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@molly yeah I think I’d prefer someone married, I’d prefer an amateur rather than a pro, and I’d prefer a female. None of that is set in stone. I’m patient to a point so I can build up some knowledge, meet some people, and see if I don’t f…
@namaah I appreciate it. I’m getting plenty out of everyones comments. I’m a complete rookie here. I haven’t found many who even want to discuss this subject.
So reading your last few posts I feel like a pro would be the quickest and easiest way but if I happened across the right person a deeper connection might develop. I have a vanilla friend (who knows a few of my kinks) I’ve actually thought…
@molly that’s a really good point about submissive men. I haven’t thought about that. Most of my submissive thoughts are very detailed. I may have misspoke about a relationship. Maybe I don’t yet get the terminology of a D/S relationship.…
I have considered a pro. Let me get your input on this... would a pro be more likely to be acting the role for money rather than actually being into the idea? I feel like someone who actually got off on the thought of it would likely bring…
@single exactly what I was thinking. I’ve compared it to a therapist and client relationship myself. That’s how I see it working best... for me anyway. In my mind it would be more of a professional relationship than a sexual one. I also fi…
@single you are correct in my particular idea of it. I definitely respond to humiliation and the more my emotions come into play the more I respond. As I said I’m not against sex being involved and it would almost have to have a sexual ton…
@molly yes you are correct that I’m wanting to be the sub. I have been on fetlife and been able to speak to a few people however the ones I’ve talked to didn’t seem very experienced. I’m just putting in feelers everywhere to get more info.…
@namaah I am seeking more from the sub side but some great info in what you said. I think finding someone willing to put in the work is tricky because they have to be getting something out of it as the dom. The person would have to be wire…
@molly my thought is exactly that. I think being very inventive would be great. My thought is that the dom might be sexually satisfied from another relationship. I wouldn’t be against intercourse but I’d think a dom who’s enjoyment came fr…
@holly thanks for the great advice. I’m not one to dive into things without giving plenty of thought to it. I’ve been interested in this type of thing for a long while. It seems pretty tough to find people who are into the mental part enou…
@msmolly yeah I know what you mean about not wanting to be told what to do. I am a little bit the same. I’m a natural leader normally but I can be pushed and molded with a sexual spin on things. I enjoy the emotional and psychological side…
I guess I’m talking more from a motivation standpoint. Say you were a little out of shape and wanted to get in shape, but on your own you’d do ok for a bit, then you’d get sidetracked or whatever and quit. I’m talking about if someone were…
I’m just curious if anyone on here has any experience with behavior modification. I do not but would love to learn more about it. I’m not really talking about “call me sir” kind of things but more normal life scenarios such as diet, exerci…
