Newbie fails again

its not rite to put other off if they are new to the life,like me JOE

Hi. I see the same issue with your profile that NNJ pointed out in your post. You're either "I" or "we," and moving between them is just confusing. It will probably cut down on the number of people who contact you via SLS, too.

Standing around looking new is unlikely to result in people approaching you, unless you are very good at sending non-verbal signals. It's generally nothing to do with wanting nothing to do with newbies, although there is definitely a sense at clubs that you let new people find their own comfort level without interference. There are couples and singles that will approach you just because you're new, but you have to look, signal and be receptive to that.

Referring back to your profile, what's there suggests you'd like to wait, watch and take your time. That's probably an accurate reflection of what you've brought to your club experiences. There aren't many people who would chance interfering with that, plus most of us are at clubs for sex and sure things are better than a maybe, after a long conversational warmup.

Hey guys. We're brand new to the lifestyle. We accidently wandered into a club in AC and are now HOOKED. We haven't made contact with anyone physically. We are definitely INTRIGUED. My problem is, I feel like a new kid in school that no one wants to talk to. I'm pretty easy on the eyes. A tad shy. I went to another club in Philly this past weekend and AGAIN, no one likes the newbies. I made myself available to people by standing by the bar and infront of the voyeur rooms but nothing. Not even a smile or a hello. They probably saw that I was new. I hear that the more experienced people don't like to mess with newbies. But I thought maybe people would approach us because we're new and "untainted". Almost like scoring a virgin lol. Are the club's not the way to meet people? Is there somewhere else I can go where people are more friendly?