In this episode of The Swinging Single Podcast, AC Maxwell dives deep into the swinging lifestyle from the perspective of single men. Discover the unique dynamics single guys face in a couples-focused world, understand the supply and demand that shapes access and opportunities, and learn about common performance challenges and how to overcome them. AC also shares valuable tips on where to find swingers and how to build your place in this exciting community. Whether you’re new or experienced, this episode offers practical advice and encouragement to help single men thrive in the lifestyle with confidence and respect.Topics Covered:The role and dynamics of single men in swingingSupply and demand realities in the lifestylePerformance issues and how to manage themBest places to meet swingers and connectTips for success and enjoymentResources Links:SwingLifestyle: swingsingle.comKasidie: kasidie.comAdultFriendFinder: adultfriendfinder.comFollow AC Maxwell on social media: swingingsinglepodcast.com swigingsinglepodcast@gmail.com
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host AC Maxwell, broadcasting from the legendary Upside Down Pineapple Studios here in the heart of Texas. So for over two decades, ladies and gentlemen, I embraced the Swingin' Lifestyle as that creepy single male. And on this show, I'm here to share my wildest tales and experiences with you.
And give some advice to some of you newbies out there or some of you old timers that just need a refresher so gentlemen shave your cock and balls grab some lube and some tissues we don't like dirty boys and for those spouses out there pull your panties to the side sit on your man's face sit on his cock and get cozy and settle in for some uncertain eye-opening stories on the swinging single podcast because today we're going to talk about those dreaded single men how to where do they fit in fit in?
Where do they fit in in this lifestyle? And we'll talk a little bit later on about my time at Paradise Lakes Resort. Just right before Thanksgiving. And also, for all you out there. Those who celebrate, Happy Thanksgiving. Merry Christmas and all that Happy New Year's if I don't get to hear from you or anything like that.
So, sit back, relax, and enjoy some eye-cens censoring uncensored tales from the swinging lifestyle as a single male point of view the swinging single podcast with host ac maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only the opinions views and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host AC Maxwell and any featured guests or contributors and do not necessarily represent those of the podcast's affiliates, sponsors, advertisers, or partners.
Any information provided is given with the understanding that it does not constitute a contract, engagement, or formal advice. The content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws. Get real high, we get wild Yeah, we've been besties since the moon I can't believe what we've been through I've even seen her naked too We get wild Oh, that guy, she's looking amazing Cause tonight, she got a really tight dress on See you next time.
Oh my god, she's looking amazing Cause tonight she got a really tight dress on And she likes to dance She's dancing all on me with her thighs And then I realize I wanna fuck my best friend Fuck my best friend Fuck, fuck I want to fuck your... all right hello everyone and welcome back to the Swingin' Single Podcast. I'm your host, A.C. Maxwell, here to talk all things swinging and also the ins and outs of swinging and the highs and lows and everything in between. This is uncensored.
This is purely amateur. This is just taking it for entertainment for what it's worth and all that great stuff. Also, happy Thanksgiving to all you little sons of bitches out there, all you swingers out there. Hopefully you had some. The turkey wasn't the only thing getting stuffed over the weekend, Thanksgiving weekend. A lot of us have a four-day weekend, which we all celebrate. Black Friday. All right, so you BBC lovers out there, Friday night should be the night we get that.
BBC and all that great stuff. so but today's episode is especially dedicated to those single men out there wondering how they fit into the swinging lifestyle because you know ac always hears single men are not swingers and all that shit but yeah it's funny that single females are swingers but yet single men can't be swingers but anyways maybe maybe you're new maybe you just hit some roadblocks Or maybe you're just curious about the dynamics at play.
Either way, this is your guide to a deep dive into the world of swinging for us single guys. We'll talk about where you fit, the balance of supply and demand, common performance issues, and how and where you can meet like-minded swingals. So, you know what? Let's just jump right in. But before we do that, let's go to swingandsinglespodcast.com. Check out all things AC. Gentlemen, shave those cock and balls. If you have any questions, go to swingandsinglepodcast at gmail.com.
You got any club owners who want me to come out and do a live broadcast? Don't worry about it. I'll show up and all that great stuff. We'll have a great time because, you know what, that's what AC does.
