New forum for party hosts?

I know this is getting long, but I keep thinking about other things we do to make for a nicer party. Our parties start a little earlier than many (7 pm). We do that because it allows some of our friends that live just over 1.5 hours away to attend, have fun, and still be home at a decent hour.

For those that wish to, the offer is always open to sleep over. We keep clean bedding off to the side for those that do and they are welcome to join us for breakfast and coffee/tea the following morning. Again, no charge. We love to entertain and we would not charge vanilla friends to spend the night and have breakfast so we see no reason to charge our LS friends either.

That is a key distinction about our parties. We consider everyone we invite to be our friends. Since there is no monetary incentive, there is also no need for an open invitation. Our parties wind up being so fun because all of our friends are pretty much like us and all looking for the same things. That's something that will likely never happen when you have an open invitation party.

One other thing that is becoming a more used "feature" if you will is that we have a 4' x 6' two-headed shower in our master BR. We put out bath towels for that and the guest bath. People like hopping in the big shower (sometimes 4 or more at a time) at some point during the night.

Probably our single biggest expense (more time than money) is we wind up doing laundry for the next 2 days or so after a big party. We have a large supply of fitted sheets that we put out for each bed/mattress and the 3 real beds have waterproof mattress pads. We also put out lots of face cloths and hand towels. There is one woman in a couple that actually brings her own puppy pads because she knows she tends to squirt a lot. It shows us that she respects our home, which is nice.

We do put out lube but let people know they need to bring their own condoms. People can be particular about those and, since we don't charge, we feel we shouldn't have to incur the expense of those. People are good with that. Many want to give us money anyway so we just tell them it's not necessary and can bring a food item to share if they like, which is why we wind up with so much food ;-) Not sure I mentioned it but our parties are BYOB.

There is that old saying about if you want something done right you have to do it yourself. We know what we like at a party and we apparently have lots that agree with us because we've had a number of people that have told us our parties are the best they've ever been to. Some of our guests are very well traveled so it is quite the complement and all the incentive we need to keep doing it. It is quite flattering, but my usual response is that it's all the wonderful friends that come to our parties that make them so good. All we do is provide the place. We do a big party about once every 2 months or so.

We have a pretty big driveway that can hold 2 dozen or more cars and some park on the street. Houses are spread out a bit where I live and it's hard to even see the closest 2 houses to me. I own 3 acres and there are 60+ empty acres on one side of my house so it's just 1 house diagonally across the street and one to my right with lots of trees in between. People can and have been naked in the backyard with no worries of being seen.

One of the things I do that seems to draw some people to the backyard is I have a little fire pit and I have LOTS of wood to burn all around me. I will usually cut/split/stack some for party use and people seem to like that. We do have smokers and since even the Mrs didn't smoke in the house when she smoked, people are fine going outside to smoke and enjoy the fire pit. I have an easy-up if it rains.

I do not miss smoking cigarettes myself and have not done so for over 30 years, but I do miss the social aspects of smoking. I used to vape for a while and pretty much stopped that as I didn't like how it made me feel, but it did have me socializing with the smokers while I did. Smoking is no doubt a nasty habit, but the smokers do tend to be a wild and fun bunch ;-) We do put mints and mouthwash out at our parties BTW.

Mayhem,

60+ is a big party.

How do handle parking? Do you have to worry about the neighbors?

One other thing. People are welcome (but not required) to bring an appetizer/dessert to share if they wish. Our parties are never about the food, but we tend to wind up with a LOT of food.

Also, it's rare for us to do themes. If we do, it will be a very simple one like a Hawaiian theme. Though some like themes, others feel like it's another thing they have to do and we don't want people to pass because they didn't have specific clothes and would need to run out and buy stuff for a given theme.

With our parties, it's rare we that we don't know everyone at our party personally. Once in a while we'll let a new couple we've not met come if others in our circle of friends can vouch for them.

Our criteria is fairly simple -

• People that know and respect that this is our home

• Social people that are laid back and not into cliques THAT COME TO A PARTY TO PLAY

• Ones that are comfortable with the level of play at a given party

For our big parties (50 - 60+ people), we generally have 8 -9 beds/air mattresses to play on. There have been multiple times where all beds are filled at the same time with 2 or more people, and it is all open room play. Not all people that play can handle or are interested in that. The part in caps above is key because we don't have room for the many that would just love to come and watch.

I believe I mentioned this elsewhere, but we do not charge for our parties. We just do it for the fun of it and find it's a lot more fun when money as a motivation doesn't enter the picture. There just isn't any incentive to invite people that just want to watch. Also much safer/simpler from a legalities standpoint when no money is changing hands.

Our parties are wildly successful in terms of people having fun (as you might imagine), but it is probably rare to find cases like this where money doesn't come into the equation.

I would be interested in reading posrs in a group or forum posts dedicated to party hosts or those specializing in gang bangs. Safe , certified members.

Hello Wannatry. My hat is off to you for being a host or attempting to be a host. It's not the easiest thing to do and you will find that it takes time. Are you selective in your searches for who you wish to invite? Are your parties for straight folks, Bi folks or any combination? Are they open to just who ever walks through the door or are you trying to attract specific people. On my first attempts to attract people I totally did it all wrong. I wish I could remember the couple's profile name and if I could I'd ask you to contact them. They were from Pa. and they had gone through the same trail and error that I did. Now they are doing well and have a very good following. We followed their advice and now things are going smoothly. Don't try to do too much too fast! Make that your #1 rule and keep to it. Know when to say 'NO' about certain things. I've had people contact me when I sent out an invite to them to come to a party wanting to know who (by name) is coming or they won't come! Don't be anyone's secretary! How damn rude! I let people know what they can expect to find at our parties straight up and I stick to it. Because of where we live we have a few things against us and there is a few things that are in our favor. We live in a county of some 450 square miles; farm country. Think 1930. Because there are no places that cater to the Bi-crowd around here, we do. To come to our parties you must be Bi-something; Bi, Bi-curious, Bi-playful, Bi-thinking about it, what ever! Because of our area we ask for those who are Caucasian, HWP (within reason) and no drugs. 420 is ok. We have our regular guidelines, ie, No means No, touching or doing something without permission, same for picture taking. Respect for each other in general. My choices to invite are very slim with no thanks to SLS. They deny this by telling me how many people are in my area but, since the ones that I would invite are free members I can't contact them or them me! The ones that are paid members are those that don't fit in on what we are looking for. I don't have a hole in the top of my head and I do have to breathe so no 5 foot woman weighing 230 lbs is going to sit on my face. Not going to happen! There are others on this site who have experience as former host and those who are members know what they liked or enjoyed from a host so I sincerely hope they will tune in to you and give pointers. Best of luck in your endeavors.

Don't know about a separate forum but I'm sure there are more than a few of us on here that have hosted parties. Ask away if you have questions,

I would like to suggest a forum section just for party hosts. We could share ideas, and suggestions. That would be most helpful for me.