In this episode, we run through 20 simple—but surprisingly revealing—questions that dig into what you actually enjoy, what matters most to you, and how you connect with others on a deeper level.Some answers might confirm what you already know… others might catch you off guard. Either way, by the end of it, you’ll have a much clearer picture of your personal style—whether you lean more toward connection, excitement, routine, or spontaneity.No pressure, no judgment—just real questions and real insight. So take a few minutes, answer along, and see what you learn about yourself.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/hot-wife-podcast-and-the-swinger-lifestyle--5343522/support. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Speaker1: this program contains strong sexual content. No one under the age of 18 is permitted to listen to or download this podcast in any manner. The host, guest, and performers are all over the age of 18. Rebroadcasting the podcast in any manner is strictly prohibited without the written consent of the owners of the Hot Wife podcast. The commentary of this program is the sole opinion of its host or guest and does not reflect that of the opinion of Hot Wife podcast owners, agents, or representatives. This podcast is not meant to be taken spill the tea. Hello everybody, this is Donna Lynn and welcome to my Hot White Podcast and as always, I'm accompanied by my wonderful husband Vince. Present. Ah, there we go. You didn't raise your hand though. Oh, I'm sorry. Go ahead. Do it again. Let's do the show over again. Okay, that's it. Okay, wonderful husband Vince, raise your hand. Are you here? Here? Okay. Here. Okay. right. I won't talk about the weather. I won't talk about how warm it is. Because it was so long, we bitched and mooned how freaking cold it was, and now it's like 80 degrees. It's like, I'm not used to it yet. Yeah, it was damn near 90. But anyway. Well, but now I think it's like 80. The sun is going down. Well, the good thing about the warmer weather is I'm already enjoying it from the fact of watching more women out in shorts. In shorts. That's not a bad deal. Which means bathing suit season is just around the corner. That's true. Open the pool on May 2nd, I believe. So that doesn't mean we're swimming in it and just be open put chemicals in it yeah wait yeah we spend a month electricity to get it all circulated and cleaned yeah it's going to be a swamp i'm sure isn't that a sexy topic anyway so with that okay intro at hotwifepodcast.com if you're interested in writing to us. I would love to hear from you. So I used AI to generate a 20-question thing for tonight's show. 20-question thing? 20 questions for you. Oh, okay. To find out what kind of sex is right for you. Oh, I was going to, yeah. I know the answer for you is yes. So answer each question honestly. Okay. Go with your instinct, not what sounds right. Oh, that could be frightening. And then I will tell you which of the two responses you make, what they mean. Okay. Okay. All right, so we're starting this? Yeah, we'll start it. Jump right in. What kind of sex is right for you? Is right for me. Okay. Oh, okay. So, the first question. All right. Do you prefer things planned or spontaneous? God, that's a tough one. I think I like things more planned. Okay. There's no right or wrong. Just, you know. Okay. So, did you like them planned? I mean, you like the anticipation and the buildup. I do. That is very true. That's very true. Let's tell you what AI says here. Well, here's the thing with uh you know as an adult and in my younger days uh the whole uh spontaneity was very exciting but now that i have responsibilities and a job and you know yada yada like everybody else i like to know that um my my play time is is going
Speaker2: to happen fits in my schedule my schedule Between my nap and my afternoon snack.
Speaker1: And, you know, whatever I'm watching.
Speaker2: Play a bridge with the girls.
Speaker3: Exactly.
Speaker1: There's all these things.
Speaker3: Shut up.
Speaker1: I think it's not like I'm in an old people's home. Shut up. Shut up, mister. Don't even go there. Don't make that face. Don't look at me in that tone of voice.
Speaker3: I know.
