In this episode of The Swinging Single Podcast, AC Maxwell dives deep into one of the most intriguing—and sometimes challenging—aspects of the HotWife lifestyle: the gap between fantasy and reality. From the excitement of idealized scenarios to the complexities of real-life encounters, learn how couples can manage expectations, communicate openly, and embrace both the thrills and the imperfections of their experiences.Discover common myths versus truths about chemistry, jealousy, and emotional dynamics—and why keeping things real is just as sexy as the fantasy itself. Plus, a vital reminder for all the gentlemen playing this game: shave your cock and balls, gentlemen.Whether you're new to the lifestyle or a seasoned swinger, this episode will empower you to approach your HotWife journey with honesty, confidence, and respect.Tune in now and find balance between the dream and the beautiful reality.swingingsinglepodcast.comswingingsinglepodcast@gmail.com
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell. For over 20 years, I've been navigating the swinging lifestyle as a single male, experiencing all the excitement, challenges, and everything in between. So this podcast is my honest and unfiltered take on that journey.
A fresh set of eyes, diving deep into real stories, lessons learned, and practical advice for anyone exploring or curious about this lifestyle whether you're new season single or partner join me as i share my experiences bust this and help you swing your best in this exhilarating world so let's keep it real keep it respectful and keep swinging single the swinging single podcast with host ac AC Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only.
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Till the day that she died Going on vacation in France Need a salty morning to Spain It's making the flick It's that kind of kick Yeah, the love and the limit of pain It's a cockle and a hot ride Swing on, swing on All right, let's get it on. AC Maxwell here, finishing up my Hot Wife series that I've been doing. Oh, yeah, let's turn this down so you hear my beautiful voice. So, what's up, swinging singles?
It's your host, AC Maxwell, back with another episode of the Swinging Single Podcast, where we keep it real about the lifestyle, the thrills, the challenges, and everything in between. Today, I want to talk about something every hot wife couple confronts sooner or later, fantasy versus the reality. But before we do that, let's go to, make sure you go to swingingsinglepodcast.com, check out all things A.
things ac see if i'm going to be anywhere which i'm usually not but anyways uh do that check it out you can see all a couple hundred of my uh podcasts there you can see everything from starting the very first one to the very last one which will be now the fantasy and all that you also if you got any questions concerns or anything like that go to swinging single podcast at at gmail.com if you're a club owner you want me to come do a live show and all that you want me to come to your uh convention or whatever uh i'm more than free to do that i'll come you know no charge or anything but anyways you know do that email me say what i'm doing right say what i'm doing wrong or anything like that or if you have a a topic that you want me to cover, please let me know.
I would love to cover some topics. Next week, I got a special one for a very special person. We're going to talk about divorce and the lifestyle. What happens when you get divorced and you're in the lifestyle? What happens? Who gets the couple and all that stuff? So, you know, look forward to that next week and all that.
But for now the hot wife lifestyle is filled with incredible fantasies oh yes they are all the time all right uh the freedom to be who you want to be be who you are and enjoy the excitement the thrill the hunt the thrill of sharing your partner with someone else once again the thrill the hunt it all sounds like a perfect scene from the kind of erotic dream that keeps your libido running wild and i tell you what you know as i'm experiencing doing this you know when you go to the club go to a party and all that stuff and all that's there and you are out having a good time and everything that is a big rush it keeps your it keeps that cock hot nice and hard for those ladies and all that you know you don't want to be a limp dick bitch or anything like that but you know it does keep a lot of things going so it makes that rub beetle go a little more and get a little little help from viagra and all that stuff it's like a little zip of viagra but what happens when you step into that fantasy the reality doesn't quite match the script now i always talk to you guys about this that sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality because a lot of couples you know they talk about it for months on end maybe years and all that stuff and next thing you know they're in the lifestyle they're doing what they're supposed to be doing they're going to do what they're going to do and bam it hits them it's not what they thought it was going to be and all that stuff and that's and it could be tricky and all that stuff maybe We'll see you next time.
going to do and bam it hits them it's not what they thought it was going to be and all that stuff and that's and it can be tricky and all that stuff maybe why maybe some of the maybe the chemistry is off between you and the man maybe emotions get complicated which is usually probably 90 of the problem or maybe it's just not as seamless as you pictured it's not as as easy. Listen, I'm going to tell anybody. Excuse me. But the swinging lifestyle is not easy.
