Friends

We bust because we care.

Oh I see how it is. Everyone's talking behind the puppet's back.

He's gonna be pissed...

One would hope.

What about a stretchy asshole?

Only if he fucks a sketchy asshole.

Yeah, I'm sure. That puppet is into some sketchy shit. ;-)

@googgolly, "The puppet is the only thing not in your favor. Given his predilections, he worries me some" Are you sure? We've been led to believe his sock puppet is legendary...

The puppet is the only thing not in your favor. Given his predilections, he worries me some.

Hi Rustic, yeah, I did say it didn’t apply to everyone because not everyone goes to events, clubs and parties to have sex with people that they don’t even know their names nor would it apply to the OP’s question. (If anyone meets us at a party, they will know our names and be ready for some socializing before they get an answer from us; we are by no means near even alone on this approach. GGMM made a very good remark(s) on the matter of preferences. )
Back to the OP; They weren’t looking for advice, but by all means, give away, at least you’re not name calling in response to an answer asked for. What they did ask was, however, was relating more to a curiousness about people being friends in addition to sex, not how to actually find meaningless sex.

“ Why does every profile say they are looking for friends??”

TBH, not “every” profile says they are looking for friends and not many of those profiles saying looking for friends is honestly looking for friends; if you say it, mean it, as said earlier.

Take care,

~Allen

And anyone who accuses me of shamelessly trolling for compliments is de debil.....

"mostly I'm interested in people smart enough to get my jokes, emotionally intelligent enough that sex isn't just pleasurable friction, and with sufficient depth that nobody gets bored."

Shit.

It's not often that I totally crash and burn. Maybe with some extra enticement...

wiggles puppet

Allen you actually did call out my advice as not being correct for everyone. I never said it was. In the situation proposed by the OP it is however the best advice anyone can give to anyone else. The OP stated they just wanted to find folks who want to have sex not be friends and do not understand why everyone wants to be friends. I touched on why people want to be friends or at least use the word friends. I then gave advice. The best way to just find random people to have sex with without all the rest is to go to a club, party, or other such event where people are gathered primarily for sex. If you put it all into context that is the best way to find sex with folks without getting to know them well enough to be "friends". Now that is not for everyone and not everyone who goes to such events are just there to have sex without the rest but enough people are there just for that reason. If all you want is sex then you need to go places where pretty much everyone's goal is to have sex.

Blocked crazy "allen" a long time ago.. your life will be much better if you do too!

he lives in his own "world"..

"I came on here thinking it would be more of a lets meet and have sex? Friends if you happened to click that way. But looking for sex foremost."

For some people, it's just let's meet and have sex. For others, it isn't. We're all different. When I first started, I gave myself a year where I said yes to pretty much everyone and everything and since I went to a club about four times a month, that was a lot of people and a lot of things. At the end of the year, I was pretty clear about my likes and dislikes and while I haven't become friends with all of my subsequent playmates, almost all of them reach the bar I have for friends.

Every once in a while, I still get curious enough about someone I don't like to fuck them and that's fine, but mostly I'm interested in people smart enough to get my jokes, emotionally intelligent enough that sex isn't just pleasurable friction, and with sufficient depth that nobody gets bored.

Which is the long way of saying some of us could probably find someone new to fuck every day of the week and we'd just rather fuck people we could also be friends with.

“ Frankly I don't care what your history with Rustic might be, but you are coming off looking like a fool. Actually read what was written before responding. ”

One more thing Mr. Assholio, I didn’t ask what you’re thoughts were or if you even cared about the history, that paragraph was addressed to the Original Poster, hence the “OP:” Looks as though you should take your own advice and a slower re-read, fool.

“ we've played at parties never exchanging names with our new "friends"

I’m not the idiot calling someone that I don’t even know their name a “friend”, I am also sure they wouldn’t be doing shopping and cooking at this point, and I surely am not the idiot saying what someone says is tr00f! or even “gospel”..... never mind.... I’m just loling along at these posts you make....

Carry on, “spot on” for you! :-D

Allen,

Frankly I don't care what your history with Rustic might be, but you are coming off looking like a fool. Actually read what was written before responding. Let me summarize for you:

1. The term friend means different things to different people, and Rustic provides some examples including his own preferences.
2. If you want to play quickly try going to parties were you have a higher chance of meeting people willing to play immediately.

That was it. The examples include your perspective on the meaning of friend.

As to quoting from our profile , "You think people are going to take you out dancing, exercising, shopping or even come over and cook with you?". Actually at various times we have gone out with couples doing all these things. Again how does any of that invalidate what was written about the term friend?

Actually, M&C...

See what I mean about avoiding being a dumbass????

M&K, thanks kidz.

As I like to say, better to be a smartass than a dumbass. Even if it takes enormous effort to avoid the latter. ;)

@Sorillo, we love you man, wouldn't be a proper forum post without your smart-ass commentary!

"""I don't fuck assholes."....considering where I am, I might need to tweek that a bit." That's Simply Gold

“ We both go to the gym, but not often enough. She waxes and he shaves the hidden parts. She was raised a city girl and loves music, dancing, shopping, baking and more refined urban pursuits. He is an over-educated, want-to-be mountain man who dragged her (willingly) into country living. Together we enjoy sex, outdoor pursuits and watching really bad (him)/good (her) movies.”

From your own profile as an example.

You think people are going to take you out dancing, exercising, shopping or even come over and cook with you?

If you truly find Rustic’s advice is spot on, you should delete about half of your profile as it’s unnecessary jargon.

OP: Rustic and I have already discussed this, maybe he can lead you to the thread. Not all swingers are looking for the same thing, therefore, not universal to all couples.

~Allen

Seriously? You believe what he said is universal to all couples? You fuck people you don’t even know their names but want to have dinner to know them in a more intimate setting? That makes no sense. :screwy:

The problem with couples saying they want to be friends is 90% of the time utter bullshit. If you cannot be articulate enough to express what you are looking for with a word other than friend, that makes it a lie. Building a profile is about being intelligent enough to define what exactly one is looking for and putting it to truthful words.

We like friends, friends we interact with regularly and have sex with. We know not only their names, where they work, their kids names, schools, where they shop, foods they like etc. We even spend weekends and travel with those we are friends with.

Call it what it is, a fuck, a fuck buddy, a random whoring, whatever.

~Allen

Allen,

Really exactly what did Rustic say that was off?

“ Rustic's advice is spot on”

For you, maybe, but not all.

~Allen

"Who wants to have sex with people they don't like?"

While this has not been typical, we once had a couple we played with several times over about a year at parties that we really didn't like at all, and I don't think they liked us either. We didn't enjoy conversation with them but had some really good sex.