Agree with MsMolly on all of this, especially with being yourself on here. If you spend enough time on the site and in the LS, you will find your people, as most of us do. As someone who requires certs, if I got an email from you, I might let the cert thing slide for a meet, just because you ARE a geek! A well-written, friendly message from someone who appears to be authentic both in word and photos can go a long way.
Thank you for the information, I will look into some of the Meet and greets and whatever events I can to meet people. I concur about it being better to meet people in person than online. Things are literally black & white online but in person, there is wiggle-room and personality have more of an impact. Also, innuendo and sarcasm don't translate well to text yet, One day we will get a font for that. I will work on the pictures and other things pointed out, much as you said in my profile related thread.
And thank you, I take pride in being a gentleman when there is due chance.
It's going to cost you a kidney to go to a club. But the answer is the same answer that goes to your cert dilemma: make friends. They can be people you have sex with or not, but with is better all around.
Meet and greets are free, except for the drink or dinner or whatever kind of meet and greet it is, and some of them are open to single men. And as a single guy, it's better to meet people in person than on line. However, if you do meet a couple or two on line and it goes as well as your other encounters, you might well have access to certs (instead of asking for one, offer one) and to house parties or friends of friends.
Also, nice job sticking up for yourself. You're super polite about it and also firm.
I didn't realize I had asked this before, And I know that I come across as a Geek. But that is because I am a geek. I'm passionate about my volunteer work, tech, animals and so many other things. While I am confident I am guarded to not be an asshole, As for pictures, I'm far more comfortable behind the lens of my Nikon than in front of one posing for a picture. The few pictures I have are genuine and honest I've been told. I'm not looking just for play nor do I expect it at every meeting, As I said, I'm so very new to all this and simply wanted some direction, mainly in finding local events, clubs, venues that are swinger friendly without costing a kidney for entry.
Hello all,
I joined SLS on the suggestion of a mate last year, stayed here about two months then left. Life got busy and such, But I digress. My question is about Certs! How does one get Certs if no one will meet you to give you a Cert unless you have a Cert?
I know most of you are thinking "the same question from another dick single person" But I'm actually curious about this. Also, I'm still a newbie to all this, Having been with two couples for two years and they have been my only exposure to swinger life. But I want to explore so much more and meet other people but I am finding it... challenging.
In the Jacksonville Fl area, are there many bars or clubs that cater to swingers that don't have crazy door costs for single males? I work downtown but never got a taste for the bar 'scene' but I'm always up for an adventure.
Thank you in advance for any and all information!