Speaker2: So spontaneous would have meant you thrive on excitement and unpredictability. Now, I was going to say, make that face don't don't look at me that tone of voice i know spontaneous would have meant you thrive on excitement and unpredictability now i i'm a big spontaneous person right but the only drawback for me with spontaneity is again you and i'd like to be clean like to be rationed up you know it's like i don't want to be out working in the yard and you're like hey baby let's do it's like oh at least you're on the side of the hill here and you're like oh come on i don't know be more graphic how gross i don't i don't need to take it any further yeah i do that's why i do like things to be more planned because then i know i can fit it into my schedule there'll be time to build up for it i do like i like i do like the build up i like that tease i do like that that does make sense. I like things a little more planned. Sorry. No, there's no right or wrong. My spontaneity days or when I was younger, but not so much now. These questions are just meant to see what sex is appropriate for you. Okay. There's no right or wrong. There's what you feel. Okay. And it's AI after all. It doesn't mean shit. Yeah, okay what matters more emotional connection or physical chemistry um emotional connection for sure okay because there are guys i've been with that uh you've even introduced me to playmates that i visually i was like ah i don don't know. And then when I was with them, they were actually quite a lot of fun. So we had more of a chemistry, emotional chemistry, rather than physical attraction necessarily. Yeah. See, I kind of split the difference there because, well, for me, not that anyone cares, but I don't need an emotional bond and I'm not necessarily driven by physical I want to like I'm driven more by quality of the person well that's an emotional bond more so than physical more so than physical yeah I guess I just I think you know yeah I'm not looking to have a no you're not looking to fall in love but i like to have some kind of a bond it doesn't have to see um yeah i'm definitely more the this chemistry of the heads have to connect the body can be you know sure maybe not quite perfect because a lot of times the people with the perfect bodies there's nothing upstairs like you there's nothing upstairs not a thing it's empty it's nothing going on up there what's it do when I hit this button okay I'm so dumb I don't know what it does when I hit that button. I'm only kidding. Just checking.
Speaker1: Don't play that new song you made for me.
Speaker2: I got two new songs.
Speaker1: Two new songs.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker2: They're like three and a half minutes each, so I can't do that. Maybe at the end of the show, I'll play it for it.
Speaker1: Just play part of it at least to get to the chorus.
Speaker2: You got to get into the song to get to the chorus.
Speaker3: Yeah, okay. Okay, so number three. Are you more reserved or expressive? I'm definitely more expressive. I, well, expressive, does that mean, yeah, I would definitely say more expressive. Expressive means you enjoy being vocal, playful, and open. Yep, that yep that's me reserved means you prefer subtle and intimate connection no i'm not not any of those things okay i'm definitely more vocal okay whatever just read these off just read them off oh yeah yeah i'm trying to find out a little bit more about wife donna lynn makes up this podcast? Okay. You've only been married to me for how long? Too long. Okay. I can see that. Do you like routine or variety? Well, variety. You crave new experiences and change. Yeah. Okay. Wow, you and I are almost opposites on all of these. No, they say opposites attract. See, you can have variety with one person. That just means there's just more things going on. But we wouldn't be swingers if we didn't like variety. That's true. Good point. You know what I'm saying? So there's always that aspect. Okay, here's one. I already know the answer. Oh, boy. How important is humor during intimate moments? Very important or not really? I think very important. Is that what you were going to say? Oh, yeah. If you don't have a sense of humor, don't be around me. Okay. That's what I'm saying. You enjoy light and relaxed and fun energy. Yes, I do.
Speaker2: Not really, you prefer more focused and intense vibe.
Speaker1: I don't know what that means.
Speaker2: Go masturbate. Leave everyone alone, you're not a people person.
Speaker1: No, I'm definitely, I like humor because everything for me can have a sense of humor. Every situation can have some humor to it.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: Do you enjoy taking the lead or going with the flow I think with this one uh going with the flow I am more of a submissive you enjoy responding and adapting oh that's me I don't know about adapting but I guess responding definitely What's the other one lead lead well what do they do then you like control and direction uh yeah not in the bedroom so much in other aspects of my life i like control and direction but in the bedroom i prefer to be a little bit more submissive no wrong answer wrong answer. I do have my, you know, sometimes I, there are times when I do take the lead, but it's not my go-to.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: I'm definitely a sub.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker2: Are you more about slow build or instant spark?
Speaker1: Hmm, that's a tough one because I've been in situations
Speaker3: Thank you. Are you more about slow build or instant spark?
Speaker1: That's a tough one.
