Profile review request

Yay. Thanks for letting me look! I don't have much time at the moment, but I'll see what I can do quickly. Please note that I might be blunt, but it's kindly meant.

In Looking For, it would flow much better to reverse the first two sentences and if you really feel they add something, put the last two in Additional comments.

For the rest of your profile, it's unnecessarily long. In particular, there some oversharing and I think things could be improved by removing those sentences that are part of your private conversations - unanimous consent, for example - and that are prescriptive for the behaviors of others. The reason for leaving out the latter is that while it makes sense to you - we do x and want others to do the same - it comes across as controlling and potentially fearful. That's not a great look and kind of underscores a sense I get that you are a little trepidatious about this whole swinging thing.

I might have more later, but that's all I have time for now. Good luck!

I was pondering that, myself. I have more confidence in my legs than my face or body, so I felt really comfortable with that, but you're right; I always pay closer attention to a good couples photo or face photo before a body shot.

Looks a lot better than it did. Didn't really get into the pics since you already had quite a bit of comment on those already. If you're OK with face shots though, I'd consider one of those instead of the leg shot.

Thanks, Mayhem. I took much of your advice. You were right; a lot of it was in poor order. I think it's much better now, and definitely more up-to-date.

MissMolly, I'm still interested in your feedback, as well. It should be open to you now, as all of my changes have posted.

I didn't do a lot with the order of things inside the categories. I noticed that you had text that said you were new to the LS but your profile has existed for just over a year. I'd consider removing the newbie text and put more in the Experiences category, in a general sense. For example, have done soft/full swap with a few couples, attended LS parties, etc. I'd use this to replace "We like to have fun and enjoy sensual pleasures."

There is duplicate "He loves.../She loves..." in the Description. I'd say pick one or the other but you don't need both.

I'd consolidate and move the comments about drinking to the Additional Comments section (i.e. He drinks very occasionally and her not all, but don't mind if you do.)

In general, you have decent content but can tighten it up a bit more. A goal is to convey the maximum info in a reasonably minimal amount of words.

I simply took your text as-is (that can use some work) and moved it to categories where it appears to fit better as something to consider. I think once you see it this way you'll see opportunities to tighten things up and/or eliminate things.

Looking For:
Couples only. No singles - men or women .

We would like to build a small group of genuine friends for socializing with play. While we both love sex and play, we also like having an active social life with a real connection. We enjoy good humor, intellectual conversation, good food, outdoor recreation & music, and would like to have friends with the same interests. For playtime, we appreciate a private/home setting where we are free to be ourselves..

He loves to see a woman in sexy shoes and appreciates a woman who is well manicured - pretty hands are a turn on. Other than that, he has simple taste; good grooming and a sense of propriety.

She loves a strong man, beautiful mind, good sense of humor, beautiful eyes, strong arms and shoulders. She loves a man with classic rock-star style.

We are honest and truthful, respectful, and healthy and expect the same.

Description:
We have been married and entirely committed for 27 years.

We are perfectly happy together and not interested in jumping into bed, just to get laid; sex is only an added dimension to multi-faceted friendship.

We are average, reasonable, discreet and very fun people in search of the same to be friends and to share good times and new adventures.

Fun-loving active couple, with interest in new adventures. New to the area, new to being just the two of us, and new to the lifestyle. It's a whole new world for us and we are making the most of it. We are quite sane, grounded, easy-going, honest and down-to-earth. We are real people and don't try to hide or disguise our real selves, or pretend to be something that we're not; what you see if what you get.

We are empty-nesters with professional careers, well spoken and educated. He loves sports and fishing, she loves rock & roll and all music, arts, culture and travel. We're just very normal people ready to mix things up and enjoy great times.

He: loves football and all sports, is smart but reserved, and maybe a little shy. A very giving lover willing to truly go the distance to satisfy. Enjoys giving oral and seeing her reach genuine ecstasy. Very light drinker, but not often, and not much, but has no problem with drinkers.

She: fun-loving and good humored, well-traveled and enjoys music and arts, (long live rock & roll). Can roll with almost any style, type, & setting from bohemian to sophisticated. Ready to awaken her most erotic self. Can be very vocal and loves to turn him on. She doesn't drink at all, but does not judge those who do, and is comfortable with drinkers, (In other words, built-in designated driver.

