Send us Fan MailThe Swing Nation PodcastReal-Life Swinger Stories: Penis Pumps, Vagina Castles, and Insecurities | Episode 31 In this swinger podcast episode, Dan and Lacy recap a weekend they had at The Red Room in Nashville, TN. They met up with a few friends and fellow podcasters, such as Cate from the Wanderlust Swingers Podcast. They discuss their hands-on penis pump experience, a female glory hole, and Lacy s struggles with insecurities. They also talk about the new Swinger Society website and exciting upcoming events in 2022! Crackenbeards BDSM Furniture The Red Room Nashville, TN_______________- The Swing Nation -Main WebsiteQuick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)Follow us on Facebook!The Podcast Website_______________ - Swinger Society -Our Website to meet, connect eventsSwinger Society DiscordOur Facebook Group_______________ - Swinger Websites -SDCUsername: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! **SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl_______________ - Merch More -The Swing Nation MerchThe Swinger Pride FlagsSwinger Society Merch_______________ - Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans_______________ -- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Pinaq Liqueur; The Official Drink of The Swing NationUse Code TSN at checkout for 15% off!Non-monogamy Couples Course and Single Guy Mastery CourseUse Code ATLANTA for 50% off!- Thank you for the support! -
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welcome to the swing nation, a podcast by swingers for swingers, where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle.
Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe, interview the experts, learn and grow together join the nation hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl in today's episode we're going to talk a little bit about the Red Room. We are your hosts, Northern Guy and Southern Girl. In today's episode, we're going to talk a little bit about the Red Room. We are. Formerly known as the Theater Group. Yeah.
Dealing with insecurities in the lifestyle. That would be me. And the Swears Society. We are. We're going to talk all the information about the Swears Society, which we're excited to actually get a chance. That's been in the works for a long time. Well, it's been in existence for a long time, but we're happy to finally get a chance to kind of lay out for our listeners what all that entails and what that means and in hopes that you guys can be part of it.
Yeah, it's been a while since it's just been the two of us. The last few podcasts, we've interviewed people or done stuff. So it's kind of nice. It's like a little bit of a catch-up. Yeah. It does. Yeah, just me and you behind the microphones again. Yeah. All right. So I think we'll start with the Red Room. And this was, we were there a while back. What did we say, February? Yeah. so this is like about a month and a half delayed. Yeah. We usually review right after we go, within a week or two.
We kind of had to put this off because we had opportunities to interview people. Well, and it's because we sat down and interviewed people, so we had those recordings, so we published those before. Yeah, so we finally. We never really got a chance to sit down and record this one. Yeah, so this is a little bit delayed, which is not really our style. But nonetheless, it's here. So we're going to transport you back in time to February. I think it was 5th or 6th that weekend. Yeah, yeah.
Whatever the day was. And we went to the Red Room, which, again, is formerly the theater group.
And if you guys haven't heard about them, a lifestyle club in the nashville tennessee area like right outside of the area yeah you go back if you can find if you find the theater group review episode you can get a full review um of that club there it might be labeled nashville 2.0 yeah i think i think it says something about the review or something but anyway yeah go back and find that one yeah because that'll be the full review this is kind of since we've already done that we're going to kind of just talk about our night and those type of things right so what the whole reason we went back to the theater group other than they're a great club and we'd like enjoy that um is that uh kate who is from wonderlust swingers podcast and also on tiktok is it the same name wonderlust swingers or i think so swinging out down under those are the kind of two names i think she goes back and forth so you can probably find her on under one of those but uh she had invited us to come out and meet some of her friends uh and so she knew we were in the nashville area and said hey you know she was flying all the way from europe um into town for the weekend for her birthday um and was meeting up with a bunch of her friends who were most of them are podcasters or you know lifestyle influencers in their in their own right and she wanted us to come out and meet meet her and her friends yeah we had her no, though, because if you remember, I had my breast lift and new implants put in on January 25th.
So we're talking like 10, 11 days here post-op. So originally we said no, but I kind of went to Dan after. I was like, no, I really want to meet her. I feel like this is like a good opportunity for us to go. And so we went anyway.
Yeah we always do right so Lacey's you know right off of surgery um and so we went um and met up with them in the club and it was kind of a crazy you know Lacey had worked not you didn't work that day but I had something that worked the day before so I had to drive that morning from uh the Charlotte North Carolina area all the way to Nashville you know that's a good eight-hour drive and you were running yeah you I don't know if you had baseball or you had things going on we were just it was a really busy time like really we probably should have opted out but we really wanted to go and make this work um so we did right um and then yeah so it was just kind of a crazy weekend but like we always do we pulled through like we always do yeah i just remember it was we were stressed to try to get to the club and we were i think like we were actually like kind of running late like they all went to dinner and stuff and we wanted to go do that but we didn't we couldn't didn't even make it in time for that so um the theme that night was like sports theme i think because it was like the weekend before um the super bowl so uh we i was just gonna wear a dress and you were like wait what about our patriots gear from hito right so we popped those out of the closet and we went with it right because we had actually sports night was a night that we had had at hito and lacy had gone and ordered some fancy patriots jersey that was all blinged out and some booty shorts and so we we kind of had a sports outfit we did yeah we reused it for the one of the first times we've done that yeah it was nice so that's what the theme was um we got there probably shortly after opening maybe eight ish i would think um the club itself was not super busy that night for a saturday night i mean it wasn't dead by any means but i guess the only thing i have to compare to was when we went back in the fall and it was like a packed house yeah so i mean the first time we had gone it was i think they're like their grand opening or close to the grand opening and then then we had you know kind of the swing talk takeover or whatever yeah and it was g money's birthday party had all his friends right i think a lot of the vibe group was there um so it was pretty packed this time i mean it was a busy club but not not like standing room only like it was the other time we had gone.
