In today's compelling episode of The Swinging Single Podcast, host AC Maxwell takes a deep dive into the nuanced world of the swingers lifestyle, specifically focusing on how couples can navigate this adventurous path while protecting and strengthening their relationship. Whether you're contemplating dipping your toes into swinging or you're seasoned swingers looking for ways to maintain your bond, today's conversation is tailored for you.
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Hello and welcome you incredible explorers of love and passion to another episode of the Swinging Single Podcast. I'm your guide on this journey of discovery, A.C. Maxwell and today we're diving into the topic that's crucial for anyone navigating the exhilarating waters of the swinging lifestyle while in a committed relationship.
Yes my friends, today's show is about protecting your relationship while swinging it's a delicate balance walking that tightrope between seeking out new experiences and assuring the foundation of your relationship remains unshakable we're going to unpack the strategies the boundaries the crucial conversations that need to happen to keep your primary connection secure and thriving whether you're new new to the scene or you've been swinging for years, and if you are new to the scene, pay attention to this episode.
This episode is packed with insights, stories, and expert advice to help you navigate these waters with confidence and care. So buckle up and let's dive in as well. Explore how to enrich our relationship and protect our hearts while embracing the exciting world of swinging. The swinging single podcast with host AC Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only.
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Doobie Energy Drink has drinks for you when you're at that club it's 2 a.m and you want to keep your fuck on and you're getting tired take a swig of doobie energy drink and that will pick you up it's like a shot of adrenaline go to doobie.gg enter the promo code swinging single and you'll get your little discount i'll get a little piece too so i appreciate it helping out the swinging single lifestyle you know it costs money to put this stuff out but you know it is what it is i'm on only fans fansly all that stuff swing a single podcast swing a single podcast at gmail.com if you have any comments questions you know just want to send some hate mail my way got a lot of those anyways so let's talk about we are new to the scene as a couple how do you protect your relationship for going down the tubes and i mean in the tubes you break up get divorced all that crazy nonsense it does happen it happens more than what people want to talk about but it does happen where swinging will break up a marriage swinging will not swing if your marriage is on the rocks and you decide that swinging is the best way, best course for you to go to save it, you are going to be heading down into divorceville.
Because I'm telling you what, swinging will not save a marriage. Swinging will strengthen a marriage that is already strong. You've got to have the foundation, like a house. If the foundation is cracked, the house is no good. If the foundation in your relationship is no good, it's never going to get saved.
You've got to fix the foundation like a house if the foundation is cracked the house is no good if the foundation in your relationship is no good it's never going to get saved you got to fix those foundations get some repairmen so venturing into the realm of erotic lifestyle within a relationship can inject newfound vitality and fortified connections though it demands thoughtful handling to fortify and enrich the union this podcast examines the interplay of intense infatuation and all that the development of closeness the discovery of fresh forms of pleasure the harmonizing of safety and excitement and the focus on individual health to nurture a satisfying and safe erotic bond all right so sometimes couples can be their own worst enemies they like always tell couples you do not have to be in a hurry to do anything ladies and gentlemen remember the swinger club will be there next weekend it'll be there next month it'll be there next year you travel guess what you travel to any pie city in the country, there will be there next weekend.
It'll be there next month. It'll be there next year. You travel. Guess what? You travel to any pie city in the country, there will be a Swinger Club there for you and your wife to enjoy or your husband to enjoy. Do not worry about it. We don't have to do every single thing at once. I know I have friends who live in Buttfuck, Minnesota, all the way out in the middle of nowhere.
They have to do, they go on a week-long Swinger vacation they do all their fun for that year there and that's it those are the extreme rare cases where they have to you know put everything out there because they're only there for so long but they're finding more and more people in the area that are swingers just like themselves so the internet and social media can help you remember be safe when you're on social media. Don't post pictures of your face or anything like that. Keep the faces blacked out. If people don't want pictures of your face, they're not people you want to hang out with.
But you got to remember, your relationship with your significant other is the most important thing when you're swinging.
It's not about enough guys enough women or enough couples or single females into your bedroom but it's making sure your partner your spouse is comfortable with all the decisions that are being made and the fact that you are new now adding new people into your bedroom gentlemen remember your wife is the main reason why people care about you she's the one that brings the milkshakes to the yard all the boys to the yard all the girls to the yard all right make sure she's comfortable make sure you listen to her and you listen to her well hang on every word she says same thing ladies your husband can veto something that you might want understand what he's thinking listen to his words don't get angry don't get upset and we'll talk all about this all right so acknowledge and manage the lifestyle to preserve a robust sense of self and ensure it doesn't eclipse the relationships and other aspects do not let this really the swinger lifestyle run your relationship don't decide to go on vacation because there's a great swinger resort there if that's you okay it's gonna you're gonna burn yourself out you don't want swing or burnout and a lot of couples get swing or burnout especially the ones with kids now if you are empty nester you finally raised your kids they're all off on your own doing well you know what i say go it fuck it you're fit you're in your late 40s 50s 60s go out and fucking live up life go out have threesomes foursomes orgies all that stuff but when you have a family you have young kids you got kids in school and all that you really got to make sure your relationship is the focus and not the swinger relationship because like i said guess what ladies and gentlemen people probably been swinging since they were in caves they're going to be swinging long before we're all gone so build emotional closeness and collective experiences to deepen the bond between mere sexual gratification what did you both get out of it all that stuff like when i take my partners to a club and she bangs a guy it brings us closer together I'll see you next time.
get out of it all that stuff like when i take my partners to a club and she bangs a big guy it brings us closer together maybe sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't it's just the experience or we have one of those great experiences that were what do you call it it wasn't planned it just happened and that bond brings us closer together embrace open communication about wishes and limits while introducing new experiences to maintain their relationship sexual diamism all right gotta talk ladies you guys are the biggest culprits you don't talk you don't tell your husband your partners what you really want you just go with what they want now maybe you do it because you don't want.
