Review request?

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. I hope you've read some of the other threads here, because the bluntness can be an unpleasant surprise. If it is, try to roll with it, because the intent is to help you succeed.

So, your tagline isn't particularly interesting, but it isn't terrible. It doesn't need a period at the end though. If you get inspired to change it, that would be good. Go for clever if you can, sincere if that suits you better, and keep it short. The idea is to invite people to open your profile, so don't be informative.

You have a photo where you're smiling, which is great. Try for a full length shot of you in well fitting clothes (have someone else take it if you can) with a similar expression as an add on.

In Looking For, you've used "like-minded" to describe the people you're looking for, but that's not useful, since it's a meaningless term. So, really think about what and who you're looking for and say that instead. The last sentence has some useful information, but it doesn't really belong here, in the section that is meant to be about others. So, you can use the gist but not the form in Looking For, as you center everything on these potential playmates.

In Description, if you take everything out that is sex-related, there isn't a ton left, but at least it's not diluted with things that don't actually matter. I think this is the third time I've said some variation of this in three days, but how you sex is the least interesting thing about you. I mean, sure, it's useful to know you see yourself as flexible and we can extrapolate that to your sexual bent, but your goal here is to portray yourself as the unique individual that you are and sex isn't the way to go.

You have a limited amount of space, since most people don't want a Russian novel, so focus on the things that will actually interest and charm people and persuade them to take a chance on finding out what sex with you is like. If that's not enough of an inducement to change your ways here, and I hope it is, then how about that your current approach makes you seem more passive than probably serves you? Substitute a little more detail about your likes, interests, personality or whatever. Or just keep it short.

Fantasies is good, but whether you've had both FMF and MFM threesomes or just one, it would probably be useful to spell that out.

Additional comments has two good sentences and then two that can just be deleted. They don't add anything to the conversation and the whiff of passivity dilutes the charm of the two before.

Unlike Velma, I don't think people are the equivalent of dry toast, but it's much harder to make connections on line than it is in person, at least if you want those connections to lead to sex. There's a barrier to entry that is much higher, so refining your profile some could help.

Good luck.

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

I mean... you're not a bad looking guy and yeah, your profile would be helped with full-body pictures that were taken by someone else.

Your biggest problem is that you are what I call "toast."

I had an epiphany about swinging any why I don't miss it during the pandemic. Swinging is about fantasy - where do you think you fit into that fantasy? Are you any woman's a particular fantasy? What do you bring to the table.

Seriously, think about that.

This is why I call guys like you "toast." You are the swinging equivalent of putting a piece of bread in a toaster oven. There's no jam or butter or peanut butter on the toast to make it interesting. It's just... toast. I mean, it's fine. But how often do you eat toast without putting something on it first?

So my best suggestion to you is to be more interesting. Have someone take pictures of you doing interesting things like running a marathon or traveling or rock climbing. Sometimes I even suggest that guys take a few pilot lessons. Just do something interesting because right now you are a generic guy with a beard and men like you are as interchangeable as Lego and about as memorable.

Seymour, TN, Us

I am sure you will hear from others but for starters how about posting some pics without the sunglasses and also full body pics.

Seeking advice on how to improve my profile. Thanks.