Exhausted by fakes

Fakes and Flakes on all the swinger sites ..... Funny thing is, the Tech staff here on SLS tells us they have no flakes at all on here, lol They must not use their own site, lol

Was thinking that all the fakes would want to do is see YOUR pics, while offering none in return.

..........And us vets know how to spot a fugly male even quicker.

Welcome to the forums.

:-)

~Allen

We are new and we noticed all the fakes. All they want to do is show their pics.

Some solid advice and tips I thos thread. Much appreciated from a new couple

We need to say we live out of town so the closest place to meet someone is at least 30 min away. An hour's drive would not be out of the realm of normal for us. We also cannot host due to the nest not being empty despite them being fully fledged financially they cannot afford to make their own nests yet. In the past (we have just gotten back into the lifestyle after a long break) we have had a few no shows. We learned that a first meeting needs to be at a location we would go to anyway. That way we get a good cup of coffee, dinner, or whatever so the trip is not totally wasted. As far as meeting to play we are not renting a room until after we have met up even with couples we have played with before. This is so we can split room costs and know they are present before we get stuck with a room and no one to share it with. This may sound harsh but no shows are a fact and people can and will flake out even after having met and gotten comfortable. Also things sometimes happen beyond anyone's control and I am sure we all have had the time we needed to cancel short notice or if not you will eventually. Just be courteous enough to let the other party know. Oh and that is a big reason not to rent a room until you have met up and are ready to. Basically if you are going out even to meet someone keep the mindset you and your significant other are going out to have a good time and then go wherever the night leads even if it is back home together alone.

For us, if meeting a new couple we have 3 restaurants within 6 miles of our house. If we get a really good vibe from the new couple we'll sometimes take a chance and just have them over the house for dinner/drinks. Worst case then is we have some leftovers if they're no-shows, which never go to waste in our house.

When meeting at our house the couple we're meeting KNOWS it won't be a no-show, and for us, we haven't even left the house. Doesn't get too much more convenient than that. We're fortunate that we're empty nesters and realize not everyone has that option.

I have at times said that we are going to limit ourselves to only meeting new people at parties, but at this point we have so many LS friends (literally 100+) that it truly is icing on the cake if we meet and click with new people. It definitely is a LOT of fun though meeting and clicking with new people so we just keep doing what we're doing and adding to our group of friends.

As for fakes, we seem not to have much (if any) problem with that in our area. Not sure if it's because of something we're doing or different geographical areas have more problems with this.

We have had several ghosts for short travel trips - Now - We take it in stride. We plan a short trip, say New York or Philly hoping to meet our new SLS guest and the Main purpose is US getting out now and away for the evening - if we meet the potential partner - Icing on the cake! Attitude I guess and very happy with my partner!

This is why we very seldom do meet and greets . We would much rather take our chances at the club or house parties. If their a no show , we have other options.

RK,

We get the process you're following and it makes sense. But there are some legitimate situations where a four way phone conversation is challenging at best.

We'd be hard pressed to find a moment without our kids around to have that conversation for example.

I have had it don to me a few times! IM with them a few time . talked on line. Talked on phone. Drove 2 Hrs To meet No show? Did, Not even call me to say Sorry . When i got home was blocked by them Guse that don,t want to Play Aftre all

That sucks....we usually chat with people beforehand and meet up at a lounge or party that we were already going too....so if they dont show, no problem. We dont like to meet anyone just to "play" we need to meet first to see if they say who they say they are and the chemistry has to be there also. I'd also hate for someone to come out just for me or us and we dont hit it off...its a waste and akward

I definitely understand that. I've driven 2 hrs only to have the couple say they were no longer interested because i took too long. I was 30 minutes away from their place. I won't drop names but the couple lived in Victoria TX. I actually get this a lot especially as a single Male.

I will no longer consider driving that far. Except for 2 couples that shall remain nameless, I'll drive almost any distance for them tho. One lives in Spokane Washington and the other lives Butte, Montana

A couple said they'd meet us in AC, but decided not to show up. We drove over an hour. So many lies, so many fakes. We are so fed up.