You don't tell your husband, your partners, what you really want. You just go with what they want. Now, maybe you do it because you don't want any problems. Now, if you do it, if you're, that's your reason, you have a problem already and you're just not willing to admit that you have that problem. But ladies, tell your husband what you want because you control this lifestyle. 100%. It's a, it's one, it's probably the only thing on the planet earth that is female Thank you.
because you control this lifestyle 100 it's a it's one it's probably the only thing on the planet earth that is female centered i can't think of anything that's else's females politics religion work the home i don't know it's this is what it is if it wasn't for the females there would be no swinging all Unless you have a group of gay guys, then you could swing there. But the swinging lifestyle would not be what it is if it wasn't for you ladies. And I appreciate you. I salute all you ladies. And thank you for your services. So make sure you are able to tell your partners the truth.
Like I tell my partners all the time. I'm into you fucking other dudes. I like watching like watching it i like the aftermath i like the reclaiming of your pussy i love all that couples i love watching you with couples i love you eating a pussy getting your pussy eating out sucking a dick at the same time nothing hotter all right but i'm always honest and you have to be honest with your partner. If your partner partner can't take it, well, then maybe sometimes the fantasy is just better or maybe not swinging at all. It's just better.
Ensure balance between the adventures explore exploration and a solid groundwork of consent ease and mutual trust for both partners, happiness and security.
Now, now I'm on a swinger swinger society 2.0 on facebook i'm getting a lot of questions and a lot of uh ant questions about swingers going behind their partners back and fucking other people that the one partner didn't want that's been a common theme for the past week or two on that facebook page so i'm gonna have a special guest maybe coming in she's a single female unicorn king kingster and i'll talk to her about her issues because you know as a unicorn she's the most sought after piece of property and she's very good looking woman so i'm just wondering is there a lot of infidelity in the swinging world?
I would say yes, there is. Because I see them on Tinder looking for dick when their swinger ad says no single men. Make individual health a priority, covering physical health, stress control, and personal indulgence to boost libido and improve sexual encounters overall. I always tell single men, if you're a single guy out there, get into the gym. Start working out. You don't have to lift weights. You don't have to be bench pressing 225, 40 times. Just get the cardio. Go to a gym, get in classes. Go to Planet Fitness, $10.99 a month or whatever it is. Crunch Fitness, $10.
Go in there, do the cardio. Do classes if they got them. Lose that gut. Make that penis look bigger than it really is. Do all that stuff and you'll be fine. So that physical health will make you more attractive. Couples too, both the men and women. I call them unicorn hunters. Unicorn couples where both the men and women are good looking. You don't get a lot of those.
And we've got to be honest, there's not a lot of those unicorn hunters where you go wow they're both good looking you're just one way or the other the guy's good looking the woman's ugly or the woman's good looking the guy's very ugly but working on your personal health working out keeping in shape a little bit stop eating all the pizza stop drinking all the beer when you go to the club can help you look better stress control it's really stressed get a massage what's the name uh keep the personal indulgence down to a minimum this will help maybe boost your libido make you more horny ladies you need that improve sexual encounters overall too guys better blood flow if you're working out you getting the blood flowing better blood flow to your cock i i don't know about you but when i lift weights sometimes i get a hard on because the blood is flowing and it's not voluntary it's involuntary it just happens and all that so you know things can improve your sexual performance can improve which would be a good thing right people it's going to be a good thing all right so let's get into the nitty gritty.
Let's talk a little bit about navigating through the intense infatuation in relationships. I'm packing. It's the problems and its effects on partners. All right. So this involves an overpowering obsession with a new love interest.
Remember when you first got together the sex and all the passion was there after seven ten years it starts dying down often sidelighting other significant relationships and duties this phenomenon goes beyond the excitement of the honeymoon phase staring towards the unhealthy level of emotional dependency identifying limerence is key in avoiding its potential harmful impacts on both individuals involved in their wider social circle Thank you.
of emotional dependency identifying limerence is key in avoiding its potential harmful impacts on both individuals involved in their wider social circle the repercussions of limerence aren't limited to the couple it can disrupt friendships and family relationships if you're busy swinging all the time when are you gonna have time for your vanilla friends and your family if you start taking control you, you become addicted to it, which couples do get addicted to it.
Some are not as addictive as others, but there are some couples when I was working at the clubs and working at the resorts that I would see them all the time. And you ask yourself, why? You know, why are they not with their family? Why are they always here at the club when they're here? Those experiencing limerence might lose themselves in daydreams about their partner, disregarding their social and professional obligations. You ever sit there daydreaming about your wife getting game banged by a bunch of dudes? Or you and your wife go into an orgy with all hot people and all that?
