The woman that left to go on her first date with another man never came home that night. The woman that returned resembled my wife, but will never be the same again. She has finally found the sexual being that has always been lurking just beneath the surface of her. -- written by Ryan (Mae s husband) on The Taboo Couple Next DoorThis episode is a shining example of how this incredible relationship dynamic naturally gifts women with sexual empowerment. And with that comes an entire transformation - a transformation witnessed by her partner who stands in awe before her.Mae shares her story about what it s been like for her to dive into this new cuckolding relationship dynamic over the past 7 weeks with her husband of 13 years. They have started writing about their feelings and experiences on their blog The Taboo Couple Next Door. For all of the men out there who wish their partner would learn about cuckolding relationships, this episode is a MUST LISTEN for her! Women sharing their stories and experiences with other women is the key to better understanding and acceptance of this lifestyle.Mae s Twitter: https://twitter.com/HotWife_MaeRyan s Twitter: https://twitter.com/HWhusb_RyanThe Taboo Couple Next Door - https://taboocouplenextdoor.wordpress.com/Venus Cuckoldress - https://venuscuckoldress.com/New Merch! - https://www.fullswapshop.com/store/venus-cuckoldress/Submit a question for the show - https://venuscuckoldress.com/ask-venus/Pillow Talks - https://www.crowdcast.io/venuscuckoldressBecome a Patreon supporter - https://www.patreon.com/VenusCuckoldressTwitter - https://twitter.com/CuckoldressVInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/cuckoldressvenuspodcast/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxpeMPYHPFIapapZDoaa03wFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/The-Venus-Podcast-107081554590774Destination Links for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldressLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ Give her what she wants 💦 🍆 the Thrum - triple the pleasure, feel the difference 🤤 BUY NOWDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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On this episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. My friend May is here to tell her story about what it's like to be brand new in this lifestyle after choosing to dive headfirst into a cuckolding relationship with her husband of 13 years. I am all about the emotional part, but the closeness and the unexpected benefits from doing this blows my mind every day.
I thought I was just going to be going and having sex with other men what happened was me and us diving and into all these things we've never talked about and even things we never knew about each other and especially for me because I had never spoke up with what I wanted you have this power to make your husband melt at just stepping into your power. They just melt into this ball of love for you because they want you to be that powerful woman. It is so amazing to feel sexually empowered. And that is something I had been missing. But sex is not something I felt confident in.
And now that I do and I'm exploring my confidence in that, I feel happier and better than I ever have in my life. I knew that there was going to be a time where he was going to need some reassurance and I wanted to make sure I could give that to him even though I wasn't here. Part of the letter that I wrote him while he was sitting here waiting for me and I was saying without you protecting me and making me feel safe I would have never discovered this piece of myself.
I would have never had the sexual awakening so thank you for allowing me to do this welcome to the venus cuckolders podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the Venus blog. And of course, if you love it, share it. Now, sit back, make yourself comfortable, and enjoy the show with your host, Venus. welcome to the venus cuckoldress. I'm your host Venus. Thank you so much for joining me. I'm so looking forward to this episode.
This one's really, really important. My friend May is going to talk about what it's been like for her for the last seven weeks. She's jumped into this lifestyle, this relationship dynamic with her husband of 13 years. And this is so important because for all the husbands out there, the boyfriends who really want their girlfriend or wife to jump into this, or at least think about trying it, this is the episode to have them listen to because it will hopefully open their mind to the possibilities of what can happen in this kind of relationship dynamic. It is so beautiful.
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Maison Dinesh Couture, modern fashion for the modern revolution. All right, joining me on the show today is my friend May, my new friend May. And I'm so excited to have you on today because I read one post that your husband wrote on your new blog that you guys write, I believe, together. But I read this one post where he talked about this first experience within cuckolding within your marriage. And I was so blown away by it that I was like, I need to talk to this woman. I need to share her story. So thank you so much, May, for joining me today. Say hello to all the listeners.