Speaker3: Because I've been in situations where the slow build took a while,
Speaker1: but it was good.
Speaker3: But that instant spark is always very exciting. So let's go with instant spark.
Speaker1: Okay, that's where I'm at. Instant spark? Yeah, it gets back to that spontaneous thing. Yeah, yeah, I can see that. I can see that. Do you prefer private or adventurous settings? Probably more adventurous. Otherwise, we wouldn't be having sex all over our freaking property outside by the pool and yada yada. Yeah, you see, now that one the years you know i used to be more adventurous you know i talked about my where i worked and everything else oh yeah and then in the canoe behind bars and canoes and stuff like that but now i'm a lot more private because my back hurts yeah yeah but yeah yeah i get it it's just something it changed with age mentally i'm still fucking you know trapeze and no safety nets just falls to the wall so to speak but reality is reality is not really okay how important is communication very important or less important. Very important. Okay. You need clarity and connection. Okay. If it was the not so important. You prefer natural chemistry and instinct. Yeah, I do. Communication is just so important in any kind of relationship, even if even if it's a temporary temporary you't think it's for an hour yeah an hour or so well if you don't communicate with your partner in whatever form it is you're not going to get what you need so for me shut up what what don't make me break out that song okay All right. Do you enjoy it? Shut up. What? What? No. What?
Speaker2: Don't make me break out that song.
Speaker3: Okay. All right.
Speaker2: Do you enjoy being surprised?
Speaker1: Your options are yes or no. I do like being surprised.
Speaker3: Yes.
Speaker2: You like spontaneity and unpredictability.
Speaker1: Which is really weird because earlier I did not.
Speaker2: Yeah, so it's good.
Speaker1: So I'm definitely all over the place.
Speaker2: So you're lying to me. Okay, do you lean more romantic or playful?
Speaker1: Probably more playful than romantic.
Speaker2: Okay, you enjoy fun, teasing, and light energy.
Speaker1: Oh, the teasing part, absolutely. I do like the tease. That's half the fun is the tease. That's the hottest part of sex, in my opinion. Yeah, I think so, too. The anticipation. The foreplay, the tease, the build. I mean, intercourse is great. Don't get me wrong. But. But after you have intercourse, what is there? Yeah, it's like, okay, that's fine. Okay, we've done that. We've jumped the fence. Now we're on the other side. Okay. Okay. Do. Yeah, when you're thinking about it, you're anticipating it, I think that's the, that's done. Okay, we've done that. We've jumped the fence, now we're on the other side. Okay. Okay. Do-do-do-do.
Speaker3: Yeah, when you're thinking about it, you're anticipating it,
Speaker1: I think that's hot.
Speaker3: Oh, sure. Leaving something on the table, so to speak.
Speaker2: Yeah, I agree. Just get up and wipe it off.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: Oh, man.
Speaker2: That's what you want to read into it, okay?
Speaker3: You're just so wrong.
Speaker2: You made it gross. I didn't say it was gross. You're the one who said left it on the table. I didn't. It could have been a cum load. You don't know. You're right. All right. All right.
Speaker1: All right. All right.
Speaker2: All right. All right.
Speaker1: All right. All right.
Speaker2: All right.
Speaker1: All right.
Speaker2: All right.
Speaker1: All right. All who said left it on the table. I didn't. It could have been a cum load. You don't know. You're right. You're just assuming the worst. Are you more visual or emotional? Visual. Okay. So you respond to physical attraction and setting. I also respond to having a uh dick in your ass hard dick insider well when we used to have the monitors up where my playmates and i could watch ourselves and that was freaking hot i love that that's even in my earlier days we uh i always had a mirror handy where i could watch myself so i'm definitely visual i find that very erotic well yeah well you've already said you like being an exhibitionist oh yeah so that just goes hand in hand do you per what what about you what about you what am i yeah um i'm not visual i mean i i do i it depends if'm not in the sex, I'm visual. Okay, if you're in the sex. If I'm in the sex, I'm more emotional. Oh, okay. I don't like being watched. I don't, you know, I'm not a performance artist. No, I'm surprised. Yeah. Well, I am when it comes to anything but being naked.