You start daydreaming and your work starts suffering or whatnot this is what it's talking about this neglect can result in damaged relationships maybe your wife ain't into the orgies or having sex with other women you keep pressuring her and that's a constant theme guys keep pressuring their girls i had one for a swinger society today he's talking about his girl his new girl was a swinger but she got hurt swinging and she doesn't want to swing and he wants to swing still uh and all that so how can i make sure that i can get her into the swinging lifestyle back into it and i'm like buddy you can't do it leave her the fuck alone you know when you should mention swinging with tour is when she mentions it so if she never mentions it then it's not't do it.
Leave her the fuck alone. You know when you should mention swinging to her is when she mentions it. So if she never mentions it, then it's not going to happen. You got to ask yourself, what's the more important, swinging or being in a relationship with someone? So that could damage relationships. You could be ignored responsibilities. You got to pay. Listen, at the end of the day, like I said, swing is going to be there. At the end of the day, your job might.
So you got to make sure you're focused on your personal duties as a husband, as a wife, as a mother, as a father, as a worker, all that stuff. You got to make sure you're checking your responsibilities and making sure you get those responsibilities done first. Because guess what?
The clubs will be there Friday, Saturday night, next week a week from after that two weeks four weeks whatever frustration among neglected loved ones if you keep going out all the time you and your wife your spouse or whatever the kids might get a little angry because you're always there doing that or you go to the pool parties during the day and you leave the kids there with grandma grandpa whatnot you gotta remember you got to make time for everything swinging is not something you need to do asap swinging you can wait and you can do it one once a month you could do it whatnot and i know couples who are very successful they only go to the swingers club once a month when i was in florida working at caliente i saw couples there during the day they would go lay out nude hang out party they would go home to their families at night they wouldn't party they would stay who wants them they would stay once every other weekend they would go to a party saturday night and that was good that worked out for them they were they had that work- balance and that's what you really need a life swinger lifestyle work life balance so the heightened emotional state bought brought on by limerence requires deliberate efforts to preserve a harmonious and balanced relationship dynamic all right so you got all this stuff that you have to do and you got to be very very careful uh when you do this because like i said family should always come first i don't know how many times where i see couples prioritize swinging going to caliente or secrets over their own family because i think it does become a addiction and it's sad you know no when i was in my early 20s i think i was addicted to this but you know after a while you just realize you know what hanging out with my friends and family is more important i could go to the club next weekend than anything so tack with limerence overwhelming grip the limerence with its tendency to create an all-consuming fixation on a partner, needs careful handling to mitigate its overwhelming nature.
Establishing open dialogue with your partner about your emotional state and expectations sets a solid foundation. I'll take this.
Single women in the lifestyle, to to me are very difficult to deal with for whatever reasons they don't like being you know a lot of them i found out they don't they think i'm there to tell them what to do and all that well i'm not there to tell them what to do but i also remember we are a partnership we're in a relationship if i look at a guy and i go i don't like his vibe i don't like what he looks i don't want you playing with that guy because i pay attention when i go to a club i'm watching people who they play with who they talk to and all that stuff because that helps me in my game to end up getting laid if i know guys i know certain guys that never wear a condom with no woman or no couple at all.
I don't want my girl playing with that guy because I will not be using condos with my girl. But she will with other men and other couples. It's just a safety thing for me. Because, you know, you still can catch.
It's a higher risk you catch stuff with multiple partners all right so i just tell them i don't want you playing with that guy and they get up and they will get upset because what are you trying to do tell me what to do i go i'm not trying to tell you what to do i'm just saying you got to be careful uh and all that like the beautiful woman i that i would take the secrets all the time uh in kissimi florida she would play with guys outside in fat life because she was into the bdsm i'm like i'm not into the bdsm but i will support you going out and getting your kink on just let me know what's going on but then i find out when she does fuck these guys she's don't she don't wear condoms with them and i just ask her go why don't you wear condoms you're putting your health at risk but you're not only that you're putting my health at risk too and we got into it about you know we go to secrets every guy that played with you puts a condom on and that's it only person that goes bare back goes bareback with you is me.
When you go home, you have these guys. You allow them to enter you without a condom. I don't know what they got. I don't know those people. See, I know the people had secrets and all that. I know if they're clean or not because I watched them throughout the day, see how they act, interact with other people.
So there was not a solid foundation between that relationship, and that's why that relationship never did work out because we couldn't get past or she couldn't get past the fact that i was trying to tell her what to do when she didn't like that a lot of other single women are like are the same i'm not telling you what to do because 99.9 percent of the time it's going to be a yes but it's just that one smidgen of the percentage where it's going to be no because i know that people i know what they do i don't like it i don't like the vibe they give i don't like the the health risk they've imposed but that's just me i'm a single woman like i said vanilla women pulling vanilla women into the lifestyle is a lot easier because you can tell them explain to them and they're more open to listening whereas single women in the lifestyle you kind of tend to be a little closed off fish and all that which they probably should be because you know all the bullshit they get oh you're so beautiful all that stuff but anyways so here are some strategies to moderate the influence of limerence include encouraging honest conversations share your emotion desires and limits to foster mutual respect and understanding if you can't tell your partner that you want to get fucked in the ass by a strap-on with a bunch of women I don't know you gotta be able to because you know what you gotta you're vulnerable you are you're going to tell your husband you want to get fucked by a bunch of dudes with 10-inch dicks you know how well is that going to take oh my dick ain't good enough you know we all have those uh those issues those body issues oh i want to i want to have a threesome with another woman honey oh am i not good enough for you and stuff like that so we all have those issues so you got to be able to share it but be able to share it in a way it doesn't make that person feel less than you know know, share your emotions.