It's not just going online and finding the couple to have sex with to play with or finding single people to have sex and have fun with. It's totally hard. It's very difficult. It's very time-consuming. So if you don't have that time, this might be just a better to be a fantasy than a reality. All right. This clash between fantasy and reality can be both a beautiful learning curve and a source of attention between the couples. And you don't want this lifestyle to pull you apart.
You want it to bring you together.
So make sure you're communicating well with each each other so today i'll be breaking down the gaps between expectations and actual outcomes in various hot wise scenarios and giving you actionable advice to navigate this playground a passion with your eyes wide open don't go with your eyes shut thinking that it's going to be easy or actually you know what i'm going to tell you something be smart be curious and seek help from others for other couples that actually do it because they're going to be the best ones to give you the best advice for you as a couple for me i'm on the other side of the fence i'm a single guy i'm that bull looking to please your vixen to please your cuck holders and all that stuff all right so maybe my advice ain't that great maybe you know something else has to be done but anyways and gentlemen before we even get started let me give you the most essential advice if you want to impress and respect the lifestyle you're participating in shave your cock and balls gentlemen trust me it matters more than you think all right so let's get down to the brass tacks let's get down to business let's get down to everything so why do we love why do we love it why do we love the stag vixen lifestyle why do we love the hot wife lifestyle why we like the cockhole lifestyle so let's start out with the good stuff the fantasy the fantasy is the essential force behind the hot life lifestyle it gives us a safe mental space to explore desires push boundaries and envision wild uninhibited experiences you know for me when i take my partner to the club and i want her to be with other men i get i get a nice rush knowing that she's with me and only with me you're just there you're a tool for us to use for her pleasure but i really like it when other men desire my girl and all that stuff so you know it is a real thrill for me your mind plays out scenarios when we go out to the porn theater she sucks everybody off in the glory hole whatever we go to the swingers club she bangs four or five six guys or whatever she plays with other couples couples, girl on girl, stuff like that.
You know, everything. Everything runs wild in your head, all right? So the slow buildup of desire, the husband watching with pride, every detail tailored to your deepest wants, all right?
These fantasies feel effortless and nothing messy or complicated they're perfect for firing up anticipation but remember you have another player in this it's called your wife your stag i mean your vixen your hot wife your cuckolders you got all that so remember communicate with them what they want and what they need but remember fantasy is not a compromise of what will happen it's a script your brain writes before all the real people all the emotions and variables show up all right now what let's think about what type of variables there might be children you you're a young couple you're you got teenagers or whatever they might you know cock block you maybe they can, you can't find a babysitter.
Maybe you can't invite people back to your house because of the children and all that. So, you know, you got that. So those are some of the variables. Variables also, Mother Nature, that time of month for the ladies and stuff like that. You know, that could be a downer, you know, and all that stuff.
So, you know, you got to watch out for the variables all right the variables are very important also in this all right when partners share their fantasies it can bring them closer and he hits it good field goal wow um i'm here it's wild card saturday night but anyways so you know when partners share their fantasy can become make them closer it acts as a playground to discover what drives desire but it's crucial to hold space for the fact that fantasy is idolized and reality isn't you know i don't know how many times i have seen couples get into this lifestyle thinking it's going to be a cakewalk they're going to have a great time they're going to have fun and all that stuff and next day then you know you hear about them not playing anymore they're not in the lifestyle uh for whatever reasons you know communication wise the lifestyle was not what they thought or maybe just maybe it was a one and done a month and done type of thing you just don't know so and hey gentlemen not to harper too much but if you want to get that fantasy come alive alive, you've got to show up groomed and confident.
Again, that means shave your cock and balls, gentlemen, and simply step shows respect. This simple step shows respect, effort, and readiness. All right. So anyways, so when fantasy meets reality, common discord you might have. Now let's talk about some of the common areas where fantasy and reality don't always align in hot life scenarios. Fantasy one, chemistry is instant and electric. Reality check. Chemistry can be subtle, complicated, or even absent.
Sometimes that interesting new guy might be nervous, awkward, or just not your type once you're face-to-face. Relationships, even casual ones, need time to build, guys. Expecting fireworks every time sets you up for disappointment. And I always hear that.