Well, thank you for having me, Venus. I'm so excited to be talking with you. What I really love about talking to you today is being able to share your story because just like Bunny, who was on a previous episode of this podcast, she shared her story about what it was like to be a woman to try this out in her marriage right in the beginning stages. And, you know, just being able to share her story was wonderful. It resonated with a lot of women out there. So that's what I'm really excited about talking about today is what this has been like Thank you. wonderful.
It resonated with a lot of women out there. So that's what I'm really excited about talking about today is what this has been like for you because you are in that kind of like brand new stage of it. However, with talking to you recently, I found out that this has been a long stage of baby steps. So do you want to start? Yeah. Do you want to start out with kind of like, what's your, what's the background on how did you get to this point here? Okay. So I have been with my husband for 13 years. We've been together since I was 19. I just turned 20 actually when we started dating.
So we've been together for a really long time. And about six years ago, I was pregnant and he kind of just broke down and told me how he had this interest and this is kind of what he wanted to do and a little bit about it. And my mind was basically like, I don't know what you're talking about. This sounds extreme. I thought he wanted to go be with other people and didn't want to be with me anymore. And I think that's actually pretty common. I think a lot of women feel like that when their husbands approach them with this.
And so I was just kind of like really insecure because I was pregnant and full of emotion I had a hard time wrapping my head around it and I was just like okay like I listened to him I let him tell me why and where this came from for him um and then we kind of like played around with posting pictures after I had my daughter and we posted pictures online and he kind of liked the attention of men like commenting on my looks and that kind of boosted my confidence. But I was so busy being a mom at that time that I was really just not into really pursuing anything, but also not sacrifice.
like I was not willing at all to sacrifice what we had built and I thought that participating in being in a non-monogamous relationship while married is just not something we could do without everything basically crumbling to the ground so I was like okay I'm fine with like fantasizing in the bedroom but I'm not really willing to take it outside of the house. And so we were on and off. We really like played around with the idea. And then we would take like some years off where we didn't really engage in it.
And then he would bring it back up again, probably every six months for six years, he brought it up. And so I tried to do a little bit more for him because I want to like fulfill everything for my husband I want to be the woman that gives him what he's always wanted like that that's just who I am I'm a people pleaser I'm a caregiver like I want to give him that yeah and so but I was also raised really religious and I was also really insecure with myself. And so I think it was just never the right time.
And, and so we, he brought it up again when we were moving and he brought it up again when, um, you know, big life changes. And it was just so hard to even wrap my mind around even being able to participate. And so this last six weeks or so, I came across your podcast, actually. And I listened to your confidence and the way you talk about the lifestyle. And it really made it just real for me. And we are in a place right now where I felt like I could maybe dip my toe in the waters and kind of see like what it would be like to do more. And I had no idea what I was in for.
So that's a little bit of my backstory about how we got here. I love how you said that. I had no idea what I was in for. It's been quite the roller coaster. It's true, right? Okay, first of all, I want want to say why do so many men bring this up to their wife right around childbirth time like i don't understand this as a woman when you're in that stage of life it is all consuming fellas do not bring it up during that time of our life do not do it it. It is like, we are already so filled with emotions, I think, during those times.
And also, it feels like, okay, my body is growing and doing these changes. I'm not feeling super like sexual. Why are you talking about this? Exactly. Your body's changing more than probably any time in your life. After childbirth, you feel like a fucking beluga whale. And, you know, you haven't put on makeup in like a year. And you know, like, the last thing you're thinking about is your husband's fantasy for you to go fuck some other guys. like guys I don't even feel sexy for you. I don't know how I'm supposed to do this with another man. Right.
So word of advice to all the guys out there, do not use that time to bring this up. Yes. All right. So what you said you guys were doing pretty good and you felt like you could dip your toe into this. Now, what changed? So what was it that about that timing that made you feel like you could actually do this?
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is all kind of for a loop. And I started thinking about life differently and how, you know, we get this one chance to kind of do what we want to do in life. And honestly, my kids are older now. I don't have to spend every waking moment caring for them. I'm able to kind of have a little bit more freedom and like step into myself a little bit more now that I'm not all consumed in motherhood, I guess. And while that still is an important part of who I am, I'm also, like, learning more about myself. And so he had brought it up again in passing.
