Kik

Google voice, it’s free, kind of like a virtual burn phone. We’ve used it for a long time now.

Not familiar with Google #s either. There used to be a Google messaging app, that I think was called hangouts.

All of the women that we've encountered have been responsible/respectful with our numbers. Of course we've had a few flakes, but never a reason to block anyone or regret them having our #'s.

We're only looking for unicorns, so we don't get enough traffic to really be concerned about using our real #'s..lol. If guys were involved in our equation, we might go with Google #'s. Guys tend to be more aggressive sometimes. We've never had any issues, but Google never hurts.

Not at all...we both have Google voice numbers to keep everything separated.

Are we the only ones using a separate phone number dedicated to their LS activities?

Sure, go ahead

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62177651">DBCooperMN</a>,</p>

<p>I checked your messages. The messages were created and availble instantly for the other person to see. There was no issue. Everything worked. I see all the proof of that. If you want me to send you a private message or ticket with the details, I will do so. </p>

So you go on and on about how SLS Messaging has no problems, but when a real life scenario is presented, you deflect, and try to make it the user’s fault for NOT using an alternate way of communicating.

Absolutely precious.

WAYNE

“What proof do you have that the other profile is giving you accurate information “

Ummmmm……The messages are time stamped?

NAH! That can’t be it! Once again we are all lying.

Crazy story Wayne. Exactly why we don't mess with Kik..lol. We're not hiding anything. Kik just seems like it's for people trying to be in the shadows. For those who like it..enjoy....just not our preference.

Exactly Wayne. I'm not going to attempt a physical meet up, without having a solid way to contact you. I'm not going to depend on you being logged on to any site, to see my message. Suppose I have to modify the plans at the last minute or the other party has to change the time of the meeting or something ? Some people say they won't give up their phone #, until after meeting in person. Oh well....I guess we're NEVER meeting.

<p>Just yesterday a guy filed a complaint that someone tried to extort money from him once he took his conversation to KIK. He was on here as a single male, but had a wife that didn't know about it. Once they got some of his info on KIK, they threatened to tell his wife. The other profile was a single female profile that stated that she was cheating on her husband and was looking for men in her same situation, so she was running a scam to get cheaters over to KIK where she could then get info and extort them.</p>

I've had people on other apps say they weren't comfortable exchanging #'s too soon etc..
I never believe in forcing the issue. So we talk on the app for several days & maybe exchange #'s after a week. I finally meet them in person & they have the personality of a fitted bed sheet. I guess that's a different subject..lol. That doesn't happen too often though. I still use old fashioned gut instinct, when evaluating someone, whether it's on a app or after exchanging #'s. No method is flawless however. We've all met people in person & it just wasn't a match. Oh, well..back to the drawing board..lol.

Hi Hollyblue. I totally understand what you're saying. I think like most things in life & the lifestyle,lol....it's a matter of personal preference & comfort. With spam calling, telemarketers, political campaigns, & other nonsense..your phone number isn't really even considered private information anymore. Some people aren't trying to do anything with your info, but are just entertained by "hiding behind the screen". I like to get back to the old days, where your actual phone was used to communicate. After exchanging phone #'s, I try to initiate a VERBAL conversation asap. I guess my patience is just short for too many apps..lol. One or 2 are enough in my life. Again....to each their own though.

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62177651">DBCooperMN</a>,</p>

<p>The messages are stored in a database. They are not traveling, so they should be there instantly. What proof do you have that this other profile is giving you accurate info? Like others have said, at that point you two should have exchanged phone numbers. If you are afraid to give someone your phone number, you shouldn't be meeting with them.</p>

"There are no significant issues that I have seen with the message system and hundreds of thousands of our customers have used it without issue.

As a staff member of SLS, I have not been able to substantiate any of these claims posted in the forums regarding private messages."

So let me give you a real life scenario that just happened 1 week ago. I was meeting up with a couple for the first time, about a 3 hour drive away.

I messaged them when I left, and it went through just fine.

Half way there I messaged my progress, no reply

30 Minutes to go I send another message, no reply.

10 minutes away I receive a message that they just got the previous 2 messages, one of them took almost 1-1/2 hours to arrive.

Luckily, we are both familiar with the SLS problems and had a backup plan established, otherwise they may have started to think I was going to ghost on them.

To me, this a "significant issue". Suppose the drive was only 1-1/2 hours, and the message that took forever was "I've arrived", and we didn't have a backup plan?

As we have said numerous times on SLS.. we are paid members for a reason, we chat now on IM , talk on the phone and set up a meet . Any deviation and stalling well we move on !

If one cannot figure out how to communicate properly with us via SLS and our Cell phones.. they are NOT for us... including "Hey whats up".. wow !

Sheri, there is other information people can glean from you once they have your phone number. The reason kik is used frequently is that it is anonymous and can allow you to hide your personal details. The other plus to apps like kik is that they allow for 4 way conversations between couples. It gives you a bit more insulation and guards against showing up for a date/ meet and the husband is there by himself because his wife isn't feeling well, but she has given her blessing for him to play alone. Make use of the video chat feature here or elsewhere to make sure the people you are talking to aren't misrepresenting themselves.

Maybe I'm just "old school", but I don't feel like wasting time jumping from one app to ANOTHER app. After exchanging 3 or 4 messages, if the person seems intelligent, articulate & can put more than 2 words together, I'm ready to exchange phone numbers. In today's APP world, people have started treating their phone number like it's their Social security number !! If the person turns out to be a flake, block them & move on.

Those aren't issues, they're new features you're requesting. Very different.

Depending on how long you’ve been here, they’ve actually removed features. There was a robust email system that was abandoned for the IM we currently have.

HOTLUVRS

But to the point.

The only thing missing was the unbearable length of time waiting for a reply from the “Techs”.

AandJ,

I get it. My post was, you know, snark.

HOTLUVRS

Post a picture of a dog in your public photo album

Those aren't issues, they're new features you're requesting. Very different.

Think about it this way. My 2013 optima doesn't have blind spot assistance. Is that an issue with the car? No, it's a feature it doesn't have. To get it I either need to install it on the car or get a new car. Kik is the new car here.

And I think you can already send emojis through the IM here. At least I've been able to send them. Not sure if the other side saw it as intended tho.