They go out, they find a single guy, they have a good time, they're fucking all night at the club, they're having a great time, then they meet up again later on on somewhere else and it's just not what they thought it was going to be it wasn't as good as the nightclub or the club they were having and that's the problem what i'm talking right now you can't always think it's always going to be good because guess what you meet saturday night you fuck you have a good time and it's great so you decide to meet wednesday night well wednesday everyone mostly everyone is at work and they have a whole day uh beforehand and they're tired so when they get to their playing you know maybe it's just one of those one and done type things where you know on the weekends you got time to you know relax and enjoy the weekend go have sex and it's a lot easier for you to re-roll because you're not as tired as you are on a wednesday night or something like that so that happens a lot a lot of couples have said talk to me about that when they do meet a really good single man they don't usually pan out because after a while it just fades out yeah it's just like any relationship you gotta keep it fresh you gotta keep it new new type newish new feeling and stuff like that might be nervous remember if it's your first time it could also be that guy's first time so you want to make sure you are you know picking the right people the right guy in my last podcast I talked about finding the right guy so if you are new my suggestion would be don't pick a newbie uh as much as you want to as much as it desired for you to have maybe someone new with you it may not go as well because no one knows what they're doing you don't know what you're doing and a guy don't know what he's doing so i would pick someone who has experience in the lifestyle if you're new once you're new and all that you know what you're doing you can pick out all the new guys you want awkward you know being in the room with a bunch of naked people seeing another cock the husband might get a little awkward the guy might be a little awkward it happens and it happens to the best of us just remember we're there for one reason and one reason only to please the wife to please the spix and the cuckoldress and the hot wife or you know what happens you talk online you exchange pictures you're you're sexting on the telephone and you see each other in ease either they lie about their height they lie about their body size their age shit like that and i don't know why people still do it but they still do they lie about things like their age their cock size their body type all that stuff because for i don't know what the fuck they're thinking because you're going to find it out eventually and what what do you think is going to happen they're not going to be disappointed or anything like that well people might get upset and i would be upset too if i had met a guy and he said he was six foot two or whatever and he ends up being five foot seven so you know things can get crazy when it's face to face and it just might not be no attraction there or you might not be able to talk to each other uh because uh it's a lot easier to talk on the phone than it is in person face to face and that's one of the problems this new generation has talking face to face i know it's a younger crowd it's like pulling teeth sometimes when you talk to them but when you talk to the older people people, we can talk about anything.
All right. Fancy two, the husband watches with zero jealousy. Reality check. Even the most secure man, like me, can feel pangs of jealousy or insecurity. This is normal, guys.
What matters is how you process and communicate these feelings, those feelings, not pretending you don't have them in the first place place uh yeah i get these like when my partner goes out with other men by herself i get jealous because i want to be there watching i want to be there to hang out and do all the stuff but you know our schedules don't match up and i'm not and like i said i'm not stopping her to be who she is she wants to be you know we're in the lifestyle together we're going to play together we're going to play without each other so you know i have to communicate how i feel and stuff like that I'm going to show you.
We're going to play without each other. So, you know, I have to communicate how I feel and stuff like that, especially when I don't meet the guy. When you don't know the guy and all that stuff, you don't know what type of man he is and stuff like that. So you kind of get a little jealous and you get some insecurities, what ifs, what ifs comes in. All right. And guys, don't worry about it as normal. Be able to talk to your wife about this.