What, you know, when I tell a girl I want to watch her fuck another man, I go, this is why I like to watch it. I like it because I like to hear your moans and groans and all that stuff. I like to hear that your pussy, I can hear him when he's pounding you, your pussy gets wetter and wetter. I love that, the aroma that your pussy gives off and stuff like that. The emotions that I get out of it. I get excited. I get turned on. Things like that. The desires. You know, whatever your desires are. So you've got to be able to have honest conversations. And that's what swinging is all about.
All of it is honest communication. A lot of people don't do that.
Prom do that promoting personal reflection regularly assess your feelings and actions to discern discern the limerence effect what's going on how are you feeling after you had your first place session did the couple swapping go well did the threesome go well did the guy perform did the female perform what did you like and what did you did not like and that's one of those things you should always ask when i took the girl late a couple weeks ago to uh the pendulum club and after we had our thing i the next day i asked her go so what did you like and what did you not like about it and she told me what she liked and what she didn't like about it and you go okay so this is what it is she was talking about condoms she wants to use flavor uh flavored or condoms for oral sex i said fine you can do that she and she's like really i go yes you make the rules you're the woman you make all the rules so you know there was something she didn't like doing or didn't want to do with anyone else and there's something she loved about it so you know like i said you got to have reflection reflect on your past every time you play with someone when you first start off now once you say like you've been doing this 10 20 years you don't really have to do that because you already know each other you probably know each other more than anything anyone on the planet earth will ever know you know you just get it as a couple who's been doing it for a while now you could be a couple for 20 years start off swinging and you might find out new shit about that person you go i didn't know realize this i didn't realize that and that happens and you have to relearn everything again all right diversifying entrance entrance ensure a healthy mix of personal interest, connections, and tasks beyond the romantic sphere.
Awareness that a limerence is typically transient can help in avoiding its negative effects on your life and relationship. A diligent effort to maintain a balanced existence can safeguard your safeguard both your happiness and your relationship's happiness sometimes people put too much time and emphasis on swinging and not on the relationship right not everything has to be about swinging i know it was it's hard to do because you know when you are young or you are starting it's, it's fucking all new. It's great. The sex is a lot better. You're having great sex and stuff like that.
And all of a sudden now you have all this stuff and you're like, yeah, this is fun. This is great. Let's do it again. Let's do it. And that goes for both the male and female. I've seen couples, females get into it way more than the guy did and vice versa so you know it's it can be very troubling if you start thinking that way but you gotta sit back take a deep breath and just breathe and you'll be okay the club will be there next weekend so preserving self-identity within the relationship.
do you do this maintaining distinct self-identity within romantic relationship is vital holding on to one's uniqueness isn't an act of selfishness but a celebration of the individual traits each person contributes to a partnership this distinction is vital for the relationship and endure and the relationship's endurance and vitality so pursuing personal passions, engage in interests and hobbies that bring you joy independently of your partner. So remember, you're person A, they are person B, and you are person AB.
There are three people in a relationship, you, her, and you two together together but you got to have passions outside of each other you don't have to be around each other 24 7 you know you like bowling baseball sports uh sewing badminton or whatever whatever you want to do whatever you girls like drinking wine and painting pictures you know things So figure out what your personal passion is and go for it. That way you guys get your alone time away from each other, but also come back together and make that naughty time together. Manage your time wisely.
Allocate meaningful time for both of your partner and your friends and sharing a well-rounded social life. All right.
You don't have to be, listen listen i know you all want to have all these friends in the swinging lifestyle but you don't have to you could be that couple that go to the club fuck and you never see those people again unless you go to the same club and they're there again but outside of it no i had a girlfriend who was did one of those no-nos where she would see people outside like at the supermarket and she would take their numbers and she oh i got this number from this i'm like don't take numbers from people we are not here our relationship is between you and me we are not hanging out with these people outside us outside of work outside of the play, um the swinger clubs outside the hotels outside the home parties we're not doing any of that you and me are the main focus and our children are the main focus none of that but she keeps taking all these numbers she meets so she'll see someone she goes well i want to meet have friends i go we don't need friends in this lifestyle we're fine alone together we are just doing this for the sexual gratification for ourselves we hang out together we're always together all the time so you know you gotta you know make sure you decide what you want to do do you want to have a bunch of swinging friends it's okay to have swinging acquaintances where you know each other you hang out you know when you're at the club but then do you want to hang out the pool parties you want to get invited to the kids birthday parties the graduation parties that's up to you to decide so you got to have that well-rounded social life uh let's see participating in group activities integrating your partner into wider social circles can enhance communal ties and mutual appreciation i'm gonna do that bring in new girls when i have new partners i bring them into my lifestyle so i bring them in do they accept it or do they go away it's up to them so the way your partner responds to your independence can be quite revealing a supportive partner will champion your pursuit of happiness and personal development remember a thriving relationship consists of two complete individuals sharing the journey not losing themselves in it all right so like i was talking about the guy who's lady who decided she doesn't want to swing and we're gonna i'm gonna read you what the man wrote all right so i found actually found it so this person writes so i'm 39 straight and my significant other is 38 straight now i guess she used to be bisexual or gay who knows she used to be in the lifestyle years ago with one of her exes they had had a male, a female, male, female, and also have done a few same room full swaths.