Speaker2: I mean, there is a whole fund that I get money from every month to not get naked in public.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker2: I swore that I signed the paperwork, the contract.
Speaker1: But public speaking, you're right there, baby.
Speaker2: You go to a nude beach, you wear clothes. Turtleneck, full-length ass. You're a renegade. Please, no nudity. Yeah, we don't want Vince on a nude beach. Shut up. You know, a jumpsuit's fine. Jumpsuit. You're a rebel that way. Nude beach, nope. I'm going to go fully clothed. Well, I'll go to a nude beach, but yeah, they want me dressed. I didn't say they would.
Speaker1: Just you're like, I'm. So number 13.
Speaker2: Do you prefer intensity or relaxation?
Speaker1: Probably intensity.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: You like passion and energy.
Speaker3: Yeah, I can see that. Okay. What's the other one? Relaxation means you enjoy calm, limitations of age it's so much fun isn't it the trampoline had to come down i'm sorry i. Oh, well, the trapeze bar came down until my shoulder gets better, but I understand that. I couldn't reach it. My back was so bad when I was on the trampoline, I couldn't reach the trapeze. Oh, jeez. So, do you like structure or letting things unfold? Hmm, probably letting things unfold. Structure would give it too rigid. Well, it's sort of like those people who send you scripts for custom videos oh my gosh for 1 minute 38 seconds you do this and then for another 17 seconds for 17 seconds you do this and at 2 minutes 13 seconds you say this like really that like regimented? It's how you jerk off to like a fucking Marine March song. I don't know. Jerk my dick off in my hand. I don't know. That sounds very rigid. Very, you know. You can't jerk off if it's not. Yeah.
Speaker1: True. Smarty pants.
Speaker2: You said unfolding, right?
Speaker3: That's what you said? Yeah. Okay.
Speaker2: 15. Are you more curious or content?
Speaker1: I'd say more curious.
Speaker2: You like exploring and trying new things. Aren't you running out of things new to try other than people?
Speaker1: No. There's always new things to try.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: Well, with new people, they always come with their own little bag of tricks.
Speaker2: Oh, that baggage, bag of tricks.
Speaker1: Bag of tricks.
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: Yeah, because they're like, oh, I like it if you do something. I'm like, oh, I've never done, like I've never pegged a man before. And with you, I never will, I know. Hallelujah. Okay. So there are things I have not done yet. I am still a virgin at, and I bat my eyes. But you keep saying you're afraid to peg a man. I am. I am very nervous about it, but I...
Speaker2: There's a Rage Against the Machine song called To Kill a Man. We could probably change the words to that. To peg a man.
Speaker1: Peg a man. Yeah, see, I'm very nervous about it, but if somebody would want me to do that...
Speaker2: As a willing asshole, and they're willing, Donna would be willing.
Speaker1: I would definitely...
Speaker3: Okay.
Speaker1: Yeah, I would definitely do that. Thank you. It vibrates. It's only a 10-inch dildo. Oh, don't worry. And it vibrates, though. Most ends. If she didn't like you, it'd be a 12-inch one. I'll be pegging you lovingly. This is getting interesting. Okay, all right. Do you prefer deep conversation or light banter beforehand?
Speaker2: So Freud had said...
Speaker1: If you exhibit these traits, you probably want to have sex with your mother.
Speaker2: Yeah, I mean, it was deep conversation. So the meaning of life has got to be so much deeper than my cock in your mouth.
Speaker1: No, light banter. Light banter.
Speaker3: Let's not.
Speaker2: With two creams.
Speaker1: With two creams. Okay.
Speaker2: I'd take it that way, but okay.
