Profile tips

You all did a great job.

Nicely done!

MsMolly has made a few good points that will smooth the few minor rough edges but your profile really looks good. She and I can get pretty nit-picky - nothing personal, we're just wired that way. ;-)

Your profile is always a work in progress. You'll especially want to update your profile to remove or modify references to being new to the lifestyle in about six months or so. And as you experience new things you may want to change things in other areas.

A few more picture should be your next priority - a "date night" picture (full body, nicely dressed) picture, a few doing fun things and maybe a beach or pool picture of both of you. That should nicely round out your public gallery.

Thanks for showing us how you implemented the advice you received - it's nice to see we're not always ignored.

I read it and didn't have anything to really add. Seeing one of our resident experts essentially say the same makes me realize why ;-) Thought it looked pretty good overall. Thinking you should do well.

As I always say, don't be afraid to get out to some local parties. Even a small party will likely give you more contacts from that one party than most will see in a month online.

Hi. I really like most of the changes you've made. I just have a few suggestions, mostly nitpicky.

First, you need an extra blank line between your first and second paragraphs in Description, it's threesomes in Looking For and the usual construction for F & F is either f/f or g/g.

As far as the text, what if you changed the part about single men to read: "There we just want the occasional, etc." That way you'd avoid the awkward, slightly condescending sound of "would need to understand."

Also, since it appears you have some interest in single women, you should probably mention them and be as thorough in describing your interests there.

I like the photos you have, some of them very much, but if you get a chance have friends or wait staff take some when you're out dressed up a little and having fun and add one or two in.

So, in case it's not clear, I think your profile is pretty terrific. You sound lovely, sincere, and fun, as well as very much in love. Nice job!

Good luck.

Profile has been updated. If you/yall flint dont mind checking it out again. Thanks.

Hi. My tip for easing into swinging is to attend meet and greets and talk to people. Then, if you think you're ready, either parties or clubs or both. There's nothing wrong with the online route, but you'll meet more frogs than princes on line than in person.

As far as your profile goes, your photos need to be pruned and the best way to decide what to toss is whether there's clutter in the background, it's a selfie, or if one or both of your expressions is just off in some way. If you get rid of those, you'll easily get down to ten or fewer public photos. Also, the morphing facial hair isn't something I'd have noticed if Velma didn't say something about it.

Before I move onto your text, even if what I say sounds mean, it isn't meant that way. Instead, it's just a blunt critique about ways you can make your profile better and attract the kinds of people you'll want to fuck. You two are young enough and attractive enough to attract a wide range of people, but you might want to increase the quality to quantity ratio, so if you do, run what you have through spelling and grammar check to get rid of some fairly egregious typos.

So, In Looking For, what's there right now is all about you and it shouldn't be. This is your opportunity to be clear about who you're looking for and what you're looking for. If you write this section in such a way that people can really see themselves in what you're searching for, they'll contact you and/or say yes to your overtures at a high rate of speed. So, really, make it about those other people.

Description is mostly okay, but add in some vanilla information like your interests so people can get a feel for who you are. This is a sex site, but sex - surprisingly - isn't what sells. Oh, and that reminds me, that photo of her with two sets of legs? That should be your default photo, because it's the one that will get you the most attention here. But then you need to follow that with profile text that shows you have some substance and would be interesting to know.

Fantasies is great. Additional comments just needs "everyone is" inserted between "while" and "having fun."

Good luck. I hope you make some changes and then come back for a review.

I'm hoping you've read a few other reviews in your short time on SLS so you're not surprised. We may come across as terribly mean but it is directed at your profile not you personally.

Stop with the selfies! If you have no friends or acquaintances then maybe a selfie of the two of you together makes sense but you can certainly take pictures of each other. And most people will be more than happy to take a picture so ask someone (even a waitress when you're out to dinner) to take some pictures of you together. You need to add a few well-lit, full body, fully dressed pictures and maybe a pool or beach photo to show of your bodies. Velma has a great strategy for core pictures for your public gallery - my advice is more simple. Smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies.

Your text needs a bit of work as well. Nothing in Looking For really tells me who you are looking for. Do you want couples for full swap, single ladies or gentlemen for threesomes, one-time encounters, on-going friends with benefits? Description needs a bit more info so we can decide if we'll have anything to talk about. What kind of things do you like to do - dancing, movies,, sporting events,, wineries, books, cars, traveling, BarBQing? Experience/Fantasies is good but needs to be written from a couple's perspective instead of from her perspective - everything should be he/she, his/her or we/us (not I, me, my husband). I have mixed feelings about Additional Comments so I'll defer to those with definite opinions. When you're all done you need to read it carefully for errors - I noticed one typo (quiet instead of quite). It helps if you copy it all into a word processor so you can run spell check and grammar check on it.

You haven't been here long and already have a cert - fabulous! With better pictures and expanded text I'm sure you'll be meeting all sorts of people to have fun with.

Good luck!

~Phoebert's Wife

Honestly, you two are so young and hot that your pictures really don’t matter. All the same, I opened a private gallery for you so that you can see the kind of pictures you should have.

Your biggest problem is that you have the male half with three different kinds of beard. I look at pictures because I want an approximation of what you might look like when you show up. If this is going to be a choose-your-own-adventure in beard length, I’m just not going to reach out to you or i’ll Reject you if you write me.

Retake your pictures. Either be clean shaven or have a beard, but not both.

You look better clean shaven, BTW.

Retake the pictures and repost so we can re-review.

Welcome to SLS and the LS! You will see this everywhere and here it from others: communicate well. Make sure that both of you are 100% on board with any situation you all find yourselves in before moving forward. You all are in this to have fun, learn more about one another, provide support, and grow closer together. Talk through everything! Know each others boundaries and desires and be able to express those for your other half. Have each others backs. There are some strange scenarios that can occur that may give the feeling of pressuring one of you to do something the other doesn't like. It happens. Just be kind and decline and help each other out. Too often new couples forget this amid the excitement that can happen especially at a party or club.

With the profile you may want to cull out your pictures a bit. There are some good ones in there but a lot of them are similar shots. Stick with shots of both of you together and the ones that show your personalities. In the body of the profile flesh out each section a bit more. Be specific about what people and types of play you are looking for. Good luck!

Hey everyone...

We are new here to the site and the lifestyle. We would love to hear some tips from some that have been doing it for a while. We have had a few experiences but never actually fully committed to the lifestyle. But we decide we only live once and after being together for 14 years we know we love each other enough to have some fun.

We would appreciate a view of our profile and let us know what we can fix or change. And any tips on how to ease our way in to the lifestyle.

Thanks yall...