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Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. I really hope you took PAW's words to heart, because this process can feel intrusive and it's not always easy to really get that everyone's motives are benign and come from a place of wanting you to get what you want out of this experience.

And the reason I'm emphasizing this is because I'm going to say some things that are going to sound really, really mean and I want you to understand that it's about your profile and how it's getting in the way rather than about you.

So, first of all, you're not particularly old for a swinger. However, your age range for partners puts you firmly in the camp that thinks people in their 50s are no longer fuckable. You might want to work on that on your own behalf, because you likely have a long life ahead of you and you'll be happier if you think of yourself as prime material until you're dead and extend that courtesy to others. Also, women everywhere will stop rolling their eyes.

I can't begin to tell you what a cliche it is to see a guy's profile where the age range is less than half his age to just a teensy bit more. You know what that accomplishes? It makes women even 10 or more years your junior say nope and move on to someone else.

In your actual profile text, I see glimmers of someone interesting but they're swamped by the sentence fragments, half thoughts and that truly witless Sydney University thing. The latter is an internet legend and if you actually read it and thought about the implications you would not have any question about why having that in your profile is ridiculous.

And while I'm picking nits, if you don't like drama and don't create it, then why are you even mentioning it? I mean, first of all, the people who have the most drama in their lives don't actually understand that it's self-created, and secondly, do you really believe people will opt out on meeting with you because they know you don't want their drama? If you're trying to convey that you won't create it, forget about it, because if it truly wasn't a possibility it would never occur to you to address it not once but twice.

Instead of once again rehashing what I say over and over about what goes where in every section, I'm just going to encourage you to read 10-15 threads in this section, where there are a variety of opinions, and then apply what you read to start over and create a profile that does a good job of representing you.

No sentence fragments, a robust spelling and grammar check and some photos taken by others that show your fully clothed body will be your friends.

No self-deprecation based on your age or eating habits would be good too.

Also, the way you've used it, it's not workout but work out.

Good luck. Make a lot of changes and then come back for a review.

Fort Payne, AL, Us

You hopefully have read other reviews and understand the sort of replies you will receive. We don't intend to be mean but our bluntness often appears that way. Just remember that everything said is all about your profile and not you personally.

A quick look at your profile shows two things that will probably cause issues for you. The "warnings" in Additional Comments are useless (are you really going to go to court?) and need to be deleted as quickly as possible. The other problem is your age preference range - the lower end is less than half your age and the upper end is only a few years past your age. Many women are going to say "nope" while shaking their head and rolling their eyes. A preference range with your age near the middle tends to be more attractive - especially to women near your own age.

Your writing style is a bit hard to read - I'm not sure if there is a complete sentence in the entire profile. Sit down at a word processor and turn those fragments and phrases into complete thoughts. Adding some specific vanilla interests to Description will help others see common interests. Most of your text is in the correct section but there are a few bits that you might want to move around.

Your pictures aren't bad. The rubber ducky is annoying to me but others may find it cute. I assume you have the same (or similar) pictures with your face unobscured in a private gallery that you open when contacting others.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Cove Neck, NY, Us

Hello everyone. Great topic here and looking for comments and observations. Been in the lifestyle and on sls for a while now and understandably older men are not as popular as the younger crowd. Just looking for something or advice on positive changes I should make. Working on pics to update but advice on what look I should be posting would be appreciated. Thanks all.