Does anyone read profiles???

I've answered queries in couples' profiles, and even literally copy and pasted from a couple. I get "what are you talking about?" type responses.

People aren't that bright, and are often self-righteous.

We finally realized you can block single males. That has helped a lot! Of course if you have SM interest, that won't work!

Yes , we review profiles usually together , it’s a lesson learned . If someone is not interested enough to make a good profile , that tells a lot about them , not into the “meet @ 3:15 for a quickie in the parking lot “ . Same with pics , no pics , no reply . We have enjoyed this play for many years and anyone can see that the attitudes and approach of many of the men are ridiculous .

We may not be the norm here. We scan profiles for the basics, pic, ages, age range and where they are. If interest starts there, we make it a point to read the entire profile, except of course the End many people use about not copying etc.
Sometimes a small item will catch our eye which means a contact effort or non.
For example , couple soft swap or watch only. No for us
Smoking is another.
Think a lot of people including single males see a pic of a boob of ass and that’s their golden ticket of interest. Doesn’t matter that the profile is loaded with no single males in capital letters
To some reading profiles maybe a waste of time, for it’s a time saver.

Cape,

Totally agree with you. I question when that happens to couples if the single male is in the lifestyle or on the site to get laid. Contrary to popular belief, there is a difference between the two. I am not saying there isn't that occasional need to be spontaneous from time to time; this is an adult site. But those moments are not the norm for most couples I have encountered. From what I gather if the men on here don't read the profile, or they read it and show no respect for the couples wishes, then it calls into question their sincerity in the lifestyle.

If people put forth a good profile, I take the time to read and comprehend what is written. There are times when I see a profile and pictures that gets my attention only to see that I don't fit into what they are looking, those are easy "move on" moments for me.

And then there are those poorly written profiles that fail to outline specifically what the couple is looking for, I treat those with kid gloves and approach it respectfully but in a different manner than the well written profiles. By asking questions that are respectful it helps to determine what their wishes are and then either pursue moving forward, or respectfully with class move on.

We like single men but most don’t read the entire profile. We clearly state that we don’t entertain travelers or those here on business and we routinely receive notes saying they are “in our area, would you like to meet?” My wife and I have a couples profile and my wife has one of her own. Both profiles state the above as well as we state, no photo, no response, yet we still receive notes from those who refuse to read. It’s frustrating but we simply delete the note. Again, we like single guys but most are their own worst enemy.

DTH - I had something happen on another site that goes along with the whole reading/creating profiles thing. An SM sent us a "Flirt" with no other communiction. While respondng to another flirt from a couple I accidentally clicked on his.

I got an email back from him saying he was surpried but happy we flirted back, and that he then took "a half hour" to read our profile. First off, if someone is taking more than 3-4 mins tops to read our profile, then they would literally have to be at about a 1st grade reading level.

Second was the fact he had no intention of bothering to read our profile unless there was some evidence that there was interest. He couldn't even be bothered to read it first to see if we were even looking for SMs, much less any other criteria. This is easily 75%+ of SMs that reach out to us this way.

I sent him a, "Sorry to burst your bubble...." email and he of course tried to leverage the little bit of response he did get, which of course didn't go anywhere because we were not interested in him to start with for reasons that were clear from our profiile.

Second that DTH!

Gets old for us weekly.. with those who dont read or just plain lazy

Very well said downtown

Moon, it always amazes how few actually read the profile.

In some cases I get it... those profiles with the one line sentences I tend to gloss over and don't give the profile a second look, even if they have a picture.

Then there are those who put time and effort to present a profile that is worthy of my time to stop and read. I will admit a good default picture will usually catch my attention and in turn I will read the profile before looking at any additional pictures that may be shared for viewing.

My take is this...if you put energy into a profile that gives me a glimpse into you life, your desires, your preferences, then I will and do take the time to read your profile. If we are not a fit, I sometimes send a bird complimenting the profile as I think folks should know someone appreciates the effort that was put forth.

We receive tons of replies where it is obvious they did not read the profile. Just looked at the pics and never got by the first sentence. We reply to anyone who puts forth an effort, has pictures and can put more than a sentence together. We even list the reasons why you may not get a reply from us in your profile. We are guessing that's too much to read for many. It helps us sort through those who may not be a match for us anyway.