But it was also pretty low-key, which is unusual for us because we don't typically get that anymore. I'm not saying that we draw these huge crowds. That's not the case, but typically when we go places, we pretty much promoted it, and then people know to expect us. Right. They're like, hey, hey. I mean, we did get some of that, but not a ton of it. It was. Because I'm not...
we pretty much promoted it and then people know to expect us and they're like hey hey i mean we did get some of that but not a ton of it it was because we didn't really put out we were going no i think we i mean maybe like the day before two days before but again i had just came off of surgery so i don't think i had been like on tiktok much and stuff like that so we just hadn't done a lot of promoting yes we were able to fly under the radar yeah to the Room.
It was weird because that's the first place that we've been in a while that we haven't had our whole crew at. And it was like we were awkward. We didn't know what to do because we didn't know. We knew a few people. Yeah, so let's go over who all was here.
And I'm probably people so i oh i'm sure i apologize if you were there and you and we know you were part of that group and i don't say your name i'm very sorry but uh obviously kate was there from the wonder less swinger podcast um and then the average swingers were there and i'm not going to say their names because honestly i'd probably screw it up if i did uh but but him and his wife were there um the monogamous marriage podcast which which they have a fairly new podcast but they're Thank you.
Honestly, I'd probably screw it up if I did. But him and his wife were there. The Monogamous Marriage Podcast, which they have a fairly new podcast, but they're pretty big in the blogging world is the way I understand it. Okay. Because they have a pretty large lifestyle blog. And then the couple from Naughty Gym. Which is really cool. You should totally check them out. Was there. Yeah. And they're a super hot couple. And super into it. They run a lifestyle fitness website. Yeah.
And you can, it's, you know, lifestyle friendly. And they have all these classes for, you know, how to get in shape and stuff like that. And really affordable. Yeah. And I think they're starting to do, like, outings and stuff where you can go to events with them. And super nice couple.
Like all, like, it involves swinging and fitness and being active, which is kind of cool of cool right and they're fairly close to us so they are we mean we might need to hang out with them i agree they're super hot a super hot couple yeah uh and then the couple from um double date nation was there yeah and so that's another platform it's like a sls cassidy sdc type platform called double date nation um and the couple that owns and runs that was there and there was there was a bunch of other people and if it was a lot i had no idea i i didn't know if any of them are podcasters or have a a lifestyle business i apologize for not mentioning you yeah i mean like i thought kate was just going to be there and like some of her friends i had no idea that like all of her friends were going to be like kind of a big deal yeah like i just thought we were going to meet kate i mean i thought it would be like a good opportunity for us to like our podcast and her podcast but i really had no idea that her friends are like amazing yeah they're all i don't know what you want to call them but influential in the lifestyle yeah in their own right you know and have their own little niche uh markets yeah um which is it's good it's always nice to meet people that are operating in that space and you know get to know them and see how we can help them and how they can help us and that's that's always it's always nice yeah and it was it was a hot group like i mean like for real hot yeah like our swing talk group i think is you know is a pretty attractive group uh but this group was also very very also very, very attractive.
Very. I guess I didn't realize we were walking into that. No. I was a tad bit overwhelmed. First of all, I didn't feel great. I was like 10 days post-op, so I didn't feel great. But I had no idea that we were walking into all of this hotness. Yeah.
really attractive people which is you know it's not bad problems to have you know like one of the girls was less than one percent like well i'm one percent only fans but like she's like a point zero yeah point one percent only fans like like gorgeous humans so it was and not only gorgeous humans but like really cool people like that can have conversations with you and chat and which is also important you you need brains and beauty yeah no i agree yeah and like i think it goes back to your point a little bit when we do these things usually they're somewhat our events or you know like or where we've sponsored an event at a club or we've advertised an event so it tends to be that we are kind of involved and kind of you know with the activities and you kind of like walk in like hey everybody y'all everybody knows us this was different it was we were on almost like their turf even though we had been to the theater group slash red ring before um we kind of felt like the new kids on the block.
Would you agree with that? Yeah, no, I think that's right. And I remember at one point I looked at Dan and I'm like, I don't know who to talk to. I don't, you know, it was kind of like not, they were very welcoming, very kind. Yeah. But just going from knowing everybody and like this crew who always hangs out together and everybody's pretty much swapped with, you know, everybody to this new crew that you're like.
But I think that's good perspective because we're so, like you said, we're used to rolling kind of with our posse into a place and kind of taking over where this is like, oh, this is, oh, it's back to like our first. Like, hi, I'm Lacey.
It's back to our first club and, you know, hotel takeover days where you have to like.'s been a while since that so it was kind of refreshing kind of scary kind of somewhere in between does that make sense yeah and i could tell like we're a little rusty maybe at that like like of introducing ourselves to new couples and kind of and meeting them yeah you're right you're right and the fact that i didn't feel good on top of that really like just added another layer of uncomfortableness if that makes any sense so it's fine though we um we we we had a great time yeah um so all all super great people um had had an awesome night uh talking and get to knowing them individually um but kind of within chaos so i don't think we got you know we didn't get to spend as much time with everybody as we probably would like but hopefully i was like i wish we could have done dinner so we could have really had conversations not over loud music yeah but hopefully we run into some of them i think we will again yeah and get to know some of them better but a super cool group um but while we were there we did get to kind of see what the theater group slash now red Room has done to the place.
They've done some good stuff. So when we went back in the fall, I mean, like, I think it was like their third weekend open or something crazy like that. So they still had a few spots that were kind of under. I don't know if you call it under construction or, you know, they were still working on them.