We has a great time with people and all that stuff so you know we'll see but anyways let's look at it the dynamic of swinging for the single males so swinging is often seen as a couple's playground and that's no accident right it's got to be who started swinging couples the lifestyle naturally gravitates towards couples uh because uh most events and all that stuff uh clubs and parties are designed with couples in mind now you're going to you own a business you're going to cater to what your demographic is and the demographic is for majority of the people are are couples a lot of single guys out there they say they're swingers but they're not really swingers they're not they're only interested in getting their dick wet because they can't get laid because they have no personality and all that stuff so you know it's more swing it's for couples i agree with that i wouldn't say no swing is not for but i also say swingers can be single men and single women but that leaves single men in a unique and sometimes challenging position yes because a lot of guys are scared of other guys cocks and all that stuff because god damn what happens if your wife gets fucked by another good dude and she's moaning and groaning things saying things she's never said with you it might get your little insecurity might come out and all that stuff so anyways sorry about that so where do we single men fit in the key thing is to understand that guys often play a supporting role in this space all right remember let me rephrase it let me repeat that for the people in the back the key thing is to understand that single guys often play a supporting role in this space we are not the main characters in the movie we are the supporting actor and actresses stuff like that they can be highly desired for their energy enthusiasm and dynamic they bring but the access is often more limited compared to single women of course because everyone wants a single girl because oh my god i get two pussies at once and i don't have to have to fight for pussy because my wife and all that stuff and all that stuff anyways so there's largely this is largely because couples are seeking not just physical interaction but they might seek any emotional comfort and trust the presence of a girlfriend of a wife reassures boundaries and negotiations i always find that so being true and all that stuff because the fact that you got a lot of people in the lifestyle not looking for single dudes and stuff like that and you know what it's okay we can you guys we're going to be able to figure it out because of this single men calmly join the lifestyle either by seeking out couples who are open to introducing a third person like myself like i said i'm very open to single guys i'm taking a girlfriend of mine hopefully she gets fucked by a lot of guys tonight and and I get to watch, participate, but, you know, we seek out that single guys by participating in single mixers and events especially designed to integrate singles into the couple scene.
now if you're not let me do this first if you are not looking for a dude to play with to have fun with please don't go to a party where it's hot wife night or bull running the bulls night or where it's four couples that are looking for extra dick you're just gonna make everything awkward and i'm gonna have to make fun of you because you came on the wrong night i don't know how many times i go to a swinger club where it's specifically for the men and women that are looking for extra men to play with their wives and you know you will always get it you always get a couple bitch and complain about there's too many single men of course there's too many single men because you know why because it's bull night it's hot wife night it's for couples that like the men night it's not couples night go on one of those nights don't go when it is what's Thank you.
it's for couples that like the men night it's not couples night go on one of those nights don't go when it is what's his name when it's single male night because then you're going to be very disappointed in all that stuff and i would hate for you to be disappointed because i want you to enjoy the lifestyle i ain't upset that you don't want to play with any single guys that's fine you don't want to do it that's you that's your dynamic good for you and all that great stuff all right but you got to remember read the fine print when you go to the club because you never know it's going to be at the club so it's a space that's filled with opportunity but requires patience respect and keen social skills gentlemen you got to be patient you could send a hundred emails to a couple online which i tell you never if you ever pay attention to ac you know not to fuck with online shit it's just waste of time you know that you're gonna have to send a hundred emails out of those hundred emails you might get two responses back you might get none response back it just all depends on how you carry yourself the pictures all that stuff the pictures are the most important stuff because no one reads the actual uh what do they call it, the actual profile that you put on there.
No one ever does. So you've got to be very careful on that, all right? So you've got to put some good, put your best effort, best foot forward in all that. Don't just do anything just to, don't put any old picture on there because it could kill, make or break you, all right? So that's going to require patience. Remember, you might go to a club. There might be a hundred couples there. Maybe only five of them are looking for a single guy.
So that means 95 of those couples are not interested in you at all. Now you got to, now your, your job is to find which ones are into you, which ones are not. That's where the patience comes in.
You got to talk got to talk to people you got to show respect remember introduce yourself to the man first and sometimes you know what the man doesn't want to talk to you he doesn't want to talk to him his wife is going to do all the talking she's going to do all the stuff and that's fine but make sure you you extend your hand get a handshake or whatever fist bump or whatever to the man let him know that your your intentions are good and all that and also be able to read the room that's another problem a lot of guys cannot read the room and all that stuff so so to supply and demand in the lifestyle remember there's a million of single guys and not a lot of couples so we're now talking about the supply and demand because this is a huge factor shaping the experience of a single man which can also you know put single men down and get them out of the lifestyle so to speak because there's not enough guys there and all that stuff or there's not enough couples for you to play with simply put there's a higher demand for females than there are are females available the couples are often hesitant or selective when it comes to adding a third male.
Look at the profile. Read the profiles. When you do SDC has speed dates, look at what they're looking for. If they don't have anything specific of what they're looking for, go in their ad. Look at what their ad says. Because a lot of times they might not say anything where they might be looking for hung, six-foot, you know, make-six-figures type shit like that. Or to be like, we just want any size cock.
like we just want any size cock or we're looking for black guys we're looking for Hispanic guys or Asian guys so it all just depends read the profiles make sure you don't waste your time all right because they're going to be because couples can be selective they don't have to just go after anything I've seen ugly ass women go to a club and get laid a lot you know why because they're in demand you know you see it like i always talk about sds swinger delusional syndrome where a lot of swingers think they're hotter than they really are but they're really not that good looking there may be a five in the real world real world but when you go outside when you go to the club, there are 10 because, you know what, everyone wants to fuck them, all right?
Just remember this. You're not that, you don't have that privilege. You don't have that male privilege right there, all right? So you got to think. This scarcity means there's a certain market pressure on single men. To put it bluntly, single guys are often the limited resource, but it also means the competition and scrutiny are higher. The upside here is that the single men who are bringing confidence, respect, and positive energy are often highly valued.