I myself have been a few, been with a few wives while the husband watch. I have also been with a few female experiences in the past. I would love to, to experience this with my significant other now, but she said it will mess up the relationship that we have. She's basing it off a few bad experiences with her ex. She said that it's hard for him to see her pleasured by another man. She also, I mean, he also was caught with a few of the women without her consent or knowledge, broke her trust. I would love to see her being pleased by another guy and myself. The thought of it is in my mind often.
Of course, swaps and female-male-female experience.
We almost had a female-male experience with her best friend, her ideal extreme but she was extremely drunk and almost and almost passing out so i it didn't feel right i joined this group to learn more about the lifestyle and to ask for advice on how i can get this to happen should i even try if so how do i go about doing it go easy on me all right then people talked about it and they said all this stuff but what he's doing there he's not doing any of this stuff he's not he shared his passion okay he shared everything said okay yeah this is what i like and all that and she said no she's not into it so the best advice i could say is just leave it alone you're not going to have it's not going to happen with her you know if you stop talking about swinging and wanting to do this guess what she might actually open up later on in the relationship when she feels more secure in the relationship and say hey you know you know let's talk about that swinging and she might be okay with it after a while but when you're harping on it 24 7 like i think he's probably doing which a lot of guys will do with their wives or their significant other it's not going to happen so they're not having this journey they're cold they're they're losing each other over this swinging and like i said you have you're two individuals you gotta be able to come to a mutual agreement and she can't come to one because of her past trauma that she's had and which is understandable who else you know guys are like this too they start swinging their wives start fucking outside of the relationship and so on and so on you know what they can't do it anymore so you know it goes both ways but the gentleman and it's all well intentioned great great explaining it he just needs to drop it and let it go and realize this girl is not going to swing with him if he really cares about her and wants to be with her you know he just stops it and he just says you know i can't do it i'd like you more and all that because you never know what can happen a year from now it's like i always tell guys don't ask your wife to do anything that you're not willing to do so if you're willing to fuck another girl or have your wife let you fuck another woman you should be okay with your wife fucking another man if you're not do not ask her for that threesome because this is going to mess things up because you do not know i was always like it when people say well she's not into men i go she's more and she wants to experience more than men i go that though ladies i go that's great but what happens in five years what happens in 10 years We'll be right back.
it when people say well she's not into men i go she's more and she wants to experience more than men i go that though ladies i go that's great but what happens in five years what happens in ten years is she going to feel the same way she's going to always want to fuck women and just have threesomes with women or is she going to change where she wants to be with couples now she wants to be with dick so you got to be prepared for that and that happened to a good friend of mine him and his wife got divorced because they were bringing home girls she was a stripper they would bring home girls and they would fucking have threesomes with these girls all the time five ten years down the road she asked i want to have dick i want to have a threesome with two men and he was not down for it and it just crumbled the relationship because you know what she did she would just go to the bar and get two guys and get gang get split roasted so you know it's just one of those things where you got to be remember you got to have that solid foundation manage your time with each other build that relationship first don't just jump into swinging right off the bat because it ain't gonna work it doesn't never work for me i'm gonna be honest with you all the girls i just jumped in swinging with has never worked out the girls that were you know i don't really care if we swing whatever those are the girls i'm still talking to have a relationship with and i actually now we swing together sometimes so we go to the club so it's one of those things so a deeply rooted relationship thrives on emotional closeness closeness a critical element that goes beyond mere physical attraction to form a profound bond between partners prior to prioritizing emotional connection is key allowing for more profound understanding and intimacy that's what that dude's got to do he's got to prioritize his emotional bond, his emotional connection with his new girl.
That will help him get over the hump maybe. Building this type of intimacy involves engaging in deep conversations, sharing meaningful experiences, and dictating quality time together. Maybe talk about his desires more and all that. Maybe talk, reassure her that he doesn't want to have sex with other women. Now he brings out the Male, female you i just want to watch you fuck other people that can help so have those deep to deepen your emotional bond engage in conversations that reveal your thoughts and emotions i guess ladies like those guys that open up.
Create shared moments of joy and enduring memories. That's just not meaning in the bedroom. That means outside the bedroom. Go on vacation together. Go to a nice place together. Go to a nice restaurant together. Have a drink. Go on a rooftop.
Downtown Houston is rooftop bars where you get the skyline and you're on top of your 50 floors up and you're drinking a beer or whatnot allocate uninterrupted time to connect away from external distractions you got little kids when they go to bed talk don't just go to sleep watch a movie talk a little bit see how her day was act like you care and you do this vice rub his feet rubber feet give her a massage or something go out getures together, things like that.
A strong emotional connection lays the groundwork for a rewarding relationship, making each other feel cherished, understood, and appreciated. Nurturing emotional closeness fortifies your relationship, enabling it to weather challenges with resilience. This emotional bond is integral in preserving a dynamic and satisfying intimate life, acting as a binding substance that fortifies the partnership. All right? So, anyways. So now we go from that to embracing shared activities and quality time together. You've got to have quality time. Quality time does not mean fucking time.
