Flirt feature ie: I'm interested button

I agree, as I have found out that even when you send a note or IM 95% of the people ignore you and can not take the time to say Thanks or No Thanks

flirt button would be nice. But don't hold your breath on SLS doing anything. They still have problems with the im and email issues.

Great idea !!! "Like" or "interested " button

Add my vote to the Flirt button!

Add my vote to the "flirt" button.

Yes. There are those that dont want it. But cant make 100% of the people happy 100% of the time.

I read some profiles. Find interesting, pour out my heart. No response. Ok. No problem. Moving on. Next profile, dont pour out my heart. They wanted words, no response. I read profiles, sometimes multiple times before I write to people. I also touch type and can get very wordy at times. Some appreciate words, others dont. Maybe on their profile they could indicate their preference. Some will look at your picture and decide if they want to read your mail. It takes all types. And most types change the way they think from time to time. It's called maturing, evolving or whatever.

One flirt from one account to another. Maybe limit flirts to a few a day. I get it. Some dont want to be bombarded with flirts but hey. Just delete them like the messages that people dont read.

Let's not lie to each other. Dating. Mating. SLSing. They are all numbers games. Let the people flirt or send interest.

I don't think there is a need for a flirt button. In fact I think it would get old real quick. If we are interested in some one we send an email. If you are too shy for that open a few pics unilaterally for them. We have gallery titled "We are interested" that we will open if we me see a couple we think might be a match but aren't ready to contact.

If you fail to respond after five days, your ability to "Send New Messages" should be suspended until you respond to who wrote YOU! Makes Sense, Right?

Wrong.

My time is NOT dictated by the demands of others. Just because someone took the time to paste a canned "greeting" in an email does not obligate me to point out that they didn't read anything in our profile other than the fact that she has big tits.

Are you obligated to return a call to every advertiser who leaves a message on your answering machine? Hell no.

No answer = no interest. Get over it and move on.

Alternately, folks could just accept that most of their initial email approaches won't generate a replay, and don't get all upset and whine about it.

Fact is, the "why doesn't anyone answer emails" thing is probably the most common complaint. And the most petty, and tedious.

@ RYA: locking accounts or the ability to navigate be restricted until "you" answer an email is absurd in the least. I could probably go out on a limb and say sadly humorous. Those replying would then lock the original sender and themselves into a vicious loop of endless emails to keep from being retaliated against........

ANYWAY..............

So when that person(s) 18hrs or even 2300 miles travel distance away says they would like to know you better, you should reply? The lifestyle is about being social, yet isn't meetup or FB where you friend and converse with people you know you will most likely never meet. We like to know everyone better, that is in our realistically meetable area.

When the email that says, "Hey baby, wanna fuck?" , you believe the recipient should answer or have their account held liable until a reply is made? Rhetorical, don't answer.

Here is our latest email, "I like what I see :-) you? Care to play?" We like what we see in the candy isles at the store too, but clearly know it isn't going to supply us with the (social) ingredients to satisfy our (sexual) nutritional values. They clearly didn't read our profile and learn that we like to find a connection, other than physical and only play with those that we would be repetitively social with, yet we wouldn't want the sender to feel disrespected in any fashion. So we should answer that.

We do answer 99.9975% of emails, however, to punish, if we choose not to, would do any lifestyle type website/company more harm than good and eventually drive down any hopes for marginally profitable margins; let's not leave out affiliations.

~Allen

I agree.....It would be an ice breaker but still leaves the all time issue of what to do with those who just don't answer mail/messages. So many have figured out how to view their messages without opening them. Thus, if you send mail to someone 10 days ago and they are on each and every day, your message shows that its still unread/unreplied but the other party knows what you wrote and just decides NOT to answer, leaving you wondering.

Look at it this way, if no one answered, who'd stay? Thus, this problem needs to be addressed. Their should be a limit on time to answer messages. If you don't, your ability to navigate here should be frozen until you do. Seems simple enough! Fee Members should have no choice. Answer or be gone!

Enough with the excuses that "I have a life" or "I have a job and a family" and or "I have a busy schedule"! Look, we are ALL busy with varying degrees of stress, work, family obligations and the like however, we ALL answer our texts on our phones, answer our e-mails from work and home so what's the excuse here? STOP! Look, unlike work, you came here voluntarily and as such, should have to adhere to certain ground rules.