They are seen as assets to the lifestyle for increasing the pleasure and excitement of group play. Now let's look at confidence. You've got to be confident.
You can't say, oh, I'm not going gonna be able to fuck her sure you can just ask what's the what's the harm you talk to someone you go hey babe hey sir you know your wife is beautiful i think i want to play do you think you'd be interested in playing the worst thing to say is no or yes they might say yes respect like i said always talk to the male of the group if when i'm with my girlfriend at the club and she the guy talk comes up to and talks to us doesn't talk to me at all it's going to be a no i'm not i already told her she already knows she agrees we already said we set our boundaries and all that so we're like no we're not playing with you he has to respect me enough to talk to me because ultimately i get to decide who gets to use that beautiful pussy that she has and if you don't respect me by not even can't say a word to me can't even talk to me about stuff then there's no respect and be positive bring positive energy don't cut other single men down if there's another dude there don't cut him try to cut him down because a lot of guys you do some of you motherfuckers will try to cut another man down i told you single guys you need to respect each other because guess what you two can help each other out you know i know who plays with single guys and who doesn't so i could offer my advice to another dude say don't worry about them because they don't play with single men they don't they're looking for couples and single females or they're just looking for single females or they're just looking for couples so use each other use each guy help each other out don't try to cock block each other because you have a small dick and you have small dick energy bring that big dick energy show couples you have big dick energy big dick energy doesn't mean that you have a big dick it It just means you know how to, you have that confidence.
You have that positive vibe on you. All right? But the challenge is also real. Single guys can get sidelined or ignored if they act entitled. Don't prioritize communication or hygiene or fail to respect the boundaries and the needs of couples. That's another thing.
If you act entitled, you go in there, you walk in, you're paying $150, 200 bucks to go to a club, don't think that you're going to get laid, you know what, you might not get laid, it might not be your night, or there might be a night you go, you get fucked by four women, it just all depends on how you act, if you look at entitled and all that shit, they're not going to want to fuck around with you, guys, this is, think of of it as dating put your best foot forward all right be able to talk be able to talk more about her fucking big old titties in her ass be able to talk about shit that's going down you know maybe they have maybe you're in the same job industry talk about that do something that doesn't say you're just a fucking pervert like ac maxwell make sure your hygiene shave your're hygiene.
Shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. Don't have a forest down there. Remember, if you shave your cock and balls, your cock looks bigger and all that. Talk about the boundaries that those couples have. What are they boundaries? Do they kiss? Now, I know it's fucking weird. I'm sticking my dick in her vagina or mouth in her ass, but don't kiss. She don't want to be kissed.
So know that they don't want to be kissed or they don't do anal they don't play around with the anus or anything like that just respect the boundaries remember you're there to enhance so the best approach would be come prepared physically mentally and socially all right physically listen if you're you know you're a fat slob listen swinging is the most judgmental lifestyle you're to ever have. It's like bodybuilding.
They're going to put you up on a stage and you're going to nitpick every muscle, every groove on your body. Go to a bodybuilding competition. Check that out. That's what swinging is. They're going to look at everything from what you wear, how your hair is styled, your beard. Is it trimmed? Do you look like a fucker? You just got off the oil rig and you just came to the club. For a single guy, you have to put 110% effort into your appearance.
That means if you look down, gentlemen, if you're listening right now, look down. Can you see your cock? Pull your pants down. If you can't see your cock, it's time to start working out. You got too too big of a gut, all right? Notice when you go to the club, who gets picked first? Always the young guys who are in shape. Now, even the old guys that are in shape get picked first. The ones that get picked last are the guys who probably haven't seen their cock since the Bill Clinton administration.
Guys who don't shave their bears, trim it up. You don't have to shave. You don't have to be clean shaven, you know? But trim it up.
don't have to shave you don't have to be clean shaving you know but trim it up look nice clean make those lines crisp and all that stuff you know how you dress don't dress like a bum put on your fucking khakis or a nice t-shirt something you don't have to dress like a bum when you go there mentally be prepared you might get laid by four women five women six women you might get laid by no one you might be just be jerking off all night all right be mentally prepared don't be sad that it doesn't happen because guess what there have been times when i go to the club i don't get laid then i go back again and i got women after women off my dick getting on my dick bumping on it jumping on it grinding on it those are the great days some days are good some days are bad some days are just average and be prepared socially be able to talk about something other than sex if you can't talk about anything other than sex with a couple and all stuff like that then you know what i don't know it's gonna be rough for you now there will be couples where they ain't gonna give a fuck if you can talk or not.
They just look at your cock and go, oh, that's a nice big cock. They're going to fucking suck it. But there are couples out there that want to be wine, dine, and 69. And if you can't do any of that, you ain't going to be doing the 69. So remember that. Be sociable. Don't be a fucking pervert all day. Let's say I'm a fucking pervert, but damn, dude, I can at least talk about shit that's going on in the world and do things that other people can't talk about, you know.
