Lifestyle Q&A
What is pegging?
Pegging is when a woman penetrates a male partner anally using a strap-on dildo. The practice is common in BDSM, kink, and lifestyle contexts as part of a power-exchange dynamic, but it's also done by vanilla couples purely for the prostate stimulation. Successful pegging requires patient preparation, generous lubrication, and slow pacing — first-timers typically work up across multiple sessions before sustained penetration is comfortable.
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Glossary terms in this answer
- Vanilla
- A person who is not part of the lifestyle or kink community, or sexual activity that is conventional and monogamous. Used descriptively, not pejoratively — many lifestylers maintain "vanilla" friendships and work relationships.
- BDSM
- A composite acronym covering Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), and Sadism and Masochism (SM). BDSM communities have historically been distinct from the swinger lifestyle but the two overlap heavily — many lifestyle events host BDSM nights and many lifestyle profiles list specific kink interests.
- Kink
- Any non-conventional sexual interest, dynamic, or practice — broader than BDSM, narrower than "everything not vanilla". A "kinky" lifestyle profile typically signals openness to power exchange, fetish wear, role-play, or specific interests beyond standard swinging. Kink communities have their own etiquette, vocabulary, and venues that sometimes overlap with the lifestyle.