Are You Ready for Full Swap?
Full swap is penetrative play with the other couple. The bar is higher than soft swap because the consequences are higher — STI exposure, deeper jealousy patterns, and a different category of "what just happened" the morning after. This quiz checks whether you and your partner have the substrate for it.
Safer-sex agreements:
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Soft-swap experience first:
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Jealousy:
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Same-room vs separate-room for first full swap:
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Aftercare and integration:
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Scoring
For each answer, A = 3, B = 2, C = 1, D = 0. Add up your total (max 15).
Your result
- 12-15 — Ready for a vetted first full swap. You've done the work. Pick a couple you've already played with (soft) or a heavily vetted couple, agree on the format and limits in writing, same-room first time, and protect a real debrief window across the next 7 days.
- 8-11 — Lock down the safer-sex piece. Write down the safer-sex protocol — barrier requirements, what's a barrier exception (if any), STI testing cadence and most-recent test date for each of you, and what you do if a barrier breaks. This is the conversation that retroactively saves the most marriages.
- 4-7 — Soft swap first. Skipping soft swap is a common mistake. Soft swap done a few times reveals jealousy patterns and aftercare needs that don't show up until you've done it once. Run soft for 3-6 months before full.
- 0-3 — Not yet. Several foundational pieces aren't in place. That's not a no — it's a 'spend the next 6 months on the prerequisites'. Read the talking-to-partner guide and the jealousy guide, do soft swap in between, then come back to this quiz.