Kik

We tried Kik a few years ago and was informed that that was the old way to stay in touch, lol. So we got rid of it and using IM and cell phone numbers works very good for us.

We were approached on another site from a couple that claimed to have "just moved to our town" and wanted to meet. We usually exchange cell #'s if a meeting is eminant, but something felt off about this supposed couple.

They wanted to communicate on a 3rd party app like WhatsApp or Telegraph, but KIK likely would have worked for what I suspect their purpose was. They claimed that IM was unreliable, which it is at times.

I asked the person how long they've been living in my town and they said 3-4 months. So here you have a couple that was supposedly actively looking for local couples that just happened to be living in my town, but 3-4 months later their profile still has them in Akin, IL? They want me to download and set-up a 3rd party app but haven't taken the <2 mins to change their location on their profile.

My after-thought was that this was someone looking to blackmail people and wanted to do that through a 3rd party app so there was no record of it on the site itself. Even if you went back to the site and asked them for personal info to track these people down, you have no evidence that they can verify that you aren't trying to get THEIR contact info for nefarious purposes.

This person would also have to gather additional info to be able to complete the blackkmail, but either this person was both lazy and stupid (i.e. not changing their location while actively looking for local players), or they were up to no good. The gain wasn't worth the risk to me and I reported them to the site then blocked them, but it is definitely something to think about when people are looking for 3rd party app contact soon after they initially contact you.

Unfortunately, nothing is "the best way" and sometimes good possible encounters are passed over and bad ones pursued to regret later. That is life. It is difficult to find contacts for 2 people to approve of and I am retired, my wife and girlfriend are not so I just find it easier to fly solo. With an "everything is OK" attitude my wife just slows me down. Life is too short to postpone what can be done today. This is the best site I found, I use the shotgun approach, sort out the responses follow up with a phone call to iron out the details, and enjoy with new friends this week.

We have never used kik. We also have been asked a number of times but, like LoveMeKnot, we're here to meet people and not just chat.

When we do meet people, we usually go in thinking it is likely something we'll want to do again, so usually just exchange cell #s when planning to meet.

While I suppose it's possible, we've yet to have an issue from exchanging cell #s in the 8 years we've been in the LS. It's easy enough to block someone if there ever was a problem.

Smoke signals? Meh.

Heliograph is da bomb for communication.

We don't bother trying to meet people from the net anymore and don't have any use for messaging apps.

Kik was just a spam bot central prior to that

We still prefer kik. Our local club has set up their own website and it’s pretty good for messaging, but kik is still our go to.

We still use kik ... anything is better than trying to use the archaic messaging system here, which is like one step above using smoke signals.

We use KIK regularly as the messaging here isn't all that reliable and at least with K it is real time chat.

We still use Kik. I’ve been a proponent of the app despite its shortcomings, but lately they’ve been making it even harder to love. The frequent advertising pop ups have gone beyond annoying.

We also use Signal, WhatsApp, and Wickr. Kik is still the fastest and easiest, especially when traveling outside of the country.

I do use it on occasion but I find it clunky and not very user friendly. It has saved me a few times from some folks who started out ok but quickly turned a bit kooky. Like R&K, I’m not one for endless chats. So I prefer to meet sooner rather than later. I don’t use the SLS app. I go in through the website. So I need to be online to see responses. So it may be a bit more cumbersome but, as a SF, it’s certainly safer.

RonKathy, we are the same but still get a request for a Kik address every now and then. We stopped using Kik a few years ago.

Simple.. we are Lifetime members for a reason we liked the 'old" email and now use IM if we enjoy what we have encountered plus a good well written profile we set up a meet and off to the bed if all have some chemistry.. if not its "next".

"WE" are not here for endless chats and IM's as some do.

Anyone still use Kik? If not, what do you use? Do you just message on SLS?