And it one of those things where you gotta you know be smart all right here's a problem that i'm seeing a lot more a lot more in the young dudes and i don't understand it young dudes are supposed to be virile be fucking full testosterone performance issues let's be straight up. Swinging, especially for single men, can come with performance anxiety. For most guys, not for me.
Unlike private sex with a partner, swinging, group settings, the new dynamics introduce pressures that aren't easy to handle. I know dudes that have been swinging for five, ten years have trouble getting it up, even with Viagra, Cialis, or whatever. Now they got that tri-mix, you can shoot it in your dick. If you want to go that far, they still have trouble getting it up, and I'm asking people, I want to find out, is it your diet that's going on? You're not working out or anything like that?
So I would double check. If you're one of these dudes, fix it, because you know what? Nothing's going to kill your vibe than you not getting it hard.
If you don't believe me me go on reddit go on swingers reddit and see all the performance issues that these dudes are having even guys in the couples are having fucking limp dick syndrome so here are some of the common issues that might be included anxiety and nervousness the fear of not performing well around others or feeling like you're being judged you're gonna be judged dude that's one of the problems i always i always laugh at about the swinger lifestyle you're we're a judge you're the most judgmental people we judge how you look how you perform and all that stuff people are going to talk about your performance so if you're a two-pump chump you're going to be made you're another couple's going to tell another couple that you're a two-pump chump and stuff like that especially if they're into swinging they have a lot of swinging friends and stuff like that so you do got to put your best i can see where the anxiety and nervousness of that comes about because you are we are single men we are judged by this and it sucks but it's the way the world way of the world just like women are judged by how big their titties are their asses are nowadays so you know what if it's good for the goose good for the gander i guess another problem that could be fucking up men's uh performance is endurance pressures multiple partners can often mean multiple rounds which can be physically taxing oh hell yeah i'll talk about my weekend at paradise lakes later after all this but yeah it can be very taxing that you're fucking so many times listen if you fuck and you and you fuck some girl, you come four, five, six times in a night, no one's going to sit there and say, you have performance issues, dude.
You're going to be like, you're the fucking man. Because guys are going to be like, damn, I wish I could come six times in a night. Because a lot of guys can't. So, you know, if you're able to come multiple times in a night, in a session, you're good to go. Don't worry about that. All right? Pace yourself, you know? If you know you're going to be partying all night, pace yourself. You don't have to bust a nut every five minutes.
You know, you can stop, fuck for 30 minutes or whatever, you know, and pace yourself. You know you, so do you. Learn your body. Learn how you cum and stuff like that.
Maybe there's a way you can think of something that doesn't make you nervous or make you come quick all right another thing that could be a problem which i think in most comparison and self-esteem struggles single guys sometimes feel overshadowed by others especially if there's a difference in experience and stamina uh and stuff like that these pressures can also cause what some call performance burnout or shy dick syndrome.
The good news is it's normal and it happens to many guys, even those with experience. So how to combat it? Focus on communication, consent, and talking, taking the pressure off yourself. Remember, the experience isn't solely about your performance.
It's about the connection, the the fun and the mutual pleasure you're getting from the other couple and the other people in the room so you remember that also practice self-care adequate sleep hydration and pacing yourself can make a big difference what i have learned for me personally after i have a play session i always got to do this i remember to the bathroom, clean off your dick, get a baby wipe that you should bring with you in your swinger to go pouch or whatever it is, your purse or whatever.
Clean off your dick with the baby wipe. Make it nice and smelling good for the next girl who's going to go down on you or you're going to stick your dick in. Then you're going to take a piss.
Make piss it's not going to be a big piss it could be a small piss it doesn't just piss out the bacteria piss out the other common semen that y'all have in your dick that's left over go get a bottle of water chug that bottle of water down wait till after you piss piss then you could go back and play because what will happen it will clear everything out it will make everything you'll have it will give you enough time to recoup your refraction time so you can get hard again this is what i have experienced and this is what works best for me you could be different i know some dudes that their dick is hard as a rock after they come and i don't know how they do it but i'm happy for them it's great it works for them and they just don't they don't they're just horny so they that's what makes them go it makes them work and all that stuff so you got to really find out you got to practice what you preach you got to practice this all the time figure out what you are what works for you well and what doesn't work for you and that could take away some of the pressures and some of the performance issues and some of the you know limp dick syndrome that you might have because i tell you what limp dick can destroy you as a single guy in the lifestyle because if people find out you have a limp dick me personally i'm not gonna pick you to fuck my girl because i need to know you can hit a home run with her i want you to fuck the shit out of her that she's never been fucked before so if you can't get it up then how am i going to trust you and allow you to be in the presence of my girl naked inside inside of her and all that stuff so you know make sure you do that you do that.
And if you're going to a club, make sure you're not up to, you know, late at night. Get a lot of sleep. Take a nap before you go. Make sure you're hydrated and all that stuff. Drink a lot of water. Don't drink a lot of alcohol, dudes. Guys, listen. If you're a single guy, don't have one bear and that's it.