Tell you, hey you hey honey i don't like this guy for whatever reason it is and ladies respect your man's opinion okay i understand this guy he looks he's he looks like an adonis he you know he makes you come all the time but maybe there's something off with him with your husband because sometimes us men can know men better than you got you ladies think you do i know all ladies think they know men but you really don't but we know men more than you do so maybe something's not feeling right maybe there's something about this guy is just triggering those warnings respect the man this respect your man's decision say hey we got to stop seeing this guy because trust me ladies there is another adon there for you you just got to go out and find him number three i think fantasy three encounters are smooth drama free and perfectly respectful the reality check sometimes misunderstandings or mismatched expectations cause awkwardness or tension many boundaries get pushed without meaning to or someone feels left out misunderstandings when you're going to meet what time you're going to meet where you're going to meet and stuff like that you know uh you know what is your issues on condoms and stuff or health issues things like that you have a lot of misunderstandings what is the single guy there for is he there for your wife or is he there for both of you because remember we do have bisexual couples so maybe they want a bisexual bull maybe the bull straight stuff like that can happen mismatch that's another mismatch expectations just things like that uh and all that tension that arises from all this you know how do you get that tension you know back to the flow of let's have some fun let's great times together, you know, so it is something that you have to think about, not everything's going to be smooth, all right, boundaries being pushed, you know, kissing rule, condom rule, anal sex rule, no coming in the mouth, stuff like that, so, you know, you don't want to push those boundaries too far at first you want to relax see how you feel about them because you know what maybe your husband doesn't feel too good about a certain type of person with those boundaries and all that so you know you just gotta you know let it ride and trust me it all you all will be better for it fantasy number four the hot wife comes home radiant and euphoric every time reality check sometimes the experience is exhilarating yes other times it's just fine complicated or emotionally exhausting not every encounter will be fireworks like i have friends who are on the different political spectrum than i am well they're not really my friends i'm gonna have to say that they're just fuck buddies but they're on a different political spectrum and i have to listen to their rants and raves about how horrible trump is and stuff like that like me i don't care all right we're here to fuck i'm here to fucking eat your ass eat your pussy make you feel good and stuff like and send you home i'm not here i don't care about your political i have to listen to them so it becomes mentally draining and that's what it could be with you, you know.
No, it doesn't have to be political or anything like that. It could just be, you know, this guy is just too much. He demands too much. He doesn't understand you as a couple, things like that. So it's, you know, you think it's going to be easy, but it's not always going to be like that. She's not going to come home happy all the time. Now, let's hope that 9 out of 10 experiences she has when she comes home, she's happy, she's radiant and stuff like that.
But I'm going to tell you, 9 out of 10 times, that'll be the case, but there's going to be that one time that will drain you and we'll just be like, ugh, why are we doing this? Understanding these gaps will help you keep your expectations grounded without killing the magic. And we want to keep you in this lifestyle because we need more hot white couples and all that stuff. So where do you go from here? The answer is communication. Open, honest, sometimes tough conversation between partners.
And yes, it is very tough when you have your partner to talk about your wants and your needs. Ladies, it's going to be hard. How are you going to tell your man that you want an extra cock? You know, gentlemen, think about it. How would you feel if your lady says she needed an extra cock and how would you feel and all that? Then you come and tell her you need another girl. Well, am I not? Is my pussy not good enough for you? Stuff like that.
So, you know, you're going to have to have those hard conversations. You just got to be mature enough to be able to handle those conversations. If you're not able to handle those accommodations, it's going to be a no-go for you in the lifestyle. So, you know, make sure you're able to do that. Maybe you need a buffer.
Maybe you need something like you come on the Sw swing a single podcast and i can help you two out with getting your expectations your communication levels better because never sometimes or a friend a third party might actually help sometimes but pick a third person wisely do not pick a fucking person that's going to tell the whole world that you want to bang a bunch of guys and you're and your husband wants you to watch them you just got to be very careful who you pick.
Set expectations together before any experience. Talk about what you want, what you expect, and what your boundaries are. That's very key. When you go to the club, what are you going to do? Because so many times when I was working at Caliente, I would see couples. I would talk to them, new couples. They would come in.
Yeah, we're just here to watch and hang out and have a good time great then you see them they're going from one couple to another fucking having a good time and doing what they totally said they were not going to do and stuff like that now maybe they just lied to me thinking i was hinting on them but i wasn't i want when i was there i want to make sure that the couple's gonna have a good time because i want them to come back but anyways make sure you talk what you want beforehand not during and not after especially not after and things like that what are you expecting from her and him you're what are you expecting from her when she finds potential bulls are you okay with her going off and talking to them without you uh things like that um and things one of my rule is when i bring my partners that if i go to the bathroom and guys start chatting you up without me there that's an automatic disqualification for being a bull for us because you don't show me the respect now do you have that same room for your wife when you she goes to the club and guys talk to her without without you being around because you know there's a lot of scumbags out there that will try to steal your wife.
I hate to say it, but there is an academic, a pandemic of wife poachers coming in the swingers' lifestyle. But anyways, so you've got to talk about that. What are your boundaries? Are you going to go condom-free? Are you going to wear condoms? Are you going to do oral only? Are you going to do anal sex? Things like that. Are you going to have two at a time, one at a time where he just watches? You got to come up with this whole thing and you have to stick to them. Now, remember this, people.
