Hi, everybody!
Well, hello whoever drops by.
Ever wondered if open minded people or a long term significant other actually is passive aggressively controlling you? For me I have to ignore its happening to truely accept the other. I think everyone does it time to time and it happens most when they want control or want something in return.
Try sharing your thoughts openly and seeing how much is returned. It's hardly equal. For me I prefer acquaintances over friends. Why so, you ask? Because there is no control being established. We are free to share as we please when our paths meet so to speak. Free open minded speech is more common.
Example, a co-worker annoyed the bajeebus out of me. They would rush taking my work load to give a good impression to supervisors. I enjoyed idle conversation but working with him was difficult. One day I just flat out told him just stop it, I can do the work, its not a race. Since then on, our team playing rolls and work relations are equally good. We needed not to get into a fight but I needed to stop his passive aggressive work habbits.
For me acquaintances are friends and friends are too difficult to manage with beyond just one. I do have one friend but I rather work with her than hang around her. Not that she is hard to accept, just too passive aggressive with her personal issues. The stuff nobody has the right to tell her to stop with sharing her troubles. If I did, I would not be as accepting of her. She needs to find it within herself to limit her passive aggression, so she can be able to chare concerns openly.
I have stopped visiting as much as I use to because of it, and she now realizes the impact it has done. But self control is her issue with passive aggression.
Rule of thumb for me... stop trying to control what is around you. The only real control you have is yourself. Everything else is perception.