Basically, I was like, are you still interested in that? Because he hadn't brought it up for quite some time, probably almost a year. And when he brought it up, I was just kind of dismissed it again. Like, oh, I didn't know you were still interested. And then I think just one day I was like, maybe horny or something. And I was like wanting to spice things up. And so I looked up podcasts and I have listened to Keys and Inklets podcast for when he first started that podcast. Like it was right around the time that my husband had brought it up.
And so we found this information together because I just was trying to collect information. But then finding your podcast from a woman's perspective and just in the way you talked about it and presented it in the episodes that I have listened to, I was just like, wow, I can actually, I might actually be able to do this now. Like there was just maybe a newfound confidence in myself, or maybe just, I don't, I don't really know how to pinpoint what changed in me. I think it was just mostly curiosity. Right.
Well, you have mentioned earlier that when you said, you know, one of your fears where you thought, you know, I could never take this out of the bedroom, this fantasizing stuff, I can never take it out of the bedroom and actually do it is because you were afraid that this would damage your relationship.
And I think that a lot of women out there are afraid of that like that is a legitimate concern and so maybe and I love the fact that you listen to this podcast and it affected you in that way because that's what I hope to show is that you know what this likely will not damage your relationship this is going to take it to like a whole fucking next level love. Like this is going to be amazing. Just trust me.
Well, I guess like I was, I've always been taught like you and your husband, you do what you need to do to make your husband happy and you serve your husband and coming from a religious background, that's just the it was it doesn't matter really what you wanted as a female you just go along for the ride and do what your husband wants and that's the kind of like brainwashing that I grew up with and so I just thought like if I didn't do it that way then everything would crumble to the ground yeah but I think like 2020 like I said was just such an eye-opening experience that I was like nothing can tear us apart after this like it just can't we're in such a solid place in our marriage and we've built such a solid foundation over all this time that just didn't see any how it could ruin our relationship in any way.
Yeah. Now, I think part of it was security in our relationship, too, if that makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. I love that. I love that. And that is so important. Because for couples who try to take this on, and they already have a lot of trouble with either like trust or communication, or, you know, big stuff like that. This is not going to work. This is just going to, it will cause problems. It certainly can. And so having that kind of solid foundation before you jump into it, it was really, really smart. Very smart.
And so tell me, okay, so tell me exactly like did you did you just, like, say to your husband, okay, I'm ready, or I would like to maybe try, like, what was his reaction? Okay, so I, he was at work, and I stay at home, and he was like, what are you doing? And I was cleaning, but I sent him a screenshot of the podcast I was listening to, which I can't remember which podcast it was, but I think it had something to do with BBC on it. And so I sent that to him kind of looking to like see what his reaction would be and see if I could get kind of a rise out of him.
And was like oh I'm just doing research and cleaning and sent that screenshot to him and he was just excited like of course like it was just everything he's like are you serious is this really happening you're actually doing this without me bringing it up and I love that you sent it to him while he was at work she's really stepped into the role from the beginning oh my god so he was in total disbelief but like probably excited like unbelievably excited that's that's amazing yeah so was there a conversation when he got home did you guys like get into it or what yeah I think it was more like like he was just asking like what changed what happened I'm kind of confused like what was the sudden shift here and I couldn't really tell him like I just it wasn't one thing it was I think just me sitting with the idea for a few weeks and then looking at a podcast and then you know slowly just collecting more information and then finding the community and then we joined some dating sites just to talk and to people and so it would just all happen really quickly in the beginning there.
Was there a point where you felt like, oh, I need to slow down? Like this is, I know you're still kind of in the new part, but do you feel like at times it's overwhelming? Or are you just like, damn, this is so fucking exciting and thrilling and such an adventure that we're on? So for me, I don't feel like that. And I am the very hesitant one in our relationship. So for me to be full steam ahead is very unusual.
And I have had so many major shifts in who I am and my confidence over a period of a really small amount of time so we've only been actively doing this for about seven weeks now and while it's not like new information we've been toying with it obviously for six years actually engaging and getting attention from other men is like such a confidence boost especially for me because I just thought you know like your husband loves you and that's one thing because you built this life together but and he finds me attractive but I didn't think that other men find me attractive and so kind of seeing that was like wow I can actually do this it's also like finding my power in all of it And so I haven't there's been no like hesitancy on my part which is a little bit hard for my husband because he's seeing all these changes really fast and it's a lot for him too and so working back and forth and keeping in touch with each other is really important right now and I'm we're slowing down just a little bit so that we can get on the same page and the same level.