And I thought they'd done an amazing with with the improvements that they had put in yeah and i don't know if i don't even know if they're done done yet but uh definitely you know the the um the bdsm area i guess what you would call it the dungeon area it was blocked off when we went last time blocked off last time now that whole area has opened up and they've even made improvements to kind of the group players that we had mentioned last time so if you follow us and our friends you know the cracking beards which are on tiktok they actually make custom bdsm furniture they actually have a st andrew's cost that they built and is in there um i'm sure we can link their website in the show notes but um so that i think that's pretty cool that our friend built a cross that's in there that's super cool yeah um they also put in a shadow box room which is super cool um it also had a glory hole for the in um yeah so so i guess this bdsm area has the saint andrew's cross it had a sex swing right maybe i don't know i think it did and then it has this uh a glory hole and so the glory hole in the bdsm area goes into if you put your penis in there it's your penis is going into what they call the shadow box um in the shadow box room is just a a small like closet yeah it's kind of like hid behind a pocket door so you kind of wouldn't know it was there um and it has this white plastic i guess white like well i mean like it's a shadow box so like if you've been to a club or anything and you saw the girls dancing behind the shadow box so that's kind of it so um like at one point we were in there and a girl was giving someone a blowjob so you could like just see the outlines of their body i mean you could see their body you couldn't you would never know who it was but it was super hot i don't think in all this i've seen those in clubs but not sex clubs right not swinger you mean like strip clubs and things like that yeah like when i was in vegas like years and years ago they would have those and girls would dance like almost like go-go dancers but not like does that make sense yeah but i've never seen one in the sex club personally no and it's cool and you know to get into the shadow box it had like a little like hidey door like you know there's no handle on it you kind of have to know where it is to get to get in there um i don't know the whole glory hole thing I think that's fun if you know the people you're with I can't imagine ever putting my penis in a hole and not knowing who is on the other side i mean dan trusting it for real yeah i don't know if i can do it i think you could i don't know you're a little bit of a man whore i think i think i would be if i knew the group like if i'm like okay these are our friends we're all so but you're gonna turn down i've seen you at the pool at secrets i've seen you at hito i've seen you in a lot of places you usually don't care who's sucking your penis well yeah but you you see the person and can kind of make a cleanliness you know like i mean i understand your point but i also know you you think i would i think you would maybe a few more shots of fireball than i had that night now they have a vagina castle that i would not go in well what about okay so let's explain so that's the the bdsm area that's the shadow box area there is a glory hall from the bds room into the shadow box room uh you know they have some sex toys swings and St.rew's crosses and things like that now um so then in their group play area where i think before they just had a couple couches yeah i think now they have more couches yeah like bed type areas i don't think it's like an official bed but it's more of like a bed type area but then in the center of that group play room and this is on the couple's side of the theater group or the red room now, there is a castle.
Yeah. And we've named it the Vagina Castle. I don't know if that's the actual term, but it is the Swing Nation podcast term. Yeah.
But it literally looks like a Rapunzel castle or, I don't know, kind of like, this bad description but you know those like cardboard cutout um playhouses that you can get for your kids sure it kind of reminds me of that because it's not it's the size i mean it could fit in a room so it's not super tall right it's probably like it's probably taller than you but not much taller than you would you say yeah it's kind of up on like a raised platform but yeah so there's this castle and it looks very much like a princess castle or something like that and then on one side the back side of the castle it has i don't know a full-size bed ish no it's like a massage table yeah it's not a full-size bed yeah it's like a massage table uh that a female would lay on.
And I guess what they officially call it is a female. This is a female glory hole is what we're describing. Okay. This is a female. A.K.A. Vagina Castle. Right. Female glory hole, A.K.A. Vagina Castle. So the female would get on this bed, this massage table size bed. And then if she slides down, her legs go through the castle gate, if you will.
And there a black sheet there and so her kind of her this is a horror another horrible um explanation but imagine a c-section is that bad is that a bad i get weird but you get the you have a curtain that covers so you don't see what's going on waist down sure so her waist comes out of the castle gates and then on either side of the castle there's handcuffs, foot cuffs, ankle cuffs. And so she gets cuffed, spread eagle. I didn't see cuffs. There was, yeah.
They're hanging on the outside of the castle. I believe you, but I didn't see them. That's to open you, to expose you. Yeah, there absolutely was cuffs. He just gave a visual. He missed it.
a visual yeah i used my hands if you didn't see that you missed it but uh right so then she's laying down on her back on this table um there was handles on the back side of the castle for her to hold on to and her legs are strapped and she is exposed for um her friends to to play with yes i was gonna say for male entertainment but it could be some females yeah um but like you said earlier i would never in a million years get in there in like an open club experience where there's people just walking in and out i would however get in there if it was more of like a private situation and there was like 10 of my favorite couples or something like that i would totally get in there yeah so you know if we ever go back to the red I don't know.
air if it was more of like a private situation and there was like 10 of my favorite couples or something like that i would totally get in there yeah so you know if we ever go back to the we might try this but i think what you would have to do is if you had a group of friends you trusted right you'd go back into that area to play you'd have to post a guard at the gate of the castle so to speak you know i mean like you'd have to get in the castle if i was there to me that's a really uncomfortable situation because like who is the guard who makes the decisions that somebody can't go down like would you be the guard of me yeah it has to be somebody you trust but are you gonna like but but like i could see you letting people go down on me that i probably wouldn't you wouldn't trust me to guard your castle i think we have different tastes yeah but I mean, I don't think you have that intention.
What if we had like a pre, like, okay, our friends that are here that we're with. I know. I just think we're way overthinking. But I think that would have to be that. I don't think there's too many. I mean, it would be totally fun. And there's people using it all night. Oh, yeah. And there's people in there a bunch.
So I'm assuming they somewhat consent to who is with them i don't know i can't and maybe this is sexist and maybe i shouldn't say this but like i feel like a man can put his penis in a glory hole and not give a shit who sucks it but like me as a female i don't know i'm a little bit more guarded when it comes to my vagina being in the castle but that's just me right we also have a lot of people that come to see us at events so that also takes into account that too because like what if we're at like an event and everybody knows we're there and then we've got all these like people that know us from tiktok and they're like oh let me get in on that right again you gotta post a guard i know i know I have anxiety like the Vagina Castle gives me anxiety I mean it's a cool concept Yeah on that right again you gotta post a guard i know i know i have anxiety like the the vagina castle gives me anxiety does it i mean it's a cool concept and i think that like some people that's probably like right up their alley but me personally i overthink everything and the anxiety of overthinking about it trusses me out so much that i would just be like i'm good thank you yeah no I think for the you know from the male perspective the glory hole side I just want to know it's somebody clean that you know I mean like that's my biggest I think is hygiene is my biggest concern or that it's a female you know for me personally yeah I get that yeah because if you just put your dick in a glory hole you don't know yeah that's true because I wouldn't care so much like the gender because i'm into girls and guys but you yeah i get that okay false and i felt a beard on me i might freak out yeah i get it i get it yeah yeah i totally get that um okay so that was the vagina castle um what else oh kind of a big deal what's the big deal i got to press the penis pump button.