Cut yourself off off if you need more than one beer to do this gentleman you are not in the life lifestyle i see too many guys that get drunk and they can't get it up because of the alcohol and guess what we make fun of you yes when you leave the room we're making fun of you we're making fun of your limp dick syndrome lds limp dick syndrome and a lot of guys have it because they drink too much have one beer take the edge off and just drink water not only does the water help you focus but it also helps you have a big cum shot because you know what some couples love the big cum shot anyways so that's one way you could stop your little you know small dick syndrome or syndrome or little limp dick syndrome.
All right, so now you've got to find swingers. All right, so you get the dynamics. You understand the challenges and how to overcome them. Now, how? Now, where do you meet swingers and get involved? All right, one place, and I always say this, is the best place to meet them. Call me weird, but I think it's the best place. Lifestyle clubs and events. Who would have thought? Going to a lifestyle club and going to an event, you'll see other swingers.
Anyways, many clubs welcome singles on certain dates. Check the website that they have.
Make sure you're allowed on a Saturday night if you're going to go saturday look for places that explicitly mention singles are welcome some clubs have pacific singles nights observing the crowd and vibe helps you blend in and find potential connections all right like i said you're going to have that where couples are going to go and they're going to not like single guys but yet they'll still go on single male night and they'll bitch about it, okay? That's not, whatever.
You swingers are just annoying the shit out of me. But anyways, remember, just because it's single male night doesn't mean everyone's there for single guys. Some of them are still there for the single women and for the other couples. So don't assume anything. Please don't. Don't be stupid and assume that these people are there for just all single guys. Always ask for consent. To be continued... Don't assume anything. Please don't.
Don't be stupid and assume that these people are there for just all similar values. Always ask for consent. Talk to them. Communicate consent. Two big C's. Another one you should use, which I don't personally think you should use because I think it's a waste of fucking time for single men, is Sites Online Swinger Platforms.
Like apps, just like swing just like swing lifestyle.com cassidy.com sdc.com adult friend finder and all that stuff now when you do go to these websites remember these are regional websites so if you pick one you better know that it's regional Cassidy is not big on the east coast where it's big in the west coast so if you live in vegas or los angeles cassie is a good one swing lifestyle is mostly a great lakes eastern florida one region sdc.com is texas the south and all that area and all that so that's so you got to make sure they're regional because you're going to pay for these so you don't you want to pay for something that's going to be a good value for you make sure they give single men access to thousands of couples and singles looking to connect build a clear respectful profile and be upfront about seeking couples interested including single guys now remember pictures are worth a million words on swing websites because guess what swingers do not read your whole profile i could put i'm a serial murderer and stuff like that but if i'm as hot as you know george clooney uh brad pitt you know fucking Tyrese or stuff like that.
But if I'm as hot as, you know, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, you know, fucking Tyrese or anyone like that, they're never going to read my fucking profile. They're going to hit me up because that's how people are. Let's just face it. It's judgmental. It's about how you look and shit like that. So remember, put your best pictures you have online.
If you are worried about people knowing that you're on a swinger website, block your face out on some of the other pictures, on the pictures you have in public. You can have private ones. You can give access to people that want access to your pictures. And you can have your face on there.
Because once again, they're going to look at your face and they're going to decide yes or no they're not going to decide oh look at this guy's personality is so great we're going to fucking have let's invite him over to fuck you honey no it's not going to happen they're going to look at your face and the honey's the wife's going to go yay your name she's not going to read anything about you all she's going to do is yay based on your looks okay now you laugh but you're I hear couples laugh.
Oh, that's not true. I go, bullshit. It is true because you know what? You've probably done it yourself. Anyways, so remember, have great pictures. Third way, lifestyle meetups and mixers. These are lower-pressure gatherings held in bars, lounges, and private venues.
They offer chances to socialize,ize network and build comfort before moving on to the play parties like uh the hr group has a brunch on a sunday like once a month i think that i'm not invited to because apparently i'm too mean because their couple's there they're ugly as shit and they act like they're fucking hot but anyways you can do that that'd be a great way do another bar meet where it's at a local pub now listen one thing when they go to a local bar they can't discriminate they can't tell you yes or no so you can go anyways all right now i would make sure before you do go that there are allowing single guys to go there because there's nothing there's going to be a problem if you show up and not look and there is for couples only it's just going to make It's just going to give off a wrong vibe for you and all that stuff, and you're fucked and all that stuff.
So if they have, if it's at a bar and they do say single men are allowed, you can go and hang out. Hang out. Meet people where there's no pressure and stuff like that. Anyways, party invites do connections. You make those connections at those little parties, now you're getting party invites. So word of mouth is often the best way to score invites to private parties. Couples who trust you will welcome single men they feel comfortable with.
And there's a lot of couples that do invite single men, they might one or two single guys to a house party. Go to a swing at retreats and resorts.
If you want to go big, retreats and resorts if you want to go big retreats and resorts are offer immense immersive experiences designed to integrate singles into the lifestyle in a respectful and exciting environment like i think there's temptation cruises allow single guys to go uh temptations i think in cancun allow single men and single women to go secrets caliente paradise lakes the rooftop all allow single men you're gonna pay a high premium but you and single women to go.