Together: true Floridians that love being outdoors, love boating and travel.

Clean and healthy. We are real and sincere.

Fantasies and / or real experiences:
We like to have fun and enjoy sensual pleasures.

Both are straight, but she would like to find the right opportunity and person to share lady sex. Very few preconceived ideas, only interested in safe, erotic fun.

Additional comments and things to do, see, hear or learn about:
We believe in unanimous agreement. Attraction must be shared by all of us. We prefer to meet for a casual "get to know" coffee or lunch. Usually a weekend afternoon is good. If all is good and we agree, then we can plan something else. 4-20 cool.

The quick changes I made last night still have not been completed, but I went ahead just now and made additional updates, so they're not showing, either. Hopefully the approvals will come quickly and you can see the profile, MissMolly. I do already feel more confident, though in the strength of the profile based on VelmaandShaggy's comments.

I'm excited to do a new photo shoot, too, but that may take a while.

Nope, still blocked. You really do have to change it to some interest, but it's a change that should go through immediately. Or it used to. SLS is the land of unintended consequences and who knows. ;-)

OK - I thought about the boat situation while running this morning. This is going to take a lot of time to do, And you’re going to feel super self-conscious while doing it. But if you do it-you’ll get some really good pictures.

What is your boat but a penis? You talk about it in size. You probably talk about it in power and capacity and so on. It’s also a very masculine thing. So we’re not really taking a sexy picture for women-we’re taking a sexy picture for other men who have boats that might stop and go: “Wow that’s a really good picture! Who are these people?”

My other inspiration comes from the movie Top Gun. There’s penises all over that movie. The F 14 is basically two flying penises.

Remember that scene in Top Gun where Maverick and Goose Are walking down the flight line of F-14’s. They’re carrying their gear, you see the F 14’s in the distance and Maverick says “I feel the need for speed.”

I want to try to re-create that picture but with your boat.

First-I want to talk about the rule of thirds. If you take a look at your iPhone camera you’ll see a grid. A lot of my pictures have me in 1/3 of the frame. These guidelines help you create photographs with in the rule of thirds.

I want you to park your boat at the dock. Then I want the photographer to stand so that the first 2/3 of the picture contain the boat and the last third of the picture contains the dock.

I want you to wear polarized sunglasses and technical gear - For the first time ever I’m suggesting it’s OK to wear cargo pants and a fishing shirt. I want you to wear whatever kind a floppy hat you guys wear And I wanted to throw some kind of bag over your shoulder.

Then I want you to walk up the dock toward the camera As the photographer takes pictures.

I’m going for a picture of that is full of dynamic movement such as the one I took coming out of the pool in my profile.

I want you to swagger toward of the camera like you just shot down 20 MIGs in your fishing boat And now you’re going to go play beach volleyball.

If you can do it in the morning with the sun coming up and the sun facing you directly as you walk toward the camera that might be a better picture.

This is going to take a long time and people on the dock my wonder what the fuck you’re doing. Do it anyway it’s for a good picture.

One final thing. I want to go back to the Guayabera shirts for a moment. Please do a search for Tom James Company. You can get a custom-made shirts and trousers there. I think you should have at least two custom-made shirts done and a pair of light Grey and Khaki custom made trousers.

Please do not buy off the rack. With your body type if you buy off the rack you’re Going to get a shirt that doesn’t fit in some places and won’t flatter you.

Take those pictures and re-post so we can review.

Also, easiest and fastest changes made, though I still have work to do.

And Miss Molly, you're all clear; Profile is open to single women now

Wow, VelmaandShaggy-Thank you! Such good advice!

I love the photo suggestions; they're very helpful. And I fully understand your truths.

To answer; we have a powerboat. A 20' center console fishing boat. A Mako, if it matters.

I will get right to work on those changes. Thanks again so very much.

One final thought-you may be missing out on some couples because the female half has her self listed as Straight.

If the idea of making out with another girl makes her vomit in her mouth a little bit than keep her settings as straight.