I don't think having to answer your damned mail should be at issue! The person whom wrote you took the time to craft a message to you. The least you can do is afford them a reply in a TIMELY manner. Come up with a time frame then....say five (5) days! If you fail to respond after five days, your ability to "Send New Messages" should be suspended until you respond to who wrote YOU! Makes Sense, Right?

Fabulous idea!!

@fancy: I was going to flirt, but somebody has couples blocked.

Oh the irony! So unfair! lol

:-P. <- sarcasm

;-). <- flirt

:-* <-flirt

~Allen

YES ! Flirt button would be nice. If they flirt back then email. If they don't move on. I am part of a couple., just different profiles.

I agree 100% with this. I love the Idea of a flirt button

I agree this could be an ice breaker. Especially, for new people to the lifestyle...they can be a bit nervous.

Who can we get in touch with voice our opinion on this?

Sadly, the administration doesn't seem very interested in implementing few if any user requested features.

People have been asking for keyword search for more than a decade. It SHOULD be a simple thing, but it hasn't happened.

Even something as simple as modernizing the look of the site seems to be beyond hope. It looks pretty much like it did 10 years ago.

I would favor a flirt button. Like others who have said they enjoy the who looked at me, A second level of Interest would be the flirt button.

So, it sounds like their are alot of us that would like a feature like this. (Me included) Who can we get in touch with voice our opinion on this?

Maybe the feature rather than send a "flirt" to the individual/ couple could just be a searchable feature. As an example; i look at a couple, find the profile interesting, but knowing they get sent 100's of "pick me's" weekly. I click the interest icon. Which when the couple is searching can click on a search feature of "who's interested in me" they could then see I'm interested, they can then review the profile and decide if they're interested and shoot me a return interest. This feature could be for paid and certified members.

I like the who looked at me as it gives me an idea who bothered to at least pen my profile. But I also find myself opening profiles that turn out to be not a very good match for whatever reason. Therefore the other members really can't use that as me having interest and I really don't want to give the wrong impression to anyone. But I also feel it fair to expect us all to write at least a few thoughts when we reach out.

Now if we could just get folks to give the courtesy of a reply even if it's a no thanks.

Same difference same point.

Not at all. A "wink" is designed to send a message to your inbox. It's very one sided and it says "Hey! Look at us!"

Take your stereotypical single guy who doesn't read profiles and (now) shotguns dozens or hundreds of couples and single females a month, hoping to get ANY response. Open profile, click message, paste a canned message, send. Lather, rinse, repeat. Give him a "wink" button and he's now suddenly sending thousands of winks. Big boobs? Wink and hit their inbox. 2 miles away? Wink and hit their inbox. Female? Wink and hit their inbox. Breathing? Wink and hit their inbox.

Couples/single females can do the same, of course. But (again, stereotypically), couples and single females are more selective.

With my suggestion, the couple/single you are interested in will never even know your name unless they find your profile and decide that they like what they see as well. If everybody has already shown interest, then their's a better chance of meeting and play. Slower, but a better return on time invested.

Same difference same point. Just something to break the ice. Because not everyone is forward and no one seems to want to speak first for some fear of rejection. Not everyone on the site is an extrovert. If people feel they have a chance they will be more willing to open up. Because everyone has different taste people you think would never get together do Tend to.

Flirts can be a dime a dozen. It's not a stretch to imagine a new free single guy with no pictures and a total of 12 words (6 of them spelled incorrectly) "flirting" with dozens of couples and women just to get ANY response. If you wanna get laid, put a little effort in to it.

Now.... a feature we wouldn't mind seeing (and I've never seen on any site) would be something like a secret crush. You could "crush" a profile in secret. They would never know it unless they also crushed your profile. If they do, then you both get a message telling you that the other party is interested. You don't get flooded with flirts or winks or whatever the fuck you call it, but it provides that initial ice breaker if there's common interest.

Would agree. If you're interested in a profile send an introductory e-mail & you'll know one way or another if there's mutual interest. No harm in being a bit forward.

I guess we are old fashioned, if we see someone we like we will contact them directly. We are on another site that has a flirt feature and we must say it is as annoying as hell. We will get a flirt sometimes 3 times a day from the same person and many more from them during the same week. To us it's a useless feature. If you are interested in someone, contact them directly. Just our 2 cents.