Profile Review

Fort Payne, AL, Us

HA! I forgot to check the stats and missed the default age range that makes anyone look desperate!

Usually I recommend putting yourself in the middle of whatever age range preference you list, but at 23 that doesn't work so well.

But using the default is lazy in addition to making you look desperate - pick a reasonable upper preference!

mayhem8Veteran
Auburn, NH, Us

The whole of your profile still doesn't speak to you as an individual. If we were to meet, what would we talk about? What things do you do for fun besides sex. You offer no clues because, other than sex, you mention no other interests.

There are lots of words that don't really say anything. For example, in your Looking For section, what would you communicate about? What does "good energy" mean? What ACTUAL new and exciting things do you want to explore? Would we go to a movie, a bar, bowling, play pool, or are you only here for sex?

It is a given that people are here looking for sex. What isn't a given is what GGMM eluded to, which is the majority of people want more than just sex. They want sex with someone they enjoy talking with and being around, and that usually means someone with common interests beyond just sex.

If you read your profile and can't answer the question, "Why would people think I'm fun to be with beyond sex?", you really haven't helped your cause. Asking for help is a step in the right direction, but only you can tell us what things you think make you fun to be around. Better yet, get someone to take pictures of you doing things that YOU think are fun besides sex.

BTW - At 23 years old, would you really consider sex with a 70 or 80 year old woman? If not, why list a date range that makes you look desperate? Perhaps keep the upper end of that date range below the point where someone could be your grandmother ;-)

Fort Payne, AL, Us

I didn't chime in previously because there wasn't much to add once MsMolly did her thing. ;-)

Your bathroom selfies aren't the worst I've seen but they're still bathroom selfies. Surely you know someone you'd trust to return your phone after taking a photo. And I've heard rumors that cell phone cameras have a timer function - prop up your phone and start experimenting!

Another thing you can do to stand out from the "blah" crowd is add some vanilla interests in Description. Let us see that you're a well rounded individual with more on your mind than sex. ;-)

You've done well updating from your earlier profile - now just add some finishing touches!

Good luck, have fun and stay safe.

~Phoebert's Wife

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi again. I wasn't suggesting you DO bathroom selfies. But, hey, one is fine for someone your age and the bathroom isn't gross. But after you pick out one to keep, please find someone to take other photos of you doing interesting things or employ the timer on your camera to take your own.

The rest is okay to good. It just doesn't have much individual flavor. If ChatGPT wrote your profile, it would be like this. Smooth, polite, and not very interesting. But that's also fine. Get a cert to bolster the Everyman profile and I think most people will be impressed by your current profile.

Good luck.

Morristown, NJ, Us

I took the time to read all of your critiques and make the changes, I hope you find the time to give me your thoughts on the edits and new pictures. I appreciate your bluntness. It really helped! :)

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. I'll just get right to it. I'm going to be very blunt, but it's meant as a kindness.

First, your photos are terrible. Given a choice between a bathroom selfie and your orange socks with a background of mess, I'm going with 'none of the above.' Totally okay to crop your head out of your pics, but you still need to be appealing in some way. Clothes that fit, a tidy background, not taken in a bathroom, whatever. There's a sticky at the top of this section which will give you some ideas about what to aim for in photos.

Taglines are meant to entice people to open a profile and what you currently have doesn't do that. Try for short and clever if you can, but at least don't be informative here.

Looking For is a lot about you and almost nothing about the folks you're looking for. Your toggles express an interest in solo women, but you don't talk about them at all. Try saying more about who you're hoping to find here. You've got the 'what' of it all written out in great detail, but without actual people vibing with your profile/approach, nothing will happen. Try again and maybe leave out "open minded," which is essentially meaningless and is often seen as code for a man's willingness to play with other men.

Description has everything needed if it was just sex everyone is looking for, but for most of us, we're looking for sex with people we like. Your dick doesn't make you likable, nor does your manifesto on what kind of bull you'd be. Try again, without iterating your age, height, or anything else that doesn't need to be repeated, and try to give some flavor of what you're like as a human.

Fantasies is good. Just move that last sentence down so that it's the last sentence in Additional comments.

In Additional comments, get rid of that stupid, unenforceable warning. It stems from an internet hoax and completely misunderstands the nature of posting pics on the interwebs.

You seem like a nice guy. I hope you succeed. Your best bet is to get certified, which will open up more opportunities, but doing something with your photos will definitely help, as will cleaning up your profile a little. Good luck.

Morristown, NJ, Us

Hey everyone, I’m looking to make sure my profile reflects me in the best way possible and connects with the right people. If you’ve got a few moments, I’d love any feedback or suggestions. Open to honest thoughts just trying to put my best self out there. Appreciate it in advance!