Secrets, Caliente, Paradise Lakes, the rooftop all allows single men. You're going to pay a high premium, but you're still allowed to go and have a good time if you want. So it's just like up to you. If you're open to the experience, be smart. Don't be rude. Don't be a jackass and all that stuff.
So before we wrap up, a quick tip for single men navigating the respect is king respect boundaries consent hygiene and the atmosphere confidence yes but humility too confidence attracts but ignorance will get you nowhere communicate openly ask questions be honest about what you want and what your limits are step back if needed sometimes the best move is to observe and connect emotionally before jumping in physically take care of yourself mentally and physically preparation uh go a long way and have fucking fun man swinging is about pleasure and connection don't lose sight of that and remember your role as a single man in the swinging might be different than you initially imagined.
But it doesn't have to be limiting. It can be fulfilling, exciting, and downright fun if approached in the right mindset. So hopefully you gentlemen have learned a thing or two and you're not going to be that creepy single dude in the corner anymore that I always hear couples bitching about. So, you know, hopefully that ain't you, you know.
know i know it's not gonna be you because you're all good people who listen to me only good people listen to me but anyways so hopefully that helps the single guys where do you fit in if you ever question where you fit in and all that stuff because guess what you do fit in don't let another couple uh tell you that you don't fit in because you do all right right? Anyways, so let's talk about, we got, we're 30 minutes, 33 minutes into the podcast.
Let's talk a little more about my weekend at Paradise Lakes. It's the weekend before Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving to everybody. If I haven't said it before, I'll say it again. And so I'm here, decided what to do before Thanksgiving. We got a week off of work, don't have to do anything, get to just hang out. So I decided to take a trip for the weekend over to Paradise Lakes. I meet a friend of mine. She's a noob, newbie in the lifestyle, single female. Well, actually, she's married.
She says she's going to get divorced, but I don't know. We'll see what happens. Newbie in the lifestyle, single female, loves both men and women, all right? So she checks a lot of boxes for couples and single dudes and all that stuff. They use her as a coupon and things like that. So I call her up, tell her, hey, I could come in. We'll meet up, and we'll go to Paradise Lakes. I'm going to say, we're going to get a room. We'll stay tonight and so on and so on.
Now, I haven't been to Paradise Lakes in about four years now, and I can tell you a lot has changed. Actually, you know what I'm going to say? Not much has changed. It's still the same. One thing I think the problem with Paradise Lakes is, if you have been there, you know what I'm talking about, is the age problem.
I think they have an age problem where a lot of the you know i call it a swinger retirement home there's just a lot of older age swingers that go in there do this and all that stuff and i have no problem with it because i love people all ages pussy to me women to me are beautiful at all ages i saw some gorgeous 70 year olds this weekend this past weekend uh i seen some gorgeous 30 year olds this past weekend i don't discriminate with age because you know what i'm gonna get to that age one day so i hope so no one discriminates gets me like the younger couples and the problem like well the reason why i'm bringing this up is because younger couples what i see on reddit and uh online is they always asking for where are the younger couples at and i tell a lot of them something they don't want to hear or what swingers don't want to tell anybody the truth is that swinging you know the majority of swingers are 40s and 50s that's usually the home run the you know the best i don't know what you could call it the home run Thank you.
The majority of swingers are 40s and 50s. That's usually the home run, you know, the best, I don't know what you could call it, the home run area, the power at the plate. You'll have 30s and 20-year-olds, but you don't have a shitload of them like you do. You have a shitload of 40 and 50-year-olds because you know what? What happens is you have kids in your 20s.
Your kids get older your 40s what do you do now you start swinging and you know that seems to be the way things are you know society is nothing there's no big evil plan by anybody but you know 40s and 50 year olds start swinging because you know they realize there's not a lot of time left and you don't really give a fuck anymore. My give a fucks about people in this lifestyle, like I probably have a lot of people who fucking hate me because of this podcast, I could give a fuck less.
It's just my opinion. If you don't respect my opinion, who the fuck are you? Why do I care what you think anyways? So, you know, you just give a, you have, don't give a fucks anymore. Now, when you're in your 30s and 20s, you still care because, you know, you're worried about how people perceive you, stuff like that. Now, there are some 20s and 30-year-olds that don't give a fuck, which is good because, you know what, you shouldn't really give a fuck.
But, you know, you'll still have a small fraction, a small demographic of swingers are 20s and their 30s. And I do think that paradise lakes because you gotta get listen us 40 to 50 year olds we're gonna die someday so we need you need to replace us so i think whatever they can do to make younger people more acceptable to the lifestyle or go to paradise lakes?
Because I think Paradise Lakes, it's smaller, and I think smaller venues have a better chance of you making a real connection with people because of it is smaller. Like when you go to a big-ass resort, you're spread out so much you can't really talk to everybody. But when you're at a smaller resort, you're pretty much forced to talk to people, just like when you go to a house party. You can't go to a house party and not talk to people. You're going to have to talk to someone.