Quality time means that. Quality time. Spend time together. Go get coffee. Stuff like that. Achieving an enrich intimate life. Extends beyond the confines of the bedroom. Don't. Just because this is a swinging podcast and whatever. It's not always about sex. It's about getting those bonds together. Share those bonds together. Like I said from personal spirits. The one girls. The ladies that I have just jumped into swinging with, I have no relationship with them whatsoever. It lasts for a couple of months and that's it. Bada boom, bada bing, it's gone.
But the women I have these bond over, I talk to them, we go out to dinners, we go out to movies or whatnot. We go to sport events, we do stuff, we travel together. I still talk to them today. So I have that bond with them. It involves the quality and depth of interactions shared in daily life. Activities such as planning date nights or sharing book recordations can significantly elevate intimacy levels. I hate book date, having them read books because, you know, getting your master's, your doctorates and all that, you have to read so much shit, you got to do so much shit for it.
I'm done with that. I do books on tape on tape now doing things audible doing things together goes beyond more near physical presence it includes actively participating showing interest in each other's lives go do a swing your club but don't fuck no one go have her dress up in a nice outfit no panties you know flirt with each other it's just you two you're the only two people in that club but everyone everyone else is there. You know? Get dressed up. You, don't dress like a slob. Put on a suit or something. Shave your fucking beard. Trim your beard. Cut your hair. Do stuff.
Do stuff that you want. Trim your nails. Your fingernails, ladies and gentlemen, are very important. Gentlemen, they're all very important because you have a finger or some girl and you got long nails, you're going to fucking cut the shit out of her pussy and you're going to ruin the night for everybody.
All trend those nails make them nice and smooth all right like when you cut cut them they get rough take a nail file no file them down make sure they're nice and smooth for her make sure there's no grease and dirt in there you know get all that stuff out of there look good for her go out and have a great time take pictures go like i said go to the skyline bar or something go go eat at on the rooftop of some restaurant and all that that'd be great for each partner shared activities offer unique opportunities a bond you'll bond over that you'll have a bigger bond and that bond will help you talk about your sexual desires and getting into the threesome and the swinging lifestyle, sex parties and all that.
Whether it's unwinding together or exploring common interests, unwinding. Think about it. You put the kids to bed, have a nice glass of wine, have a fireplace, build a fire pit, do something, you know, so you two can unwind and hang out together and talk about your emotions and stuff. These things will bring swinging to the forefront after a while. You'll be talking about it. You'll feel more safe talking to your wife, your husband about swinging and your sexual desires. All right. Ways to fortify the bond with shared experience. Surprise your partner with a mystery date.
Women, plan a fucking date. If a man asks you what you want to do and you say, I don't know, you don't know, you don't care, do not get mad at him that he does pick something that you don't like. Have input into your date. You can plan dates, ladies, you know, and gentlemen. Because I had it where, you know, AC has it where he dates girls. And, hey, what do you want to do tonight? I don't know, whatever. So I pick whatever I want to do and they get mad. We always do what you want to do because you never, ever tell me what you want to do when I ask. So, you know, do that. Plan a mystery date.
You know, it's real nice. You got a drive-in movie theater local. You drive to get a table out, order some Chinese food, pick it up and you go there and you can have dinner and a movie have nice comfortable seating you're you're at a drive-in something like nostalgic and all that especially if you're older like me myself 40s i'm in my late 40s and i remember going to drive-ins as a kid so it brings nostalgia and all that and people it's a unique date it's something different it's It's nothing, you know. You have a beach, go have a picnic at sunset on the beach or something.
Plan a mystery date. Start a personal book club to discuss your readings. Maybe, you know what, that'd be a great one. Start reading some swinger fiction, you know, or nonfiction or whatever. Start reading it. Listen to my podcast together. Start listening to anyone's podcast, actually. I don't care. You know, I don't like a lot of podcasts or the way they frame the lifestyle to be as peachy keen as it is, but it's really not. It's struggle. It's like life. Like I said, the vanilla world has less drama than the swinging world. I'm just saying that. Relive a special date night from the past.
You guys go somewhere. You go to a rock concert. Maybe you used to go to Nubiscuit all the time. We'll see you next time.
drama than the swinging world i'm just saying that relive a special date night from the past you guys go somewhere you go to a rock concert maybe you used to go to limp biscuit all the time that's where you met you met at a limp biscuit limp biscuits are touring now see if they're in your town or sitting near you go enjoy relive those nights those days when you're in your 20s no responsibility twinkle in your eye no kids no nothing go do that stuff sure get those bond get that bonding together get that bonding aid to what makes you closer because if you're like this close together and not like this anymore that swinging that swinger talk is going to be a lot easier here than you are here all right you can talk about you want to get fucking you want to swap with another couple and have sex in the same room or you want to watch people fuck or you want to watch people have you fuck or have people watch you fuck that's going to be a lot easier if you're not bonded it ain't going to happen so practical experiences often trump clinical methods in restoring enhancing trust and intimacy within a relationship like i said if you're trying to fix your marriage by swinging it ain't gonna work you know you hear these couples oh we had problems in our marriage we started swinging and we're great now okay great that's you that's one out of the millions of other couples that tried swinging and it fucking broke them up or ruined their relationship or they ruined them they never swing again because for every one couple that's successful there's probably five or ten couples that it's been unsuccessful like having a baby it's like oh if i have a baby it'll probably make our relationship but no having a baby is not going to make your relationship better you know you all seen that in the movies and you probably seen it in real life because couples probably you know have done it or maybe you've done it it might save one marriage but the rest of the marriages it might not so i don't know the power of love a power of small acts of love here you go guys i know you don't like this but we can't just be nice on valentine's day and our birthdays we gotta show love all the time so the intricate details of a relationship often hold the most significant impact small gestures of love act as a daily expressions of affection continuously fueling the romantic fire how about a slap on her ass that might show a little affection grab her titty or something give her a nice little peck on the cheek stuff like that so when you ever leave the house kiss her goodbye that's hell really in honestly you don't know that might be the last time you ever see her anyways because you never know what's going to happen you know the world's crazy so we gotta be safe we gotta be living in the now we're not not in the past not in the future living in now uh you know just small things a little note here and there things that don't cost money you don't have to do a lot of there's not a lot of things buy her some flowers once in a while order panties of the month club do something like that something shows you care or something like that you know what give her a mommy day out you know you let her go out while her girlfriends are her or she goes out to a movie she don't have to deal with the kids you deal with the kids or whatnot so some of the small things these small little gestures mean a lot and they add up over time so these actions symbolize emotion and tangible forms facilitating a deeper engagement with your partner without the need for words you know and it doesn't take a lot much so there's a there's an acronym called tie t-i-e and the tie stands for touch intimacy and engagement touch means convey love with a soft embrace or comforting hug hugger you know i think ladies love the come from behind hug and you too ladies sometimes you're men sometimes you're men not touchable but sometimes you know with you it's okay hug your man Thank you.
