@Velma,
We haven't always agreed on a lot of things and I don't always think you give the greatest advice but the one thing I can say with certainty is, you are the most refreshingly honest poster here.
Props.
~S~
That is one thin skinned middle aged white man.
Even the Crazies gave me more than one post before they blocked me. :-D
@goodgolly
"Eh, there may come a moment where I have the patience to explain categorical exclusions and how they closely overlap racism and -phobia to yet another middle-aged white guy, but this is not that moment. "
Yeah sure professor.....what you actually mean is that you cannot logically explain the difference. Categorical exclusions and overlap with racism? Phobia? WTF are you talking about? " Either race related desires and turn-offs are "racist" or they aren't. Seems pretty clear, doesn't it professor?
And of course (LOL) "yet another middle-aged white guy"..yeah sure....so likewise, I have to find a moment where I have the patience to explain to yet another aging, single, WHITE female, that she isn't intellectually superior, despite the fact that she believes herself to be somehow uniquely qualified (yet unwilling) to back up her racist rants about "white guys." Likewise, I must explain that her commentary proclaiming a special, categorical need for "white chicksplaining" about racism is actually....well..not only ridiculous on it's face...but also....racist. I'm certainly beneath you...either get over yourself and kindly STFU or answer the question!
@V and S
That's the great thing about the lifestyle! There are so many different ways to play and philosophies that there really is something for everyone...and when we get our eyes opened...there's even more than we would have believed! Keep having fun!
We're glad that compromising your standards and engaging in sex with people to whom you aren't physically attracted works for you.
Everybody wants to be a whore until it's time to do whore shit. I think I'm the only girl here who puts her ass on the line... literally.
" Well, aside from the fact that it's people I play with and their genitalia, while significant, are only part of it, I'm flexible. Small dick? Great. I love giving blowjobs but reserve my throat for very close friends, so win/win. And, yeah, we're sticking with oral and hands, because I really don't want to wonder if it's in. That's not fun for anyone.
Cut or uncut, hairy, whatever, people aren't a pair of shoes that don't fit right and have to be sent back to the store. I mean, yes, I really do not like back hair and furry guys who stick around learn to love having their backs waxed, but for a night or two? Yeah, that's fine. "
We're glad that compromising your standards and engaging in sex with people to whom you aren't physically attracted works for you. We don't... But it's the lifestyle and to each his or her own. We aren't here to judge how you play.
V and S
We're glad that works for you!
Eh, there may come a moment where I have the patience to explain categorical exclusions and how they closely overlap racism and -phobia to yet another middle-aged white guy, but this is not that moment.
"Those of you complaining about dick pics, do you honestly wish to meet and play with somebody who might end up being exactly what you don't want when the clothes come off? Would you continue to play with somebody who is too small, too large, circumcised, uncircumcised, shaven, unshaven, too hairy, etc depending upon your wishes. If no mention is made of it and you open a package to find a circumcised M...and such makes you grossed out for example...what do you do?"
Well, aside from the fact that it's people I play with and their genitalia, while significant, are only part of it, I'm flexible. Small dick? Great. I love giving blowjobs but reserve my throat for very close friends, so win/win. And, yeah, we're sticking with oral and hands, because I really don't want to wonder if it's in. That's not fun for anyone.
Cut or uncut, hairy, whatever, people aren't a pair of shoes that don't fit right and have to be sent back to the store. I mean, yes, I really do not like back hair and furry guys who stick around learn to love having their backs waxed, but for a night or two? Yeah, that's fine.
I have pretty precise requirements for sex toys. People aren't sex toys.
Honestly I don't actually need to be attracted to a guy to fuck him. That's why there's doggy style. But I'm a whore who will pretty much fuck anything so your mileage may vary.
You seriously ask for full-body nudes before you meet? Does the guy have to hold a newspaper too?
Endowment? I don't need proof. If his dick is too small he can just put it in my ass. I'm winning either way.
You know, I read lots of opinion on here from many of the same folks...I have a few questions for you to ponder.
1) In the lifestyle one must be attracted to their potential playmates. Why does describing one's preference in some ways equate to "racist"? In other ways a version of the same sort of desires is a sought after "turn on"? I agree, somebody who uses terminology such as "we don't play outside of our race" is pretty much coming off like an ass hat, but that said, what's wrong with stating exactly what one is looking for? I often see "She's ONLY looking for BBC! All others will be deleted" , etc. So what's wrong with Mrs(?) prefers white or hispanic...or Mrs(?) only plays with AA? "Looking for BBC for hotwife fantasy", "seeking BBC's for GB next saturday.....etc?
2) I see many apparent racists on the site...how many times do you see a profile "BBC4hotwife" or some other manifestation of those 3 letters...those searching for that attribute or claiming to be such? That is 'racist" isn't it??
3) Does the fact that somebody is looking for BWC or a BBC indicate they are a "racist"? The fact that one claims to be a BBC or BWC...does that make them "racist"?
4) That said, Mrs HW will not meet a SM or couple without a pic of both nude and showing the males endowment. On this site, I don't believe dick pics as profile pics are even possible, and those pics must either be reviewed in an open gallery or sent via message. We deal with SMs all the time, so our profile is pretty specific about requirements. Even with our desires clearly stated, a SM can screw things up instantly by sending dick pics in certain ways. Although Mrs HW requires a pic, that isn't a license to be gross or classless in providing a nice, nude pic. Those of you complaining about dick pics, do you honestly wish to meet and play with somebody who might end up being exactly what you don't want when the clothes come off? Would you continue to play with somebody who is too small, too large, circumcised, uncircumcised, shaven, unshaven, too hairy, etc depending upon your wishes. If no mention is made of it and you open a package to find a circumcised M...and such makes you grossed out for example...what do you do?