Speaker1: Hey, on this podcast, you say the word cream, it only means one thing. I'm not talking coffee. I'll see you next time. okay i dig it that way but okay hey in this podcast you say the word cream it only means one thing i'm not talking coffee oh this isn't the hot coffee podcast sorry no that's later that's tomorrow morning okay do you like being in control or sharing control uh probably sharing control because i'm not dominant uh being in control would be a little bit says here you're insecure and should help yeah i'm sure now it says you like balance and mutual flow i mean you want him to come and you want to come yeah i yeah that sounds about right now the interesting thing would be to revisit this list and do it once with a male partner and once with a female partner it's still going to be very the same yeah boring as shit i am boring as shit i'm sorry no that's fine i'm just not a dominant person like if anybody wants me to be dominant i'm not four foot ten of dominance there baby tower of dominance tower of dominance it's 110 pounds of pure dominance pure dominance out there do you prefer familiar partners or new energy? Huh. Wow. If they show up. Yeah, if they show up. Geez, I'd like to say new energy, but it's always been such a big disappointment lately.
Speaker2: Well, but when the new energy happens and it happens well, it's exciting.
Speaker1: Right, but it just hasn't happened well in a while.
Speaker2: Yeah, a lot of batters got up and struck out.
Speaker1: Yeah, it's just been... Some didn't show up to the game. I'd say a lot of them didn't show up to the game at all. Yeah, okay. So familiar partners... You value comfort and trust. The new energy one is you enjoy excitement and novelty. I can understand that, and I wish I could get on board with that, but it just hasn't been the experience lately.
Speaker2: I think it is your preference.
Speaker1: It is my preference.
Speaker2: But it doesn't seem to work well.
Speaker1: Not lately.
Speaker3: No.
Speaker1: I'm going back to my tried and true playmates because they show up, they know what to bring to the table, they know, you know, they just know what they're doing.
Speaker2: Yeah, I get that. Do you like things predictable or surprising?
Speaker1: I do like surprises.
Speaker2: Look, I got my penis cut off.
Speaker1: Oh, that's not a good surprise.
Speaker2: Well, you said you liked it.
Speaker1: Okay, that's not a good surprise. I mean, like, if you said you had a, like, you said your ex for Christmas, you couldn't tell her that there were Christmas presents because you had a, like, you said your ex for Christmas. You had to, you couldn't tell her that they're a Christmas present because you had to go find them and find out what they were. No, yeah, she did not like surprises. See, you could tell me, there's a box there. You have a surprise in the box. I tell you, I got your presents in that box. You go, what the fuck did you spend money on for? Well, that's true. You shouldn't be spending money. I'm an unappreciative bitch. I am. Shut up, I hate you so much. But you can leave it there and I will not want to even look at it until the appointed time. I'm like, okay, I'll wait until Christmas. Yeah, I'm that way. I can just wait. Why? I like the idea of the surprise, so why would I want to ruin it by, I have to have it right now? No, that's people who need instant gratification. And I don't need instant gratification. And they hate premature ejaculation, too. I'm sure they do, too. I'm sure it goes hand in hand. That's the juxtaposition. It's like, I want instant gratification, but don't come too fast. That's a hard one. I mean, difficult. Well, it was hard. It was hard. Okay. All right, number 20. Oh, God. Last but least. Okay. What is more important, connection or excitement? I think connection. Well, I think excitement can add to connection. Or the connection can add to the excitement. Because once you have a connection connection you know the next time it's going to be hopefully better even better yeah because you have that connection you know what to expect you know uh so which one do you want what do you mean which one do i excitement or connection i think connection you value emotional depth do i now Okay. That's, I'm not so sure about that, but okay. So, okay. What's the other one? The excitement one? Excitement, you value thrill and energy. I can understand that. Oh, it's all fun. It's all fun. I do like the connection because... Again, this is done by AI. Yeah. It's not done by Dr. Freud, but in any... Or who was that other little
Speaker2: lady? And Freud hasn't done things in years.
