Make it possible to block those who block you

I second that motion...If you can view me {as a single male} than I should have the right to view you also. If not then there we as single males should have the same option.

Personally I know that yes you can get an email from someone who has hidden their profile from whatever group you are in. And once upon a time I used to reply as suggested asking them to unhide their profile so I could see it. Now however I simply block the user (since them sending me an email allows me to do so) and delete the email. I am not interested in having anything to do with anyone who hides their profile from single males and then goes browsing those profiles as I have found in my experience it is almost always the male half of the couple wanting to explore bi-sexuality without their wife's knowledge or involvement. They are usually ones that claim to be straight but secretly like to have Bi encounters. I am NOT interested in that dynamic or the drama so I simply block the profile and delete the message.

Lol Scamp...

single male, can you get an email from a couple who shows no interest in single males? and can you have an email exchange? If that ever happens, you could explain that you can't see their profile. They might at least temporarily change their setting so you can view them.

Yes.... you can receive an email from a couple and the reply below is almost exactly what I've sent in return. and once they unblock single males for a few hours and I can see their profile and realize there is not a single bit of interest and/or attraction and don't reply, the couple then is left knowing they are butt ugly with a renewed sense of why they block single males.... its a vicious cycle!!!! lol!!!

Once again, too much logic going on here.

If I were still an SM, I would have a quick reply set up for exactly those occasions.

“Thank you for the email, and your interest. You may not be aware of this but your profile is hidden from single males so while I am flattered to hear from you, I am unable to view your profile to know if the attraction is mutual. Would you be so kind as to make your profile visible to single males, at least temporarily?”

~Scamp

single male, can you get an email from a couple who shows no interest in single males? and can you have an email exchange?
If that ever happens, you could explain that you can't see their profile. They might at least temporarily change their setting so you can view them.

nothing will change because it's "perceived" as a single male issue... and we all know all single males are total dicks..... and deserve what they get... and they are lucky they even get that.....

Welcome to the fora NavyWings. Now please stop posting, your input makes too much sense and may cause a tear in the time/space continuum. Or at least a meltdown by some fora police.

~Scamp

Welcome to the forums! She’s a cutie; thank you for sharing and not blocking couples! Reaow!

:-)

~Allen

1. Amazing how a post requesting a simple feature enhancement has turned into a bashing affair.
2. It's not only a single male issue. Couples that block me can view my couples profile and I can't view theirs. They still show as lookin at my profile. Why are they? I don't know their motivation and I'm not comfortable with it.
3. MOST sites that have blocking features allow you to block those that block you. It's not an unreasonable request.

Good Golly , if they view you and block you you can't set their toggle to "No Interest" now can you lol

No, much too logical.

As to 'if I can't view their profile when they email me..." Dude, they probably DON'T KNOW YOU CANT SEE THEIR PROFILE.

Because it doesn't make sense that you can't.

And nowhere on this site is it explained that if they set their toggles to no interest but without blocking views, it blocks views.

So, again, nose, spite, face and a lot of tsurris just because you don't understand how SLS works. Or doesn't work.

Back in the day, before they “improved” the site several times, if a couple’s profile was hidden from SMs and that couple emailed an SM, that SM could now view the couple’s profile. This seemed to make perfect sense, there could now be two way viewing and communication and hopefully, a meet.

That however was deemed to be a glitch which has since been repaired.

I believe if one profile views another, that should trigger reciprocal viewing. If there is interest by either party, there can now be communication. If there isn’t interest by one of the parties, they can ignore them or block the other profile so neither one can see the other.

But this is far too logical and fair so it will never happen.

~Scamp

lol @ the last two responders. Classic. We have set to zero interest but don’t block, so if SLS coding isn’t working, you’d block us because of their malfunction........especially given the track record of stuff not working or randomly failing around here.........tsk tsk.

We wouldn’t care if anyone blocks us from viewing them, oh well. We also wouldn’t meet anyone whining about the inability to do so either.

Hey, I know, why not just have it as someone previously posted, paid members should be able to view everyone’s private folders.

:facepalm:

~Allen

How do I block couples?

@goodgollymsmolly98226 Also, Yes I could hide my profile from ALL couples but I do not wish to do so because there are couples are here that are friends and others that do not hide their profiles that could become friends. I do not wish to lose contact with all couples ONLY the ones that hide their profiles from me or a group that includes me.

@goodgollymsmolly98226, As I have said ad-nauseum and has been said by others repeatedly as well, if anyone actually reads before posting a response. I do not care what their reasons for viewing my profile are. If they have theirs hidden from me the I do not want them viewing my profile it is that simple. No I would not want them to contact me anyway if they hide their profiles I can not check them out even if they do message me so what is the point? I am sure they think that ALL single men will just jump into bed with any couple that messages them? If I can't view their profiles I would simply delete the message after hitting the block since they were kind enough to send a message so I can then block them.

It is a simple request and not one that couples or anyone needs to get worked up about I guess unless they are the ones that want their cake and eat it too and are hiding their profiles and then window shopping all the people that can not look back. NO THANKS!

