Single Help with profile

A big Philly-like yoooo to sxxxyadventures on the left coast with the big smile, long locks, and good looks. You’re my kindred soul on the top of that peak dude; sweeeeaaaatttp. At that top, I want you to know everything I say is about your profile, and not about you - thanks.

In a blink of the eyes the top half of your profile is appealing; then quickly the 0lbs stands out - what’s up?. Step on a scale, tell us your weight and don’t let anyone guess from your pictures your weight slides up and down.

Your by-line is cleaver and I like it. I’d like it even more if you referenced it somewhere inside your profile. “I know Victoria’s Secret” and later on you could say something like <<some of the secret I’m learned are…>> or <<I’ve been taught several secrets by>>, etc.

"I am not looking for a relationship but, if I met the woman of my dreams I wouldn't deny it.” That's confusing to me in a number of ways. First, I don’t like negatives in a profile, second, my brain refuses to follow “but-if-then” progressions and third, my word processor wanted to correct it; that’s there thumbs down. What helps is getting to the point without but, if and then. Also use only positive language in your profile and delete every instance of “not” and “wouldn't” and say something instead like “in my daily experience I am extremely observant and I'm looking for the woman of my dreams.” It would also be nice to know why you’re on SLS; to find a lover, NSA sex, FWB’s, blah, blah, blah, and I found that missing.

Under Description, I suggest you remove your entire 1st paragraph. At a certain point your description feels more like a creative writing course - I mean I like it a little but you’ve got too much. You’re a guy with good writing skills and I feel as if I’m reading concepts about your personality, rather that facts “...very calming presence, feel safe and comfortable, down to earth, extremely observant, love the world around me, listening to your words, reading your body language, though provoking, Non Judgmental, creating space, sharing intimacy. You next two sentences are awesome "I am active, outdoorsy well read extensively traveled and educated. I am employed with an amazing career, I live alone and have a vehicle.” Now that’s good stuff, IMO (In My Opinion) just let us know what traveled means unless you’re bragging.

I’ll side with Mayhem8 about the rest of your profile and move along. I'm posting and I see GGMS Molly beat me to it...and I agree with her as well. Nice to read you and I hope I help you have more sex with more people.

Hi and welcome. Profiles and photos need periodic updates and I'm guessing that's part of the problem. Another is your lack of certs. However you personally feel about them, they're invaluable for a single man and actually are a necessity before some couples and women will consider you.

Those photos you have now display a nice smile and new ones with the same qualities will definitely be a plus. A clothed, full body shot would also be helpful.

As far as your actual profile, it really does have a lot of avoidable typos and errors of punctuation and syntax. That's not putting your best foot forward, you know? So, once you've figured out how you're going to change it, run the whole thing through spell check and then read it out loud to make sure you have the right words.

In Looking For, the only sentence that actually belongs there is the second one. The third sentence possibly belongs in that section, but only at the very end, after you've been more descriptive about who you're looking for and roughly what you're looking for with them. That section is for telling people whether they might be what you're looking for and right now it isn't doing that.

Description is weirdly lopsided, with the practical stuff shoved down to the end and a long, fairly florid passage leading the way. I'd change it up quite a lot, with the I like x, y and z and am this kind of person stuff up top and any musings that involve things like creating space at the end of the section.

Fantasies could be a little tighter and definitely say something about your actual experiences. Couples want to know if you're a reliable third and if you are, this is where you say you've had some MFMs.

Additional comments has an error that I can't quite parse and I'm out of time. Maybe read it out loud to make sure it's saying what you want it to say?

Anyway, I think you can do well on SLS should you choose to renew, but it will take some work on your part. So, maybe make some changes and get new photos and then come back and ask for a review of your new material.

Good luck.

There are some minor typos/grammar issues (caps where there should/shouldn't be, missing punctuation, used "though" instead or "thought", etc.), but I doubt that is killing you. Worth fixing though. Your opening sentence doesn't answer the question "What are you looking for?" Most of what else is there also doesn't really do a good job of answering that question either. Even before that, having your weight listed as 0 lbs is at least a yellow flag for many and a deal breaker for some.

What some will look for in the Description section is talking points. What do you like to do? Reading is there but that's kind of vague. Travel is there, but also kind of generic. Not sure how many would want to talk philosophy, but hopefully you get the idea. For example, "outdoorsy" could expand to something like "hunting, fishing, camping, hiking, skiing, golf, etc". Then people could ask specific questions about those things if they chose to engage you.

Can't tell what is fantasy or experiences from your text in that section and the Additional comments text may fit better under Looking For. Again, answering the questions "What fantasies/experiences do you have?" would likely be a better approach. Something that doesn't really fit anyplace else (like your opening sentence) is good for Additional comments.

Lastly, if you've had the same profile pic up for a while try changing it. People instantly know if they've seen your profile before from your pic so they may feel no need to view you again. The smiles are definitely a positive thing.

Hello!

I am a single male and have been a part of SLS for a few years. I really enjoy this site and have been very fortunate to meet some amazing women. But, lately I am not attracting any attention. Can anyone provide some feedback. My membership is about to expire and I am thinking about walking away from this community.

Thank you!