tntcpl, if you could go to the Better Profiles section and start your own thread (select the New Topic thingy on the upper right quadrant of the screen), life will be far less confusing and no one will be giving profile advice that belongs to someone else.
I don't really know how to explain this but your profile says to me that you guys are a lot of work and have a lot of "rules". Must be ready to meet quickly. Won't play first date. Better if you drink wine. must be vaccinated. etc.
I would look for a more laid back couple to play with.
Good afternoon! We are just wanting to see how we can get better with our profile and get more firends.
Looks better. Minor typo in Description "...who has curves in the all right places."
As usual, I agree with GGMM's comments.
Hi. Nice job. There are a few things I'd suggest refining a little, but you definitely sound more fun than previously.
Lines I'd edit:
"When he knows A is comfortable and enjoying herself he can focus on ensuring his playmate leaves happy." - The problem with this one is that it is explicit that your playmate isn't particularly important. Like, you'll do the job, but your interest is in A and her pleasure. You can frame it differently - you're picky about couples, because you want to make sure A is well taken care of - or you can just stop using your outside voice for this issue.
"We respond to every note even if just to provide a polite "No thank you." and would appreciate the same in return." - Why scold when you know it doesn't work? It won't change a single person's behavior but will leave a poor impression on a variety of other folks.
Other than that, Looking For is a little more impersonal than it needs to be. Maybe edit it with a view to the people you would like to meet rather than some vague couple who checks some boxes and will fit your needs. If that makes sense.
Finally got around to making some changes. Definitely removed a couple things but not a major overhaul. Open to any more advice.
Thanks all!
Thanks everyone. Been busy with the job search. Hoping to get to this later this week.
I think that the double mention (tagline and profile) of vaccine status can be polarizing. This is kind of an "is what it is" thing. There are some people that will see that and think, "Oh, they're one of those types." It is likely that those are people you may not want to meet anyway, but I do think that you should pick either the tag line or the profile and not both for this. Preferably the profile as GGMM suggested.
I do not know how to say this gently. I am 6' 1" and the same weight as your Mrs, and could still stand to lose some weight. She is 8" shorter than me and weighs what I do. While that may be possible, I can see more people thinking that your pictures are old and don't really reflect what you actually look like now. I don't know that people are looking that closely into your profile to see that, but if they are, that could be a reason for many looks and no bites.
The "no kissing early on" thing may be off-putting to some. I realize that you're not saying you "won't" kiss, but there might be a better way of saying it. Maybe just leave it with the "... the more we play the more it becomes possible" kind of thing.
Overall, I think it looks good but it is on the long side. Perhaps look for ways to tighten things up a bit and remove words here and there that may not be needed. The risk in having it so long is that people won't read all (or any) of it. Again, the ones that don't may not be your kind of people either, but it is likely the pictures and proximity draw some in and then they see the length of the profile and just say, "Hell no!".
Hi. You know how it works, so I won't give you the disclaimer, but did want to note that I really like your profile, even though I think it needs work.
Not sure it will up your contacts - I think your parties are your best bet - but you've gotten some negativity that's drifted in over time, likely as the result of less than optimal experiences or maybe just wanting to be efficient, but it's making you sound less fun than I'm sure you are. Even something as simple as "We are likely to click if you aren't focused only on getting into our pants..." can be phrased in a more inviting way and I think that matters and will eventually lead to better opportunities.
You have instances in every section where you can say the same thing, but without the negative sentence construction.
In the process of reworking, pruning would be a good idea too. For example, there are some things like play style and preferences that you should absolutely discuss with others, but the earnestness of what you have loads down your profile in a way that a flirty, but direct discussion over drinks will not.
Other than that - I can be more specific if you like, but I don't think you need more than pointers - new photos are your friends. So is a slimmed down set of galleries, which currently number six, so maybe think about what's older and can be archived somewhere that isn't SLS, and what can be combined to at least (not sure how to say this without sounding snarky) not give the impression that you're going to share all your vacation photos from the last three years.
Also, the vaccination thing is probably important, but perhaps in Additional comments, giving you the opportunity to be clever and inviting in your tagline.
Best of luck!
Ok....You folks have helped us before to great effect. Hoping you can help again.
The problem - we're getting lots of looks but almost none of them concert to contacts. I'd say less than 5% of the lookers send a note to say hi.
Any opinions welcome.