Speaker1: Well, you know, it could have been something that research... What about... What was her name? Ruth? Dr. Dr. Ruth. She's always like, and the penis goes into the vagina! You know, she'd take her fingers and go into... That's the last time she saw... Well, she's passed. I'm sure she's passed. She was pretty old back then. Yeah, I don't know. I don't know how many penises she actually got to see. I'd like to have seen a picture of her when she was younger to see if she was talking from knowledge. Or from books. Or what she read in a book. Oh, come on. She probably was a little minx in bed, you know? She got her little riding prop out and her little leather boots. I'm not saying she wasn't, but someone like that Susan Brandon, or was it Braden, who's on her show? Oh, yes. That woman. Braxton. Braxton was her last name, I think. You know, that woman can tell me anything about this, but I know she's been there. Yeah, she's been there, for sure. Yeah, she's... Has some experience. And just goddamn good looking. Yeah, she's very attractive, absolutely, that's for sure. So what did you learn from this? What's the symbolism? Boondock Saints reference there. So, well, no, it was, you know, pretty much, there were some that kind of surprised me, but, you know, well, it was fun. It was interesting. So, you know, you kind of like to be a sub. You don't always want to be a sub. You like to have some level of connection. Yeah, but not too much connection because I don't want to. You like stability get from it is, you know, again, I may have a little more inside track than most. You think? No. Oh, stop. But, you know, something to the effect like, you know, you, yeah. I mean, it's stuff I kind of knew. Yeah, I figured as much. I mean, you do your excitement over new stuff, but you do take value in the tried and true. The old stuff? Yeah. Okay, a tried and true is a better way to... And she looks at me as she says old stuff. Oh, stop. Yeah, I mean, I do... The new is exciting, but sometimes that excitement can be very fleeting. There have been a couple of playmates. I was really, this is going back a few years, and I was really excited to get together with them. And when they got here, it was so anticlimactic. It was just like, what happened to all that sexy talk and all the texting back and forth and all this hot stuff? They talk a great game. A lot of these guys do talk a great game. And you see, that is kind of, my glasses make me sweat. Like at the house parties, before word got out about me. Right, right. People looked at me and they're like, okay, nothing fancy there. You know, I'm like, okay, you know. And, you know, went to numerous house parties, even the host's wife. Right. Like there was never anything but a, you know, hello, hug and kiss and a goodbye, hug and kiss. But then once they popped a cork. As it were.
Speaker2: So to speak. All of a sudden, it was like, oh boy. You know, for them, not me. I mean, for me, too.
Speaker1: For me, too. Yeah, it was on my side.
Speaker2: I enjoy it, but yeah. That was the excitement part, because no one anticipated what I brought to the party.
Speaker1: That's why you can never, ever judge a book by its cover. I cover. Wow, that's a phrase you should coin. I think I should. Wow. Because you have introduced me to guys, like I said before, that were kind of like, I don't know, Vince. You're like, oh, no, come on, you should play with them. You really should. I'm like, oh, okay. And it turned out to be a lot of fun. No, you never know. You don't know. Unfortunately, until you put your foot in the water,
Speaker2: you don't know what temperature it is.
Speaker1: No, that's very true. That's very true. So never, ever, you know.
Speaker2: Charge a book by its cover.
Speaker3: True.
Speaker2: How about a magazine?
Speaker1: Or a magazine by its cover. You just can't do that because you don't know what's going to be on the inside. You just don't know. Yeah, he might have some mad skills that, you know, just to look at them, they're like, oh, well, you know know plain jane and then all of a sudden it's like whoa holy cow i didn't know we had a 12 inch cock under there or some other mad skill i didn't know she had a 12 inch what a surprise info at hotwifepodcast.com please feel free to write us uh questions, statements, ideas for a show. Fifty Shades of Pleasure magazine is coming out May 1st. Check that out. And if you want to see who, what, where, or when. Oh, at hotwifedonnellinn.com. I'm constantly posting stuff of me and whoever I happen to be with that day, that minute. Whatever. Whatever. So we're going to end the show here with, I went into AI today and typed in something about Donna and had it generate a song. Oh, great. And it's in a heavy metal tone. Oh, love it. It sounds more like Disturbed. Okay. So we're going to end the show with this. And I hope, you know, you guys can appreciate this. I should feel flattered, huh?
Speaker2: Hey, I don't have AI write songs for just anybody.
Speaker1: You have way too much time on your hands, mister. Way too much time. We'll see you next time. Oh, my choice, Oh, the romance is not dead, folks. The romance is not dead. Good night.
Speaker3: Stay horny.
Speaker1: Have a good night, everybody. Hey, I don't kick the door Turn it up Thank you. Thank you.
