Single male help

Standard disclaimer: All mean things said here are about your profile - not about you. Some of the responses will be blunt & brutal.

You need to sit down at a real computer (don't use your phone) and fix that shit. You need to use complete sentences and proper punctuation. As it is now it is hard to read - very hard to read.

Looking for should not really include information about you - it should be all about the people you hope to meet. You already indicate you are hoping for more long term relationships but it is worded poorly. Description should be all about you - but don't repeat anything in the stats area (it's hard to keep it in synch - already your height is different in your stats & description). Don't just tell us you're fun - tell us what you do to have fun. Fantasies is OK if you clean up the punctuation and take out the bit about oral skills (if you must include that it belongs in Description but it is often code for not being able to get or keep an erection). Additional comments should be anything else important - what you have is not so good.

What is up with the stars on the one selfie - a selfie is bad enough but the stars are very annoying. Velma has a good system for core pictures - read other threads if she didn't give you enough information. My guidelines are more simple - watch background clutter, avoid selfies and smile. You will look much more appealing if you smile.

But my biggest problem with your profile is that you've been here less than a month. This is not necessarily a quick hookup site. And there are a lot of single guys for people like me to choose from. You will meet people faster if you can find any lifestyle events near you.

Good luck & have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Well, on the off chance that the OP knows to look for his post in Better Profiles, which is not exactly a sure thing...

I don't know that my response to your profile is typical, but I suspect it represents a significant minority opinion. And before I continue, I'm not being mean just because I woke up cranky (I didn't) or because I get something out of it (nope), but if you're at all sensitive, pretty much the rest of what I write is going to be a little painful. Just try to remember that it's about your profile and not at all about you. I don't know you.

Some of it is your spelling and grammar issues. They're significant and make you look like you don't give a shit. Don't write your profile on your phone and do, always, use spell check. Also, read what you write out loud so as to catch the wtf moments that you didn't catch when you were writing.

Some of it is things like saying you have a perfect dick. If I wasn't critiquing your profile, I would have shaken my head and closed it right then. There is no such thing as a perfect cock. No, there really isn't. Like, yeah, totally useful and I'm quite fond of them, but not the prettiest things on the planet. Closest analogy is that there might be a perfect armadillo somewhere, but it's still an armadillo and not a cheetah. Don't talk about your dick. That rule holds until you start seeing women everywhere talk about their perfect vaginas, which will happen approximately never.

And your amazing oral skills? You know who doesn't get to be a judge of that? You. There aren't a lot of women who won't sprain something with the eyerolls when they read something like that. Pro tip from someone who's had sex with a lot more women than you: Women don't like the same thing. Not at all. And it's pretty much axiomatic that someone who brags is going to show up with a limited bag of tricks.

Normally I would go through your profile section by section, giving advice, but between your word salad (what does it mean to have your manners on you?), the braggadocio, and the lack of punctuation, I can't even.

So, yeah, if I were you, I'd work on your profile some so that you come off as a pleasant bedmate instead of a project.

So you aren’t an unattractive guy, but you have major spelling and grammar issues.

I stron gly suggest you cut and paste your profile into Microsoft Word or Google Docs and let the spell checker and grammar checker do it’s thing.

You’re like Rizzo - missing periods all over. You have random words capitalized. “Dominate” instead of dominant.

Knock it off with the double question marks. It’s not a thing.

I don’t even know what the last sentence means. I guess you are looking for a teacher and if I don’t take control you will.

Look, I know guys like to think women have domination fantasies, but we are tired.

I’m up at 4:30 every morning to exercise. I spend all day on my feet in 4” heels making decisions for other men. I rush home through DMV traffic to start dinner and now you want me to “teach you”? Fuck that shit, I want a nap.

Your pictures are okay, but I think you need a full-body picture of what you might look like if you showed up for a date. If you roll in wearing MMA gear, I’m rolling out.

I opened a private gallery for you to show you what you should have.

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I want to emphasize something the last guy said about getting out more.

He made a good point by acknowledging that many people report not having an interest in clubs or the party scene. That’s fine, but the fact is that one’s progress is greatly improved by getting out to where other receptive people are.

Even in our digital world, do you know that more than 80% of all job vacancies are still filled via personal networking on some level? Why do I mention that?

Because....

I often hear from folks who have been unsuccessfully looking for work for months or years. They speak of how they’ve submitted hundreds, or even thousands, of replies to online requests for applications, but without so much as one personal interview.

They talk about matching or exceeding every stated qualification, but to no avail. What the hell, right?

The fact of the matter is this...

People are just going to have to network (in person) more if they want to start seeing results. Whether or not it’s something that feels comfortable, folks have got to go to places where that’s possible.

Or...

One can simply continue trying the same thing and hope for different results.

Tramp

Not sure if you’re looking for advice from a single guy but I’m always willing to try and help another out.

I still date in the vanilla world (tinder,etc). My experience on that site is based almost entirely on looks and the women are usually younger (I’m 38).

On sls, as important as looks will become (I don’t even have a public pic) , it is more about a level of maturity (at least as a single guy on here). We all text from our phone so mistakes happen but spelling/grammar is huge. Keep in mind that most initial contacts are done through the husband. What do you think is more important to them? Your looks or perceived level of intelligence?

Also, if you do not have them already, try and get a few certs from well-respected couples. It’s uncomfortable to ask but they exist for a reason and are definitely viewed and judged if you’re a single guy.

Last bit of advice is to get to a club. I’ve never been a club guy but it’s like networking at your job. It’s a small world and once you establish a trusted presence it’ll get easier. I joke that it’s easier getting ‘laid’ on tinder but the lifestyle that comes from this world is worth putting in the time.

I search through a lot of profiles :) so I took a peek at yours...... there are a few things that stand out to me as potential issues.

OK, I really didn't like your first picture the one in the plaid shirt. It was buttoned up all the way to the top and it was in black and white. Sounds picky but if that is my first impression of you I want to see a color picture, maybe a nice big smile if your face is showing. (If I am looking at thumbnails of profiles it has to capture my attention)

Then I started reading and my first reaction was "Ok, then oh no". When I got to your description it took me a few tries to read through it because you need to fix a few words. "while side" & "dominate". Also fix this: "my manners are always on me" it isn't very clear.

Other than that you are very new :) I don't always respond right away to someone that is new. If you have any experience in the lifestyle previously be sure to mention that.

I hope that my advice is helpful and that you find the adventure that you are looking for!

Ok couples I find myself to be an attractive single male I'm not pushy and I enjoy alot of the things alot of you all enjoy. Now I get single guys get looked over ALOT because this is for primarily for couples but I get the profile views , I just don't get the conversation, or any luck at all , what could be different to increase the chances