Single guy unlucky

Just a random thought, but generally, luck has little to do with it.

Tramp

Michael,

I didn't see your before profile. So this is about your after profile. It's still kind of thin. You need more meat there.

I see what you mean about having a baby face. You look a LOT like Zach Addy in Bones before they gave him a make over when he got his Doctorate and started testifying in court. You need a GOOD haircut. You need a GREAT suit. You need to stop dressing like a teenage boy. You are not a child anymore. You need to start carrying yourself with some gravitas. Velma was right about a well cut suit making the man. Go rent Kingsmen (and the sequel) and listen to what Colin Firth has to say about a good suit (not that you will get a bespoke suit, but even a well adjusted suit is a good thing). Then remember, Manner maketh the man.

About Kink:

As a somewhat kinky person on SLS (I have a FetLife):
SLS is EXCEPTIONALLY VANILLA.
You WILL SCARE almost ALL couples away.
If you even MENTION kink.
I would say 99%
with JUST THE WORD.
Single females might be a little more adventurous.

YOU ARE NOT LISTENING. YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD THIS MULTIPLE TIMES.

Sorry I shouted.

When I see a guy who is into kink on SLS, I am not likely to contact him. I am likely to go the other way into oncoming traffic. Even though I'm somewhat into kink. It's like being kinky in your conservative grandmother's living room. It's inappropriate. Have you ever noticed that FetLife doesn't approve much of Swing? To kinky people, Swingers equate to gasp CASUAL SEX!!! Kinky people may be twisted, but they are "committed, consensual, safe and sane." Swingers are soused in alcohol and they will fuck anything that moves (even though most aren't like that). At least to hear the FetLife threads about Swing... told by people who have never been to a Swing party in their lives. SLS is the most vanilla place on earth, and Swingers feel about the same way about kink... except when you get to actually talking to people... oh well yeah, rough sex is HOT... and rope... well (in private) we are a leeetle curious. And of course, the cuckolding fetish is rampant in Swing... as is BBC. It turns out that it's a pretty kinky place after all. But it might not be the kind of kink you mean.

Leave "wild" take out "kinkier" and remove the last sentence of your profile. Altogether.

The way I handle kink is like this, "I look sweet and innocent. Mistake me for sweet and innocent at your own peril." It says nothing at all about kink specifically. Rather it implies that I have a wealth and depth of sexual experience. Someone who is also kinky might suspect that includes kink.

You might try something like this. "I enjoy a variety of styles of touch from gentle to rough to esoteric. Vanilla is for cakes, but always delicious regardless." People who are kinky will get that you are not, strictly speaking, vanilla. Vanilla people will understand that vanilla is just fine

Description:
Do not describe in your description what we can see on your pictures. We can see your dark hair and hazel eyes. Unless you are going to post pictures without your face later.

Don't expand more on your description over time. Expand more on your description NOW. It's too thin. Tell me more about yourself than that you have hazel eyes and like Philly sports. This is where you have to set the hook. You didn't.

"I like to create things with my hands. During the summer I enjoy the ocean, flea markets, and yard sales."
This belongs in the description section. Expand on you like to create with your hands. Create what? Do you play a musical instrument? Do woodworking? Paint pictures? Garden? What does that sentence MEAN? What sort of things do you do at the ocean? Do you fish, lay on the beach and tan, windsurf?

Addition Information:
There is now nothing here. A kik address goes well here. Or it can be blank.

Dark it is better to make your own thread or post then to ask the question on someone elses thread

Can someone take a look and be honest with me what is wrong with my profile.. Thank you!

Thank you Twin. I am glad I came here. You all have helped with the profile. I do come off too strong so these edits helped me out.

Edits to the profile definitely made a big difference and you look more confident in your current profile picture. The kinkier stuff is an easier pill to swallow when you don’t look as shy and backwards. Smiles are a big thing for us. Well done. I go from varying levels of beard myself. You’re not going to please everyone and you shouldn’t have to. You should definitely put your best foot forward on here but not everyone is going to dig it. Shrug it off and move on. Some one eventually will. Get yourself to some meet and greets dressed nice and make yourself be outgoing without being pushy. Get to a munch and do the same. You might eventually find yourself in a relationship with a woman who’s open to these lifestyles because of it...

Nothing to be sorry about Velma. Thanks for your comments.

Sorry, I'm with clean shaven. Just get a haircut.

No matter what you do, be consistent. If you want to have a beard, all your pics should have a beard. If you want to be clean shaven, all you pics should be clean shaven. About the only exception would be a 3-day scruff while on vacation.

lol Thanks Magjoy.Thats why I don't shave since I look so young.

Okay, without the beard I think you look about 12. Facial hair is kind of a dividing line for women, but, wow, I'd keep the beard just for this reason. And I'll shut up now, because I've been Team Beard this whole thread anyway. ;-)

Ok. I added a pic to show what i look like clean shaven.

Thanks Magjoy.

Honestly, it's hard to tell. I've never been one to be good at guessing that. You do look young for 37.

Ok Thanks Molly. Yes I have to fix the neck beard. I am debating cleaning up the facial hair as I am going to let it grow in. 37 here so Early 30's is fine.

Not magjoy, but early 30s, mostly because of the hair (maybe hipster unkempt, maybe just a bad barber), tee shirt and the runners on your feet. So, all things you can change easily.

I still vote for keeping the beard, but no neck hair and clean up the lighter scruff on your face.

Thanks Magjoy. How old do you think I look now?

Some black slacks, dress shirt and shoes would be just fine. If you ever go to a lube or upscale restaurant on a date, you'd need one anyway. You don't need to totally shave your beard, just trim it up nicely. A haircut does wonders for everyone, you'll want that anyway and it might help you look more your age.

Hmm Ok Velma. I asked about the shaven vs unshaved because when Im clean cut I look like a baby. The tan slacks and matching shoes I feel like would make me look like an employee at a retail store which is something I have done for 10 years which is a look I am not going back to.

I think that the combination of the hair, glasses and bears kind of make you look unkempt. There is a difference between the unshaven look and looking unshaven.

Like... you kind of look like that IT guy at work who always corners you in the break room and asks you too many questions about your weekend.

Honestly I would suggest you go to a female stylist and ask them to give you a new look. If you have $1000, go to Men's Warehouse. Get a couple of new nice shirts, two pairs of tan slacks, two pairs of charcoal grey slacks, a Navy sportcoat, and two pairs of black and brown shoes - get matching belts at Ross.

I think you'll feel better about yourself and gain more confidence with a new look.

Hey Velma. when you say shave do you mean all my facial hair or my scruff? Curious to what you think.

Thank you for the feedback Velma.

It's better - not crazy about the outfit.

The horizontal stripes are accentuating your your midsection.

Honestly, you kind of look like every guy in college that I put in the friend zone.

Seriously - put on a suit, get a haircut and shave. You don't have to wear a tie but I think the suit jacket will help because it'll break up your midsection more.

Ok My new picture is up.

Thank you for the Critique MagJoy.

"Single nerdy male" this has got to go. I envision regular conversations having to do with comic books, the latest super hero movies and Android v. Iphone. Sorry, but this is a huge turn-off. The 'eating pussy', also a turn-off. It's pretty much a given if you're a guy but "Oral sex" sounds a lot classier.