Friends

"Who wants to have sex with people they don't like?"

Having sex with complete strangers is a good strategy to avoid playing with people you don't like. If you later discover they are repugnant how is it different than the ex bf/gf/spouse you bonked for weeks/months/years before learning they were pond scum?

Rustic's advice is spot on, we've played at parties never exchanging names with our new "friends". But when we're meeting couple on couple Mrs Playful wants to talk over dinner before deciding if play is a possibility.

"Who wants to have sex with people they don't like?"

Or as I like to phrase it when I'm in a more evil, misanthropic and curmudgeonly mood, "I don't fuck assholes."

....considering where I am, I might need to tweek that a bit.

Who wants to have sex with people they don't like?

Not the right place for this but I am still going to give our thought on this. 1 Most people it seems want to get to know someone before having sex with them. They may not be looking for "friends" as much as someone they know a bit versus a random stranger. The use of the word "friends" is about the only word that describes this without a full long drawn out explanation. 2. Then you come to those where it goes beyond that. I know there are people who think of sites such as this as a place to make actual friends you invite to birthday parties and such. I think for many it is kind of "killing two birds with one stone" as it were and saving time. It really does take time to make friends with folks and if you are also looking for the occasional benefits with said friends then it stands to reason you would look at folks already in the lifestyle. I mean you get to spend time with friends and then when the kids go to bed you can play in the hot tub or some such nonsense. We tend to avoid people like this however if it develops from getting to know you somewhat (see number 1) and having sex into being invited to the cookout and staying for the after party we are not adverse to the idea just like we would not be adverse to being at the cookout with certain vanilla friends then it developing into an after party (this has happened). The word "friends" can have quite a few levels of meaning. For us we go to a monthly or even more often party and have "friends" we hang with, flirt with, and have sex with. We do not generally even see each other outside that however we do have a few we have connected with on the biggest social networking site but we still do not have a cookouts with the family together either.

BTW if you want to cut through the "red tape" as it were and skip the whole friendship (on whatever level) deal you need to look for groups that have parties and clubs (on premises or that have parties) in your area. Now it may take some time to break the ice and get to know folks (see number 1 above only less so) before you and they are comfortable enough to have sex. Then again you could be having wild monkey chandler sex minutes after walking through the door. Generally though that is your best bet for finding people just wanting to have sex without even knowing your name much less other "entanglements".

Why does every profile say they are looking for friends?? I came on here thinking it would be more of a lets meet and have sex? Friends if you happened to click that way. But looking for sex foremost.