You're going to go somewhere. You're going to go talk to people because that's what is going to happen. It sucks, but it's true. But I think all they have to do is two things. Find a way to get younger people into the lifestyle or to their club or to the resort because it's a great resort. Don't sit there and say I'm bashing it. I'm just saying it is for a lot of older people. If you haven't gone there and you want to do an honest look, an honest take on it, look.
There's a lot more older people than you normally have. You go to Caliente, you go to Secrets. Not a lot of older people at Caliente are Secrets, okay?
There are older people there, normally have you go to caliente you go to secrets not a lot of older people at caliente are secrets okay there are older people there but they're not as much as you would have at paradise lakes but anyways another thing they could do other than getting the younger people in there is to redo the rooms they have that buy the pool, you know. They need to be redone. They need to be made better. Because you've got to remember, you're competing.
Even though Secrets is in Kissimmee, Florida, down the I-4 or whatever it is, you're still competing with them. And when I go to their room and I get nothing out of the, you know, nothing out of Paradise Lake's rooms, We'll be right back. And when I go to their room and I get nothing out of the, you know, nothing out of Paradise Lake's room, I could stand and piss from one wall to another because they're so small. The room I had, there's really not much.
But I could go and I pay the same fucking, I could pay the same price at Paradise Lake's that has to do with Secrets. And Secrets, I get a stripper pole. I get a fucking fancy-ass shower.
I get a cool-ass shower ass shower i mean i get maybe a sex swing i get mirrors above the bed and all that stuff to make make cool videos i don't get that at paradise lakes so i think what they need to do is either renovate them or sell them where the guy or the person the lady has to redo the rooms i think that would be a smart thing for them to do all right but like i said i'm not bashing paradise lakes i'm just saying they gotta do something they're not it's not that great as great as it is it used to be i still love the place i'll generally go there than any other place because no one number one the people there are so much more friendlier they will talk to you they will talk your ear off if you let them and all that so i love going there because people talk to me as a single guy you don't get a lot of talking to in other places but here you get talked to and if you really want to horn your social skills gentlemen go to paradise lakes because they will talk to you unless you're really fucking ugly and creepy as shit they will talk to you someone's going to say something to you you'll have a conversation i had a whole conversation about who's a better parent the one guy or another another girl in a hot tub and all that stuff and i just had so many conversations with people it's just weird how i go from one place to another and it's just totally different which i loved it i love having this weekend so but anyways let's get back to me because it's a it's the swing Single Podcast with a host, A.C.
Maxwell. Remember, shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. So we get there, we check in, we do all our stuff. We get in there, go to the room. She strips down. She puts on her nude.
We went and got her some bottoms because she was cool with going topless and all that, but she didn't want to go full nude yet, which later on and i think now she's going to go full nude anyways she don't have any thongs she don't have nothing so she we were we had to go get some we got a really good swimsuit bottom that looked for her nice she's nice little petite girl she's not that big not the type of girl i usually go for you know i like a little bigger girl like a snicker thicker thicker than snicker but she's a great person great personality her personality wins over all of it she's a great person all right so we're going she gets undressed she puts on her new lovely uh bikini bottom got nice tits and we start we just started fucking because you know what fuck it she sees my cock she's like dad damn your heart She.
uh bikini bottom got nice tits and we start we just started fucking because you know what fuck it she sees my cock she's like god damn you're hard she she was complaining she complains to me that the guy she meets up with had trouble getting it up and the one guy that can't get it up is a jerk to her and stuff like that he ghosts her so she won't talk to him for a week or two then all of a sudden he'll pop back up back up. She don't like that. She wants consistency, which is her prerogative.
I tell her, you do whatever you do. It's your lifestyle. It's your life. You do whatever you need to do, honey. So we go fuck. I eat her pussy out. Fucking make that pussy all nice and wet. She was nervous because she wasn't as wet as she was when something happened. I'm going to tell you later. So we fuck, you know fuck 15-20 minutes. We have a great time. We're on a bed. We get done. We clean up. Remember? Gentlemen. Hygiene support. So I clean up. Get the baby wipe.
Clean off my dick and all that stuff. Because you never know what's going to happen. Make sure she's comfortable. I'm asking her. She's alright. Everything good. Alright. She's fine. She's happy. She's pleased. Got a big smile on her fucking face. I should have took a picture of her big smile because it was funny. Anyways, so we get there. So we go out, get our towels, grab two chairs by the pool. We lay out and all that stuff. We go get drinks. I show her where some of the stuff is at.
I show her, like, we go get a drink. I show her the cabanas, where the playrooms are at, the 24-7 playrooms are at. Show her all that stuff. And she's, like, all excited because, you know, she's never been to a place like this. This is her first time. I'm her first. I popped her cherry. All that. We get food. Another great thing about Paradise Lakes, I love their food.
is not it's not disappointing how to get the wings because they don't have sweet thai chili where i'm at in texas so i got the wings all that we're eating you know she goes let's go up i get i go get a drink actually we're laying out i go get a drink i notice couples are up in the cabana area fucking. So I go back, and I tell her, hey, there's a bunch of people up there fucking. She's like, oh, let's go watch. And she hightails it to upstairs with me. We watch and all that stuff.
