wife4hotguys - "It may be that there aren’t many actual open relationships out there."
That could well be true. We know a lot of LS couples, but only a small % of them play separately. For the ones that we do know that play separately, the Mrs has no problem verifying that it's OK for the hubby to play alone, or vice versa.
Mayhem, that’s logical but the opportunity has never presented itself to us. It may be that there aren’t many actual open relationships out there. We’ve had plenty of guys say that they are in one but they can’t verify that. She’s always preferred single guys because they’ve been less drama.
Was thinking that this might be an ideal situation for the male half of a couple where they both do separate dates. It would seem that the need for intimacy and desire to be exclusive would be a lot less of a risk with a married guy in an open relationship.
New, that’s a good perspective for sure. I bet there are a lot of guys who feel the same way. I’m not talking about someone looking for love. We’ve obviously been in 2 completely different situations as singles. Most of my single time I craved general companionship as well as sex but I was too involved and busy professionally for a 24/7 commitment. Had a fwb for years but she was single too. That was perfect for me. If you have a gf you’re committed every hour of every day. In a fwb or similar, you may go out once a month or whatever fits the situation. And as far as the hooker comment, in the words of a famous actor “I don’t pay them for sex, I pay them to leave” lol
I haven’t been a single guy for quite a long time, however, I do remember when I was and do know I wouldn’t be into this type of relationship. This is a swinger site and obviously sex is front and center. All single guys on here will show up in 20 minutes to fuck your wife, she’s pretty hot. That being said, if I were a single guy, why would I invest my time, money and emotions on a woman that will never be mine? I take her to dinner, drinks & dancing and we’re gonna end up fucking to close the night. We run into old friends, how do I introduce her? They’re going out to breakfast after the club, sorry my girlfriend’s husband wants her home by 3. We have an amazing night and she leaves instead of falling asleep on my shoulder. Way too much to invest when sex is the only return on your investment. Sounds more like a hooker than a girlfriend. I’m sure I’m not the only person that might see it this way. My 2 cents.
We definitely agree with y’all on a lot of guys here not actual being single. Otherwise they could meet sometime other than between 12-1 on weekdays LOL. But we have met some terrific guys here.
Goodenough you’re living the dream! And I have no idea where you heard of such a thing lmao
Our story is being developed into a Hallmark movie through their X-rated subsidiary, Whoremark Entertainment.
You will have to ask Mickey for the release date, he keeps telling us it will be "soon".
~Scamp
"Fortunately for me, I met rabbit in early 2015 and we have been together now for 9 years and we get to enjoy this LS together."
You mean it's possible for a SM to find a SF on a lifestyle site and they end up together?
Now where have I heard about a guy from the north meeting a woman from the south and something like that happening before...?
;-)
Aside from the fact that the majority of SMs on these sites aren't truly single, you are looking for a very specific type of play. I would guess that most truly single males are here for casual sex & fantasy fulfillment, not a poly relationship.
That said, I can only speak from my experience when I was an SM from about 2007-2015. Over that time, I had several "relationships" that bordered on poly where husbands allowed me to spend a lot of time with their wives, taking her to a club, out on dates, overnight stays etc. While I enjoyed the regularity of these situations, there were some drawbacks. One of the hotwives eventually wanted me to be exclusive to her. That was the end of that. One of the women caught the feels and left her husband, I ended that one too. Another decided to leave her husband (unrelated to me) but wanted me to stop seeing other women and be monogamous with her in a vanilla relationship.
I did have one long-term situation that was drama-free and a lot of fun. The husband would joke that I was her "second husband" and wondered why I never came over to help mow the lawn. lol
Ultimately though, these relationships were pretty unfulfilling for me. The sex was great and I lived out many, many fantasies but at the end of the day, there was no true intimacy as that is reserved for you, her husband. When our time together was over, the two of you enjoyed reclaiming sex and then back to your everyday routine together and I went home alone.
Fortunately for me, I met rabbit in early 2015 and we have been together now for 9 years and we get to enjoy this LS together.
I am sure you will find some guys who would enjoy what you are offering, this would been right up my alley "back in the day". ;^D Just realize that it is a small niche of available SMs and probably as rare as the proverbial unicorn SF.
Good luck!
~Scamp
I'm convinced that over half the "single" guys on here are actually married and/or just screwing around here with a fantasy they would never actually live out. Having said that, you live near a large metro area so even if that number of wannabees was over 80%, that still leaves a lot of real SMs.
Judging from her photos she is a hottie and your description of her certainly sounds positive. I cannot imagine you won't find a good one (or more than one if wanted) if you continue your search. Good luck!
In case you don’t know the term, Parallel Polyamory is basically when a person has multiple relationships of which the other partners do not interact with each other. In our case the female with multiple relationships.
We’ve had sooo much trouble finding men for this situation. It’s baffling. We get tons and tons of guys interested in mfm’s and solo play dates here and there though. You’d think this would be an ideal situation for truly single (maybe the problem) or divorced guys. Dates, companionship, and sex without the commitment of co-inhabiting seems like it would be pretty appealing to single guys. Wife fits into any crowd, is highly educated, in shape, hot, funny, and fux like a pornstar. Yet she’s really only had one such relationship that was around 4 years long until he moved away.
She’s always up front about being married and we just wonder if that turns guys off of the long term thing. I know when I was single I’d have absolutely been all over this type relationship with all the benefits but no life changing commitments.