Swinging is going to be there next weekend. It's going to be there a month from here. It's going to be there 10 years from now, guys. You don't have to do everything in one night. I repeat, you don't have to do everything in one night. Go slow. If you take it slow, I'm going to guarantee you're going to have a greater time and you're going to have a lot more fun in the lifestyle because you take that time to get to know each other just as much as getting to learn other people. All right.
So you discuss it,cuss what you're excited about. You're excited about her sucking on a big dick. You're excited about her licking another girl's pussy, ass, and stuff like that. Tell her what you're excited about. Ask her what she's excited about. Remember, guys, get her involved in this. Don't be that guy.
And you know a lot of veteran swingers, you know you know the guys the couples that were they're only doing it because he wants to do it not because her she's just there for the ride because she just doesn't want to argue it and it's sad but it's true get her involved make her an active participant because there's a lot of couples out there that are not active participants one is more active than the other and you see it on reddit where do you get the reddit where we don't swing anymore but i want to swing more she wants to swing more and i don't you know things like that sorry so you know you got to do that what worries her what worries you is she going to leave you for another guy because that's i guarantee a lot of guys will think like that like those opp one penis policy couples where they don't fuck another guy but she's allowed he's allowed and she's allowed to fuck other women why is that you know yeah they scared it's an insecurity what are you insecure about your body ladies you know you or taking a big dick or taking a small dick you don't want any small dicks you want only big large cocks you know or vice versa You know, what worries you a big dick or taking a small dick.
You don't want any small dicks. You want only big, large cocks, you know, or vice versa. You know, what worries you about? Do you worry about falling, having emotions for the other man, the other couple, the other girl? Those are all valid because those are very real emotions. Couples do fall for other couples, and you see it all the time. If you do Google searches, you'll see it.
you know go to reddit reddit's very good reddit has a very good uh subreddit for swingers and it has some really good advice some pretty poor advice also so you know you just got to discuss you got to communicate all the things what do you do after do you debrief how the experience feel what surprised you what worked and what didn't like again you got to be very communicative with your partner you got to be able to handle the bad the good the bad and the ugly all right so you know did you like the club did you like the guy you picked did you like the couple you picked the girl you picked did you like the vibe did you you know things like that a club can kill a play session just as much as a single guy who's nosy and pushy uh to a couple that's drunk and being uh rambunctious and all that stuff they can kill it that club can kill it too so you gotta pick the right club gentlemen so make sure you're picking the right club unless you're going to just someone's uh and stuff like that and having a good time house parties usually don't you know pass the vibe check a lot so i don't know maybe who knows all right so what surprised you about the experience you know it was a lot easier it was harder than it was uh the guy didn't last too long the sex wasn't that great the sex was awesome i love watching i love watching her fuck another man stuff like that so you know that maybe that's what surprised you surprised that you enjoyed it more than you thought that you were going to what worked getting dressed up talking to people not talking to people let people coming to you things like that uh you know what didn't work you know sitting in the corner not talking to anybody that might not have worked so who knows uh so don't judge each other's feelings embrace the vulnerability don't get mad of her that she says that was some of the best sex she's ever had she's going home with you buddy you run the prize you get the prize don't worry about it because trust me swingers who swing i could probably say their partner they probably had better sex with someone else than their partner probably now a lot of couple girls would lie because they don't want their husband's fragile ego and but for me i'm like when i watch her fuck another guy i'm like she's having the best sex of her life i go and i'm not jealous of i at first i would be jealous but now i'm like oh well she's having fun but you know what she goes home with me she stays with me and all that shit she puts up with my shit so she must love me anyways so uh don't be afraid to be vulnerable to your wife or to your husband.
Real growth and trust come from accepting each other's truths, all right? Maybe she don't like doing this. Maybe she don't like being with other men. Maybe she wants just to be with other women, you know. So, you know, you got to figure that out.
Maybe you don't like her being with other men because you thought she was going not to enjoy it as much as she thought or anything like that so and fellas if you want to be invited to those conversations scenarios again do yourself a favor shave your cock and balls gentlemen presenting and grooming are part of respecting not just your sexuality but your partner in the lifestyle all right so the key to thriving isn't forcing reality to fit your fantasy but reframing what reality We'll be right back.
