Wiggles123, Mayhem8, New_and_Naughty, Phoebertandwife,
Thanks so much for all the suggestion to enhance our profile. We didn’t make all the suggested changes, but we did use quite a few! The change will be posted in the next 24-48 hours.
Have a great weekend and good luck in your adventures,
Peacan048
Thank you Phoebarts Wife!
Mayhem8,
We do appreciate all the comments. We will be making changes to our profile soon. It’s just a matter of sitting down together and actually executing the task.
Thanks again for your thoughts,
Pecan048
Pecan - You've asked for comments and got some but, as far as I can tell, haven't commented on or made any changes based on them.
Nothing saying you have to implement any, but the more people that ask for input and either don't implement or comment on the suggestions just makes it less likely that people will waste their time providing input. I know that this is mostly feeling like a waste of my time in this case.
I thought I responded but I must have gotten distracted - but it looks like Mayhem covered most everything that caught my eye.
I often say that we're all here for sex but it's not all about sex - and you even allude to that somewhere (in Looking For, I think). But you don't really say anything about yourselves other than about swinging. You want your profile to entice others to contact you or respond to your messages - I'd pare down Looking For, include some clues to your personality and/or hobbies in Description and maybe mention things you enjoy or want to try in Experience/Fantasies.
Your profile is long enough that many won't get to the end where you request reference to a color as proof they read your profile. If you provide more information about what makes y'all fun and unique then you've given people conversation starters that show they read your profile without making them jump through a hoop.
And I'm not sure you need to repeat your condom requirement - the people that need the reminder aren't generally the sort that actually read profiles. ;-)
Good luck, have fun and stay safe!
~Phoebert's Wife
Thanks Mayhem8
List your preferred age at whatever the fudge you prefer. Going back to my previous comment, you don’t have to apologize for whatever it is you enjoy. You’re not here to find a spouse, you’re here to have fun, however YOU prefer to have it. Some folks are looking to be offended (mayhem) doesn’t matter what you write, they’ll find something that offends them.
One other comment. You list your ages as 57 and 56, but your age range is 30 to 60. Some will see this as ageist or feeling entitled.
I get that you like what you like, but this can leave a bad impression for no good reason. If you open up your age range you can always say No if someone reaches out that looks too old for you.
The worst case scenario is someone that otherwise meets your criteria passes on you because of this.
Pecan - There are a lot of words in your profile, yet IMHO, I still find it somewhat lacking.
First off, you have enough pictures that you can remove any mention of physical attributes from your text. You also have a lot of very similar pictures. There is one of him dressed down that is not very flattering that can go away, and a few of her in such a similar pose that it doesn't add much to the profile.
You write that you basically want more than just a pretty face, but there is little to nothing in your profile that speaks of your interests outside of sex.
The "add your favorite color" at the end can be viewed as a "jump through this hoop" sort of thing. I know why it's there, but if you listed some hobbies other than sex, a well written message will let you know someone took the time to read your profile.
Thank you New_Naughty
Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Wiggles!
You don’t have to say you’re non-homophobic in your description. You don’t say that you’re not a racist, not a misogynist, not a bigot, etc., you don’t have to apologize for being straight. Good luck to you!
Hi. I carefully read your profile and scanned thru your pics. Love the pics! Great job on tasteful representation of who you are.
As for your profile wording, I feel it is a bit wordy (mind you I do understand our profile is a bit wordy, too - but we have thinned ours down. Here is how I would suggest changes that keep with you theme but make it an easier read:
Looking For:
Primarily interested in couples and SELECT single gentlemen that are experienced in the lifestyle - just our preference. We prefer quality fun and friendship over quantity. Looking to add a new dimension to our sex lives (a little excitement, new experiences, and maybe learn a new trick or two).
COUPLES – We are a SAME ROOM couple and can play at most levels (parallel, soft swap, and situational full swap) as long as everyone is comfortable. Both of us are straight and non-homophobic, just not interested in exploring same-sex activity. Condoms are required for penetrative sex. We need to be comfortable with you as people before we can play – sexual attraction for us is much more than a pretty face or body. We find interesting people with great personalities sexy!
SINGLE GENTLEMEN – She knows what she wants, and it may or may not be you. She prefers men 6’ or taller that are HWP and in decent shape. Please note that condoms are required for penetration.
Description:
Married for many years and confident in our relationship. We’re an average couple in decent shape - she is very social and he’s more reserved. We're relatively vanilla and want to explore sexually and add new friends and play partners. We both enjoy kissing A LOT, so if you don’t we’re probably not a match. Our pics are current, date stamped and unedited (what you see is what you get). Our sex life is great, this is simply an enhancement to it.
Fantasies and / or real experiences:
We’ve had a few MFM and couple experiences that were very positive. We’ve learned something from each encounter, and are grateful for that – it’s helped us refine what we’re looking for.
Additional comments and things to do, see, hear or learn about:
We talked about our jump into the lifestyle for a long time before making the leap. We know what we do and don’t like. We continue to research, surf the web, listen to podcasts and read blogs to learn about the lifestyle. In spite of all that, we consider ourselves low mileage novices.
If you leave a message, please be patient and we will send an answer. We read messages and check profiles together, but she’s the one who typically replies. She may admire your pictures but it takes more than a picture to get her interest.
Our certs are not an indication that we have played. Maybe we did, maybe we didn’t, maybe we will, maybe we won’t - rest assured we will keep the details to ourselves.
If you decide to contact us, please include your favorite color in your message so we know you actually read our profile.
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Just my 2 cents - I only wish to be helpful. Wishing you the best experiences,
Mr and Mrs Wiggles
Hi!
Can some of you review our profile and give us your honest thoughts for improvement?
Thanks!
Mr and Mrs Pecan