This is true. I did this for the podcast, y'all. I did this for the podcast, y'all. I did this for the people. I even said, like, while I was doing this, I was like, this is for science. This is for the podcast. Yeah, so anybody that listens to The Average Swingers probably knows the story. And I'll, I guess, recap it real quick.
But if you would like to hear the full story i guess they do talk about it on their podcast i tried to find it because i actually have a lot of episodes yeah i wasn't um i wasn't around for the story of how he got the penis pump or why so i really i just heard your version of it so i tried to go and find that podcast oh like fact check me no not fact check you i just really wanted to hear his version of it um and i couldn't find it but i'm sure they talk about it but they do have like 200 or more episodes yeah so it might be a little hard to find it right um so but the story he told that night was that they were at a swinger's event, and somebody there had the injectable male enhancement medication.
Yeah. Right? So there's, I guess, some type of male enhancement medication, but instead of it being a pill, you inject it straight into your penis. And he did it. And that's what helps you get hard.
apparently um he you know he said well can i try some of that uh and he took it and i think he took too much it was the the way i understood it um and so his penis was wrecked for a very very long time uh you know ended up at the hospital and ended up being nerve damaged um like permanently permanent nerve damage so he he's pretty young i mean he's in his 30s he might be a little older than us but i don't know I don't know i mean around our age around our age and we're 37 um and so my understanding is he had like this he because like when i first kind of was here because this is kind of was as i walked in i thought he just got it to be like because he's kind of a jokester you know him and his wife are kind of like real so i thought like definitely him yeah he's a funny guy yeah so i thought oh he just got it just because like to be like not funny but like i don't know like a party trick maybe but then he very quickly said no like i had to have this or i couldn't perform right so basically um if you walk into the red room um if you walk towards the back play area on the couple side on the couple side there is like a couch and he literally had his pants down to his ankles and was giving us like a full-on lesson on penis pumps there was i don't know 10 15 of us sitting on the couches yeah and so i had never i've never seen one in person so i was super intrigued um honestly it's a little bit interesting like it was fascinating yeah it was yeah so he was like does somebody want to press the button and i was like me me you know for science for the podcast so i got up and he basically put my hand over his ball sack and was like, press the button.
And I had to literally press a button, like, squeeze his ball sack, like, harder than I've ever squeezed a man's. Like, women, you don't do that, you know? And, like, I had to put some force behind it. Like, it was like a real button.
And as soon as i pressed that button it clicked like normal buttons do and all of a sudden his penis started to get hard yeah and again you'll have to google this to look at the signs but i always thought penis pumps were air but it's it's like hydraulic it's fluid that's in there and the fluid is stored somewhere up by his bladder and then And through this pump mechanism in his balls it pumps the the fluid into the shaft uh there's like two tubes on either side right there's two right on either side of his shaft and it essentially when those tubes fill up it it makes his penis stiff yeah um and he said he lost like an inch or a half inch i don't remember the exact amount but he lost um some length on his penis and the head of his penis never gets hard so i actually touched the head of his penis just to kind of feel because for science you know and it wasn't hard i mean it wasn't like dangling soft but it was not like your typical male head of your penis right um it was definitely interesting yeah very interesting and you know and to be fair we're not we're not making light of this situation uh oh it's very serious no and he he you know he kind of explained to us he you know and i think he talks about this in his podcast so go listen um you know that's that was a traumatic experience for him i think this is a good topic to talk about swinging because in the lifestyle, because a lot of men use enhancement enhancement.
And I know of a lot of men that probably take way more than they need, to be honest with you. You've probably done that. Probably have. You know, so like, I think we forget that it could cause permanent damage.
So no, by no means we're making light of it i mean it was super interesting very um but i really like like i said once i realized that no he had to have this or he could not you know perform because just like not even swinging but because wife i mean it made it very real for me yeah no it was you know from the way he described it and he's he's obviously he's come a long way since all that happened because he is able to kind of joke and make light of it and but could you imagine if that happened to you i cannot imagine and from his it it sounds like it was a process that he went through yeah to get back comfortable to where he is now i'm sure and what you said is a very very valid point because in these lifestyle uh experiences when you go to clubs when you go to parties um when you go to things it is not uncommon um for men to share pills right yeah you know if you have a buddy and he's struggling be like hey man i got something you can take this right and not not that's not in a nefarious way it's simply like let me help you out yeah um but but to lacy's point is be very very you know if it's not subscribed to you uh be very very prescribed yeah uh to you be very careful with that because you know there there are side effects to those those drugs they are not makes it very real right 100 safe you know if you do experience issues with that go talk to your doctor i know heart issues is very you know when i talked to my doctor about it that's that was his main concern is that my heart was good and i didn't have high blood pressure um but obviously if you overdose um there's serious side effects to that yeah long term yeah right so be very very careful with that stuff.
And it's kind of our night in a nutshell. Is there anything that we're missing? So overall, what would you say about, I guess, the new and improved ride room? Do you have any comments about what you liked, what you didn't like, what they still need to improve on? I liked everything. I wish it was a little bit busier.
I hope that they're – I mean, I'm curious if that's your your normal saturday night amount um because if you were somebody that were coming into like if i was visiting the nashville area and wanted to go to a swingers club honestly like i would probably have more time more fun on broadway like just bar hopping and hitting on like single girls than I would there just because it wasn't a huge crowd um but that's not that anything that they're doing wrong I think they're doing amazing job I love the club I love the layout I love the back rooms the bartenders were great they never let our drinks go I mean like they were always over there checking on us um so it was a great time i just you know i guess i'm thinking like if you only have a weekend in nashville is it worth taking a whole night to go there yeah apparently it would it'd be what you were what you're looking for i mean if you had a group and you wanted to go play somewhere and i mean, they definitely do.