All right. So the key to thriving isn't forcing reality to fit your fantasy, but reframing what reality offers. Reality brings texture, depth and authenticity. It can lead to unexpected learning, more profound intimacy and new desires you never imagined. Some couples find that embracing the imperfections actually deepens their connections.
Discovering empathy for each other's insecurities and celebrating real moments of joy no matter how small remember not everyone encounter has to be a movie scene sometimes it's just about having fun exploring and showing up for each other yeah i think everybody i think couples get involved that every time they go to a club house party whatnot it has to be a home run it just can't be a single can't be a double a triple it has to be a home run all the time some of the best times i've ever had at a club has just been me and my partner fucking at the club each other maybe four or five times a night you know like we're going to go to secrets you know have a good time and we fuck all day and fuck all night we don't ever exchange we don't you know we we talk to people but we don't swap we don't share or anything like that but it's been fun with just us you know to me that's a home run but a lot of couples have this expectations where they want to hit a home run every time they go out and play, and it ain't the reality of it.
It might not be because you go to the club. Maybe there ain't any good choice of men out there. Maybe the men are lacking in whatever, things like that. It's okay to hit a single. It's okay to hit a double, all right? You don't have to always worry about a home run every single time. So remember, just remember that. No, at every counter, it has to be great. Anyways, fantasy and reality don't have to be opponents. They can be partners. Use fantasy as inspiration.
Talk about scenarios you want to explore, dress your experiences mentally or role play elements beforehand to enhance excitement there you go what about the single lady at the hotel bar and she meets a gentleman and takes her to the room and fucks the shit out of him maybe that's one of the things or you know you go fuck in the bathroom you at a restaurant i don't know whatever you know whatever you guys decided is that you like or going going to a beach and you see a nicely nice young man strolling around you can see his bulge in his pants and you say let's go fuck that and you do and whatnot so talk about what your scenarios talk about your fantasies and stuff like that be open and and honest.
Don't, and remember, do not judge your partner's fantasies. You know, you can get in a lot of trouble with that. It's going to kill, you know, it's going to kill everything. Even when reality isn't perfect, revisiting fantasy can keep things spicy and fresh. Oh, yes. And gentlemen, if you're part of the, you're part of the making those fantasies come alive for your wife and her gentlemen, again, take care of yourselves. Shave those cock and balls. Confidence shows.
And I've heard countless stories from couples. Some filled with goosebumps and joy and others with tough lessons. One couple told me how their first hot flight experience wasn't as passionate as expected. The guy was shy. They had to laugh through awkward moments.
But that odyssey made their bond stronger another shared a challenging of a sudden jealousy surfacing despite years in a lifestyle and how they worked through it with patience so there's one thing that you have to really remember just because you are new even if you're a veteran you can still get jealous maybe that you meet a gentleman at the house party you're at the at the club and he just lays pipe to your wife that you never seen anyone do it before maybe she squirts for the first time uh and you never made her squirt or no one else made a squirt you know you might get jealous about that because you're like what the fuck she i can never do that i did the same thing and all that so you might jealousy might rear its ugly head during that time and it's gonna be okay like i said talk through it talk know, you just got to have patience.
Communication, patience, and all that when you do the hot life lifestyle. And you're trying to distinguish between the reality and the fantasy. So these stories remind us that fantasy and reality is an ongoing dance. And that very experience, good or challenging, has value.
And you definitely got to think about that that and don't worry if you get jealous gentlemen it's gonna be okay you'll be all right you'll live through it and just like i did and all the other men out there so to wrap it up know that fantasy fuels desires but reality builds connection expect bumps and be ready to communicate through them. Be vulnerable, honest, and patient with yourself and your partner. Use fantasies as inspiration, but stay grounded in the present.
And for those getting ready to take that next step into the lifestyle journey, remember, shave your cock and balls, gentlemen.
All righty, so that's my little dilly-dally hot wife lifestyle uh hope i did hope you loved my little series uh my five part ten part series and all that stuff so you know i hope you enjoyed it so let's go i've been seeing i do want to talk to you about some of the things uh and all that i saw a lot of things going on like going reddit facebook i always highlight some things that i want to talk about or want to people to experience and all that stuff because it's really good to get the information out there so i found this post on facebook and it says supposed to be a funny post i just want to show it out there we.
We were checking out a new club to us, a new club. We didn't realize they catered to single males. The ladies did not do anything without an audience who got too close and lots tried to get invitations to join. And when I say catered to them, it was like half of the attendees. And if a couple was playing on one of the big beds, single men would sit on the bed and watch, make an eye contact. One even reached out and started stroking a friend's hair while he was playing, while she was playing.
