Profile Review

Cheesy is totally fine so long as your profile paints a slightly different picture, which yours does. ;)

Both of those are good - and you'll want to change it occasionally (as well as your default photo) to attract additional interest.

A profile is always a work in progress. ;-)

Ok here's something that I think is better. "Let's Have Some Fun Jammin'!"

Hope this is ok. I'll come up with something better down the road.

Ok, Molly, how's this?

"Score a Goal With a Bass Player"

I feel like it's corny and cheesy, but right now it's the best I can come up with. Then again, there is a lot of cheese at Dallas Stars games....

Really nice job. Just fix the tagline problem, where you are giving a synopsis of your profile instead of a teaser. You want the teaser, because the aim is to entice others to open your profile. What you have won't.

Can you think of a music related tagline? A play on words around "blue(s)? Sports? Something nerdy like mine? Doesn't really matter, it just needs to give some sort of flavor without being informative.

Wow - you took the advice and ran with it - good job! Just a few last details to fine tune.

You might want to reconsider using "like-minded" since few of us know what's in your mind. ;-)

Not experiencing FMF is mentioned twice - looks like you were testing different phrasing and didn't clean it up before finishing.

And your tag line is missing the mark - you want something short & catchy that entices us to visit your profile, not a one-line infomercial.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

I think the first line would flow better as - "Looking for fellow freaky couples and singles who are uninhibited and like to have a good time, enjoying themselves both in and out of the bedroom." In any event, the "likes" you have in this sentence should be "like" as far as I know.

GGMM's point about the "widowed" comment is likely spot on and something I overlooked. Based on that, you may want to change the Additional Comments from "Recently widowed..." to just "Widowed..." and if it comes up in an online chat you can discuss timing of it there. Otherwise it looks much better.

I suspect you'll likely get more input as well seeing you made a real effort here. I think some just ask for help with the idea they'll get noticed from their post rather than actually wanting help, because some never implement any changes after they ask for help. It's nice to help people that are honestly trying to help themselves.

Thank you both for providing some great tips and good advice. Just posted a revised profile. Please take a look and I hope this is better.

Hi. This is going to be quick and dirty and I might come back tomorrow and add more because I think you're doing yourself a disservice and might think of other ways to address that.

So, first, even though I really like the photo of you playing the guitar, please get rid of any pics older than 2024. And then take new ones, preferably with the scruffiness groomed out of your beard.

Your age range is kind of icky. You're fine on the upper end, but young enough to be your granddaughter? Use your inside voice for that fantasy and bring that age range up.

Your tagline should be short, uninformative, and, if at all possible, clever.

As far as being widowed, I'm very sorry for your loss. Truly sorry.

And mentioning it twice, including once as the first thing people read about you, is not doing yourself a favor. It sounds as if your widowhood is top of mind for you and if there is one thing a lot of women in the lifestyle are leery about it's being roped in for emotional support when all they want is sex. So, in more cases than you'd really want, they're just going to pass by your profile in favor of men who don't present such an overt issue.

In Looking For, concentrate more on the people you're looking for. Like, what sort of folks would you like to meet on your way to potential FWB/ENM arrangements? Don't describe yourself in any way and if you use the word "I" more than once in this section, please revise it until others are better centered. Also, instead of going towards the negative - essentially don't contact me unless, etc. - start by saying you're looking for local, interesting or whatever people. It serves the same purpose but isn't off putting.

Description is okay, but maybe say more about music.

If you ever were in the lifestyle with your wife, Fantasies is the place to put that you have some experience.

Instead of leaving Additional comments blank - and why would you give up one more chance to market yourself? -you can say there that you are widowed and looking for both fun and friendship or whatever. But be interesting in all the other sections first so that you've already made a good impression as a solid, non-needy potential playmate.

Good luck. I hope you come back when you've made some changes.

My suggestion would be to read the Generic Profile Advice topic at the top of this page and apply those suggestions to your profile, then post when you've done that for a re-review.

What you have isn't awful, but it's very minimal, including leaving a section blank. A minimum profile projects minimal effort and many will assume that minimal effort is how you approach the LS as well. It's very minimal when the comment/s about your profile exceed the number of words in your whole profile ;-)

Plagiarism was something highly frowned on back when you were in school, but it is OK to look at other profiles you see that you think come across as interesting and add those interesting parts to your profile, preferably in your own words.

I've had some success here, but it's been awhile, and a lot has happened since I've been on here regularly. I guess for all intents and purposes, I'm a single male again, even though I'm widowed. Can you guys check my profile and tell me what I need to change to improve it? Thank you.