Because I think in this, you're going to have like some push and pull while you're still figuring things out in the beginning. Totally. Absolutely. And I fucking love that blog post that your husband did because, okay, there was two parts of it that I adored just immensely the first part was where you wrote a letter to him for him to read if he needed to if it all became just like too too overwhelming for him while you were out meeting a guy and the other part was where he said at the very end of the post the woman who left was not the woman that came back, not the same woman.
It can be interpreted differently, but I knew exactly what he meant by that in that this is a woman who has transformed into her own powerful sexual being. I knew exactly what he was talking about. And so tell me about, okay, that night, but tell me about the letter. Like where, where did that come from? Cause I have not heard that before, but I fucking love it. And I want all couples to do it. Yeah. Okay.
So just to give you like, I have to just set this up a little bit too so you can understand why the letter is important okay when we first got together we had a long distance relationship for a year and i he was in texas and i was in california and that created a lot of space for jealousy because there were so many unknowns really new in our relationship because he had moved right when we started dating and we didn't break up. And so he had created these stories in his head that things were happening that weren't happening. And the jealousy was very deep.
And so the jealousy ran for a while until, you know, we were pretty solid in our marriage and it went away. But I kind of had like some worries that some old stuff would kind of come up for him while I was gone because he had room to kind of elaborate the experience that was happening and make it something that it wasn't. And so it was important to me to just keep him grounded while I was gone because I had never gone out with another man. I mean, I did have one stupid experience right before this, but it was really not anything. It didn't create any issues.
The guy that I ended up meeting, you know, that he wrote the blog post about I had been talking to for a while and so there was like a lot of anticipation built up and my husband was a part of the group chats and so he knew all of the things and I think there was a little bit more of a threat there for him like because we both agreed that nothing would happen like no sex would happen right but fooling around was okay but we were going to save the sex until like we could be there together yeah um and so I can already picture him before while I was getting ready and getting ready to go I could see his nerves already starting and I was afraid that when I left he would go into this kind of dark spiral that he sometimes does do which is I think it's very natural this is you know your wife of 13 years who you've been exclusively with is now just going out to meet with a man yeah and so I can totally understand like the fear and the scariness of that at the beginning and so i just i knew that there was going to be a time where he was going to need some reassurance and i wanted to make sure i could give that to him even though i wasn't here and i wanted him to know that me going out to get a drink with another man wasn't going to just destroy our marriage or, you know, I wasn't just going to be like, okay, I'm throwing it all away for this guy.
This is something I've built for 13 years with him. I wasn't, you know, I'm not like looking to sacrifice any piece of that, but from his perspective, he kind of, I was worried he would get caught in a moment. And so that's why I wrote it. I'm sorry. That's kind of like a long, long story for it. But I just, it was mostly just for reassurance so that he had a piece of me while I was gone. I love that because you're right that that first time is the ultimate cuck angst.
It is the ultimate mix swirl of emotions like literally highs above highs and lows above lows everything sideways upside down and in between and this is why I say cucks are the most the strongest partners you can possibly have because they have to work through that that's not easy that's not easy at all so the fact that you recognize that beforehand and you you put that thought into, kind of easing that for him. I think that's a wonderful thing to do for cucks.
Because I've spoken before about how important it is for cucks to keep their fucking composure and not go down into that downward spiral. Because the last thing, as a woman, as a wife, the last thing you want to do is damage your relationship, right? You know, and so even though it this is, you know, cuck angsty stuff is pretty normal with this kind of relationship. It's, it sucks. It's hard for them, but they also get turned on by it. It is like a double edged sword.
Like it's really hot and it makes you you like extremely excited but at the same time you're on this roller coaster and there's no better way of explaining it it's just this really high highs and the really low lows like you were saying and kind of like finding that balance is kind of where we're at right now keeping composures in that first time especially is so important because if your wife sees that you or looks at you and thinks, oh, my God, what I'm doing is hurting him or what I'm doing is damaging our relationship, you're not going to want to ever do that again.