When he touched her shoulder, he almost got punched, okay?
Violence is not the answer, but okay, I know you're protecting protecting your girl and the club didn't even give him a warning it just felt completely unsafe and predatory i actually saw single men single men male picking a lock to a private room and one no one said or did anything about it for the record they advertised that single men are allowed on fridays only also they are allowed up to 10 in any given night so they had to get there early let's just say that was not fault now i always want to know what club was this i even emailed the the person who sent this and they never said what club this was but you know is it in the club in America or something like this because I don't know a lot of clubs that I as being a single in this lifestyle for over 20 years I haven't been to a lot of clubs where half the audience has been single men now I've been to gang bangs and other places where yeah most of it is single guys or a porn theater where yeah it's all mostly single guys so i don't know where this is coming from or what type of club this but i really do want to know what club it is and all that stuff and all that stuff and it's fucked up and this is a problem you know single guys or guys in general can spoil a club because when you're playing, you don't want people, you know, if you're in the open room, all right, you can't really complain about it that people are watching, all right?
We get that. I'm saying you're wrong in that part area. Where you're correct is that guys should not be, people in general should not be sitting on a bed yet. You're fucking on in the open room and trying to get in on the action. What they should have done is sit back and relax and watch the action. You know where they're at so you can invite the guy in and all that stuff. So it wouldn't have been a big deal. Now, I do have a problem with guys sitting on the bed and doing all that stuff.
Because it does cause problems. All right. One thing I don't like, another thing about the, what the OP, the presenter said was that the ladies could not even do anything, dress down and all that stuff, bullshit, I can guarantee all those ladies could dress down, and you know what, if their lady's hot, people are gonna look, and it don't matter if it's a single guy or a couple, they're gonna look, if your lady's hot, you know, they're gonna look, and other women to look, too, because guess what?
Women are in competition with other women. They're always fighting with each other about who looks good and who doesn't look good. They always compliment each other, too. So all that. All right. Making eye contact. I don't know what that meant, but that's kind of weird. Okay. You make eye contact and stuff like that.
That's because they're probably making eye contact because they want to, know get in on the action and can you blame them what are we there for all right so anyways the 10 now the 10 single guy room that's fucked up that the club didn't even bother doing it if you complain to a club about it and they did nothing about it don't go back to that club and also tell us the fucking club man i want to know because i want to know what who club i don't want to go because i don't want to go as a single guy i don't want to go to that club because i already know it's going to be shit so you know it's like the green door and all that stuff the green door in las vegas crazy ass you know every stereotype about single men came out of that place but you know it would have been nice if they would have posted where they at, because it could just be a fake, it could also be a made up, what's I'm going to call it, a post, and all that stuff, and one more before I go, another post for off of Facebook, and this is a sad one, but you know, it is what it is.
All right. We have decided that it's time to leave the lifestyle. We need to focus on our growth, family, and finding our way back to Jesus. Oh boy. Would love to keep in contact with the friends we have made along our journey.
But for now, we must put God first and foremost into our lives love you all and hope the best for everyone Now I have no problem with this This is awesome They realize that the lifestyle is taken away from their family And all that The religion part Great You want to I believe in God too myself You know So I don't have no problem with that They want to be religious they can be religious you know you can also be a swinger and be religious too now I know people like oh that doesn't make any sense well it does make sense because sometimes you know you do what you want to do you do you have that free will all right and all that and that's all I gotta say about that but anyways the family is more important always tell people, your family is the most important thing.
You got kids. Those kids matter more than the swinging ones. Because guess what? What's going to happen is your kids are going to grow up. They're going to graduate from high school, go to college, or whatever they're going to do, they're going to move. Then you have time to play. You have time to do what you want to do. It's your second childhood. Once your kids are, when you're empty nesters, it's a second childhood.
One couple I couple i play with it was funny because i asked them how'd you get into the lifestyle and they're in their late 40s early 50s and they said well the kids are gone we didn't have nothing to do so we said we'll figure it try it out so i was like oh that's kind of fucking awesome and that was great at work for them they did all their family things now it's time, maybe, you know, looking at their career.
