Why are swingers so private about their lifestyle?
Discretion is a core community norm because the lifestyle still carries social, professional, and family stigma. Many active couples are parents, business owners, teachers, or hold security clearances — careers that can be damaged by exposure even though swinging is legal everywhere it is practiced openly. "Discreet" on a profile signals that the user expects the same in return: no real names volunteered, no club-night photos shared, and no outing of fellow members in vanilla settings.