The lifestyle scene runs on a year-long calendar of conventions, hotel takeovers, resort weeks, and cruises. For couples sampling beyond their local club, picking the right one is half the experience. Here is the practical map — which events, when, and who they suit.
The flagship conventions
- Naughty in N'Awlins — Annual, July, New Orleans. One of the largest US lifestyle takeovers; multiple host hotels in the French Quarter; workshops, vendor convention floor, themed nightly parties, dedicated play space. Best for: established couples, multi-night attendance, broad-spectrum lifestyle culture.
- Casual Swinger Week — Multiple per year, resort takeovers and cruises. Newcomer-friendly tone. Best for: couples sampling resort takeovers without the depth of NIN.
- Wanderlust Swingers events — Year-round calendar of themed lifestyle vacations and takeovers. Best for: couples planning an annual lifestyle travel year.
Cruise takeovers
- Bliss Cruise — Multiple sailings/year, US East Coast departure ports. Largest US lifestyle cruise brand. Best for: full-immersion 4-7 day takeovers; established couples.
- Original Couples Cruise — Themed couples-only sailings; slightly more niche. Best for: theme-focused alternatives to Bliss.
- Topless Cruise — Shorter, clothing-optional sailings, between vanilla cruises and full lifestyle takeovers. Best for: cruise-curious couples easing toward the lifestyle.
Resort takeovers and weeks
- Hedonism II takeover weeks — BBC weeks, Naughty weeks, Fetish weeks. Negril, Jamaica. Best for: experienced lifestylers, theme-specific communities.
- Desire Pearl / Desire Riviera Maya takeover weeks — Themed weeks at the Mexican Desire properties. Best for: newcomer-friendly polished resort experience.
- Secrets Hideaway Resort takeovers — Year-round in Kissimmee, Florida. Hosted by Swinger Society, Beyond Lifestyle, iCandy, Swing Nation. Best for: US East Coast couples wanting a domestic lifestyle weekend.
- Sea Mountain Inn weekends — Palm Springs and Las Vegas. Best for: West Coast couples, smaller-scale lifestyle weekends.
- Tropical Lifestyle Takeover — Costa Rica, winter. Best for: alternative to the Mexican / Caribbean takeover circuit.
Specialty weeks at major resorts
Hedonism II in particular runs distinctive themed weeks that draw their own communities — BBC week, Fetish week, Naughty week, Couples & Singles week. These differ enough from a "regular" Hedonism week that picking the right one matters as much as picking the resort. Same applies to Desire Pearl Naughty weeks and similar themed programming at other resorts.
City-based lifestyle festivals and conventions
- Fantasy Fest — Late October, Key West. Lifestyle-adjacent rather than lifestyle-exclusive; substantial lifestyle crowd attends. Best for: couples wanting a costume-festival-with-lifestyle-energy week.
- Topless Vegas events — Recurring Vegas series. Best for: couples mixing Vegas tourism with lifestyle nights.
- Lifestyle X events — Upscale luxury-tier takeovers. Best for: couples wanting polished, high-end production.
Smaller-scale brands worth knowing
- Naughty Events — Multi-city US hotel takeovers.
- Desire Pearl Naughty — Themed weeks within the broader Desire calendar.
- Couples Cruise — Themed couples-only sailings.
- Eden Cruises — Niche themed sailings.
- Topless Mansion Takeovers — Small-format luxury rentals.
How to plan your year
Most active lifestyle couples attend 1-3 takeover events per year, mixing scale and format. A common pattern: one cruise (Bliss or Original Couples), one resort week (Desire or Hedo), one regional hotel takeover (NIN or a Secrets Hideaway weekend). Newcomer couples often start with a regional hotel takeover before committing to a cruise or international resort.
Booking timeline guidance
- Cruises: 9-15 months ahead, especially Bliss Cruise.
- Hedonism / Desire takeover weeks: 6-9 months ahead.
- Hotel takeovers (NIN, Casual Swinger Week, Secrets Hideaway): 3-6 months ahead.
- Local Sea Mountain or city events: often 1-2 months out, sometimes last-minute.
See also: planning your first lifestyle vacation, Desire vs Hedonism, and browse upcoming lifestyle events.