No joke. And a couple of weeks ago I inadvertently did something on my phone that put it back in that crazy mode of making up its own mind about what words to use. Even worse than the typical autocorrect.
This happened a couple of years ago when I got this phone, and Fun had a damn field day with the material that resulted. A field day I tell you.
I've tried a few things but haven't gotten it straightened out just yet.
Not that I should ever say, as I am the King of Auticorrect.
Another sandpit is don’t do it on your phone. Autocorrect will get you every single time.
I hope this ‘sheds’ some light.
Moving on a bit....
The never-ending cliches seem to bog down most of the profiles I see. We had a thread dedicated sole use to listing them all but it, like so many others, got deleted.
**like-minded, open-minded
**laid back, easy-going
**different-minded
**discreet, descreet, discreet.
The list goes on and on but it comes down to this: Everybody says them, nobody means them, and they (the sayings) are old and tiresome to read. They she'd little light on the author(s), apart from confirming their lack of originality.
GGMM that's what happens when you write in disappearing ink. And if it disappears did you ever really see it? Only the Shadow knows....;^0
Go Navy. ;-)
(Because this will appear to be a non sequitur in 3, 2, 1, I'm replying to RonKathy. ;-) )
Smart lawyers are the best, eh. But, no, I did not know, because except for Cap and MCU movies, I'm DC or death forevah.
So, not necessarily green, probably not angry, but still large? I'll stick with waving from across the room and admiring you both. ;-)
Could be Marines. It'll disappear tomorrow, though, so maybe not enough time to figure it out.
Does Ron have Marines in the next room??
GoodGolly - Touché.
But as I am sure you know that there were other colored Hulks of the marvel universe (disclaimer: that comment in no way or means was meant to be interpreted as implied as mansplaining. )
Sorry my lawyer made me add that.
Perhaps a bit of incorrect description but angry he is not, excitable maybe. YMMV
Fokkers, not to keep touching on the issue?! That very nearly unleashed my inner 12 year old. Also, exceedingly large, green and angry isn't my favorite look, so even though you're really cute, maybe just wave to me from across the room? ;-)
Seriously? The undisputed king of not-so-humble-brag scolding? WTF
Now I know what it would feel like to be lectured about being kind to animals by Ted Bundy.
The Penis Paradox
Not to keep touching on the issue, but I will add in my .02.
I will agree that no one wants to see dick pics, yet just about every time we are contacted by a single male that is what we get. Dude leave something to the imagination.
I don’t have much going on when it comes to my physics appearance except for ‘him’. Flaccid, he is a ‘Bruce Banner’ not much to him, very non-imposing and uncircumcised. It’s downright not appealing to look at. Get home excited and Bruce becomes the Hulk. Impressive on length and girth. You wouldn’t even be able to tell there is a foreskin.
I love my penis, it’s pretty amazing. Mrs F loves my penis, she has several pics of him and she has been known to share them with her vanilla friends. I’m ok with that, I always get a nice wink from the ladies.
The ladies we have played with have never complained. In the end the only one I care about liking him is Mrs F.
All men love their penises. It’s how we are wired, I believe Freud stated that’. Too many men try to compensate or to use it to state who they are. Hey whatever. Frankly I like to jnderpromise and over deliver.
So if you don’t want any trouble, don’t get me excited, you may not like it .... (rolling eyes)
Another huge sandpit is the consistent lack of any useable information in profiles.
This is equally true across the board. Couples, females, and males alike rarely, in fact almost never, give the reader anything to talk about when considering whether or not to write.
I've heard this advice given more than once in profile reviews, and it is very true. However, I believe the importance of it is often lost with single females.
This particular group may not understand how important this issue is for their profiles because with or without it, they will receive regular inquiries.
The problem is that the vast of these inquiries will be as shallow as their own profiles, and it becomes frustrating. "Can't these men find anything to say other than 'let's meet,' or some similar cliche' comment?"
Well, consider this: how does one expect a meaningful contact when one has given the writer absolutely nothing to work with?
Well, I should have said "comedic". It was a novel, not a comic.
I never went in for the superhero comics as a kid, I always kind of rolled my eyes at 'em. Horror comics however.... One of my uncles turned me on to the EC Comics stuff and I ate it up. Loved the plot twists and ironic comeuppances.
The only thing remotely near a superhero that I read back then was the weird western comics with Jonah Hex. Loved the antihero thing where he once said "I will always attempt to do the right thing... even it means killing every last man, woman and child in this here town, twice over."
Yeah, I was a little twisted as a kid.
Wow, dood...did we ever read different comic books! I only got the vanilla sh**. You know, superman and stuff.
I'm reminded of a Cold-War era comic spy novel from Richard Hoyt (the title escapes me though). One of his main characters is a seriously badass female CIA agent (known as the Delicate Woman, even though she's anything but) who gets next to a known KGB thug in order to pump him for information. Pun definitely intended.
The roided-out KGB dude shows her into his bedroom, drops trou and declares "behold, the fearsome Soviet cock".
It takes all of her discipline and training to avoid laughing, because it's the smallest, most shrivelled dong that she's ever beheld in her life. ;)
