Copy and Paste introduction

We get generic C/P openers all of the time. If there is nothing specific in the initial message, we know you didn't read the profile. In fact we have a "code word" in our profile. Anyway it goes something like this

"Loved your profile and pics. You sound like a lot of fun. Would love to meet for a drink, to get to know you better."

What we read from that is: "Your wife is hot. I just JO'ed, and want more pics."

Ok, WTF, we can check out the profile and pics. 1 or 2 pics. Showing nothing of the person. Sometimes it's one pic cropped from the other. Guess what you get for lack of effort. Blocked. If you can't come up with a personal message, and have a couple pics that we can say Hmmm, then don't blame it on us, it's on you.

SMs are everywhere. Mostly they are guys that have no game. There are very few that have game, and know how to attract a couple, or SF. Those are the real unicorns. Of course they are the ones that are always busy. They are obviously getting all of the pussy that others are missing.

Ball this is what your 5th - 6th..profile name change.. you have been told and will not change but come on SLS complaining same old same old.. we now have your number again!

On a different level... that much is true.

BallO, again you seem to be hung up on "professional" people and you have never had anything in your profiles that would indicate you are even close to what you are looking for. You're trying to attract a vegan by waving around a pack of SlimJims. You say you know it is about pictures, etc... and if you know that is the case drop a little money on a photographer or put a lot of effort into some polished pics.

Your written profile is good, but not anything that will wow someone. The last time you mentioned the people in your area and I counted 35+ that we would contact before thinking about your profile. Then we just stopped looking. It is a crowded field and you have to sell yourself well.

Ron - it’s all about looks and how well built you are. I am not a gym rat and I know it. Never will be since I would rather put my time into my career. Do I try and eat healthy and workout to keep my blood pressure down? You bet!. I don’t have tattoos and will never have them. I personally don’t find them attractive. To be honest there are not very many professional people on site. That’s what I am looking for. I am looking for a lady who works in the corporate world. Many of the people on here are blue collar or entrepreneurs whom own a small business. Nothing wrong with that, but I am on a different level. Make sense?

Friends - please send me feedback on my intro message to my mailbox.

It. Is. Alive....

Again.

Typical outreach message…crickets

Hey guys - Happy Friday. My name is XXxXx. I came across your profile this evening as I was looking to make some new friends in the lifestyle. Your profile caught my attention along with your pics. You seem like a very active couple. Is that a vineyard you are at on your horse?

I treat meeting couples as I would in a local bar or club. I am a gentleman and very respectful. Above all, I provide the lady with the attention they desire.

I am a no pressure guy, so if it means chatting until everyone is comfortable and possibly meeting for coffee or drinks, with no expectations that works for me.

I appreciate you taking time to read my message. I have opened my private pics so you can clearly see what I look like.

Hello - I have private pics that I open up if they ask and that I share if I reach out to someone. That is a fair way of doing it.

Ball.. seriously in all honesty do you think your "2 profile photos" attract attention.. rethink what you have and open up, smile, show you are FUN and can laugh.. if you cant do that in a profile with nice photos.... well in our 30 years of swinging its not happening in bed either ! Its your swinging resume..

We are meeting a NEW SLS SM this weekend.. and you know why.. he is out of our age range but caught our attention with his well written profile, smiling photos and love for life just exudes from him..including his well written IM talking about his music experience, concerts and our favorite Band X photo ...that he knows of.. thats what we look for those who can talk about things other than sex and the rest comes natural.. .. seriously guys like you are a dime a dozen on SLS and she wants more and gets more ... its that simple. I too look for same in a female .

Good luck and you have only been on SLS a short time..

DTH - I have put a lot of time and effort and I get absolutely nothing out of it. I have written war and peace intro messages and I have written short and sweet messages. Nothing seems to work. And I am talking 30 plus messages to 30 different couples who in my opinion are below what I normally go for.

I never realized that people would actually do a C&P introduction when reaching out to a person or couple.

To me that approach seems impersonable. I could see where few would respond back.

As a rule, I read all profiles that interest me, if I choose to reach out to that person or couple, I do so with the mindset of what is it that appealed to me in their profile that aligns with my interest (beyond the pictures) That interest must be something I convey in my response.

I also look to see what they are looking for, SM, Female, couple. Etc….

The only reason I would contact someone who isn’t looking for a SM would be to compliment them on a well penned profile, nothing more than that.

This lifestyle is about respect and knowing boundaries. If you ignore those early on via your reaching out to someone, I believe you will fail in your approach.

You get out of this lifestyle what you put into it!

@TomAndDiane. We agree, a well written profile and a few nice photos, will garner a response. At least they put some effort into creating their profile, and providing some information about themselves.

If we receive a "Hi" message we may respond if the profile looks legit (Well written, pics open, & recent certs)

@Wayne, If a “ perfect 10 single female told a male "Hi", they would not reject her.” sent us a lonely HI. We would immediately think its a trolling DUDE!

Exactly, Wayne. Exactly.

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">what you trying to accomplish from just saying "Hi" were not in middle school here."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I would say they are letting you know they are interested, just like they would do in real life. If otherwise their profile looks good to you, why not follow up?</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I'm pretty sure if a perfect 10 single female told a male "Hi", they would not reject her.</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I'm pretty sure if a perfect 10 single female used a selfie, she would not be rejected.</span></p>

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what's worse is asking for pics or even face pics on first open message. Seems like to me too many people on here have 0 clue on how to communicate with others. Too many on here reach out, share nothing about themselves, dont ask any questions, and expect to hook up. It honestly is wild to me how many adults lack communication skills. Way to many people just send "Hi" or " Face pics?". if you're reading this and you're one of those people, what you trying to accomplish from just saying "Hi" were not in middle school here.

This happens so often I'm contemplating on making a separate thread about this, but I'm sure there is one already exists on this subject

I’ve gotten “intro” messages that were, literally, a C&P of their profile. I mean, they’re even too lazy to come up with a separate intro message! Do they think I won’t read their profile after they message me? Unbelievable.
If they don’t put forth even the minimal effort to introduce themselves, I’m sure they will lack in any effort anywhere else. Ifyaknowwhatimean.

~LMK~

A "canned" message almost always sounds impersonal. You don't need a long introductory message - just something personal enough that the recipient thinks you are interested in them, not just anyone. The intent is to entice them into engaging in conversation so you can both decide about meeting in person.

Granted, many profiles don't give you much to work with but try to find something to mention when sending that initial message. Don't forget their photos as a source of information - pictures of hiking or boating can lead to questions about where they engage in those activities, Tshirts might feature a band, restaurant or funny saying you can comment on.

While both "I'm Joe and would love to meet your two" and "That RV trip sounds like a lot of fun" messages are respectful, I'll be more interested in responding to the second one - I know the sender read my profile and didn't just include me in a generic email blast.

EXACTLY WAYNE and we get them all the time with people coming to our city.. its like hey who can we get to meet and fuck for a night.. not happening if you cant say something intelligent and specific to "us".. you are NOT worth our time !

<p>Sending the same copy and paste message to multiple people is generally frowned upon. If you slip up and send it multiple times to one profile, they will know and many look at it as being lazy or not bothering to read profiles. If you are doing it excessively and people start complaining, it is considered spamming.</p>

It there something off putting about a copy and paste introductory message?

Have lifestyle things picked up since Covid?

It seems I have been having trouble meeting new friends lately.