when they are already married with kids in a completely vanilla relationship with a woman who would never want to do something like this and so by the time they've actually accepted it, they're fucked because they could never actually have what it is that's going to make them truly happy.
I mean, they're probably really happy in their life, but they're never going to be completely fulfilled when it comes to their sexuality and intimacy around sexuality. So it's a fucking sad story, but it sounds like that's what's on with this guy is um he's having this kind of internal tug of war um and he does not know how to get over it now as far as how to get over it honestly i don't know it just you literally have to accept that this is who you are and let go of the shame that you're carrying around with it. Because cucks don't need to be ashamed. They really don't.
I don't care what anybody says. Cucks are wonderful. They are the best husbands. They're the best boyfriends. They're literally fucking amazing. And any woman would be so lucky to have one as a life partner. And so what is the shame in that? There's no shame in that. And really, it's no different than a non-monogamous kind of relationship. And those are super fucking popular right now. It's not that like nobody's doing that and it's really, really taboo like it used to be. Honestly, non-monogamy is everywhere now, literally everywhere. So this shouldn't be so weird.
If anything, this is just like two people in love who are super fucking happy and making each other happy by giving each other this wonderful gift that you get in a cuckolding relationship. There is no shame in that. Literally no shame. Let's end that stigma. And I have to say, if you are in this position like this guy is where his wife is ready to try this like just like said before, you are the luckiest fucking guy in the world. Literally the luckiest guy. You should be like thrilled. Don't sabotage this opportunity. Don't be canceling plans. Don't be making excuses at the last minute.
Don't be, you know, doubting her or him or whatever it is that you're doing to sabotage this opportunity that you have because you can't process these feelings that are going on in your head. Do not do that. You are presented with this amazing opportunity. You have to go for it. You have to trust her. You have to trust the love between you guys and go for it. And you'll see that this experience is fucking phenomenal. And you'll look back on it someday and think, oh, I wish I would have just let go of that internal tug of war in my brain much sooner.
I'm just curious, Venus um so I had a cuckolding relationship with my ex-wife for about the last two and a half years of our marriage um we got divorced for reasons not related to cuckolding but my issue that I always had is that although we both loved it Thank you.
We got divorced for reasons not related to cuckolding, but my issue that I always had is that although we both loved it and we both loved it more as we got deeper into it, no matter what would happen when we would fight and you're trying to hurt somebody, I would always kind of bring up the cuckolding as something that was wrong with her. And I had a really hard time like, um, articulating anger and not bringing it back to, um, you know, that she cheated or something like that. It's a terrible thing for me to do.
And then of course she would go back to her, you know, like her typical hurtful things that you would imagine you'd say to a cuck. But I'd say the hardest thing for me would be to resolve, was resolving, you know, intense disagreements or fights without bringing up the cuckolding. And we never really did quite figure it out. And I'm just curious if you have any guidance or experience along those lines. Thanks. Thank you for your question. And I'm sorry that your relationship didn't work out.
I have heard about this from other women who've said that their spouse tends to bring up cuckolding or her role in the cuckolding relationship and use it as a kind of a weapon, a verbal weapon in an argument or disagreement. And honestly, I can't think of anything more damaging. That is awful. It takes a lot for women to be able to take this step in this kind of relationship, but to own their sexuality and not feel shame around being a slut and, you know, being promiscuous, it takes a lot of bravery for women to do that.
And for a guy, for the husband or boyfriend who she trusts to attack her on those points, oh my goodness, that is so incredibly damaging. I think that if that's going on in your relationship, your relationship is fucked and destined to fail. And I know that might sound harsh, but I can't think of anything worse, honestly. The only thing that's worse or maybe equally as bad is, you know, a relationship where she falls in love with a bull and actually leaves her husband or boyfriend. That is catastrophic. And that does happen in these kind of relationships.
But yeah, for a guy to be attacking a woman or for her to be attacking him about cuckoldry during an argument and using it as a weapon, I think is unforgivable. All right, I'm going to thank everyone for submitting questions for today's episode. I really, really appreciate the opportunity to be able to talk about these things, and I'm so glad that you've sent them in. I have had really amazing comments, questions, and feedback that people have submitted on the Venus hotline. And if you would like to send me a quick voice message, you can.
You can go to venuscuckledris.com, click on the tab that says the Venus hotline, and you can also find a subscribe page on venuscuckledris.com where you can subscribe to the podcast and never miss an episode. There's also a blog on there that I've been writing for about five years now. And so there's a lot of other information on there, lots of great resources too. So make sure you go and check it out. You can also follow me on Twitter at CuckoldressV and I'm on there a lot. So that's always a fun place to catch me. I am trying Instagram one more time. We'll see how long it lasts this time.
But I did create another account on Instagram. Hopefully it won't get banned again. Anyway, it's under, I think it's like Venus Cuckoldriss, no Cuckoldriss Venus podcast, something like that. Anyway, you can find me on there. I'm also on stupid fucking Facebook now too, because apparently that's where you need to be. So you can find me at the Venus podcast on Facebook if you want to look me up there as well. All right, coming up in January, it's the one year anniversary of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. I can't believe it.
I have been on Twitter doing a 2020 year in review, where I'm going through, you know, all of the amazing things that happened this year out of all the shit show kind of garbage, doom and gloom that 2020 has been, there's been some amazing, amazing things that have happened with the podcast. So check that out. But I'm so excited for the one year anniversary. And there's going to be some really great perks for my Patreon supporters. So make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com. Check out the Patreon link. And if you choose to sign up and support the podcast, thank you so much.
You also get access to the Pillow Talk episodes. They are live video casts that I do for my Patreon supporters every few weeks and tons of fun. You get to ask whatever you want. I'm on video. You type in the questions. And lately, lots of my wonderful female friends in this lifestyle have been joining me. So what could be more fun than a really casual Saturday night spent with Venus and a whole bunch of other wonderful cuckdresses? So make sure you go to Patreon to support the podcast if you love it. Thank you. And that's it for today's episode. We'll see you next time.
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