That club is set up well, especially what they've done to their play area. Some of the most, I guess, you know, like most, most swingers clubs have beds, you know, and sometimes you'll get a little, a ramp or a St. Andrew's cross or, you know, something a little sexy. The theater group has really thought out what toys and what, you know, what structures they want there for you to be able to have different experiences. And that's, I think, unique and it is nice.
You are right that the crowd that night was not – wasn't blow-you-away type of crowd. I mean, it was a decent crowd but not packed. Yeah. I'm sure like New Year's Eve, big Valentine's, big events like that, I'm sure are amazing. This is a random Saturday night in February. But yeah, I mean, I really like that club. If anybody ever says I'm going to Nashville, where do I go? I always send them to the Red Room. So I highly recommend it. What about the DJ?
I mean, they need to hire the DJ from Vibe.
Yeah, go find Vibe's that dj was on point and he's in the nashville area and hire that guy yeah um i and they were still doing the request thing yeah um they would play a good song and everybody would go out and dance and then yeah it's funny because i heard a little bit of kate's podcast and she said the same thing i heard people at the theater group i mean the red room while we were there say what's up with this dj so it's not just us that feels that way so red room if you listen to this and you can take away one thing that would be our suggestion yeah quit taking requests it's not the dj yeah i don't even know if it's the dj right it's he's taking songs from that are requested and they're they're all over the place Well, swingers, you have a little bit of everything, so I think that's why.
Right, but turn it up a little. Yeah. Okay, anything else? That's it. All right, well, we had fun. Thank you, Kate, for inviting us. Yeah, thank you. Happy birthday, now that it's four months later. It's one month and a half later. And we had a great night with you guys. We ended up, we didn't play with anybody. We did not. I didn't. I was done. We didn't even play with each other at the club. No, we did not. No, it was very much like a meet and greet, just kind of get to know some people.
Yeah, which was okay. It doesn't, I think it's a good thing for people to hear. It's not always about the sex. I mean, that's fun, but sometimes it's okay just to go home.
There was a moment in the shadow box room with me, you, and Kate, and i didn't know we kind of all looked at each other like what's happening here i don't know if that came if that was a moment i don't know i don't know if it was i didn't know like yeah i don't know her husband wasn't there i don't know their boundaries and rules so it was like i didn't i didn't know so and i wasn't again i wasn't i really at 60% that night. Yeah. So it's probably better off that. I mean.
There was a moment though. Was there not? There was a moment. I don't really know what it was, but the moment was there. Yeah. And she's beautiful. She's gorgeous. Yeah. Yeah. So anyway. Okay. That's all we'll say about that. We might've said too much already. Maybe. Yeah. Leave it to Dan. Yeah. That's what I do. All right. So I think at this point we need to take a little break and get a word from our sponsors. Yeah. All right. So let's do that. Okay.
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Thank you for coming back back thank you for sitting through that swing nation uh our sponsors are very important to us they mean a lot to us so thank you for listening to that um and we're gonna follow that that up with uh let's talk about the swinger society we are um we haven't really got a chance to sit down and talk about the swinger society um because we've just been go go go and had all these other podcasts yeah it's just been a crazy time so i want to ask you ask me what are you gonna ask me so where did swinger society come from because this is not really me if you want me to be honest this is dan's brainchild i just make cute tip ton TikToks and sell boob pics on OnlyFans.
Like, this is kind of your thing. So, I know that this started with Discord. So, let's start there in the name and everything. Can you just kind of give us a quick little? Yeah. Yeah. So, if you guys have been following us for a while, you know. If not, you don't know.
but when we first started on tiktok um you know there was very few swingers on on swing talk uh and we kind of befriended most of them uh you know me and lacy mostly me i would reach out i'd send them a message dan is the social butterfly i'd dm them on tiktok i'd dm them on insta however i could get a hold of these people i'd say hey love you guys like like what you're doing you know we're trying to break the stigma kind of give them my little spiel about what our goals and mission was and said hey we'd like to however we can work with you guys and support each other we think that would be great um and so we ended up with four or five different swing talk uh people that we kind of came into our friend group right um you've been around you've seen us on tiktoks and stuff with these people right and so we we all were going through the same things where we kept getting taken down on tiktok we kept getting taken down on instagram we kept getting taken down on snapchat um and so i started the research like is there a safe place somewhere where we can bring people that want to follow us where we won't have to be worried about getting deleted, right, about getting getting banned or getting, you know, and losing?
Because every time that happens, you lose all your followers, right? And then you have to kind of like go back out in social media and try to find them all again.
So it's like, man, if we could bring them somewhere, if we could all have a safe place and have a community, you know, if we get banned, it wouldn't be such a big deal because we could just post back in that wherever this whatever this platform is and say, Hey so we stumbled across discord and if you don't know discord it's it's mostly a gaming platform where uh these younger gamers are using to kind of chat and interact and there's some there's you know some bots and things that will show what games are playing, but they have all these rooms and, um, it's, you know, it's, it's AOL instant messenger on steroids, right?
It's the 2022 version of that. You can have rooms, you can video chat, uh, you can just waste a tag and link and do all kinds of fun, cool stuff. Uh, so once I figured that out, I was like, all right, I'm going to make a discord server.
And then I'm going to, anybody that'm gonna anybody that follows us i'm gonna say hey if you want to chat with us come to this discord server so i made a swing nation discord server um it that's not it's not a super complicated thing to do but it takes a little bit of computer knowledge to be able to stand up you know start a server and do some of the programming things you have to do to set that up um so some of the other swing top people we were with didn't really couldn't do that or didn't want to do that or you know it's a lot of work um so i said well screw this let's just pull all of our followers together in the one spot yeah and then we can all just put out you know we'll all be in together we can kind of cross promote each other we'll make one server anding Nation, correct?
It was, yeah. But we changed it because it was more than just us. Right. Once everybody else joined it, it was like, well, let's not call this The Swing Nation since it's all of us. Let's come up with a name that can kind of encompass this whole group.