I think ladies love the come-from-behind hug. And you too, ladies, sometimes you're a man. Sometimes you're a man, not touchable, but sometimes with you, it's okay. Hug your man. A little slap on the ass. Baby, here you go. Might be a lot. The I stands for intimacy. Share memories or inside jokes that enhance your connection. If you are swinging, you still need intimacy. Talk about that couple that was weird or that guy that was weird or that great couple that you met that you really like and you hope that you see them again or they call you in the morning or something like that.
The E stands for engagement. Demonstrate your appreciation by being fully present and tentative.
You know, it's hard when you're having a conversation and your girl your man is on the cell phone looking at her fucking tiktok put that phone away that phone brings nothing but a bill that person next to you brings more to you than you will ever know in your lifetime that cell phone won't be will be sitting at your deathbed and that's it won't give you no joy won't give you no joy won't give you no no action that person next to you they will be holding your hand as you cross the gates the pearly gates that person will share experiences with you that that phone will never do put that phone down enjoy your partner it's.
It's like when you go to a club, guys. Why do swingers want to take pictures when they're at the club? All right? You all call for discretion, and yet you're taking pictures when you're at the club. Live in the now. Don't not the future. There's a saying. I don't fuck with people that I have a common past with. I only fuck with people that I have a common future with. All right? You guys got to come up with that future. All right? Put that phone down. Talk to each other. Embrace those ideals. Engage with those people.
So embracing these simple actions in Thai can rejuvenate attraction and reinforce the reasons for your initial attraction. Spontaneous acts of love strengthen the bond, fostering the sense of unity. Incorporating these gestures into daily life ensures continuous flow of affection, essential for nurturing and growing the relationship, transforming initial spark into a lasting frame. So this means you don't need the swinging to bring you closer together. You got that. Swinging can help you come together, but you need to do the tie. You need the touch. You need the intimacy.
You need the engagement. You need all that. That can bring your relationship a whole 180. You can turn it around and you're happy. You're content. You're not looking for cock and pussy outside. You got your wife say, hey, let's go find some cock and pussy together. There you go. You go get it. You go get it, girl, and have a great, great old time. And it happens. So you know what? You know, it's just one of those things you got to learn. So fostering communication on wishes and limits. In the journey towards sexual discovery, the cornerstone in the open and honest communication Thank you.
so fostering communication on wishes and limits uh in the journey towards sexual discovery the cornerstone in the open and honest communication of desires and limits this exchange is fundamental cultivating a vibrant fulfilling sexual relationship it's about more than voicing dislikes it's about actively sharing embracing your desires paving the way for erotically charged and secure connection you might get off and just talking about swinging and you know there's couples you probably see you go you know i see that couple all the time at the club we never see them with anybody because you know what they probably do they probably go home and talk about how you or i fucking them from the other side of the club and how all the guys wanted to fuck her and all that and the girls and all that yada stuff like that so they do all this stuff so it's one of those things you know be open so positive emphasis emphasis concentrate on sharing what excites and pleases you rather than what doesn't talk about that you like to get off on her fucking other men or fucking other women open dialogue ongoing dialogue i'm sorry continue to revisit and discuss boundaries as desires more ensuring comfort and consent remain central like when i first started it was all about me me getting my nut i didn't care about the woman or anything like that it's just me getting my nut over time it changed where now i'm more open to having men join me join me with my partners and now it's fully men are 100 allowed to be with my partner honestly do it respectfully and all that so things change over time like i said don't ask your partner to do something that you are not willing to do candid conversation foster an environment where fantasies and boundaries can openly be discussed you know it's hard you know it's going to be hard for a woman to hear that their man wants to fuck another woman it shouldn't be surprising but it's hard because you're going to feel like am i good enough for this person the person that i love the most is telling me he wants to fuck another girl so it's going to be hard and gentlemen you got to explain to her why what's the deal what what's the deal?
