Desired age

NCSINGLE- if you're looking for normal people, you may have the wrong site lol
We've NEVER been normal. In my family, it's an insult.

Yes, it seems alot of people, especially SM, ignore our age preference. We just don't respond if they are way out of the range. We might message a couple when we're out of their range, but close. They may be a bit flexible with their stated range like we are. We mention in our message that we're out of their range so they know we actually read their profile.

Because there's a fairly large age gap (14 years) between Hobby and I, we have a very generous "Preferred Range". He's not really too interested in 65 yo women, and I'm not super into 27 yo men. BUT if someone outside the Preferred range hits us up, we don't immediately say "no", because it's a guideline. I've met men in their upper 60's who, if they swung my way, I'd really consider. I've been chatting with a 23 yo who we didn't dismiss based on his age. I hope to meet up with him soon, actually!
I messaged a couple who I asked about their range, and how flexible they are on it. It's respectful, letting them know I read their profile, so they didn't need to get fussy; I'm 2 years above the upper limit.
It really depends on the chemistry, and we've broadened our search accordingly.

i was hoping people would be sensuous and....literate :)

All of this assumes they have kept up with their age by editing it every year. Just wait till you meet someone whose age is in your bracket (if at the top end) who are 10+ years older than that in reality. Oh and we tend to get a lot of older single males way outside our range but also the occasional couple.

Everything we've received lately has been from men and couples way out of our age preference. And smokers. People don't care what preferences you have listed. I asked a guy if he read our profile and he said no. He said sends messages to pretty much everyone without looking to see what they're looking for. I assume a lot of the messages we get from people who are far from our preferences do the same.

A low chance beats out no chance!

To us the age preference is a rather loose preference, and can be adjusted to accommodate for really cool or attractive people, at least on the older end of our stated preference band.

Another caveat about the age preference is that there aren't separate options for couples. I doubt most couples' preferences are in perfect alignment. Admittedly, I prefer women younger than me (Mid 20s to high 20s). She tends to like older more seasoned guys. So, how do people remedy this difference? Do they split the difference between the tail ends of their preferences? Just take the high and low band of the lowest age? Maybe the highest?

We kind of just randomly and arbitrarily set ours.

It's the 4th section on every profile. If you don't fit in that age range, you have a low success rate of success. If it's over a decade, even a reaponse isn't warranted. A very large portion of the messages I get are from people well below what I'm looking for. It feels like people just throw a box of darts at a wall hoping it hits a dart board. And miraculously sticks.

I really don't understand why people waste there time.