I don't contact people, so in the OP's sense, I don't read profiles. However, what you write in yours is a large part of determining how I answer. I don't always bother seeing if there are more photos than the default either, usually saving that as the decider for when I could go either way.

But I can personally attest to a percentage not reading to the end, since that's where I say not to bother with just a "hi" or some other trite opening, and that happens really often. But it's not there for them, it's for me, so I don't feel obligated by manners to respond, so no problem when they don't.

BTW - I will admit to sometimes looking at pictures first, but I would never reach out with any kind of contact to someone new to us without reading their profile first. Even a minimal profile will tell you something. Sometimes that something is the minimal effort they put into their profile is the same effort they'd put into actually meeting.

Ironically, even though we put effort into our profile, we do most of our new meetups at parties versus online. Since we have our own parties, we have friends that would like to bring their friends to our parties, so we will sometimes meet up with new people at very small gatherings at our house, and if things work out well, we add them to our large party list.

It is damn near impossible for us to meet and get to know someone new at one of our big parties. Just too many distractions and noise in general.

I read the profiles, my belief is that if you've taken the time to build a profile that is more than one sentence long, then I should afford you the right to take the time to read what you wrote. Sure pictures are a part of the profile, and they may be the initial draw, but for me the meat is in the writing of the profile. If you build a mediocre profile, chances are I will move right past you. If you build a well written, informative profile I will indeed read it in its entirety.

I've mentioned this in other threads, but if a couple seems reasonably sane, we just have them meet us at our house these days. We'll do snacks or dinner/drinks and we can talk openly, and even play if all are onboard with that.

We are also not going out of our way at all, we're limiting exposure to others, and they have the guarantee that they'll not get stood up. It has usually worked out well if/when we finally get to a point of meeting someone.

Agreed mayhem! We have mainly taken to meeting at events and venues, but it’s become more difficult with Covid restrictions (most events are cancelled). We do attempt to meet couples but have developed a method where we plan our night out so if/when the couple flakes we still have an enjoyable evening with each other.

I read profiles, so some of us profile readers do exist ;-)

In more normal times we meet most people at LS parties rather than online, so while meeting people online can be aggravating, it's not a biggy for us.

We’d say no they don’t. We’ve taken to just blocking at this point to curtail things. We used to try to be cordial and if there is basic etiquette we may respond with a polite no thank you. We would just get persist phishermen which got old really fast.

We can tell when someone has actually read our profile. We don't respond to cliche messages. Some people send them en masse in hope of a bite

A few months ago someone sent us a message asking to meet up that afternoon. I asked him if he reads profiles or just messages as many people as possible hoping to get a bite. He admitted he hit up a lot of couples and women in a 50 mile radius without reading a single profile. I suspect that happens a lot.

We post very specifically that we don’t meet those traveling or here on business or no photos and still get them. I hate those that say, “I’m here on business and would like to meet”. Like we’re just going to drop everything to meet this wonderful person. It really does get old. Just read the damned profile. Sorry for the rant., lol.

Hi Yea and Merry Xmas and happy new year.. Yes it does get old and Kathy and I now block all those who dont abide by what we have written and want in our journey.. along with all these negative people on forums.. we no longer want to see what they write and it has improved our experience.

Just no longer allowing negative and idiots into what we enjoy!

Those that do and get it.. welcome anytime!

Sometimes I wonder about that too. But then, I sometimes have to go back and look at peoples' profiles when I wonder "Is the female half bi?" "Is it a deal-breaker if the male half ISN'T bi?" and other stuff like that. Right off the bat with weird questions that are answered in the profile? I haven't had it happen often, but I usually respond with a polite refusal. If that isn't well-received or I get another request from the same person, I just block them. And so far, I've only blocked one person who did both of those things.

The fact is, the more you ask, the more chances someone will say "Yes". It's a numbers game. Also, some people get really manic or depressed during the holidays, so if it's recent, take that into consideration and be kind. You never know what someone is going through. If someone is really awful right off the bat, let him know it isn't ok. You might save someone else a headache!

20 messages in 2 days with inappropriate messages. Saying such things ' hi you guys, she is really sexy' to a single woman. Gross obscene messages from people hundreds and sometimes a thousand miles away. I am innundated with them
Not a person ..not one!! In whom I would have any interest in. Gripe fest here. Happy Holidays to all