And I think it was actually me and Bella, which is Bella's from the For Our Play podcast, went back and forth about what were some names we wanted to kind of one of the kind of sound bougie and like exclusive and um and that's how swinger society was born yeah uh and it just kept growing and growing uh and growing it it outgrew me uh you know with our with our various social medias and now podcasting and everything that we're doing i didn't have much time to kind of admit and moderate um the swinner society discord server um but luckily um there's a user called iron man who is super knowledgeable and smart and he was in the discord he started helping me with moderation he just it was very clear once i kind of got to know him through the discord that this guy knew what he was doing and he was just a good like a good person like a person i could trust um so he he straight up asked me one day he said hey dan like i love this group i love this community i love what you're trying to do here i can tell you're overwhelmed like essentially like let me yeah because you have to give it to me you essentially have to give them the keys right like you have to fully give them control of the server.
Like, to the Lamborghini. Right. Right. To the Lamborghini, right. And I was like, you know, okay. I trust you. Like, go forth and do great things. I can't remember the day you told me that he said that to you. Uh-huh. And since then, I mean, Iron Man has crushed it. I mean, that server's, you know, the things he's done to it to make it user-friendly, you know, the automation, the bots, the modding, the, you know, the leadership role he's taken, some of the. Well, he's just taken it to a level.
A whole new level where I never would have been able to take it. And then, you know, we've had various other people step up in different roles on this. So it's really, it's developed into its own community. It really has. I mean, it 100% is. They're on there doing video and voice chats almost nightly now. I mean, there's lots of Q&As. You know, we've done live Q&As through Discord. They're playing games. You know, they had a Truth or Dare game in there the other night. Yeah, trivia.
They've done classes on, you know, mail enhancement and stuff. I mean, just various questions you would have in the lifestyle. They do these little video chat sessions about it. I mean, it's really grown into a community, which is what we wanted, really. But I think it's more than we ever thought it could be, really. I mean, it's kind of become something. I thought you were crazy the night you stayed up all night long making a Discord. If you were an OG follower, you remembered that night.
And I was like, what the hell no way this is crazy yeah i think the night i programmed it the original time it i literally slept for like two or three hours that day yeah um so you definitely um showed me how wrong i was because now it's at like 10 000 people and we're like by the time this comes out we will probably be at 10 000000 because we were like 70 shy I think we're like 60 shy okay but yeah so we better be at 10,000 so and it's completely free it is a completely free um platform for people which in the swinging community is rare and you can be photo verified or just verified I call it photo verified but it's called just it's just verified right right so we now without getting too much out of there's there's three different levels i guess there's a member which is anybody that joined you start at a member yeah um and because of discord as you know over the last nine months we've been doing this discord keeps their community guidelines.
So now we can't have any nudity visible to just an un-age verified member. So on the member role, you do have access to some like FAQ information. You do have access to a chat room. You can chat and interact with people. But there's none of the naughty stuff can be at that level.
Then once you submit a photo, just any photo that essentially does your age verification shows us that you're over the age of 18 if you look like you could be close to age you know we could we could check an id but if you're obviously over 18 we won't do that but essentially we're just making sure you are who you say you are and you're over the age of 18 that gets you access to the verified section and that that section has you can post whatever you want to post nudes you know videos there's specific rooms that are for that so if you're not interested in that you can you know not just don't be a part of those rooms um and that's kind of that section um we have since launched um the swinger society website yeah i was about to say um in that that we launched that two reasons.
One, it gives users the ability to create a profile. So you can do a have a little about me. You can post pictures, you know, just like almost like an SLS or SDC profile. You can create that and then you can then share that with people within the Discord community. You can heart people and like people and match with people. You can unlock your different photo galleries. You know, a lot of the same interaction that you get on like an SLS to SDC, you can get on the Swinner Society.net website.
In addition to that, we can host our events through that website and do all the ticketing and sales through that website. So we have some events coming up in April and May and really monthly throughout the rest of the year.
We, all those tickets are going to be sold through the swimmer society website um so you'd have to be a member you'd have to sign up you'd have to purchase your tickets there um so those are kind of the two we know we wanted um people on the discord server to be able to have a profile and be able to do this kind of dating interaction that you would get on some of these other swimmer websites and then we wanted a place to sell tickets so that's that's really what the website um gives us but once you do become a member on on the website um we can then unlock if you become a diamond member which is kind of a top tier member um we can unlock a photo verified diamond membership in discord which will get you access to our top tier uh rooms and the good thing about that is if you're talking to people in those rooms you want to know they have a profile on the website and that they've been government id photo verified um so unlike sdc or sls you know sometimes you have these people that are catfishing you or you know like they're not real and these people are also paying so to me like when somebody does pay for something to me that really shows a true interest anybody can throw a free profile up right but to actually put in your card information and pay for a service i think that speaks volumes yeah you know on the free sites you tend to get the cheating males that you know the cheating husbands the young single males that are just looking to fuck that night you know that make a profile and just spam everybody to try to get a hookup that yeah um yeah if you are photo verified through a website you know i mean it's just a different level these are couples that are serious or singles that are serious and probably actually active in the lifestyle that are that are part of this website um so that would be my recommendation is if you are serious about the lifestyle and want to get to know people you know know, getting on the website, becoming a Diamond member, getting access to those Diamond member rooms will give you the best quality of people that you're probably looking to interact with.
Yeah. So we do have some events coming up that are associated with the Swinger Society. So Dan and I are still the Swing Nation. So you hear us on the podcast. You see us on TikTok, you see us on basically all social medias as the Swing Nation. However, we host events through Swinger Society. So Dan and I actually have an event coming up in April. So it's going to be April 22nd and 23rd in Atlanta, Georgia. Basically, when you purchase your VIP ticket, it's a couple.
So, you know, husband and wife, or I guess you could do. Single females. We can't do males because of trapeze rules. Oh, okay. Yeah. So, basically, what you're getting is you're getting a two-night stay at a pretty nice hotel. A name, brand, major.