You're going to feel like shit. You're going to feel like, oh, my God, why did I do that? So it's like so important for guys to keep your shit together during that time. And I think like, I think it's good that to express those emotions and share that with your wife, but I think you need to do it in small pieces. Don't be like, if you're really extreme from the beginning and you can't keep it together, she is going to back out and she's going to close everything down because the sacrifice isn't worth it. Yeah, totally. So I really love the letter part. I think that was very sweet.
So he did need the letter.
I love the way that he really he was very honest and vulnerable about his feelings about what that felt like for him and how surprising it was for him and this is why I say to a lot of wannabe cucks out there it is a lot the actual experience of it when you're in a loving relationship is a lot different than the fantasy in your mind and it's so true even for your husband who fantasized about this for 13 years or however long it was that he's probably thought about this so many times in his mind and been so turned on by it and then all of a sudden when those really heavy feelings hit in that moment like it's it's not that fucking easy no no it's not and we were actually you know just recently talking about how it's one thing to watch porn together, even like amateur porn, where there's real people doing this, you know, they're not just actresses and actors.
They're actually like real people. You're not seeing the context behind how that woman got there with that bull and the husband sitting there watching.
You're not seeing what led up this you're not seeing what happened after that you're only seeing what's happening when they're fucking and that is way different than what the real life of all of this is because that there is so much more complexity and emotions that are real and if you don't I think like at for us, if we didn't acknowledge those and work through and talk through and spend countless hours diving into why we feel these way this way, um, it wouldn't have worked because you would just fall apart or have a mental breakdown.
Like you are forced to basically work through and process these things together. Absolutely. Absolutely. It's a journey that you take together, but it is incredibly sexy and hot and thrilling and fun. Yes. And I mean, like I am all about the emotional part because that's what we're in right now, but the closeness and the unexpected benefits from doing this blows my mind every day. Wow. I love hearing that because obviously that was my experience as well.
And that's, you know, that's the part that I hope women will take away from all of this is that, um, it is so much more than what you anticipate. And just like you were saying earlier in this episode, you said, you know, I wasn't prepared for what happened.
No, I mean, I thought I was just going to be going and having sex with other men what happened was me and us diving and into all these things we've never talked about in 13 years together as a younger couple is that's a it's a lot like there's a lot of stuff built up and even things we never knew about each other and especially for me because I had never spoke up with what I. I didn't even like saying the words like horny or, or like wet, or especially, you know, like any kind of thing that expressed my sexuality out in the open. I couldn't say I was disgusted by it.
I was like, this is not okay. And this is not something I want to do. And now afterwards, I'm like, a lot different. I love that so much. It's a huge transformation. And this is why I love cuckolding. This is where the my my passion for cuckolding comes from. It is because it makes women or gives women the gift of sexual empowerment. And with that comes so many other things that changes your life. It's that confidence. It's that like newfound confidence that you realize. Can you imagine going through your life? I mean, you'd be happy.
you go, you know, your normal everyday life with your husband, you're happy and everything like that, but not realizing that potential within you. And your husband has given you this gift of this experience to transform your sexuality, to transform your, your power, your, your sense of your ability to ask for what you want and get what you want, which was entirely, it is entirely new for you. And that is just mind blowing. Like I, I love that so much. This cuckolding relationships, it's about her.
it naturally naturally puts you first and this is why I love cuckolding versus hot wifing or swinging or whatever kind of thing because I mean like it is such a beautiful thing to be able to witness that happen and I'm sure that your your husband is is feeling that right now where he said like this is this not the same woman who came back home that night he's just like witnessing this transformation of you which I think is just so amazing but and I actually wrote I wrote that I mean if you you don't mind, just part of the letter that I wrote him while he was sitting here waiting for me, it just, it kind of, it goes over that.
And I was saying without you protecting me and making me feel safe, I would have never discovered this piece of myself. I would have never had the sexual awakening. So thank you for allowing me to do this. and I love that that's really how I feel and you know what if there is any women out there who are thinking like oh my gosh my husband's crazy what is he doing if I can just give you one like benefit from this that has nothing to do with actually engaging with any of it.