Why do you want to have sex with another girl and all that? Same thing for guys. You might say, honey, man, I really want to fuck a hung man. He's going to go, is my dick not good enough? Am I not hung enough? Am I small now? So there's all those self-doubt in the lifestyle. And there's body negativity, body images that we all deal with. So you just got to set the groundwork, all right? Embracing novelty and discovery. To maintain a vibrant connection, many couples venture into new dimensions of their sexual relationship.
Whether it's experimenting with the swinger lifestyle, exploring kink and fetishism or trying out diverse sexual positions and settings these activities inject excitement and freshness into the relationship experimenting with different sexual positions and locations to spark excitement what about fucking outdoors dogging dogging is very big in europe and england and all that so i'm like i want to always want to try that you can start trying dogging you go to a uh i don't know go somewhere and fuck in the bathroom or something real quick though do not take a lot of time because that that causes trouble Thank you.
Try that. You can start trying doggy. Go to a, I don't know, go somewhere and fuck in the bathroom or something. Real quick, though, do not take a lot of time because that causes trouble. You know, things like that. Try different sexual positions. Buy the Kama Sutra book. Go one position at a time. And I think there's like 300 positions, so you have one sex position a day. Introducing sex toys and accessories for new sensations. Don't be scared to use a vibrator, guys. Don't worry about it.
the vibrator you know as much as women joke oh i could i'm happy with my vibrator because i you know that they're women they're not happy alone no one's a happy alone these bitches that go on the line and say i'm happy without a man they're lying to you because they're a miserable human beings no one will say that if they're happy no one says when they're happy why they're happy they just go on with their lives all right they don't sit there tell everyone i'm happy because i don't have that relationship or anything they're miserable people the vibrator is not going to replace you because who's going to kill the bugs who's going to cut the grass who's going to take out the trash guess what guys it's going to be us don't worry about it bring in a vibrator fuck her good with it make her come make her squirt all over the bed, make that fucking mattress a water bed.
And she's going to love you no matter what. Dolving into role-playing fantasy enactments to full passion. Yeah, you always do that. Stranger, James Bond, the Bond girl, stuff like that. So gone are the days of Victorian modesty. Modern intimacy encourages stepping beyond comfort zones to discover thrown experiences that can fortify your connection. Self-care for improved intimacy. So self-care is pivotal for a rich and satisfying sex life. Prioritizing your physical, mental, and emotional health enhances not only your well-being, but also your experiences of intimacy.
Regular physical activity can boost energy and self-confidence, making you feel more appealing and attuned to your body self-care isn't just about personal well-being it's about bringing your best to the intimate sphere of your relationship all right a psychologist a psychotherapist might stress the importance of managing stress through meditation or yoga aiding and staying centered and engaged during intimate moments here are some self-care practices to enhance your sexual well-being regular physical activity for heightened stamina and self-image a balanced diet of optimal health and energy sufficient sleep sufficient sleep for physical and mental rejuvenation eight hours or more asleep stress management techniques like meditation or yoga for increased focus and relaxation.
Incorporating these practices into your routine enhances your connection with yourself, leading to more gratifying and immersed sexual experiences with your partner. So, in the realm of intimacy, ensuring mutual consent and pleasure is akin to carefully choreographed dance. This process demands a careful approach to balance expectations and safeguard the comfort of anyone involved. Central to this practice is the respect for privacy, enabling partners to explore their desires without the worry of judgment or being exposed.
This goal isn't to push limits unnecessarily, but rather to discover a harmonious blend of trust and adventure that satisfies both individuals. It's a matter of fact.
or being exposed this goal isn't to push limits unnecessarily but rather discover a harmonious blend of trust and adventure that satisfies both individuals intimate these steps to embody these principles choose a safe word to confidently withdraw from any situation that grows uncomfortable maintain open lines communication to continually assess comfort and satisfaction levels and lastly welcome feedback and remain flexible to altering your approach as necessary a truly enriching intimate experience thrives on mutual respect and listening crafting an environment your both partners are fully represent and deeply connected now these are some lovely ways for you and your partner to keep your relationship protected when you are swinging because there's going to be a lot of drama there's going to be a lot of I'll see you next time.
for you and your partner to keep your relationship protected when you are swinging because there's going to be a lot of drama there's going to be a lot of outside forces that are pulling you and i would hate to see anything happen because of this i want to keep you in the lifestyle i want you to be happy i want you to enjoy it and all that lovely stuff but if you you cannot protect your relationship, it ain't going to be successful. Protecting your relationship is the paramount to any swinger relationship. Your relationship comes first before swinging.
Your family comes first before swinging also. Remember that. So just remember that, gentlemen. Shave those cock and balls. Ladies, make your men shave your cock and balls. Make it a little intimate thing, a little bonding experience. Nothing like having a woman with a sharp razor next to your ball sack, gentlemen, to really heighten your experience. So shave your cock and balls. Get your Doobie Energy drinks at doobie.gg. Get your promo cold swinging single, and you should get your drinks. Get that extra shot of adrenaline when you're at the club.
With that, ladies and gentlemen, keep on swinging. Enjoy the day. Enjoy the weekend. Houston, they got splashed this weekend. The first weekend of August. Hopefully that's going to be a great event for all of you to attend. Couples only. Sorry gentlemen, we're not invited again. But go there and have a great time. For that, keep on swinging America and shave your cock and balls. I want to be the devil on your shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four-leaf lover Baby, I'm a Harley to your joker