"Not sure what you are getting at here? If they set zero interest, why are they still looking?"

I'm nearly certain that if you really thought long and hard about this, you would be able to identify the group that would set zero interest and then look for single men. You know all those profiles that say something along the lines of oh, hey, single men, if we want you, we will contact you? Those.

And to be even clearer, they just don't want to be contacted by almost every single guy within a hundred miles who has a smart phone and a dick. But they're interested.

Dear people who hate being blocked and then viewed by those who block them and have been complaining at length and with really tiresome volume, did you know that in setting your preferences here there is an option of expressing zero interest without blocking? It doesn't actually work - expressing no interest blocks that group from viewing your profile - but nobody actually knows that unless they read forum posts that reference that little known fact.

Not sure what you are getting at here? If they set zero interest, why are they still looking?

So, not only have you been cutting off your nose to spite your face, you've been blaming individuals for something that is a system problem that SLS has no interest in fixing.

TRUTH... doesn't matter who thinks what or how fucked up the site is... SLS isn't gonna fix or change shit.... I just thank god we still have SLS radio to calm our sensibilities throughout the day.... if that ever went down or was removed.... well.......

True story: When my kids were younger, they had a several month long period where they bickered constantly. Constantly. There was nothing that would stop them for more than a brief moment. It did not stop even when we went on vacation to their favorite place. Driving along one night after dinner out - a dinner they spent bickering at a level that completely ruined any enjoyment I might have had - they were doing the he's/she's touching me.

"Next one that says a single word of complaint is being left by the side of the road temporarily."

When the inevitable happened, I pulled over, dropped the offending kid in a reasonably safe place, raced to drop off the other kid, raced back and picked up the abandoned child, for whom that five minutes felt like a lifetime.

It was the worst thing I've ever done as a parent. However, my kids never again bickered for more than 90 seconds running, probably because I'd amply demonstrated that under sufficient stress I'm fine with going completely crazy. Also, that I do not make empty threats.

Dear people who hate being blocked and then viewed by those who block them and have been complaining at length and with really tiresome volume, did you know that in setting your preferences here there is an option of expressing zero interest without blocking? It doesn't actually work - expressing no interest blocks that group from viewing your profile - but nobody actually knows that unless they read forum posts that reference that little known fact.

So, not only have you been cutting off your nose to spite your face, you've been blaming individuals for something that is a system problem that SLS has no interest in fixing.

You're welcome.

I agree. Don't know why a couple that blocks singles can see my stuff but I cant see their profile.

There should be an option for singles to block "couples that block singles". This would please both parties

@PhoebertAndWife

I also tried to offer an explanation as to why that is not an acceptable situation. They can view my profile and decide to contact me or not based upon what they see there. HOWEVER IF they do contact me I am still unable to see their profile and make any kind of informed decision whether I wish to reply or not so my default is to ignore that message since they are hidden from me and I can not block them I simply delete said message. I am NOT offended by couples or anyone hiding their profiles from whomever or whatever group they are not interested in but I am VERY offended when that couple or whomever that has their profile blocked from (in my case single males) a certain group then perving profiles of that group and or attempting to contact members of that group. I have had MANY couples do so and a few singles as well that have single males blocked and I find this to be one of the ultimate insults and violations. If they can view me I should be able to view them back IT REALLY IS THAT SIMPLE.

As for your point of it being a difficult programming issue on this platform... They have an automatic reciprocal block of anyone who blocks specific profiles it should be possible to make it impossible to view those you are hiding from as well. Unless they simply choose not to since this site as has been pointed out is definitely biased towards couples and could give a rats ass about singles excepting the unicorns of course.

"Why is it "creepy" when an SM views a profile "over and over"? Why? Perhaps, they like the pictures on the profile?" --KC

Since this was pretty much directed at me, perhaps I didn't word how I felt quite right. It doesn't matter if it is a SM, F or couple. I guarantee this person is/was just here to get off and not meet anyone. I would bet they're just a pic collector. And yes, I know, we signed up... I get it. That's why we do things the way we do them but it is still uncomfortable to see the same person show up. Maybe you don't have that happening to you, maybe that's why you aren't understanding. So instead of seeing the same people look many, many times a day my solution was to turn OFF the WVM because that is the only solution to this problem. I don't want to know who sees us. Especially if it is as often as this guy and we can't block. But I feel the same way about those who send emails and IMs telling us they're jacking off. I don't need to know that either.

Boo-fucking-hoo. If you're that 'sensitive' about being able to push a button, maybe you should try out plenty of fish dot com. You've been crying about the 'block' capability for how long now? I can guarantee YOU have likely made several block lists and also had 'notes' added. Jesus, temper tantrum city...

Boo-fucking-hoo? its nice that you are sensitive to the privacy of other members......

logic escapes you.... Yeah... I blocked them!!!!... lol. Douchebag!!!

Boo-F~ing-Hoo. Classic... HAHA. Thanks for the morning laugh.