It's that you have this power, which we talked about earlier, to make your husband or partner or whatever melt at just stepping into your power. By you stepping into your power, you can see how the shift is with your husband or your partner or whatever they melt they just melt into this ball of love for you because they want you to be that powerful woman and going out there and I think like just seeing that you have that power over your relate like in your relationship and there's not I don't mean like you're bigger and more powerful than your husband and you should put him in a little box.
I just mean like it's very validating as a wife to feel that you still have that power and connection with your husband to make him melt for you that same way. I have a huge smile on my face because that is exactly what made me fall in love with cuckolding relationships.
I felt that shift that that when you witness that effect on your husband that you have never been able to do before or even tried and you see this effect you're having on him it's only your actions these things that you're doing are saying that is affecting him in this way and he like you you're right it melts into a ball of love for you like it is just it's just mind-blowing to be able to witnessed that because, you you know he's sitting there astounded by witnessing you step into your power and you are sitting there astounded by witnessing the effect that you're having on him and that's why i've said for so long that cuckolding even though it seems unfair and it seems selfish it seems so one-sided it It's not.
It is absolutely a two way street. You're both giving each other a gift and receiving so much at the same time. It's like this loop that constantly is being amplified. And so it's not just about going and fucking other guys. So many people think that's exactly what it is. It's about her having sex with other guys. No, it's not. It's about that loop. It's about that, that energy that kind of shifts between the two of you guys. It's, it is astounding when you witness it. It's astounding, especially because you've, you've known this person for so long.
And then you see them like, you see him melt like that. You're like, Oh, my God. Yeah. And I, I didn't know that I possessed this power. Otherwise, I would have done it a lot sooner. I felt the same way. I didn't know I had that ability to affect a guy in that way. I was so curious by it. I was so pulled in by it. I was just like, I need to learn more about this. Like this is something else. This is something I've never experienced before. It is.
So even through all like the arguments and discomfort, like nothing matches the happiness and connection we feel now and it's all because we started doing this together that's amazing you know bunny said something similar to what you said just a few minutes ago um in in her episode she said and i love i loved it so much when she said it because she's so she's so honest she said i there have been times where i've almost broken down in tears in gratitude telling my husband that i'm so grateful for being given this opportunity to explore my sexuality and i was just like that is beautiful and that is exactly i think what you were articulating a minutes ago, where you were saying that you're so grateful for having this opportunity to be in the position where you can step into your sexual power.
And that's the gift. That's the real gift there. That's where all like the magic of cuckolding happens. People ask me all the time, like, do women naturally become or do they always become dominant over their husbands? We'll see you next time. happens. People ask me all the time, like, um, do women naturally become, or do they always become dominant over their husbands in a cuckolding relationship?
And I'm like, I don't know about that, but like, I think with exactly what we've just been talking about, there is that effect that you have on him and that it doesn't, it naturally makes you feel like you have a certain kind of power that you never even knew existed before. Oh, definitely. I mean, my husband is, you know, he's, he's very masculine, very dominant. And I don't mean dominant, like, in the bedroom necessarily, which but he has been been for me because that is what I like. And he has always taken the lead and been the leader.
And, you know, I, we went along with that for a long time and, you know, I don't think he, nothing of that has changed. He hasn't become submissive or, you know, lost any of his power with me, but at the same time, I am capable of making him, you know, like, I don't want to say worship, but that's kind of what it is, because he is, like, worshiping every piece of me in a different way than he ever has before, and that makes me feel powerful in turn. That didn't take anything away from him. I don't think it's just kind of changed our dynamic just slightly. And it has been fun for both of us.
I love that because again, this is like another, this is a fear that some couples have, especially the men, they have a hard time wrapping their mind around this. They think that if they are, you know, a cuck or act like a cuck in their relationship, that their wife is going to lose respect for them. And I'm like, what? If anything, it's the opposite. Oh, definitely. And I think, like, to touch on that a little bit, because we have really gone through some stuff with that is when men feel like they're losing their power, it can create a lot of issues.