You know, this isn't a two-star moldy hotel this is a this is a nice hotel um and you get a two-night stay at the same hotel that dan and i are staying at a lot of the swing talk crew our swinger society crew sorry will be there um and you're gonna get two meet and greets um by the pool there's a fire pit. They have a bar. So lots of places at this hotel for us to kind of mingle and get to know you. And you ask questions and all the things.
You get two Swinger Society shirts, which are brand new. Never been seen before. And then Dan and I are also going to host a class. we're calling it swinger 101 um if you've listened to our episode 4 episode 20 of the podcast they're kind of going to be sort of like that but more of like a q a type setting i guess so like if you have questions we'll definitely them. We'll kind of go off that. So it's kind of whatever the people that are in the class want it to be.
So if you're not a newbie, but you still want to take the class, you totally can. And totally ask the questions that you have. So it's going to be pretty awesome. A lot of people are also really nervous to go to their first club or a big club. Like maybe you've only went to your home club by, you know, where you live. And Trapeze Atlanta is probably one of the bigger clubs in the U.S., I would imagine. So we are personally going to walk you through the doors of Trapeze.
You do have to pay your own admission to get into the club. So that is not included. But we're going to help you. We're going to help you get signed up, get signed in, help you walk through the door, show you the club, show you where to eat, where to put your coat, where to put your alcohol, how to get a drink, all the things, where the locker rooms are, where the play rooms are. We're going to kind of be there with you through the whole experience. So it is a true VIP experience.
So maybe you and your wife or maybe you and your husband are wanting to do the lifestyle or maybe you've just kind of started and don't really know where to start. This is kind of designed for you. We do have just a few tickets left and they're only going to be available through April 1st.
So when this comes out, you have about a week to get the tickets um in order to get the tickets you do have to go to swingyoursociety.net they are 600 um do keep in mind though the hotel stay is almost 400 so it's not a huge amount over what you're paying for the hotel room do you have anything to add no that's that's it in in um you know once you join the website we're we're going to be doing monthly events so it gives you opportunities to be part um part of all that and and uh we're going to start a once april 1st hits we're going to start a chat room that everybody's signed up um and so you can chat with us leading up to the event we'll help you pick out your outfit we'll help you pick your outfit we'll answer any questions you know if you need any help you know that's most of what we've gotten since we've kind of started this this adventure has been how like how can i what do i do where do i go how do i you know what do i wear um and so we just you know we kind of came up with this idea to be able to hand walk you um through that experience um so this is really our first event this april one um our other influencers um you know have the opportunity through the website to host their own events so we're really kind of hoping that this grows right that yeah i'm excited other people can do things can do events uh you know we're looking down the road at you know doing takeovers of of major resorts we're looking at you know possibility of cruises uh we're looking at you know taking over campgrounds i mean we there's the possibilities are endless i think you know me personally i'm sick of going to two-star hotels that with moldy bathrooms and you know dingy areas so this gives us the opportunity um with our ticketing to kind of be inventive um if you if you would like to become part of the Swinger Society, especially if you're an influencer and you want to host events, certainly join our Discord server.
There is a influencer application that you can fill out. So, you know, if you are, you know, I've been in the lifestyle for a while. If you think that you could host events and would like to host events, especially if you're an influencer on social media, You can fill that out and kind of join our team because we really want to see this expand and grow, you know, and people to come up with creative ideas on how to do lifestyle events other than the norm. Yeah.
And we also have some other events coming up. Naughty New Orleans. We will be in New Orleans July 6th through 10th. 5,000 swingers taking over New Orleans. I mean, can it get any better than that? You can also purchase those through swingerssociety.net. Come hang out with us. I believe we're going to be on the podcast panel, so you can come hear us talk.
So a lot of good things in the work coming with swinger society and swing nation we're just we're just getting big babe it's uh it's amazing how far it's come in such a short amount of time it's a little overwhelming at times uh yeah and so you know bear with us we are just normal people that have kids and jobs and you know are trying to manage yeah all of this but uh it's like working two full-time jobs but We're getting there.
We are just normal people that have kids and jobs and are trying to manage all of this. It's like working two full-time jobs, but we're getting there. We are getting there. Yeah. It's exciting. And I think we have meetings every other day with new people that want to do new and exciting things. So we've got a long way to go. Yeah. But thanks for you guys.
Yeah, to have made all this this is possible uh thanks to everybody on the discord server thanks to all the the swing talk you know our swinger society uh group of couples uh you guys are all amazing um ash meg ash meg our employees ashlyn i didn't mean to say ash ashlyn and meg and of course jeff um so yeah so it's a good good little group we're all doing it together yeah we're all doing it i'll do it together um yeah all right so we got a few minutes left and i think uh lacy wanted to touch a little bit and i think it's a good idea um since she's had her surgery she's been kind of struggling a bit i really have with your own um insecurities well i mean so we've had this conversation like daily for like the last two months it's been heated at some point it has and i think it's important because i think women i'm sure men but i can only speak to women because that's who I am, probably deal with this.
And I think like we try really hard to keep it completely 100 here on this podcast. We don't try to glamorize the lifestyle. We don't try to play it up. We don't try to play it down. We just try to be super honest, you know. So I think it's important to chat about. So if you don't know, I had a breast lift and a my implants replaced in January and my body had an adverse reaction to the stitches, external and now internal stitches.
and I basically had to have my stitches removed and I'm having to heal without stitches very very slowly so we don't want it to scar and we're just trying very hard to have a beautiful result with this least amount of scarring as possible so it's it's been kind of rough um to be honest with you yeah you know you should have been closed up and healed up in a couple of weeks and now now it's turned into... And we're at two months, and I'm still not closed up.
My incisions aren't, and we are looking at a possible second surgery. Keep in mind that we swing once a month. I'm in lingerie. I'm in tiny dresses. I also have OnlyFans.