We're watching the girl get gang-banged pretty much by all the guys. Couples are sucking dick, doing all kinds of stuff. She's getting all nice and wet. So I notice one thing when she's watching them. And this is why I say she's going to be a swinger. There's no doubt about it. I'm watching her, and she starts sucking on my dick and all that stuff. Then she just hops on me, and I notice her pussy's a lot wetter than what it was when I originally fucked her. So I'm like, huh.
So this is kind of, i don't go wow you're kind of wet she goes yeah so i she got really turned on by watching a group fuck session which was the first one of the first times i've seen that at paradise lakes which is great if that happens all the time that's even better because i really does turn people on and people are sucking and fucking and all this stuff and we're fucking here her pussy's wet, dripping I mean she said she was the most what she's ever been in her life which okay i kind of i can agree because i don't think it's bullshit because of what she tells about her husband and stuff like that her sexual past has really been dull which i feel bad for because you know what women control their own sex women control sex men control marriage and all that stuff like i like i was telling her i told her you control this lifestyle 100 don't let no guy control this lifestyle for you because you are the main reason why we're you're the main attraction why we are here it's not because we're not the main attraction no one's showing up because ac's here everyone's showing up because belinda is here jesse's here you know sabrina's here all the girls are there the girls bring the milkshakes and the boys come to the yard all right so they're fucking so they're fucking we're having a good time we're fucking boom she comes i come we're done we go walk out i even i asked you is do you find anyone desirable that you want to go fuck you want to suck and she's like no that's all right so that's cool no no problem we go back down we take five ten minutes you know we're there drinking eating more she wants to go back and see if there is anything still going on lo and behold people are still fucking and sucking so we go up there i'm hard as a rock because shit i got a bunch of people fucking in front of me i got my my i got a beautiful date here and all that stuff and you know i bent her over the edge she's getting fucked while watching the people play water uh water volleyball bust another nut in her and all that stuff and it was great and she really loved it i noticed one other thing she's very wet when we play alone she's not as wet as she is when we play in a group setting so when i say she's going to be a swinger i mean it if you're in the florida area guys you better hook you hook i'll hook you up with this girl if you're if you're a stand-up guy i'll hook you up with this girl because she needs a real partner she needs a man that can take control but yet understand's a newbie.
And that you can't just force shit on her. And at the end, we're done. And we're talking. And we're talking about what she liked and what she didn't like. There wasn't much she didn't like. She loved it all. She just told me that she's new and all that stuff. And I knew she's new.
And I told i told her go you don't have to do anything ever you know you can go to these clubs and just fuck the person you come with or find one person fuck that person and just that's it you don't have to do anything and she was like oh i didn't know okay so yeah girl like remember you control everything you control that pussy not me not you and she's like, I didn't really find anyone attracted that I would want to fuck there or anything.
But I also want to get to know the person before I fucked them. I go, that's fine. You decide. You dictate what is going to go happen with you, who's going to play with you. So that's fine. We could talk to a guy. We could talk to a couple. And you could get to know them before you fuck them. Because she was like, because one of the girls were there, were just going from one cock to another that were up there.
And it was awesome.'m like i said i never saw that at paradise lakes i saw that at secrets i saw that at caliente but i never saw that paradise lakes and i'm glad it's there so she was not into that because she wants to get to know the person now this is what i'm going to tell you i told her go don't worry after a couple you know maybe if you do this for a couple years, you could care less after a couple years.
Like I always said, the kissing rule, the kissing rule always goes away with couples because after a year or two of doing it, they realize it's fucking stupid. We'll do, we got to kiss. We got to do whatever. You know what I said? So I said, don't worry about it. Things will change. Like I said, I have told her about my, how I was selfish when I started. Now I'm very much into the giving and making sure my girl, you had the best time of her life.
She had a great time of her life, and she still talks about it today. Weeks later, a week later, she's still talking about it, still asks about when I'm coming back, when we're doing this, what are we going to do when I come back, and stuff like that. And I tell her, you know what, just give it time.
I'll hook everything up for you girl don't worry about it but anyways you know what so you know she had a great time if you go to paradise lakes it's going to be a little older but you're going to have a great time people are going to talk to you single guys don't be creepy don't be rude follow the rules that they have and you'll have a great time all right so thanks for tuning in today's episode of the swinging single podcast if you this guide, join me the next time when we'll explore more lifestyle tips and stories to keep us all swinging smart and safe.
Don't forget to follow and subscribe and hit me up on my socials with your questions and experiences. I love hearing from you. Until next time, this is AC Maxwell reminding you to stay respectful, stay open and keep swinging single. Shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. One by night, a few. Your lips, they taste like whiskey. Every move. Time. The man is quickly passing by. Wanna slip away into the night. But I don't need you to wake up by your side.
Ships in the night I wanna be the devil on your shoulder I wanna be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like the 40th floor Baby, I'm a holly to your joker I wanna be there forever on your shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four-leaf clover Baby, I'm a holly to your shoulder Closer Will you put me in a sense?
