My preference for photos is this: Male, face and body, female face and body, and the pair together dressed like they are going to a nice dinner or church.
After that, you should have pictures of you doing interesting things - traveling, on vacation, at the beach, at a ball game.
I tend to like beach pictures because it shows you are fun and it's a way to show off your body in a classy way.
I'm a single woman, so most of my efforts go toward limiting the number of emails I have to respond to while sifting for the very few people I would be interested in, so not the same situation. Velma really is the photo maven. I just want to see public photos of couples where they're obviously together and in love, faces blurred, covered, or just missing, plus maybe one or two clothed or beach photos of each of them, maybe doing something interesting.
In private photos, just photos that include faces and if there aren't any in the public gallery, photos that show their bodies. And, again, my preference is for clothes, not so much because I'm a prude but because there are a lot of cues in what people wear and what they consider attractive views of themselves.
I'm not very visual when it comes to static photos, so for me the stories they tell are what's important.
Just for clarification, the face pictures are more along the lines private photos? Would I edit those to conceal our identities or is it more appealing to have unedited photos? Additionally, what other pictures would you have in your private photos?
Again, thank you all. I sincerely appreciate the efforts to help us.
...ooooh, now I see.
"It's still quit it, though. ;-)"
Pardon, what's that specifically? Did I miss something?
Thank you all again for your feedback!
Hi. I really, really like the changes you've made. It's still quit it, though. ;-)
I don't have any public photos that show my head. I have another profile where my face is out there in public. I think I'm more comfortable not showing my face in public. There is editing software out there that is free and pretty easy to use, or so I'm told (someone else does my editing for me).
Scrubbing the eyes is fine. Blurring things really only provides you with plausible deniability anyway.
If blurred, a good face picture doesn’t matter. But I think if you are in the private section you need something that is well lit and attractive.
Thank you all for the suggestions. I've taken your feedback and agree with almost all of it. Very solid suggestions all around. I'm still working through the changes but require one more suggestion: what's a good face picture? We're both somewhat unwilling to show our complete faces (nature of our employment) so we've settled to scrub the eyes. Other than that, what else would make a decent face shot? I've admittedly looked through some of your profiles for ideas but I haven't found anything really concrete yet so any ideas are appreciated!
Thank you all for the suggestions. I've taken your feedback and agree with almost all of it. Very solid suggestions all around. I'm still working through the changes but require one more suggestion: what's a good face picture? We're both somewhat unwilling to show our complete faces (nature of our employment) so we've settled to scrub the eyes. Other than that, what else would make a decent face shot? I've admittedly looked through some of your profiles for ideas but I haven't found anything really concrete yet so any ideas are appreciated!
Hi and welcome. I don't like your photos at all, preferring to see people clothed in their profiles, unless it's a beach/lake scene. And, yeah, like Velma, I'd notice and completely pass you by for not having face photos anywhere. Because, no, I'm not going to make any special effort to obtain that information.
I generally like your profile, but think there are some things that would keep people from contacting you. I'm going to focus on the negatives, plus point out some instances of missing words, etc.
So, props for quoting Sir Mix-a-Lot, but there's no hyphen after "Sir," and it's hit it and quit it.
I think your instructions to clean up and shave are rude. As in, what the hell, people? Are you expecting folks to arrive dirty? Do you really think it's up to you to decide who shaves/waxes/sugars? I mean, yeah, I'm really a stickler about this shit and will nope anyone who does it, which goes to extremes, but it will turn off quite a lot of people who aren't me and might tip the balance from a maybe to a no for others. And the whole take pride in your appearance instruction is marginal.
Maybe just say you like people who do so?
Too much use of pronouns. That she/he stuff is really distracting in that quantity, so I'd work in some compound sentences instead, maybe do some pruning. Not sure what you mean by not big on the with news, but if it's related to him not liking to discuss politics, both sentences can go. It's both tmi and negative. Oh, and he's busy with someTHING.
I don't know how much luck you've had with single women, but I'm guessing not much. As a rule, soft swap couples aren't what we're looking for and I'm not the only one who finds the idea of performing for a guy to be a distinct turn off. I like playing with women a lot and while I don't mind if he watches some (I watch too), I want my threesomes to involve three people. Otherwise, I'd prefer a twosome, thanks.
Other than the second iteration of the word "clean," that's all I have. Oh, actually not true. When you're all done, including asking for a review if that interests you, and have your changes approved by the moderators, go in and change your smoking and drinking toggles.
Good luck.
The first thing I would do is cut out all of the text that describes you physically - stuff like : “She is curvy and petite. ” or “dad bod.” Let the pictures describe you.
I’m not crazy about the pictures. First of all, you have no pics in your private section and I’m not going through the BS of Kicking you or gmailing you or whatever. If you don’t have face pics, I’m walking away.
You really only need five pictures- male face and body female face and body and a picture of the two of you together preferably dressed nice like you’re going out to church or a nice dinner.
After that you should have about five pictures of you doing interesting things-going to a ball game riding a motorcycle, kayaking whenever. I suggest this because it’s a way to hook people into writing you. About somebody but they like cycling and the Arizona Cardinals and they see one of those things in your profile it’s a way for them to write you without jumping into the sex talk.
I get. Little leery when I see stuff like “he desires to watch FF” Because that just makes me feel like I’m gonna have to put on a show to make you happy. Maybe instead of what “he wants” or “she wants” talk about what the two of you want.
That’s about all I can think of right now. Make those changes and repost.
Salutations like-minded people! I've seen some great advice on given in this forum and I'd like to tap into your thoughts and opinions. My wife has added her thoughts on it but I really think it could use another woman's touch. In advance, thank you sincerely!
