Once upon a time

Thanks Phoebert's Wife. It was just something I've noticed and figured I post something about it, to get other people's thoughts on it.

Cheers!
Christian

It's easy to be demanding when you're essentially anonymous. ;-)

I refuse to engage with profiles that immediately demand photos - they get the "we're not a good match" reply and then I ignore them. I don't mind polite requests after a few thoughtful messages - I often forget to open our gallery because photos are not that important to me.

You have reasonably good photos in your public gallery to satisfy someone's initial query - they can determine if you resemble a hated family member and get an idea of your body type. Anything more can wait until you're ready to share.

Don't waste your time trying to figure out or change the bad behavior of others - just be the best you possible.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

This is meant to be a discussion, not a finger pointing or a bashing session. I'd like to have a constructive dialog.

Once upon a time, I remember couples actually being engaging and asking single males out for that First Meet drinks, for those who are looking for single males. This is across 3 different platforms, over a 25 year period. Now, IF a couple reaches out, it is with minimal effort and demands.

Example:

• Couple: "hello"
• Me: Good day. How are you?
• Couple: "good. Open your pics"
• Me: Well, there are a plethora of open pictures of me unlocked and just one (or none) open in your profile. Seems to be a bit one-sided, don't you agree?
• Couple: (crickets)

Mind you, many couples have 1 public, faceless picture of the female or all their pictures locked. I'm cool with being Discreet and not having faces publicly showing. That's why we have locked galleries. Then, when I read the couples profile (before, during or after the exchange) it states for SM's to unlock their picture when emailing them.

If been in/out (mostly in) of the LS for 30 years now. Splitting that time both as a couple or as a single male fairly 50/50. Regardless of my status, I've never considered treating anyone like that... Demanding and coming across with a sense of entitlement. This change or shift seems to be within the last 5-10 years.

Whatever happened to treating each other with mutual respect?

What are y'alls well-thought opines?