But my fear is that you may be missing out on some couples who prefer girls that are a little bi. In the interest of full disclosure-I consider myself straight. I enjoy having sex with women because they tend to kiss better, and there’s very few consequences or agendas when two women are involved. It’s just pure pleasure.

So if she is OK with kissing or a little bit of above the waist play with another woman, then change her profile to bi-curious. You’ll get more interest that way.

Ok, You live in Florida. I want you to find a place that sells high end or custom guayabera shirts. I want you to go and get two guayabera shirts made - One black the other white.

I want your wife to get dressed up in a maxi dress, and I want someone to take a picture of the two of you walking on the beach or posing on the beach with him in a white guayabera shirt.

Then I want you to change to your black guayabera shirt and have someone take a picture with the sign in front of you with the ocean behind you. The person should be raised up on the stairs at a beach entrance are you in standing on a stepstool.

The guy should post contrapposto. Google it. It’s a way that the Greeks post their statues and it makes them look amazing. The black will slow me down in the pose will define your body.

Boating seems to be very important to you. So I want to take a picture of the two of you on your boat. The problem is that I’m afraid the mail half is going to be wearing an oversized T-shirt or Florida State polo and we’re back to square one again. Let me think about a way to take a good picture-in the meantime can you tell me what kind of boat you have?

I opened a private gallery for you to show you the kind of pictures you should have.

I pioneered something called the DEBauCH method For taking pictures on a profile. Basically you need a date picture, and event picture, A beach picture, a picture of the chick and a picture of him.

You have most of what I would be looking for. But you actually want to keep your pictures at around 10. The whole point isn’t to show every possible variation of you-I think the more pictures you have the greater the chance someone will find something wrong with you. Instead, pear down your pictures to just the very best.

Keep pictures 2, 3, 12, and 20. Delete everything else.

I’m going to say some things now that are not intended to offend. I only say that because I want You to be successful both in swinging and in life.

Your biggest problem is that the male half looks old and out of shape and he’s letting his wife carry most of the profile.

At this point-I would reject her profile solely based on picture number four. Nobody looks good leaning back in a chair like that. And the male half looks like he’s just totally given up caring about his physical body.

My husband was in the hospital two times the past two weeks because he shattered his left forearm in a triathlon bike accident. I saw him today Nude and sleeping and was overcome with absolute love for him. He looked like a Greek God in repose even with half of his body broken. But if I have something like that at home, you better be bringing some serious game.

My biggest fear for you right now is that you’re getting a lot of vetos. Men tend to drive on SLS but women tend to make the final decision. Are you getting a lot of: “Thanks for reaching out but I don’t think we’re a match at this time” emails?

If you are it’s because The lady is vetoing.

I think you need three more pictures-I’ll explain what those three pictures should be in my next post.

Change your interest in single ladies & gentlemen to "maybe" because "no interest (profile viewable)" doesn't really allow them to view your profile. Not sure if any single guys are actively helping with profiles but you really want MsMolly to give it a look.

Hi. If you want me to look at your profile, you'll have to briefly open up to single women. It's not enough to not check the Block box, unfortunately, although maybe someday SLS will get that to work.

Also, I solemnly swear that if you do open your profile, you will not be inundated with emails from women. ;-)

Sounds like you've read a few threads here - so hopefully you are prepared that mean things might be said. Just remember it is about your profile not about you!

You sound like a fun couple and probably do OK here already. Nothing is horrible about your profile but it appears that you've let Description leak into every other section. The whole profile is wordy and repetitious - so look at everything and decide if it is in the correct section then decide if it is really necessary. If you do your rewrite off-site (in your computer word processor) you can run spell check and grammar check once you're done to catch the few minor errors we all end up with since proofreading your own work is difficult.

Your pictures are pretty good - but again a bit repetitious. I'd separate the G-rated from the R-rated and maybe delete a few of her face shots. Make sure all pictures of him show the current state of his facial hair - I think one shows him clean shaven.

And delete the warnings. They really only make you look gullible or delusional. Think about it - would you really take someone to court about your lifestyle activities?

Good luck!

~Phoebert's Wife

Before reading these forums I felt pretty comfortable with our profile, but now I'm wondering. Maybe it is time for a review.

Please take a look and share comments.

Thanks.