I mean, it's kind of been really hard on my self--esteem first of all at swinging events i have pretty much have to wear a top of some sort a brawl um i can't really go without anything and that makes it i mean honestly i really should be wearing like a full-on sports brawl and i have kind of gotten away from that i'm wearing a little bit more like cuter tobs cuter bras but still i mean they're still not victoria's secret lace little things um even though my boobs are beautiful i just can't really show them off right and so i think a lot of like in our in the last few events that we have we have swinged in um i feel like the men are kind of like staying away from me would you agree no i think that's i think that's your mind well one i think there's if they are it's because they're trying not to no i don't mean it mean no i know that they have good intentions i know they're like oh my god we can't break her because her boobies are broken you know like i know that but i don't know i just feel like i'm kind of off to the sideline like right go best friend you know like and everybody else is just having like the time of their lives i feel like i'm like the fragile doll that nobody wants to break right um yeah and i well i think where i struggle is well they you know they're trying to give you your space so they don't.
And then you're like, well, they're not into me. But you could walk up to any one of them and give them a kiss. But that's not really my style, though. I'm not really like, I mean, maybe if I've had a few extra fireball shots, I am. But normal Lacey is not one to aggressively go after a man. I like to be pursued.
That's, part of swinging that's the fun of swinging so when I'm not actively being pursued it makes me get in my head so then I'm like questioning oh is it me am I too heavy is do I you know do I have cellulite is it you know like even though I know that it's really because my boobs and they're trying to be sweet and kind and letting me heal and don't want to overstep. But it's also kind of hard to watch you. Yeah.
Well, and you've even put out to them like, hey, guys, I'm probably not going to be. Yeah. Right. I have communicated that. You've almost told them that you're not going to be. Yeah. So it's like a double edged sword.
It's like I want to be respected and let healed but i also still want to be wanted yeah i don't understand it ladies do you get it me and you have gone in circles ladies if you i mean i know i'm completely irrational like i am fully aware of that but i'm really struggling with it and then like this is what she's doing she's saying don't play with me and then she's saying why does nobody want to play with me okay so but on another level you're having the time of your life um the last few parties i've been a bit of a man whore yeah you have that's accurate and i'm over there twiddling my thumbs and it's totally fine that you're a man whore when i'm being right like pursued and like making out and having hot sex with somebody else over here but it's another when you're doing it and i'm not doing anything and i also have this internal struggle because it is totally hot she's encouraging me i'm like in the moment baby fucker but then like and encouraging like you're the one talking to these couples ahead of time and setting up a play session with me but then like after it's over i'm like but i feel left i feel jealous because you played and i'm like you set that up like i didn't even like you you had the conversation with them so needless to say we really we have we've really been struggling um like we've even pondered like maybe taking a little bit of a break until my boobs feel better.
We've even talked about introducing maybe, like, have a single guy come over and, like, rock my world. I mean, we don't know the answer. Yeah, we don't. We don't know the answer. But I think the cool thing about this is that even though I know I'm crazy and I'm struggling, I can communicate that to you.
And you can hear me and you can understand that i am feeling this way um i think that's i think i just it was important for me to say that on the podcast like i think women like regardless of the boobs like take that out if a woman's feeling heavy that day or like off a little bit like they can still relate to this story what i think it's important to say that that swinging is is fluid like that yeah and it all that you could have a bad experience swinging just because you have an off day correct it might not even be that like you did something wrong or the other couple did something wrong or it could be that you know your kids didn't sleep that the night before and you're tired right you're tired you don't feel confident i mean any there's so many factors that you know go into having a good experience that i think we just need to be aware of all that yeah and so when we have a shitty experience be able to objectively look at that and be like well that was my bad because i was off today or you know like but i also want to say i'm not having shitty experiences like i'm having a blast like i'll be honest with you like i'm watching the videos like to get myself off after the fact like it's hot as shit but like usually after the weekend's over and i step back from the weekend i'm like man i kind of wish that would have been differently you've been having feelings of i wish i i could have been more involved or i feel like i was left out it looked like everybody else was having fun and i you know even though it was fun and you know what happened was hot you know i wasn't as involved as maybe i wanted to be or could have been or you know yeah i get it i mean i get it i just don't know if i get what to do or how to help you no i don't either to be honest with you i get that you don't know how to fix it because i don't know how to fix it like it's definitely something as your husband and the person that loves you that's all i want to do is fix it and i think i i offer you these like well you should do this and you're like no i don't want to do that and so for me it's frustrating because i'm trying to fix it and like all my solutions are well no i don't want to do that well then you know for me it's like well then you can't be mad that this is what happened if you don't want to fix it you know I'm not really mad at you right but you get where you could feel like I'm mad at you because my frustration comes out to you because you're the person that I talk to about it but I'm not really I'm not mad at you because you're not doing anything wrong it's maybe mad at myself a little I don't know it's just I don't know it's just something that I wanted to bring up on the podcast for like transparency also our friends listen to this so I know that they're gonna hear it and they're gonna know like Lacey's been off you know so I don't know I just thought it was important to bring up I think women can.
I mean, obviously my boobs are not. Everyone is going to go through the same situation. My boobs, but regardless, like you said before, it could be anything. So I just thought it was important to talk about today. No. And I think, I think it is important and it's, it's a good thing to talk about. Um, and I would also say to our friends, like none of you have done anything wrong. No.
if anything yes it's totally me it's totally me it's me being oversensitive overthinking um that's it yeah no no no all if anything they've been over and beyond to help me feel comfortable right so and i appreciate that yeah but uh that's pretty much it anything else to say about you kind of what you're going through and what you're feeling no i think that's it well that's it guys uh that's all we had to talk about today so go join swingersociety.net hop on the discord server um head over to the swing nation.net follow us everywhere on social media um blow up those tiktoks yeah and we appreciate you guys feel good we love you we love you we'll see you again next week yeah all right well i guess with that in a world full of apples be the pineapple be the pineapple guys bye bye if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a five-star review wherever you're listening if you want to see more of our content you can find links to snapchat twitter instagram only fans and more in the show notes come join the conversation with us and other swinger content creators on our swinger society discord server if you have questions or feedback email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com.
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