You know, maybe they can't be going to the club every Friday, Saturday night or stuff like that. So, you know, leaving is not a bad thing. Taking a break is not a bad thing. So if you need to take a break, ladies and gentlemen, take a break. Like I said, swinging is going to be there. It'll be there. Trust me. It's not going anywhere, you know, so you don't have to worry about it. We'll be swinging will be there. All that stuff will be there when you get there. All right. So that's good.
I'm glad they realized that this lifestyle is not for them and all that stuff and all that. So that's great. Best of luck to you. I hope you're all happy. You live a long life and stuff like that.
And come back you know the door is always open our door is always open to you when you want if you want to come back and the last one i'm supposed to be a hot wife instead i'm a hot mess aren't we all i'm an introvert and this new lifestyle has supposed to help me socialize and make and work on my confidence and it was supposed to help also help us solidify our connection and marriage all right you're already fucked there because it's not supposed to help your marriage it's supposed to enhance that's all it is supposed to enhance your relationship not going to help it instead i feel like shit i've been ghosting more times than i like to count yes because guess what it don't matter if you were in the hot life lifestyle or you were just dating dating now for people is shit apps social media have destroyed dating and all this because now people have access to it and the fantasy about doing this is cool but the reality of doing it is not so you're going to get ghosted a lot and other swingers can tell you they've been ghosted themselves stood at meetings stood up at meetings of course yep just like in vanilla and call some really nasty names now see this is the problem i have you call me whatever you want but at least i'm being honest with myself at least i I'm true to my being.
You know, you are lying to yourself. Because guess what? A lot of these couples who say they don't like swingers, swingers are disgusting, they're out there going out, going out with the girls and fucking some random dude from a bar and going home to the husband and kissing him. Same thing, the dude's going out, fucking the secretary at work, fucking whoever he wants to fuck.
But yet, at least I'm honest'm honest to say hey i love you enough to know that maybe monogamy isn't doesn't really work and that you're free to have other men and women as you please and same thing for me i could have who i want and all that stuff so you can call me the nasty names but at least i'm honest and truthful with myself i haven't had sex or been touched in so many months.
While he's been out doing his own thing, he found it amusing when I told him I needed to replace my toy because it wouldn't hold a charge anymore. See, your marriage is fucked. I hate to say this, but your marriage is fucked. His first thing should be you.
Making sure you're happy, making sure you're well taken care of it seems to me he's being a selfish prick that where he just wants his cake and he could care less about you I hate to say it lady but yes you're kind of your marriage gotta get out of the lifestyle find something else and maybe your husband is not the man for you because if like I said my number one goal whenever with my partner she's happy I'm not out there trying to make her unhappy I want her to be happy because if she's happy she's going to make me happy and things like that so you know you haven't been touched and your husband's going out doing his own thing and he finds it amusing tells me it's over i hate to say it i hate to be the bad bearer of bad news but someone has to tell you i i'd say i was done with the whole lifestyle but you can't be done with something that never actually started true because one experience doesn't count as a lifestyle all i wanted was to make things better and feel desired and wanted again.
Now, I wonder what she looks like because it does it will matter if she is good looking or not. So, you know, things like that. So if you're a good looking woman, you're going to be wanted.
If you're not that so good looking, well, maybe there's something you need to work on your body, your looks and stuff like that that so you know i hate to be the bearer of bad news but i think this relationship is over and you're in dunsville and you need to talk to your husband about this and see what happens i said it's very hard being an introverted and being in this lifestyle you know it is but it's not impossible it's very possible a lot of introverts are in the lifestyle it's just that do they want to be in the lifestyle you know and it sounds to me this to this young lady does not want to be in the lifestyle but you know time will tell so but anyways so good luck with your relationship hopefully it works out for the best so thanks for hanging out with me on the swing single podcast this is ac max Maxwell reminding you to stay confident, respectful, and keep swinging single.
Settled off with one another few Your lips they taste like whiskey Every move Time The main is quickly passing by Wanna slip away into the night But I don't need you to wake up by your side Chips in your night Thank you. But I don't need to wake up by your side Ships in the night I wanna be the girl on my shoulder I wanna be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a 40th floor Baby, I'm a holly to your joker I wanna be the girl on my shoulder We'll be right back.
Like a four leaf clover Baby I'm a holly to your joker I wanna be there forever on your shoulder I wanna be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four leaf clover Baby I'm a holly to your joker Closer