So I think like, you don't have to fit into a box. You don't have to be a cuck who is super submissive. Um, like choose to be like some men really do want that. And I think that each person is different. And it's really important for people that are looking to jump into the cuckolding lifestyle. I'm not an expert. I'm just speaking from my experience, definitely. But you don't have to fall into a category. If you like to watch your wife get fucked by another man, that's okay. And you don't have to be submissive to that.
You can just be, you can just watch, you know, like you can even, you can participate. You don't have to go through the humiliation and the teasing. If that's not your thing, then just don't do it. Like you don't have to fit into a box. You can make your own box and do what you want in your relationship with your spouse. And that's exactly it. And I was thinking about this yesterday, actually.
I've, you know, for women who start out in this lifestyle, I've heard that for a lot of them, they feel this pressure to kind of fall into a label of dominant or submissive or you know figure out it you know how their relationship you know exactly is and I'm like you don't have to use those labels you don't have to you know feel like you you need to your dynamic your um the energy that every complexities, those beautiful kind of the dynamic of your relationship is completely unique to you, like totally unique to you. And it's going to evolve.
Like you may start out exactly where you're at right now. And in five years from now, it might be entirely different. Yeah. And I think that we had such a hard time wrapping our mind around it. And we were looking for direction through other people's experiences. And over the few weeks, we've just really been like, you know, none of these experiences quite fit our experience.
And so we don't have, you know, you don't always have to be submissive you can be submissive and on a minute when you feel like it like that's up to you and just I think it's important not to sacrifice like your boundaries and your beliefs and your connection for the label like you're saying exactly especially in the beginning I mean you have time down the road to figure out what you like and what you don't like and, you know, sort those things out. But in the beginning, just enjoy it. Just enjoy it. Don't worry about trying to figure out, you know, what column you fall into.
Just enjoy the ride together. This beginning part is the most memorable, probably the most emotionally intimate thing that you guys were will ever go through, honestly, that these moments. So enjoy it. And I love that you guys are documenting it on your blog. Because it's a fucking beautiful thing. It really is. It's a beautiful thing. This is the part of this lifestyle that I would love everybody to read, look at, see, experience all of that, because it is so beautiful. This is where I always say cuckolding is love. It is love. This is the basis of it all.
So I'm so happy for you sharing your story. well thank you thanks i'm happy to share it and me and my husband you know we we write our blog partially for us but a big part of it too is we found so much help through people on Twitter and their blogs they helped us so much with a little bit of guidance and stepping stones and we really want to be able to do that too and I think the more people that share their experiences, the more couples will feel like it's safe and okay to explore this if that's what they want in their life. All right.
So I'm going to wrap this up soon, but I just want to ask you before I do that, are there any kind of other words of wisdom that you would like to give to women out there just based on your own experience in this? I would just say that if you want more, then just explore that with your husband. Like just talk with him about it because there's so many times that I never expressed what I wanted and I wanted so much more.
And if I would have just opened up and spoke about it and just had the courage to open up and just trust my husband and just be vulnerable with him, this, I think, would have happened sooner. And while I'm only in my early 30s, I think every woman should feel like this going into their 30s oh hell yes because it is so amazing to feel sexually empowered and that is something I had been missing I'm you know I'm a great mom I'm a great wife I can keep my house clean I can do all the normal vanilla ordinary things very very well. But sex is not something I felt confident in.
And now that I do, and I'm exploring my confidence in that, I feel happier and better than I ever have in my life. I love that. Okay, so where can people find your blog? okay we're at tabu couple next doorenextdoor.wordpress.com. And then you can find us on Twitter. I'm hotwife underscore Mae, M-A-E. And then my husband is H-W-H-U-B-S underscore Ryan, which is a very long mouthful. But if you find me, you'll find him. Yeah. You can also find her blog, their blog, I should say, on my recommended resources page on venuscuckoldrist.com because it is wonderful.
Another addition to the several blogs that have come out over the last year, year and a half of couples speaking beautifully about this lifestyle. So thank you so much for writing and sharing your story. And thank you so much for sharing your story on this episode. I'm really, really happy that you did. Thank you for having me. All right, that's going to be it for today's episode.
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